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Coffee and the Cross is a podcast for everyday Christian men who are trying to live out their faith in the real world—marriage, work, money, leadership, and the quiet pressures no one talks about. This isn’t a show for pastors, theologians, or men who have it all figured out. It’s a down-to-earth, Jesus-centered conversation for blue-collar, salt-of-the-earth men who love God but still wrestle with fear, exhaustion, responsibility, and doubt. Each episode feels like sitting down over coffee and talking honestly about: faith when you’re tired but still showing upmoney anxiety and the pressure to providemarriage in the middle milesleadership without controlprayer when you don’t feel spiritualtrusting Jesus in everyday life If you’re looking for real talk, biblical truth without hype, and faith that actually works Monday through Saturday, you’re in the right place. Coffee and the Cross exists to help men bring the gospel into real life—without shame, without pretending, and without shallow answers. Pull up a chair. Grab a cup of coffee. Let’s walk this out together. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™

  1. 3D AGO

    Adam: The man who hid | Flawed Men, Faithful God | Genesis Series

    Send a text Adam was the first man God created… and the first man to fail. In this episode of the Flawed Men, Faithful God series on Coffee and the Cross, we start at the very beginning of the Bible and look at the story of Adam in Genesis. Adam had everything a man could want—purpose, responsibility, relationship with God, and a family to lead. But when fear and failure entered the picture, Adam did what many men still do today… he hid. We’ll walk through the story of Adam and explore the pattern that many men fall into: failure, fear, and hiding. But the story doesn’t end there. Genesis also shows us something powerful about the character of God—He pursues men even when they run. If you’ve ever felt like you’ve failed as a husband, father, leader, or follower of Christ, Adam’s story is a reminder that God’s grace is bigger than your mistakes. We’ll talk about the leadership lessons from Adam’s life, what his story teaches us about responsibility and blame, and how the gospel points to Jesus as the second Adam who restores what the first man lost. This episode is a conversation about real life, real failure, and the faithful God who keeps calling men forward. Pull up a chair. Grab a cup of coffee. Let’s talk about the man who hid—and the God who came looking for him. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids.  Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing."  we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    15 min

  2. MAR 12

    Flawed Men Faithful God | Series Introduction

    Send a text If you’ve ever wondered whether God can really use a man like you… this series is for you. In this introduction to the Flawed Men. Faithful God. series, we take a fresh look at the men of Genesis—Adam, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, Judah, and Joseph—not as perfect heroes, but as ordinary men who struggled, failed, feared, and still became leaders God used for His purposes. Because if the Bible teaches us anything, it’s this: God doesn’t call the qualified—He qualifies the called. In this series on Coffee and the Cross, we’ll walk through the real stories of these men and see how God shaped them through failure, fear, waiting, and grace. Each episode will explore the man, the mistake, the fear behind it, the turning point where God stepped in, the leadership lesson for today, and how every story ultimately points to Jesus. This isn’t about becoming a perfect man. It’s about understanding how a faithful God builds strong, godly men out of imperfect ones. If you’re a husband trying to lead well, a father wondering if you’re doing enough, or a man who loves Jesus but sometimes feels stuck, this series will remind you that God is still writing your story. Pull up a chair. Grab a cup of coffee. Let’s walk through Genesis and discover how God forms leaders. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids.  Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing."  we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    16 min
  3. Why are we doing this?

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    Why are we doing this?

    Send a text Coffee and the Cross is a podcast for everyday Christian men who are trying to live out their faith in the real world—marriage, work, money, leadership, and the quiet pressures no one talks about. This isn’t a show for pastors, theologians, or men who have it all figured out. It’s a down-to-earth, Jesus-centered conversation for blue-collar, salt-of-the-earth men who love God but still wrestle with fear, exhaustion, responsibility, and doubt. Each episode feels like sitting down over coffee and talking honestly about: faith when you’re tired but still showing upmoney anxiety and the pressure to providemarriage in the middle milesleadership without controlprayer when you don’t feel spiritualtrusting Jesus in everyday lifeIf you’re looking for real talk, biblical truth without hype, and faith that actually works Monday through Saturday, you’re in the right place. Coffee and the Cross exists to help men bring the gospel into real life—without shame, without pretending, and without shallow answers. Pull up a chair. Grab a cup of coffee. Let’s walk this out together. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    5 min

  4. 12/02/2025

    Authentic Manhood BK3 | CH5

    Send a text In this episode, we dive into Authentic Manhood Book 3, Chapter 5: Control—where fear and insecurity push men into some of the most common traps we face: the Fear Trap, the Workaholism Trap, the Anger Trap, and the Power Trap. You’ll learn how each trap forms, why they feel so natural to men, and what Scripture and the Authentic Manhood framework teach us about replacing control with trust, rest, humility, and servant-leadership. This is a straight-talk conversation that helps you understand what’s really going on under the surface—and how to break free from the need to manage, dominate, perform, or explode. If you’ve ever felt the pressure to hold everything together, this episode will give you the hope and tools to lay down control and walk in the strength God intended. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    16 min

  5. 11/18/2025

    Authentic Manhood BK3 | CH3 - The Battle Plan

    Send a text In this episode, we walk through Chapter 3 of Authentic Manhood Book 3: A Man and His Traps—a powerful look at how men can build a real, biblical Battle Plan to destroy the idols that keep pulling them off course. We break down the Noble Pathways, expose the lies behind common manhood traps, and explore how Jesus Himself modeled the way to fight temptation with truth, identity, and obedience. You’ll hear practical examples of how men replace idols with God’s truth, how to recognize your Noble Pathway, and how to move from behavior-modification to heart-transformation. If you’re tired of fighting the same battles over and over, this episode gives you a clear, actionable plan to walk in freedom and live as the man God designed you to be. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    19 min
  6. Praying for your Wife | Day 7 - Marriage & Future - Revisited

    11/01/2025

    Praying for your Wife | Day 7 - Marriage & Future - Revisited

    Send a text In the final episode of the Praying for Your Wife series, Steve wraps it all up with laughter, real talk, and powerful prayer for your marriage and the road ahead. Learn how to pray for your future together, protect your covenant, and build a lasting legacy of faith—even when life gets messy. Key Scriptures: Hebrews 10:23 · Jeremiah 29:11 · Proverbs 5:18 · Psalm 78:6-7 · Proverbs 17:22 · 1 Corinthians 16:14 What You’ll Learn: How to pray for your marriage’s future and purposeThe difference between covenant and contract loveHow laughter, prayer, and humility keep unity aliveWhy your marriage is the gospel your kids read firstHow to stand back up when you fallQuotable Lines: “A good marriage is built on forgiveness, caffeine, and faith.” “You can’t build the future if you’re living like spiritual roommates.” “Marriage is a covenant, not a contract.” “When you fall—and you will—your knees are a good place to stop on the way back up.” Prayer Focus: “Lord, bless our marriage and future. Teach us to forgive quickly, love deeply, and keep our hearts anchored in You.” Takeaway & Challenge: Keep the rhythm of daily prayer alive. When you fall, pray together before you get up—because every comeback starts on your knees. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    11 min
  7. Praying for your Wife | Day 6 - Partnership & Unity - Revisited

    10/31/2025

    Praying for your Wife | Day 6 - Partnership & Unity - Revisited

    Send a text In Day 5 of the Praying for Your Wife journey, Steve unpacks what real protection looks like—covering your wife physically, emotionally, and spiritually through prayer. Learn how to create safety in your marriage, fight spiritual battles with Scripture, and bring peace to her heart when storms hit. Key Scriptures: Psalm 121:8 · Psalm 91:11 · Ephesians 5:25 · Isaiah 54:17 · Philippians 4:7 What You’ll Learn: Why true protection begins on your knees, not in your fistsHow to cover her body, heart, and mind through prayerWhat Jesus taught about protecting dignity and peaceHow your words can wound or shield herPractical prayers for spiritual warfare and emotional safetyPrayer Focus: “Lord, place Your hedge of protection around my wife—guard her physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Let her feel safe, secure, and anchored in You.” Takeaway: ➡ Protection is covering, not control. When your wife feels safe under your prayer, she can rest and grow in peace. In Day 6 of the Praying for Your Wife journey, Steve unpacks what true partnership and unity look like in marriage. Learn how to pray through conflict, strengthen connection, and build a “same-team” mindset that turns disagreement into growth. Real stories, Scripture, and practical prayer steps show you how to fight for each other instead of against each other. #PrayingForYourWife #ChristianMarriage #BiblicalManhood #ChristianHusband #FaithAndFamily #CoffeeAndTheCross #MarriagePrayer #UnityInMarriage #MensMinistry #FaithPodcast Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    13 min
  8. Praying for your Wife | Day 5 - Her Protection -Revisited

    10/30/2025

    Praying for your Wife | Day 5 - Her Protection -Revisited

    Send a text Our wives carry more in their hearts than most of us ever realize. Between family responsibilities, emotional weight, and spiritual battles, their hearts can grow tired and unprotected. In this episode, Steve unpacks what it means to cover her heart and spirit in prayer—asking God to bring peace, healing, and joy where stress or pain have taken root. 🔑 Key Scriptures Proverbs 4:23 – “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”1 Peter 3:4 – “…the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.”Psalm 34:18 – “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”Isaiah 40:31 – “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength…”💥 What You’ll Learn Why your wife’s heart needs covering more than correctingHow to pray for her emotional peace and spiritual renewalPractical ways to respond with compassion instead of frustrationHow to fight the invisible battles she faces through prayerThe power of presence: why listening often heals more than talking💬 Quotable Lines “Your job isn’t to fix her—it’s to cover her.” “You can’t heal her heart, but you can create the space where God can.” “When you pray over her heart, you’re telling the enemy, ‘You don’t get to have her peace today.’” “Presence speaks louder than advice.” 🙏 Prayer Focus “Lord, guard her heart and refresh her spirit. Calm the storms I can’t see and fill her with Your peace. Let her feel safe, seen, and secure in You.” 💡 Takeaway ➡ When a man learns to pray for his wife’s heart, he becomes the safest place in her world. Challenge: Pray this simple prayer today: “God, protect her heart. Fill her spirit. Remind her that she’s loved, seen, and secure in You.” Ask her, “How can I pray for you today?”—and listen. 📣 Call to Action 👉 Subscribe to Coffee and the Cross: Love, Life & Money to continue the 7-day prayer journey. 👉 Share this episode with another husband or your men’s group. Support the show Steve & Becky have been together since High School and were married a few years after graduation. They have four amazing kids and 4 equally amazing grand-kids. Steve's prayer is to encourage men in their everyday lives, give them hope and direction to be Godly men, better husbands and better fathers. In high school, my mom used to listen to a 10 minute devotional before the bus came. If we heard Robert Cook saying, "Walk with the king today and be a blessing." we knew we were running late. Looking to purchase the books? Here is the link to my store where you don't pay any more, but I get a small commission to keep the channel running.

    13 min
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Coffee and the Cross is a podcast for everyday Christian men who are trying to live out their faith in the real world—marriage, work, money, leadership, and the quiet pressures no one talks about. This isn’t a show for pastors, theologians, or men who have it all figured out. It’s a down-to-earth, Jesus-centered conversation for blue-collar, salt-of-the-earth men who love God but still wrestle with fear, exhaustion, responsibility, and doubt. Each episode feels like sitting down over coffee and talking honestly about: faith when you’re tired but still showing upmoney anxiety and the pressure to providemarriage in the middle milesleadership without controlprayer when you don’t feel spiritualtrusting Jesus in everyday life If you’re looking for real talk, biblical truth without hype, and faith that actually works Monday through Saturday, you’re in the right place. Coffee and the Cross exists to help men bring the gospel into real life—without shame, without pretending, and without shallow answers. Pull up a chair. Grab a cup of coffee. Let’s walk this out together. All Scripture quotations, unless otherwise indicated, are taken from the Holy Bible, New International Version®, NIV®. Copyright ©1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.™ Used by permission of Zondervan. All rights reserved worldwide. www.zondervan.com The “NIV” and “New International Version” are trademarks registered in the United States Patent and Trademark Office by Biblica, Inc.™

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