Avoidance and Control

Monique Gomez
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Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.

  1. 1d ago

    Just What You Do:The Life You're Supposed To Want

    What if some of the things you think you want were never actually your desires—they were expectations you learned so early that they started to feel like your identity? In this conversation with Madisen, we’re unpacking the messages women receive about being “good,” being desirable, getting married, becoming a wife or mother, and knowing our place. And then we’re asking a harder question: Who are you when you stop doing what you’re “just supposed to do”? In This Episode: Seeking Desire, Wants and Needs to explore YouLoss of Self or ReContrsucting Yourself Sometimes it okay Basic Needs Come First Madisen Rose is a somatic practitioner, and founder of Better Half to Whole, a platform dedicated to supporting individuals through the renegotiation of relational trauma in the nervous system, specializing in divorce recovery. Through one on one sessions, digital resources, self-paced online courses, and group programs, Madisen helps people rebuild after divorce with intention, compassion, grit, and self-trust. Through trauma-trained practices, she bridges the space between science and the sacred. Madisens links: Website www.betterhalftowhole.com Consult: https://calendly.com/madisen-betterhalftowhole/20-minute-somatic-consult-free https://better-half-to-whole.kit.com/93227e3020?utm_id=97760_v0_s00_e0_tv4 Moniques Links $35 Intro Session https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Free and Low Cost Events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 My Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMNVVWWS?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_W2N4XBPBF91KXZNS4FSS&bestFormat=true

  2. Sep 28

    3 Reasons I Won't Go Back to Mental Health Therapy

    This episode is brought to you by my reminders of therapeutic burnout after visiting a therapist community gathering. Iam no longer burnt out, even when I went back this year as a Behavior Coach for kids. I learned to maintain my nervous system and keep my own life outside work. Hi, I am Monique Gomez, former Mental Health Clinician, now a Trauma and Resilience Life Coach for 4 years and an Energy and bodyworker for 16. In This Episode: - Suppression of my System rage - Other alternatives to "therapy" - Theory I made up that I didn't make time to research properly Episodes mentioned in this one: -Coaching Flexibility with Jennifer Jakobsen (May 2024- Season 1) https://open.spotify.com/episode/1IJTOSuN64ziAX65MiZLOf?si=-yQ0q2yOSLispbPNcy1iKg https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/coaching-flexibility-with-jennifer-jakobsen/id1717846722?i=1000654647004 Moniques LINKS https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session (intro Session) https://www.eventbrite.com/o/47342140343 (events- Free and Low Ticket) https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5 (my Book) Trauma and Resilience Life Coaching (TRLC) is NOT therapy. The SAFNET/ Empowerment timeline is for people who feel safe enough in their body to process their past with a safe person. TRLC is a great complement to therapy and other mental health treatment. If you would like more details please book an Introductory Session with Monique Gomez, MSW, TRLC ($35 USD)

  3. Sep 21

    They Told Me I Needed This Medication for the Rest of My Life...

    What happens when you’re given a diagnosis, told what your future will look like, and expected to trust the system without questioning it? Her hyperthyroidism story takes us through fertility fears, suicide, self-forgiveness, lifestyle and environmental changes, and the conversations that happened when she connected with other women living with the same diagnosis.  Then she asks a question that challenges the entire system: if we stop blindly accepting treatment and start taking ownership of our health, who loses power—and who loses money? Hi I’m Shelby Poutre, a wife and mom of 2. I’m a busy mom, homeschooling, and homemaking, as well as running businesses alongside my husband. I still feel drawn to help women steward the life God has given them by sharing my story and what has helped me. I believe we all have a story that is meant to be a roadmap for someone else. In This Episode: Tools for evaluating your own healthEnvironmental changes and a stress-reduction lifestyleQuestioning the System and its benefits Shelby's Links https://www.instagram.com/shelby_poutre_/ https://www.facebook.com/shelby.blake.35 Moniques Links Intro Call ($35) https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Events (free and low cost, virtual and in person) https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 My Book https://a.co/d/06or4SoS

  4. Sep 14

    I Kept Sabotaging My Money-Until I Stopped Blaming Myself

    "You never self-sabotage," my partner said, right before I fell back into an old story. Even after 3-4 years of consistently working on my money story; in calm of my weeks I started to not feel like I am enough, wanting more, seeking to rid the money I was making. Monique Gomez is an Integrative Somatic Practitioner and Trauma & Resilience Coach who helps people come back to safety in their bodies and make peace with their past. A former Mental Health Therapist with a Master’s in Social Work, Reiki Master, and Licensed Massage Therapist, she blends exposure-based therapeutics with somatic healing to support deep, lasting change. Monique specializes in working with those who feel unseen, overextend themselves, or struggle with self-worth—guiding them to understand their nervous system, shift patterns, and build capacity for discomfort without overwhelm. ** Building Regulation 3 Month Group coming January 2027** 45 Min Intro https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Free and Low Ticket Events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 My Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BPG8BRW5?ref_=cm_sw_r_ffobk_cp_ud_dp_AFJ5NWZRV9A3HNSMPNSH&bestFormat=true

  5. Sep 7

    Two Tools to Help You Process Emotions

    That feeling in your body that something is wrong, "I don't feel like myself," is often something that can be solved with these tools. In this episode: personal story of grief processingScience-backed evidenceencouragement to use the information your body is giving youMonique Gomez is an Integrative Somatic Practitioner and Trauma & Resilience Coach who helps people come back to safety in their bodies and make peace with their past. A former Mental Health Therapist with a Master’s in Social Work, Reiki Master, and Licensed Massage Therapist, she blends exposure-based therapeutics with somatic healing to support deep, lasting change. Monique specializes in working with those who feel unseen, overextend themselves, or struggle with self-worth—guiding them to understand their nervous system, shift patterns, and build capacity for discomfort without overwhelm. Monique's links: one on one call ($35) https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Free and Low Ticket Events https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 My Book https://www.amazon.com/Not-Chancla-Awareness-History-Compassion/dp/B0BPG8BRW5

  6. Aug 31

    What If You're Answers Aren't In Fixing Yourself? - but in Learning How to Live?

    In 38 minutes, we go way beyond the Inner Critic. We talk about getting regulated, discovering what you actually want, creating passion and joy, and learning to “fight for peace” until peace becomes easier. The theme was Inner Critic solutions, but we unpack victim mode—not as something to shame, but as a place where validation can sometimes be necessary before we’re ready to move forward.Because healing isn’t just about reaching the destination. It’s learning how to enjoy the journey. This Interview went off the Rails in the most beautiful, crazy (human) Train... Dani Sumner is a successful podcast host, Spiritual Director and Life Transformation Coach, and sober for 15 years. Through her writing, podcast, retreats, coaching, and courses, Dani helps people whose lives look great on the outside but are struggling on the inside. Dani's Links A Holy Mess Podcast https://danisumner.com/ http://calendly.com/danisumner Moniques Links: https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Events My Book

  7. Aug 24

    What is The Empowerment Timeline & Why I Use It?

    If you've never seen strength and growth in your history, you want to try this therapy in a group setting. The Empowerment Timeline is a group experience that is Salutogenic, meaning I help you use your story to see growth, truth, and inner knowing you didn't know existed. While training with Dr. Robert Rhoton (Arizona Trauma Institute) and learning in my Trauma and Resilience Life Coaching Certification (with Dr. Logan and other clinicians) helped me master their SAFNET (Salutogenic Asset Focused Narrative Exposure Therapy), I knew I could make more impact as a coach, former therapist (MSW) for those who: didn't trust therapistswho don't have access to quality trauma carewho have tried many treatments and are searching for something differentwant to get into their history without being retriggered The Empowerment Timeline is an experience unlike any other. Whether you have significant events in your life or not, this 3-step procedure helps build your confidence and self-trust. Want to try this one-on-one https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session Arizona Group Experience (Scottsdale, Saturday 8/29) https://tinyurl.com/5e6shpmy Follow Dare to Heal on Eventbrite (Live and Virtual Groups) https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343?aff=ebdsshcopyurl Trauma and Resilience Life Coaching (TRLC) is NOT therapy. This experience is a Therapeutic Exposure based timeline. This SAFNET/ Empowerment timeline is for people who feel safe enough in their body to process their past with a safe person. TRLC is a great compliment to therapy and other mental health treatment. If you would like more details on this Therapeutic Exposure Timeline, please book an Introductory Session with Monique Gomez, MSW, TRLC ($35 USD)

  8. Aug 17

    The Terrible Thing That Almost Killed Me Was a Positive: Timeline Demonstration with Kristen Searcy

    What if you’ve spent years trying to change your body, earn approval, or become the version of yourself you think other people will accept? In This Coaching Experience: we unpack body imageidentityoutside approvalthe unexpected turns that can become part of our healing.**Warning this episode includes conversation about Substance use, suicidal ideation, eating disorder(s) and/ or other mental health issues that could cause upset feelings, triggering language** Be safe while listening. Kristen Searcy is a Trauma Therapist for Women and creator of Peri Fairy™, an 8-week therapist-led small group experience helping women understand that perimenopause is not a decline, it’s a power shift and liberation portal. She specializes in complex trauma, dissociation, domestic violence and eating disorders, integrating EMDR, neuroscience, parts work and somatic healing to help women reconnect with their bodies, personal authority, and chosen direction in midlife. Kristens Links: https://www.adesertinbloomtherapy.com/peri-fairy https://www.instagram.com/perifairycollective Moniques Links: https://dtheal.org/45-min-introductory-session https://www.eventbrite.com/o/monique-dare-to-heal-47342140343 my Book- https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0BMNVVWWS?ref_=pe_3052080_276849420 Trauma and Resilience Life Coaching (TRLC) is NOT therapy. This experience is a Therapeutic Exposure based timeline. This SAFNET/ Empowerment timeline is for people who feel safe enough in their body to process their past with a safe person. TRLC is a great compliment to therapy and other mental health treatment. If you would like more details on this Therapeutic Exposure Timeline, please book an Introductory Session with Monique Gomez, MSW, TRLC ($35 USD)

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Are you avoiding places and people to feel more comfortable? Welcome to the Avoidance and Control Podcast, together we will uncover these common reactions of our nervous system and learn to use them to our advantage to get our voices heard and needs met. Join me as we step out of society's view of health and focus on skills over symptoms. Host Monique Gomez former mental health clinician turned Trauma and Resilience Life Coach, will simplify the science to help you navigate being a human with reactions, tools to support, and how her coaching to reach compassion beyond your imagination.

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  • Creator
    Monique Gomez
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    76
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Monique Gomez
  • Show Website
    Avoidance and Control