ADHD & Neurodiversity: The Spicy Brain Podcast

Megan Mioduski & Michelle Woodward
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ADHD isn’t just a diagnosis; it’s a way of seeing the world. I'm a neurodivergent creative, and I'm teaming up with my (kinda) neurotypical sister to unpack the chaos of ADHD, mental health, big feelings, and the wild ride of living with a spicy brain. Whether you're newly diagnosed, deep in the neurospicy trenches, or just trying to make sense of someone you care about, we hope you’ll leave every episode feeling a little more seen and a little less alone. Here, we mix sister talk with ridiculous stories. Here, we break down how ADHD physically and emotionally in the body. Here, we laugh our way through the sometimes messy (and wildly creative) ways neurodivergence shows up in real life. We believe you don’t have to “fix” your brain to feel better. This is your reminder that being wired differently doesn’t mean being broken. We’re in it with you. Our podcast is funny, honest, and probably the most validating train wreck you'll listen to this week. (New episodes weekly-ish.) 💬 Say hello on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/spicybrainstudios" ADHD, neurodivergent, neurodivergence, executive dysfunction, masking, RSD, rejection sensitive dysphoria, anxiety, depression, emotional regulation, autism, AuDHD, sensory overload, overstimulation, burnout, dopamine, mental health, time blindness, creativity, sibling podcast, funny mental health podcast, women with ADHD, late diagnosis ADHD, emotional dysregulation, productivity struggles, ADHD hacks, real talk, neurospicy, ADHD podcast

  1. 21H AGO

    Ep. 102 — ADHD Confidence and Complex Kids: “Specialists Living in a Generalist World”

    This week we kept sitting in Chapter 3 of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids and somehow ended up talking about adulting, perfectionism, boundaries, and why confidence feels like something you have to build brick by brick. It started with a Maya Angelou quote about success being liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it. And honestly, that one hits different when you are parenting a complex kid or trying to reparent yourself with an ADHD brain. Megan shared the story of her “I Love Me” book, which began during a really hard season when she realized she did not even like herself. What started as a way to survive slowly became something softer. Over time it turned into proof that joy could exist without perfection. And then, ten years later, she added a page just because it made her happy. No fixing. No compensating. Just joy. Which is funny because sometimes the most radical thing you can do as a neurodivergent human is glue down a slightly crooked photo and let it be crooked. Then the conversation shifted to being a specialist in a generalist world. What happens when your ADHD brain does not write in five paragraph essays and the world insists that it should. What happens when you are the generalist inside a family of specialists. Michelle talked about her “Aunt Mimi brain,” loving structure, loving preparation, and realizing that organization for her is not perfectionism. It is ease. That is the thing. Our struggles are not always the same as our kids’ struggles. And sometimes the growth is simply saying out loud, this is what I need. We circled back to parenting and that sneaky habit of tying your sense of self to your child’s hardest day. Oof. The reminder here was that confidence is a muscle. You practice it when you choose not to jump in and fix everything. You practice it when you ask for help. You practice it when you ask your partner to gush about the fact that you did nothing, because doing nothing was actually the hardest thing. Favorite line from the episode: “I need you to gush.” 00:00 welcome and what we are unpacking in Chapter 3 03:30 redefining success and the Maya Angelou quote 05:30 the origin of the I Love Me book 11:00 green tasks and pure joy 14:30 big life changes and saying no to the old job 20:30 specialists living in a generalist world 23:30 Aunt Mimi brain and boundaries 46:30 getting curious instead of nagging 52:00 parenting perfectionism and worst day thinking 58:30 boundaries, help, and building confidence If you are in a season where you are second guessing yourself as a parent, or just trying to figure out how to like yourself a little more, I hope this one felt like sitting on the couch with us. We are all building this confidence muscle in real time. If this episode meant something to you, come hang out again next week. Share it with someone who needs to hear that they are not alone in this neurospicy life. Stay curious, joyful, radically accepting. High kick. ADHD, neurodivergent parenting, complex kids, confidence building, parenting perfectionism, radical acceptance, boundaries, self parenting, adulting, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids

    1h 7m

  2. FEB 12

    Ep. 101 — ADHD Garages, Relationships, and Redefining Success: “It’s Not Just About the Tasks”

    This week’s episode dives deep into what it really means to support neurodivergent minds. Whether you're parenting a complex kid, managing your own ADHD, or trying to break the cycle of “fixing it” for everyone else, this one is for you. Michelle and Megan reflect on Chapter 3 of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus and tackle the emotional reality of the moment when you’ve “tried everything and nothing seems to work.” Megan shares the surprising emotional growth that came from finally cleaning out her garage. (Yes, the whole thing!) with the support of a neighbor. From “deferred decisions” to letting go of past selves, she walks us through the mindset shift that made it possible. Michelle brings the parenting perspective, offering insights from conversations with Josh and the complexity of offering support without over-controlling. Together, they explore what it means to parent ourselves, our children, and our relationships through big transitions with grace, curiosity, and a little spicy humor. Favorite line from the episode: “I had to build this muscle little piece by piece… which is why sometimes I get hard on Elaine Taylor-Klaus, because nothing she says is simple. But it is worth it.” 00:00 welcome and the pressure to do “the right” kind of parenting 05:00 defining success and dealing with feelings of failure 10:30 Megan’s garage cleanup breakthrough (and how it really wasn’t about the garage) 15:00 honoring relationships over tasks 23:00 relationship fatigue and letting go of control 35:00 your child is not your resume 42:00 redefining “adulting” and giving yourself time 49:00 trusting the long-term “stock market” of parenting 56:00 the importance of curiosity and repair in relationship-building If you’ve ever felt stuck in the chaos of parenting a complex kid, or parenting yourself through the mess, this is your sign to pause, breathe, and trust the process. We’re so glad you’re here with us. Make sure to follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast app, and if you’re enjoying the show, leave us a review or rating. Doing that really helps other neurospicy folks find their way here too. And hey, what’s your version of the garage you’ve been avoiding? Share it with us on Instagram or leave a comment. Until then, stay curious, joyful, and radically accepting. 🎧💖 ADHD, complex kids, parenting, executive function, burnout, emotional regulation, relationships, radical acceptance, garage metaphor, sensory overload, letting go, adulting, redefining success, shoulds, transitions

    1h 4m

  3. FEB 5

    Ep. 100 — Two Years, 100 Episodes, and a Whole Lot of Growth: “Radical Acceptance, High Kick!”

    From a messy start in temporary lodging to a full-blown neurospicy podcast, Michelle and Megan are celebrating 100 episodes of The Spicy Brain Podcast. What began as a casual sisterly experiment has evolved into two years of laughter, learning, and radically honest conversations about ADHD, emotions, burnout, masking, relationships, parenting, and healing. In this milestone episode, they reflect on how far they’ve come both personally and professionally. Michelle talks about releasing the need to “have all the answers,” and Megan shares the unexpected confidence she's gained in learning how to embrace her ADHD identity. They revisit key concepts like executive functioning (aka "The Butler"), internal shame spirals ("The Drill Sergeant"), Pomodoro sessions ("Tomatoes"), and good old-fashioned sibling bickering over puzzles. It’s a heartfelt look back filled with listener shout-outs, behind-the-scenes memories, and a whole lot of gratitude. This episode is both a love letter and a permission slip—for you to be exactly who you are, wherever you are in your neurodivergent journey. Favorite line from the episode: “I am the adult I’m supposed to be.” 00:00 – Kicking off episode 100: reflections and ramblings 02:15 – Why we started this podcast and how it’s evolved 06:10 – ADHD and the emotional layers we didn’t expect 10:55 – The Great Puzzle Showdown (Michelle’s Nightmare Puzzle) 16:40 – Megan on releasing shame and gaining confidence 18:50 – Listener shout-outs and community gratitude 22:20 – Defining our Spicy Brain glossary: Butler, Drill Sergeant, Flap, Tomatoes 34:30 – Strategies we’ve loved: balance, breaks, and reframing 38:50 – Radical Acceptance… High Kick! 44:00 – What belief did we lose after 100 episodes? 47:00 – Curiosity over perfection—what parenting and podcasting taught us 54:15 – The joy of Twitch-mom-ing and finding community 58:20 – Looking ahead to the next 100 episodes ADHD, neurodivergent podcast, radical acceptance, executive function, masking, sibling podcast, emotional regulation, ADHD strategies, humor and ADHD, women with ADHD, self-acceptance, parenting neurodivergent kids, Twitch and ADHD, burnout recovery, shame, podcast reflections, ADHD support, mental health, puzzle metaphor Thank you for being part of this wild, wonderful ride with us. If The Spicy Brain Podcast has helped you feel seen, laughed a little louder, or shed a should or two—please follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast platform, and leave us a review! It really helps more neurospicy folks find our little corner of the internet. And if you're new here, welcome! You've got 99 other episodes waiting to be discovered. Until next time, here’s to curiosity, joy, and a whole lot of radical acceptance… high kick!

    1 hr

  4. JAN 29

    Ep. 99 — ADHD Green Tasks, Friendship Anxiety, and the Come Down That Follows: “Lay It All In There”

    What happens when your ADHD brain finally says yes to a big day of joy, and then crashes afterward? In this cozy episode of the Spicy Brain Podcast, Michelle and Megan unpack what it means to say yes to magic, connection, and green tasks, even when you know they’ll cost you some recovery time. Megan shares a personal win: pushing past the urge to cancel and going whale watching with a friend, even though her body and brain were tired. Together, the sisters talk about masking, energy depletion, and what it takes to show up as your full, unedited self in a friendship. Whether you’re navigating the aftermath of a big social event or wondering why doing something joyful can still leave you feeling drained, this one’s for you. favorite line from the episode: “I'm Not That Busy, I'm Just Super Distracted" 00:00: midnight Megan and the deadline dopamine 01:20: life is loud, transitions are hard 03:00: the urge to cancel and the cost of energy 06:40: fears about being “too much” when you’re tired 08:20: dogs, belly rubs, and vulnerability 10:40: fix-it Frank and childhood lessons 12:00: the myth of “just change yourself” 14:10: best friend culture, friendship envy, and Gen Z wisdom 17:30: matching friends to emotional bandwidth 19:00: loneliness, lost communities, and neighbor connections 24:00: postcards, connection, and remembering to follow up 26:10: the come-down after green tasks 28:30: dolphins, core strength, and physical therapy wins If you’ve ever found yourself depleted after a joyful day, you’re not alone. Share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that doing something magical doesn’t mean you won’t still need rest afterward. And don’t forget to follow the show so you don’t miss next week’s episode—our 100th! ADHD, green tasks, social burnout, masking, friendships, vulnerability, radical acceptance, self-care, emotional boundaries, introvert energy, community building, whale watching, neurodivergent joy

    30 min

  5. JAN 22

    Ep. 98 — The REAL Episode 98: Radical Forgiveness, Melt-Downs & Marbles

    Okay okay. If you tuned in last week and thought, “Wait… didn’t I already hear this?” You did. That was Episode 95 in disguise. But THIS is the real Episode 98, and it’s worth the wait. This week, we finally finish Chapter 2 of Elaine Taylor-Klaus’s book, The Essential Guide to Raising a Complex Kid, and we go deep. We talk about: What it means to parent yourself with the same love and care you offer your kids.Why meltdowns, big feelings, and broken dishes are all part of the work, and how to handle them with less shame and more curiosity.The four steps to help ourselves and our kids move through a trigger response (and why you can’t skip ahead to “fix it”).Why radical forgiveness is just as important as radical acceptance.Real-life strategies: from marble jars to mug catastrophes, to help build trust and repair when things go sideways. We also unpack what it really means to “stay calm” as a parent. Spoiler: it’s not as simple as the books make it sound. There’s a reason this chapter took us four episodes to process, and that’s because healing is messy, neurodiversity is layered, and parenting is Olympic-level emotional work. We’re so glad you’re on this journey with us. 💬 Favorite quote: “If a dish gets washed and no one sees it, did it happen?” Next week, we’re diving into the chapter titled: “I’ve Tried Everything and Nothing Works”—and redefining what success really looks like for complex parents and complex kids. The Essential Guide to Raising a Complex Kid by Elaine Taylor-Klaus Be sure to follow or subscribe on your favorite podcast app. And if you’ve been enjoying the show, leaving us a review helps other neurospicy humans find their way here too. Until next time: stay curious, joyful, and full of radical acceptance and forgiveness. High kick! ADHD podcast, parenting complex kids, ADHD parenting strategies, neurodivergent parenting, radical forgiveness, emotional regulation ADHD, parenting with ADHD, ADHD self-parenting tools, how to support ADHD kids, The Essential Guide to Raising a Complex Kid, teaching emotional regulation, marble jar trust, radical acceptance ADHD, parenting when you’re overwhelmed, I’ve tried everything and nothing works ADHD, staying calm during a meltdown, ADHD and shame spiral, real talk ADHD parenting, neurospicy podcast.

    1h 6m

  6. 12/18/2025

    Ep. 97 — ADHD Parenting Archetypes (Part 3), Time Clocks, and the Long Game of Repair: “You’re Never Gonna Have a Butler”

    UPDATED** - We had a technical glitch where about ten minutes of the audio cut out Megan's voice. While Michelle does enjoy talking, she wasn't having a one-sided conversation. lol Welcome back to the Spicy Brain Podcast! In this final part of our deep dive into parenting archetypes from The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus, Michelle and Megan explore the last three personality patterns — Demanding Dave, Defensive Drew, and Bootstrap Bessie — with their signature blend of heart, honesty, and humor. If you’ve ever heard phrases like “Life’s not fair” or “You just need to do what’s expected of you,” this episode will hit home. Through personal stories, uncomfortable truths, and the occasional pug pee metaphor, they examine how trauma, shame, and generational patterns can sneak into our parenting, and how we can shift toward curiosity and repair instead. Favorite line from the episode: “You’re never gonna have a butler.” 00:00 intro and why the high kick has to be low 01:15 welcome to new listeners and a recap of the book 03:30 Demand #1: Demanding Dave and Darlene “Just get the socks on!” 06:45 the San Francisco trip, light bulbs, and the Alcatraz mug 11:00 time blindness, accommodations, and why being early is survival 15:10 Megan’s rescue pug as a metaphor for ADHD parenting 18:30 learning to parent without shame, and with sparkles 22:45 “You’re never gonna have a butler”: when language shapes identity 25:00 how expectations can fail when they ignore invisible disabilities 29:00 Defensive Drew — when parenting becomes performance 33:00 othering, vertical games, and looking for parents who get it 36:00 trauma, defensiveness, and the spinny brain 40:30 how therapy (and therapy avoidance) shows up in family patterns 45:00 Bootstrap Bessie: suck-it-up culture and emotional dismissal 48:30 lack of empathy for ourselves and how to break that cycle 51:15 how “suck it up” becomes a stop sign in conversations 53:00 revisiting all 15 archetypes as ways we shut down connection 58:00 what happens after the awareness, the power of "up until now" 01:00:00 the repair process in parenting and neurodiverse relationships 01:03:00 preview: the four-step strategy for managing triggers 01:04:30 final thoughts on values, time, and why parenting is an 18-year interview ADHD parenting, parenting archetypes, complex kids, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, neurodivergent families, time blindness, emotional triggers, radical acceptance, self-repair, parenting trauma, invisible disabilities, generational patterns, childhood shame, reparenting, expectations vs reality, neurospicy podcast If you saw yourself in more than one parenting type, you are absolutely not alone, and awareness is the first step toward change. Next week, we’ll shift from insight to strategy with four powerful steps to manage your triggers and reset the stress cycle. Follow or subscribe to the Spicy Brain Podcast so you don’t miss it, and leave us a review to help other neurospicy folks find us too. Until then, stay curious, stay joyful, and bring a whole lot of radical acceptance.

    1h 10m

  7. 12/11/2025

    Ep. 96 — ADHD Parenting Archetypes (Part 2) and Emotional Permanence: “Heroin in His Eyeballs”

    In this heartfelt and funny continuation of last week’s episode, Michelle and Megan tackle the second half of the ADHD parenting personality types from The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus, and reflect on how those same patterns shape how we parent ourselves. From the anxiety-fueled planning of Anxious Ava to the quiet retreat of Distant Dana, the sisters explore how these archetypes show up in real life, in restaurants, in parenting, and even in podcast recording sessions. Megan shares candid stories about growing up with learned rules and what it means to finally break them, while Michelle gets real about what it's like to catch yourself reacting from a place of fear or habit. They also dive into the concept of emotional permanence, the idea that some of us need regular reminders that we are loved, even if we’ve just had a great day. This episode is a reminder that you’re not alone in your patterns, your fears, or your flailing Kermit moments, and that naming those patterns might be the first step to changing them. favorite line from the episode: “He's not gonna inject heroin into his eyeballs.” 00:00 welcome back and defining parenting in all its forms 04:00 parenting as a village — dogs, stepkids, and inner children 05:50 Anxious Ava: planning, fear, and over-control 11:15 pushing past the panic spiral 12:00 Pushover Pat and setting boundaries 16:30 mental health days and radical honesty 20:00 Denying Dale and societal myths about ADHD 25:30 Playful Peter and learned helplessness 31:00 Distant Dana and parenting avoidance 35:00 emotional permanence and unspoken rules 42:15 shifting perspective with “up until now” 45:10 how we parent different people differently 47:30 radical acceptance — even when you’re tired ADHD, ADHD women, parenting archetypes, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, neurodivergent parenting, anxious parenting, emotional permanence, childhood rules, inner child, emotional regulation, mental health, radical acceptance, masking, executive function, sibling podcast, self-awareness, neurodivergent adults If any of these parenting patterns hit close to home, we see you. Share this episode with a friend who might relate, or revisit Episode 95 to hear the first half of the parenting archetypes. And don’t forget to follow or subscribe so you don’t miss next week’s dive into Defensive Drew, Demanding Randy, and more. Until then, stay curious, joyful, and full of radical acceptance.

    49 min

  8. 12/04/2025

    Ep. 95 — ADHD Archetypes, Reframing, and Radical Acceptance: “I've Tried Everything and Nothing Works”

    This episode is a deep dive into the ADHD parenting archetypes from The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids by Elaine Taylor-Klaus, but with a twist. Megan and Michelle explore how these roles not only show up in parenting, but also in how we parent ourselves as neurodivergent adults. From Angry Anne’s explosive reactions to Lost Lois’s "meh" mode, they unpack how each archetype holds clues to our deeper needs, fears, and patterns. Megan admits she might be a little too familiar with Maxed-Out Maxine, while Michelle wonders if she’s ever not been Fix-It Fran. The episode is filled with stories, laughs, reframes, and one very important reminder: you’re not doing it wrong, you’re just learning what works for your brain. favorite line from the episode: "I’ve tried everything and nothing works... well, maybe there’s a better way." 00:00 welcome back and scrapping the other episodes 03:15 ADHD parenting personality types overview 06:20 Angry Anne and shame spirals 10:45 Super Parent Sue and martyr mode 14:55 Lost Lois and emotional flatness 18:30 Maxed-Out Maxine meets sensory overload 22:40 Fix-It Fran and the frantic helper 28:05 Nagging Nan and the weaponized sigh 34:00 the power of language and “up until now” 38:15 gentle self-reframes and parenting yourself ADHD, ADHD women, parenting archetypes, self-parenting, Elaine Taylor-Klaus, neurodivergent moms, emotional regulation, radical acceptance, sensory overload, ADHD burnout, reframing, shame spirals, self-talk, ADHD relationships If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend who’s also navigating the ADHD chaos. And be sure to follow the show so you don’t miss Episode 96, where we pick up with Anxious Ava, Pushover Pat, Denying Dale (or Debra), and more. You are not alone — and you are not broken. Let’s keep shedding those shoulds together.

    1h 8m
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ADHD isn’t just a diagnosis; it’s a way of seeing the world. I'm a neurodivergent creative, and I'm teaming up with my (kinda) neurotypical sister to unpack the chaos of ADHD, mental health, big feelings, and the wild ride of living with a spicy brain. Whether you're newly diagnosed, deep in the neurospicy trenches, or just trying to make sense of someone you care about, we hope you’ll leave every episode feeling a little more seen and a little less alone. Here, we mix sister talk with ridiculous stories. Here, we break down how ADHD physically and emotionally in the body. Here, we laugh our way through the sometimes messy (and wildly creative) ways neurodivergence shows up in real life. We believe you don’t have to “fix” your brain to feel better. This is your reminder that being wired differently doesn’t mean being broken. We’re in it with you. Our podcast is funny, honest, and probably the most validating train wreck you'll listen to this week. (New episodes weekly-ish.) 💬 Say hello on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/spicybrainstudios" ADHD, neurodivergent, neurodivergence, executive dysfunction, masking, RSD, rejection sensitive dysphoria, anxiety, depression, emotional regulation, autism, AuDHD, sensory overload, overstimulation, burnout, dopamine, mental health, time blindness, creativity, sibling podcast, funny mental health podcast, women with ADHD, late diagnosis ADHD, emotional dysregulation, productivity struggles, ADHD hacks, real talk, neurospicy, ADHD podcast

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