Below The Circle

Dr. Phyllis Hayes-Reams

Are you tired of circling on autopilot? Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the podcast for women ready to stop circling and start landing. You've been flying for years. Maybe decades. Hands gripped on the controls. Autopilot engaged. Circling the same patterns, the same way of doing life — over and over again. You're the high-achieving professional who never drops a ball. The ministry leader who pours out but never refuels. The mom running on fumes. The strong friend who holds everything together so seamlessly that no one thinks to ask if you're okay. You call it resilience. You call it strength. You call it love. But somewhere underneath all of it — underneath the doing and the fixing and the holding — there's a whisper you've been trying to ignore: "This isn't working anymore." Your plate is full. Your soul is empty. You're not broken. You're not weak. You've just been flying so high for so long that you've been flying right over your own life. And everything you've been searching for — your joy, your peace, your identity, your dreams, your purpose — has been below the circle the entire time. Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the landing plan for the woman who is ready to come down. Dr. Phyllis is a Life Landing Coach, physician, author, and ordained minister. She spent years circling — gripping the controls, chasing shiny objects, running on autopilot, performing strength while running on fumes. She landed. And the ground held. Now she's on the ground — guiding women in. Not above you. Not in the cockpit with you. On the ground — already landed, already stable — talking you through the descent, signaling you in, and making sure everything is ready for you when you arrive. Through The Below the Circle Landing Plan, a transformative coaching methodology, she guides you through: ✈️ The Circling — naming where you are and what autopilot has cost you 🔔 The Recognition — hearing God's voice and accepting that change is needed 💡 The Decision — surrendering control and trusting what you can't see 🛬 The Approach — gaining clarity and aligning with where God is guiding you 💧 The Release — pouring out the emotional weight you've been carrying 🤍 The Grace — giving yourself compassion through the process 👣 The Landing — touching ground and coming home to yourself 🏠 The Arrival — adjusting to stillness and showing up daily ⛽ The Groundwork — refueling with presence, purpose, and joy Because life is a series of landings and takeoffs. And every woman deserves a landing plan. Each episode is a ground crew talk — bold, permission-giving, poetic, real, and warm. Whether it's a solo conversation, a guest story, or a guided reflection, every episode is designed to help you disengage autopilot and reclaim your life. God is in the tower. He cleared you to land. Dr. Phyllis is on the ground — guiding you in. This is for the woman who is done circling. Who is ready — even if ready feels more like terrified. Who is brave enough to begin the descent. You've circled long enough. And you don't have to land alone. Full plate. Empty soul. It's not too late to land. Stop circling. Start landing.

  1. May 27

    141. When Was the Last Time You Were Fully in The Moment?

    When was the last time you were truly present, not planning tomorrow or replaying yesterday? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle, Dr. Phyllis invites you to slow down, breathe, and notice where your mind has been living. Through personal stories, scripture, and honest coaching truth, she shares how autopilot can quietly steal our peace, our joy, and the moments happening right in front of us. Using Psalm 118:24, Dr. Phyllis reminds us that today is the day God has made, and presence is not something you have to earn. It is a practice you can begin again, one breath and one moment at a time. Episode highlights: (2:40) Welcome to episode 141 and the 52-week descent (5:48) Today’s core question: when were you fully in a moment? (7:14) The painful cost of living on autopilot (9:40) Dr. Phyllis shares her personal story of missing moments (15:16) Psalm 118:24 and the gift of today (18:01) Presence is a muscle that can be rebuilt (23:25) Three reflection questions for the week (26:05) One simple practice to begin being present (26:44) Preview of episode 142 (28:23) Invitation to the Landing Lounge (30:25) Encouragement to share the episode with another woman Get Dr. Phyllis's Free Answer Guide, “What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t — ten honest answers for the woman who holds everyone together.” Ten questions. Ten honest answers at thebelowthecircle.com. Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    32 min
  2. May 20

    140. Are You Exhausted From Your Life or From Pretending Your Life Isn’t Exhausting?

    What if the exhaustion you feel is not weakness, but a warning signal asking you to be honest? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle, host Dr. Phyllis speaks to high-achieving women who look fine on the outside but feel empty, numb, and worn down inside. She shares the difference between normal tiredness and deep depletion, reminding listeners that constant pretending can cost them joy, peace, connection, and even a clear sense of self. Through her own story from 2019, Dr. Phyllis opens up about 1overcommitment, guilt, burnout, and the moment she realized something had to change. This episode is a caring call to stop performing, tell the truth, and take the first step toward landing in what matters most. Episode highlights: (0:28) The honest question behind “I’m fine.” (2:31) The difference between tired and depleted (3:49) Exhaustion is not weakness; it is a signal (5:13) The hidden cost of pretending you are fine (6:46) Dr. Phyllis shares her 2019 depletion story (13:07) The first change needed is honesty (14:37) Honesty is the runway for landing (15:17) Permission to stop pretending (16:18) Preview of next week’s episode on presence Get Dr. Phyllis's Free Answer Guide, “What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t — ten honest answers for the woman who holds everyone together.” Ten questions. Ten honest answers at thebelowthecircle.com. Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    19 min
  3. May 13

    139. Are You Chasing Something or Running from Something

    Are you chasing success, or are you running from the pain you have not named? In this honest and deeply personal episode of Below the Circle, Dr. Phyllis invites you to look at the “buffet” of life, where titles, roles, achievements, and endless yeses can start to feel like proof that you are enough. Through her own story of high achievement, imposter syndrome, betrayal, leadership pressure, COVID-era stress, and a hard landing with God’s help, she shows why the next title will never heal an old wound. This episode is a loving call to stop piling your plate, stop circling above your hurt, and ask one brave question: What am I running from? Peace, joy, and real rest begin when you choose to land. Episode highlights: (0:00) Chasing achievement to feel enough (2:11) The life-changing question: Are you chasing or running? (4:08) Fulfillment, validation, permission, and labels (10:10) Dr. Phyllis shares her personal story (17:49) Medical school, imposter syndrome, and hard seasons (20:13) Workplace betrayal and reopening old wounds (25:56) Leadership, COVID, scleroderma, and burnout (28:19) God’s hard landing and the wake-up call (31:57) Why the chase will never heal the hurt (35:41) The question to sit with this week (37:18) Episode 140 teaser Get Dr. Phyllis's Free Answer Guide, “What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t — ten honest answers for the woman who holds everyone together.” Ten questions. Ten honest answers at thebelowthecircle.com. Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    40 min
  4. May 6

    138. Why Does the Thought of Slowing Down Feel More Terrifying Than Burnout?

    Why does slowing down feel more terrifying than the burnout already wearing you down? In this heartfelt episode of Below the Circle, Dr. Phyllis speaks to the woman who keeps pushing, serving, leading, and holding everything together while quietly feeling empty inside. She names five fears that keep women stuck on autopilot, including the fear of losing identity, being replaced, appearing weak, letting everything fall apart, and not knowing how to slow down. Through her own story of burnout, loss, and learning to land, Dr. Phyllis reminds listeners that true resilience is not absorbing everything. It is knowing when to pause, breathe, and reconnect with God, yourself, and the life waiting below the circle. Episode highlights: (0:00) Opening reflection on resilience and burnout (1:45) Why slowing down feels so scary (3:07) Welcome to Below the Circle (4:23) Fear of losing your identity (5:21) Fear of being replaced (6:11) Redefining true resilience (7:46) Fear that everything will fall apart (8:53) Not knowing how to slow down (11:01) Dr. Phyllis shares her personal turning point (13:18) Lessons from her mother’s passing (19:23) Slowing down helps you live with clarity (21:13) Jeremiah 29:11 and trusting God’s plan (23:06) A simple pause question for the week (24:18) Preview of the next episode Get Dr. Phyllis's Free Answer Guide, “What’s Yours to Carry — and What Isn’t — ten honest answers for the woman who holds everyone together.” Ten questions. Ten honest answers at thebelowthecircle.com. Connect with Dr. Phyllis: http://drphyllishayesreams.com/ https://www.instagram.com/drphyllishayesreams/ https://www.facebook.com/phyllis.hayesreams

    25 min

About

Are you tired of circling on autopilot? Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the podcast for women ready to stop circling and start landing. You've been flying for years. Maybe decades. Hands gripped on the controls. Autopilot engaged. Circling the same patterns, the same way of doing life — over and over again. You're the high-achieving professional who never drops a ball. The ministry leader who pours out but never refuels. The mom running on fumes. The strong friend who holds everything together so seamlessly that no one thinks to ask if you're okay. You call it resilience. You call it strength. You call it love. But somewhere underneath all of it — underneath the doing and the fixing and the holding — there's a whisper you've been trying to ignore: "This isn't working anymore." Your plate is full. Your soul is empty. You're not broken. You're not weak. You've just been flying so high for so long that you've been flying right over your own life. And everything you've been searching for — your joy, your peace, your identity, your dreams, your purpose — has been below the circle the entire time. Below the Circle with Dr. Phyllis is the landing plan for the woman who is ready to come down. Dr. Phyllis is a Life Landing Coach, physician, author, and ordained minister. She spent years circling — gripping the controls, chasing shiny objects, running on autopilot, performing strength while running on fumes. She landed. And the ground held. Now she's on the ground — guiding women in. Not above you. Not in the cockpit with you. On the ground — already landed, already stable — talking you through the descent, signaling you in, and making sure everything is ready for you when you arrive. Through The Below the Circle Landing Plan, a transformative coaching methodology, she guides you through: ✈️ The Circling — naming where you are and what autopilot has cost you 🔔 The Recognition — hearing God's voice and accepting that change is needed 💡 The Decision — surrendering control and trusting what you can't see 🛬 The Approach — gaining clarity and aligning with where God is guiding you 💧 The Release — pouring out the emotional weight you've been carrying 🤍 The Grace — giving yourself compassion through the process 👣 The Landing — touching ground and coming home to yourself 🏠 The Arrival — adjusting to stillness and showing up daily ⛽ The Groundwork — refueling with presence, purpose, and joy Because life is a series of landings and takeoffs. And every woman deserves a landing plan. Each episode is a ground crew talk — bold, permission-giving, poetic, real, and warm. Whether it's a solo conversation, a guest story, or a guided reflection, every episode is designed to help you disengage autopilot and reclaim your life. God is in the tower. He cleared you to land. Dr. Phyllis is on the ground — guiding you in. This is for the woman who is done circling. Who is ready — even if ready feels more like terrified. Who is brave enough to begin the descent. You've circled long enough. And you don't have to land alone. Full plate. Empty soul. It's not too late to land. Stop circling. Start landing.