Forever Home for our kids with disabilities.

Valerie Arbeau

Formerly Special Needs Moms - Circle of Strength.  This podcast has begun a shift in focus... Hey, I’m Valerie, mom to two with disabilities (one visible, one invisible). We came up with housing solutions for our children. This space has been created to help you navigate the journey of creating a secure, sustainable forever home for your child.  We’ll chat with parents on this path, realtors, financial planners, and other experts who can make the process easier. We'll be dropping an episode twice a month. Seeing my eldest thrive living independent of us was a gift I didn’t always know I could give. I'm excited for you to have the opportunity to explore giving that gift to your child.   Keep building your child’s future!  Music acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk

  1. MAY 13

    Music, Belonging & the Brain: How Music Therapy Supports Children with Disabilities with Jennifer Buchanan.

    Send us Fan Mail In this inspiring and heartfelt episode, Valerie welcomes Jennifer Buchanan, certified music therapist, author, and founder of JB Music Therapy. With more than three decades of experience, Jennifer shares the powerful impact music can have on the brain, nervous system, emotional regulation, memory, connection, and belonging — especially for children and adults with disabilities. Jennifer opens up about the deeply personal experience that first led her into music therapy after her grandfather suffered a major stroke. What began as a simple Friday evening of singing his favorite song became a life-changing realization of music’s ability to connect, heal, and bring people together. Together, Valerie and Jennifer explore: The science behind music and the brainHow music supports neuroplasticity, regulation, memory, and emotional wellnessWhy music is deeply connected to human development and belongingThe role music can play in the home environmentUsing music intentionally to support routines, calm, energy, and connectionThe importance of exploring different genres and musical experiencesHow live music and shared musical moments create lifelong memoriesWhy music should remain part of a child’s life into adulthood and within their forever homeValerie also shares personal stories about her daughter Melody-Anne’s lifelong love of music, including how music became part of their family routines, worship, communication, and expression. Jennifer reminds parents that music is not reserved for performers or professionals — "It belongs to everyone." Key Takeaways Music activates more areas of the brain than almost any other activityMusic can support regulation, emotional expression, memory, and developmentShared musical experiences create strong family memories and connectionMusic can help set the emotional tone within the homeEvery person is musical, whether they perform or notBelonging, inclusion, and expression matter deeply for children with disabilitiesAbout Jennifer Buchanan Jennifer Buchanan is an award-winning music therapist, speaker, author, and founder of JB Music Therapy, which delivers over 20,000 music therapy sessions annually across medical, educational, and wellness settings.   Connect with Jennifer @jbmusictherapy @jenniferbuchananinc https://jbmusictherapy.com/ Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Final Thought “Continue advocating for belonging because you are becoming something so beautiful.” — Jennifer Buchanan Remember to Live with Intention and Embrace the Journey.  Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    36 min

  2. APR 29

    Why the Disability Tax Credit Is the Key to Unlocking Your Child’s Financial Future with Annie and Gordon VanderLeek

    Send us Fan Mail In this final episode of our series with estate planning lawyer and disability advocate Gordon VanderLeek and disability advocate Annie VanderLeek, we explore a critical shift in understanding the Disability Tax Credit (DTC). The DTC is often misunderstood as “just a tax credit.” But as Gordon and Annie explain, its real value lies in what it unlocks. This episode reframes the DTC as a gateway benefit—a foundational qualification that opens access to essential federal supports for individuals with disabilities. Key Takeaways: - The DTC is not about taxes—it’s about access. Even if your child earns little or no income, qualifying for the DTC can unlock life-changing programs. - Registered Disability Savings Plan (RDSP): Eligibility for the DTC is required to open an RDSP—one of the most powerful long-term financial tools available. With government grants and bonds of up to $90,000, this plan can grow into a substantial financial safety net for your child’s future. - Canada Disability Benefit (CDB): A newer federal support providing additional monthly income. Again, DTC eligibility is a key requirement. - Additional supports: Access to retroactive tax refunds, the Child Disability Benefit, and stronger positioning when applying for provincial programs. - Provincial implications (e.g., AISH in Alberta): In some cases, applying for the DTC is becoming mandatory to maintain or qualify for provincial supports. When Applications Are Denied: - Many applications fail due to incomplete or unclear information. - Strong applications rely on storytelling backed by documentation (medical reports, assessments, IPPs). - The key is clearly demonstrating how the disability impacts daily living, not just diagnosis. - One of the hardest parts of the application process is being honest about your child’s challenges. - Parents often provide extensive support behind the scenes—support that masks the true level of disability. For the DTC, it’s essential to describe what life would look like without that support. System Challenges & Needed Improvements: - Lengthy, complex applications - Limited time and support for medical professionals completing forms  - Long wait times and administrative barriers - A system that may exclude many who still need support Final Words of Advice: - Apply—even if you’re unsure The DTC is a doorway to your child’s long-term financial security.   “Live with iIntention - Embrace the Journey.”   Connect with the VanderLeeks ·       Website: vanderleeklaw.ca ·       Disability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca ·       https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw ·       https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw ·       https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    36 min

  3. APR 15

    Why Aren’t Homes Built Accessible? Rethinking Housing for Our Future with Adam Arsenault

    Send us Fan Mail What if the homes we build today are the very thing limiting our independence tomorrow? In this eye-opening episode, Valerie sits down with builder and entrepreneur Adam Arsenault to explore the critical gaps in accessible housing—and why so many homes still aren’t designed for real life across the lifespan. Adam has always been interested in building. He started at the beginning with how to read a red tape measure to studying every trade in the industry. After a decade of learning, he decided to turn his passion for building into a business.  Adam shares his journey into accessible construction, inspired by both industry experience and personal experience with family. After witnessing firsthand how traditional homes fail people as they age or face mobility challenges, he set out to challenge the status quo and create better solutions. Together, Valerie and Adam unpack: Why accessibility is still not the standard in home buildingThe surprising role basements play in limiting accessibilityThe concept of level-entry, no-step homes and why they matterThe stigma and mindset barriers that prevent proactive planningThe pros and cons of renovating vs. building newWhy “one-size-fits-all” (universal design) often falls shortHow ADUs (Additional Dwelling Units) can create independence while keeping families connectedAdam also introduces innovative approaches like building without basements, incorporating future-ready features like residential elevators, and designing homes that are both functional and beautiful—without looking “accessible.” Valerie brings her lived experience as a parent and former physiotherapist, emphasizing the importance of planning early and thinking long-term—especially for families raising children with disabilities. Key Takeaway: Accessible housing isn’t just for “someone else.” It’s for all of us—if we’re willing to think ahead. Whether you’re considering renovations, building a forever home, or simply starting the conversation, this episode will expand your perspective on what’s possible. Connect with Adam: Website: redpladhomes.com Instagram & Facebook: Red Plaid Developments Valerie’s Reminder: Start planning early. The best outcomes come from informed, proactive decisions—not reactive ones. Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey.   Connect with Adam www.redplaidhomes.com   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    38 min

  4. APR 1

    Accessible Design for Neurodivergence: Expert Insights on Sensory-Friendly Forever Homes with Ron Wickman

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode Ron shares his perspective: accessible, universal, and inclusive design isn’t specialized—it’s simply good design. But when designing for neurodivergence, the focus shifts toward creating calm, choice, and sensory-aware environments that support regulation and well-being. Calm is Foundational Designing for neurodivergent individuals often means reducing overstimulation. This includes thoughtful choices around color, lighting, acoustics, and layout to create a soothing, predictable environment. Wayfinding Matters More Than You Think Simple navigation within a home can significantly impact comfort and independence. Subtle visual cues—like consistent flooring and strategic use of color—can either support or hinder movement. Choice = Dignity and Control Ron emphasizes that the most important design principle is choice. When individuals can move freely and make decisions within their environment, it enhances autonomy, reduces anxiety, and improves quality of life. Sensory Design is Critical - Lighting: Opt for dimmable, low-flicker LED lighting with soft, diffused tones - Acoustics: Use insulation and acoustic panels to minimize noise - Materials: Choose matte finishes to reduce glare and sensory overload - Temperature: Ensure consistent, comfortable climate control These elements don’t just benefit neurodivergent individuals—they improve the experience for everyone. Space Variety Supports Regulation Incorporating a mix of open, social areas and smaller, cozy spaces allows individuals to choose environments that match their sensory needs. Dedicated sensory rooms can also offer a safe place to decompress. Every Individual is Different There is no one-size-fits-all solution. Designing for neurodivergence requires listening, curiosity, and collaboration with families and caregivers who understand the individual best. Parents Are Powerful Designers Families often develop incredible, intuitive solutions tailored to their child’s needs. Trust your instincts, get creative, and don’t be afraid to challenge limitations. Plan for the Future Design not just for today, but for what your child may need years from now. Early, proactive planning creates more sustainable and supportive living environments. Advocate and Stay Curious If someone says something “can’t be done,” dig deeper. Innovation often comes from questioning assumptions and seeking better solutions. Final Thought: You are the expert on your child. When you combine your insight with thoughtful design, you can create a home that supports not just survival—but true comfort, independence, and thriving. Check out Part 1 in Episode 23! Live with Intention - Embrace the Journey🎒   Connect with Ron Google Ron Wickman Architect online to visit his website and explore his publications on accessible housing. Check our Ron’s resources…👇🏽 https://www.ronwickmanarchitect.ca/resources   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    32 min

  5. MAR 18

    Understanding the Disability Tax Credit (DTC) in Canada with Annie and Gordon VanderLeek

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Valerie continues her conversation with estate planning lawyer Gordon VanderLeek and disability advocate Annie VanderLeek about an important support available to Canadian families raising children with disabilities: the Disability Tax Credit (DTC). Gordon is the founder of VanderLeek Law, and Annie leads the firm’s Disability Advocates division, helping families navigate disability-related programs and supports. Together they explain what the DTC is, how eligibility is determined, and why this credit can be much more significant than a simple tax reduction. What is the Disability Tax Credit? The DTC is a federal program administered by the Canada Revenue Agency. While it can reduce income tax, it also acts as an important gateway to other federal disability supports. Eligibility is not based on diagnosis alone. Instead, the CRA evaluates how a disability affects a person’s daily functioning. To qualify, a person must be: - Markedly restricted in one area of daily living, or - Significantly restricted in multiple areas Areas assessed may include walking, hearing, eliminating, mental functioning, and life-sustaining therapy. Why Documentation Matters Strong documentation is critical when applying. Helpful records may include: - Medical and psychological assessments - School reports or IPPs/IEPs - Therapy reports - Historical diagnoses As Annie emphasizes, keeping documentation helps families clearly demonstrate the real-life impact of a disability. Challenges in the Application Process The DTC application requires a medical professional to complete part of the form. Challenges can arise when doctors: - Do not know the individual well - Have limited time to complete forms - Are unfamiliar with certain disabilities Working with professionals who understand the complexity of disability can make a significant difference. Retroactive Benefits One powerful aspect of the DTC is that approval can be retroactive for up to 10 years, depending on when the disability began. This can result in meaningful tax refunds that help offset the additional costs families often face. Final Advice Annie’s biggest recommendation for families: Keep your documentation. Medical reports, school records, and assessments may become essential when applying for disability supports. This episode is part of a continuing series exploring financial and legal planning for families raising children with disabilities. Live with intention - Embrace the journey.   Connect with the VanderLeeks - Website: vanderleeklaw.ca - Disability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca · https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw · https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw · https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    32 min

  6. MAR 4

    Designing Homes That Truly Welcome Everyone with Ron Wickman

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Valerie sits down with architect, author, and accessibility advocate Ron Wickman to explore what it truly means to design homes that support independence, dignity, and lifelong connection. Ron brings over 30 years of experience in accessible architecture—and a deeply personal perspective. His father became paraplegic in 1964 at just 23 years old and was told he would likely live in an institution and never work again. Instead, he became a city councillor in Edmonton and later a Member of the Legislative Assembly, advocating for change across Alberta. Growing up immersed in disability advocacy shaped Ron’s professional mission: transforming accessible design from a “special feature” into the cultural norm. We Discuss: How Lived Experience Shapes Design Ron shares how navigating the world alongside his father exposed the barriers embedded in the built environment—from backdoor restaurant entrances to inaccessible homes—and how those experiences led him to architecture instead of politics. What “Accessible Design” Really Means Ron clarifies the differences between: Accessible DesignUniversal DesignInclusive DesignBarrier-Free DesignVisitabilityThe Power of Visitability Inspired by disability advocate Eleanor Smith, the concept of visitability ensures that every home has: A no-step entranceWider doorwaysA main floor bathroom accessible to wheelchair usersThese features benefit everyone. The 3 Critical Features of a Forever Home If you are searching for or building a home that can be modified for accessibility, Ron recommends focusing on: Ground-to-Front-Door Relationship Can someone enter without steps? If not, what modifications (ramps, lifts) would be required? Vertical Circulation If it’s not a bungalow, is there room for: A stair lift?A vertical platform lift?An elevator?Bathroom Size & Layout Older homes often have bathrooms that are too small to modify without major structural changes. Adequate space from the beginning makes aging in place—and caregiving—significantly easier. Ron advocates for “wet rooms”—fully waterproofed bathrooms with sloped floors and open shower areas.   Shifting the Cultural Mindset One of the biggest barriers to accessible housing isn’t cost—it’s perception. Make accessibility the norm—not the exception.   Coming Next Ron will return to discuss his work designing homes for the neurodivergent population—an area requiring even more nuanced, individualized planning.   Connect with Ron Google Ron Wickman Architect online to visit his website and explore his publications on accessible housing.   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States)   If this episode encouraged or informed you, please share it with another parent navigating the forever home journey. Live with Intention – Embrace the Journey Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    30 min

  7. FEB 18

    Protecting the Forever Home – Trusts, Planning & What Happens When You’re No Longer Here with Estate Lawyer Gordon VanderLeek

    Send us Fan Mail In Part Two of this informative conversation, I sit down again with estate lawyer Gordon VanderLeek, founder of VanderLeek Law, to unpack the legal and practical realities of securing a forever home for our children with disabilities. If you think buying the right house is the hard part — think again. Gordon walks us through the integrated planning that must happen behind the scenes to truly protect your child’s future. From tax implications to vulnerability risks, from Trusteeship to roommate agreements, this episode is full of insight every parent needs to hear. In This Episode We Cover: The most common mistakes families make when purchasing or transferring a homeWhy “just putting the house in your child’s name” can create serious long-term risksHow Canada’s principal residence exemption factors into planningWhy tax should never be the first priority — protection shouldHow to legally structure living arrangements with roommates or support workersThe importance of written agreements (even when everyone gets along)What happens when parents are no longer able to advocateCreating a Letter of Wishes or roadmap document to guide future caregiversPassing on financial knowledge (banking, bills, supports) before it’s neededWhether a Henson Trust can own property in Alberta — and how that worksHow Trustees should be empowered to manage repairs, renovations, or sale of the homeEnsuring there are enough funds in the Trust to support not just housing — but the whole lifeGordon also reminds us that a Trust is not just a tax tool — it’s a protective structure. And planning isn’t just about legal documents; it’s about transferring knowledge. One of the most practical takeaways? Start small. Open a document. Write one paragraph. Add to it over time. A roadmap doesn’t need to be perfect — it just needs to exist. Because when crisis hits, the worst time to figure this out is after the funeral. Final Encouragement You do not have to do this alone. Bring in professionals. Talk to other parents. Build your circle. Refine your plan over time. Peace of mind comes from preparation — not perfection. If this episode helped you think differently about your child’s forever home, share it with another parent who needs this conversation.   Connect with Gordon VanderLeek Website: vanderleeklaw.caDisability Advocacy Services: disabilityadvocates.ca·       https://facebook.com/vanderleeklaw ·       https://www.linkedin.com/company/vanderleeklaw ·       https://www.instagram.com/vanderleek_law/   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    49 min

  8. FEB 4

    Mobility, Dignity & Designing for the Future with Al Neary

    Send us Fan Mail Episode Overview In this episode, Valerie sits down with Al Neary, a mobility and rehabilitation expert with nearly 40 years of experience, to discuss how thoughtful equipment choices and home planning can support dignity, independence, and long-term quality of life for individuals with disabilities. Al shares practical insights for families navigating wheelchairs, seating, bathing, transfers, and home modifications—along with powerful stories that reframe mobility from limitation to possibility. Meet Al Neary Founder and president of Maximum Mobility (est. 2007)Calgary native and longtime volunteer with CADS – Canadian Adaptive Snow SportsSpecializes in pediatric and complex rehabilitation equipmentPassionate advocate for function, safety, and inclusion What You’ll Learn in This Episode Mobility Is More Than a Wheelchair A wheelchair is just one part of daily independence. Al explains the importance of complementary equipment such as lifts, commodes, shower chairs, hospital beds, grab bars, and change tables—to keep both individuals and caregivers safe. Why Proper Seating Matters Comfort, positioning, and support directly impact function, energy, and dignity. Al explains how customized seating enables independence and reduces physical and mental fatigue. Follow-Up & Maintenance (Especially in Alberta) Pediatric equipment is reviewed regularly due to growthAdult equipment is user-driven—vendors cannot initiate follow-upsFamilies must track replacement timelines through AADLRoutine servicing extends equipment life and improves daily functionBathrooms, Transfers & Home Design Commonly overlooked areas include: Bathroom size and layoutTrue roll-in showers (no lip)Space for commode accessLighting, doorway width, and transfer zonesEarly planning—before drywall or final layouts—can save money and stress. Future-Proofing the Forever Home Al emphasizes: Zero-threshold entriesWider doorwaysCeiling lift planningMultiple accessible exits for safetyAccessible design can be beautiful, functional, and a strong resale asset. Reframing Mobility Mobility equipment is a tool, not a setback. Al shares moving stories of children gaining independence, inclusion, and confidence through the right supports. “It’s not about what someone can’t do—it’s about giving them the tools to participate.”   Key Takeaways Think long-term, not just for todayInvolve professionals earlyPlan for growth, aging, and caregiver safetyFocus on dignity, function, and inclusion Live with intention. Embrace the journey. Thank you for listening to Forever Home for Our Kids with Disabilities.   Connect with Al Neary 🌐 www.maxmobility.ca 📞 403-769-6166 📧 ALN@maxmobility.ca   Connect with Valerie info@foreverhomeconsulting.ca   Music Acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk Editor: Scott Arbeau Link for book: The S.H.I.N.E. Principle: The special needs mom's path to strength, hope and happiness by Valerie Arbeau https://www.amazon.ca/dp/B0CW18ZXGX (Canada) https://a.co/d/03hFdZI4 (United States) Learn more about your host at: https://coachingwithvalerieanne.com/

    41 min
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Formerly Special Needs Moms - Circle of Strength.  This podcast has begun a shift in focus... Hey, I’m Valerie, mom to two with disabilities (one visible, one invisible). We came up with housing solutions for our children. This space has been created to help you navigate the journey of creating a secure, sustainable forever home for your child.  We’ll chat with parents on this path, realtors, financial planners, and other experts who can make the process easier. We'll be dropping an episode twice a month. Seeing my eldest thrive living independent of us was a gift I didn’t always know I could give. I'm excited for you to have the opportunity to explore giving that gift to your child.   Keep building your child’s future!  Music acknowledgement: Audio Coffee - Denys Kyshchuk

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