Identity Love Podcast

Tracy Konane
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Have you tried everything to be happier in your relationship... except having self-love? After losing herself in romantic relationships, not knowing how to be herself, and feeling like self-love was gross; Tracy now helps frustrated significant others to stop worrying so much about pleasing their partners -- and to actually learn how to have self-love while being in their relationship.

  1. 04/24/2024

    Ep.30: When you've lost yourself in a relationship

    I thought I was just being the best partner I could be...but since when did being a good partner require to feel empty the moment my boyfriend walked out the door? I'd completely lost myself in my relationship, and even though everything looked great from the outside -- on the inside I was completely reliant on him for my identity. If you are feeling this way, you are not alone. There's nothing wrong with you. You've just been doing things one way for too long, and in this episode I share what you can do to start getting yourself back. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/lQFOu_jYnDY Tracy's website: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    29 min

  2. 04/17/2024

    Ep.29: Selfishness VS Self-love

    If you've felt conflicted about whether or not you're being selfish by finally putting yourself first in your life, this episode is for you. I include the best definition I've heard yet about selfishness VS self-love, and clean up any confusion that is making you feel guilty...so you can start doing more self-love in your life. Mentioned in episode: https://herediatherapy.com/selfishness-vs-self-love/ Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/XlKvDMFgqbw Tracy's website: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    27 min

  3. 04/10/2024

    Ep.28: Why it can feel scary to love yourself

    We usually know exactly what kind of person we do NOT want to be. We live in fear of being a mean, selfish, unloving person... so we avoid doing anything that might make us come off that way. But this fear is often the very thing that is stopping us from learning how to love ourselves. I talk about how my clients and I have dealt with this fear, and I'll show you how to not let it stop you. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/iXxPSj9IXdw Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    21 min

  4. 04/03/2024

    Ep.27: Your responsibility as a significant other

    As partner-pleasers, we often assume that our responsibility as a significant other is to keep our partners happy as we possibly can. When this becomes our main unspoken goal, we struggle to love ourselves, to find our own identities -- because we are so afraid of "neglecting" our partners by not catering as much as before. But. What if we've had it backwards? What if, in order to be a good partner, we are supposed to take responsibility for ourselves -- and give our partners responsibility for themselves? Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/F67nMPhzIPY Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    33 min

  5. 03/27/2024

    Ep.26: Partner-pleasing & perfectionism

    I'm messy, disorganized, creative, chaotic! So I denied having any kind of perfectionist tendencies -- EVER... until I realized how much I was secretly expecting myself to be "perfect" in my relationship. I'd always thought this was a good thing for my relationship. But it was actually creating more problems. This is why it's so important to recognize when we're going to unreasonable extremes... and what we can do to bring ourselves back to a healthy, happy place. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/CeN5OSVL8W0 Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    28 min

  6. 03/20/2024

    Ep.25: Who do you want to be in your relationship?

    When our relationship feels like an emotional rollercoaster, it's because we're giving our partner too much control. It may feel like we have no other choice but to feel and act a certain way when something happens in our relationship, but there is always a better option. The question is: what exactly IS that other option? What does it look like, feel like? In this episode I talk about figuring out who YOU want to be in your relationship, why we often struggle to know what we actually want, and why having clarity of your own vision is so important for self-love. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/GM79blWucTo Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    27 min

  7. 03/13/2024

    Ep.24: How to balance self-love in a relationship

    How do we make sure that we're not neglecting our partner, while still giving ourselves the right about of self-love? This is a common worry that we have when shifting our behavior in our relationship, and I explain it all in this episode. You'll learn what real balance in a relationship is, why quality of love is so much better than the quanity of love, and what healthy love looks like in your relationship with your partner AND yourself. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/3zLTb1QHP_E Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    28 min

  8. 03/06/2024

    Ep.23: Romanticizing the right things

    So, you know that living to please someone else isn't working out in your favor...but it feels so hard to stop. It feels like you're against yourself, like you need to please in order to feel better. I totally get it. There's nothing wrong with you... you're just romanticizing the wrong things! In this episode I talk about how I was romanticizing pleasing others, and how I changed everything around by beginning to romanticize the right things. Watch this episode:⁠ https://youtu.be/rZCU-rtAnCM Identity Love YEAR: ⁠https://www.identitylove.com/year⁠ IG: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/tracykonane/

    36 min
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Have you tried everything to be happier in your relationship... except having self-love? After losing herself in romantic relationships, not knowing how to be herself, and feeling like self-love was gross; Tracy now helps frustrated significant others to stop worrying so much about pleasing their partners -- and to actually learn how to have self-love while being in their relationship.

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  • Creator
    Tracy Konane
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2024
  • Episodes
    30
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Tracy Konane
  • Show Website
    Identity Love Podcast