The Feminine Outliers

The Feminine Outliers
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Join two globally-minded, culture-curious women as they share the raw, real, and sometimes radical journey of uprooting their lives from the African continent to forge new paths in the US and UK. This isn’t just about immigration, it’s about Self Discovery. Through bold conversations and honest storytelling, they unpack what it truly means to seek sovereignty in identity, womanhood, work, and self-worth despite where you are from or where you are headed. From navigating culture shock to redefining success, love, and belonging,  this is a space for anyone who’s ever questioned the script and dared to live beyond borders.

  1. 2H AGO

    The Hidden Identity Shifts of Moving Abroad

    In this episode, Choolwe and Zelda discuss the psychological, mental, and emotional shifts that happen when moving from a home country to a host country, beyond cultural shock. They explore code-switching and self-filtering in workplaces and social spaces, the pressure to blend in rather than stand out, and how adaptation can become a survival mechanism tied to hypervigilance and hyper-independence. They reflect on identity changes like being more conscious about wearing African prints, language nuances, and shifting expectations around community support and the need to adapt to local norms without losing core parts of oneself. The conversation highlights how living abroad can expose “bad” customs to drop, “good” customs to keep, and new possibilities that expand mindset, goals, and definitions of success. 00:00 New Beginnings Abroad 01:09 Podcast Welcome 01:55 Hidden Shifts After Moving 04:23 Filtering Yourself 06:15 Code Switching Explained 09:08 Blending In vs Standing Out 12:30 Hyper Independence Mode 17:30 Asking for Help Abroad 21:08 Adapting Without Losing You 23:22 Expectations From Your Own 26:12 Nostalgia Versus Growth 27:13 Choosing Progressive Community 28:44 Adapting Without Losing Culture 29:57 Identity Anchors And Joy 32:20 Keep Your Core Self 33:54 Embracing Accent And Nuances 36:11 Handling Judgment With Confidence 38:46 Shifting Goals In New Countries 41:13 Breaking Ceilings And Survival Mode 44:09 Success Is Scary Too 45:30 Listener Questions And Farewell Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    47 min

  2. FEB 23

    What Are You Driven By: Logic or Emotion?

    In this episode, we discuss whether people are primarily driven by logic or emotion, sharing how being more logic-driven can create frustration when others communicate emotionally, especially through long, detailed stories or heightened reactions. We talk about the need for emotional intelligence and better communication—acknowledging feelings while staying clear on what can and can’t be solved. We emphasize personal responsibility, emotional resilience, curiosity before blame, and taking time to cool down before reacting, concluding that both logic and emotion are valuable and that balance is essential.  00:00 Welcome Back + Today’s Question: Driven by Logic or Emotion? 01:10 Why Logic vs Emotion Matters (and Why It’s a Pet Peeve) 02:54 Processing Styles: Storytelling, Patience, and Emotional “Pacing” 07:09 Can Logical People Be Romantic? Media Bias & Mental Intimacy 08:55 Movies That Make No Sense: Romance, Horror, and “Logical” Plots 13:17 Anime Example: Maomao (Apothecary Diaries) and Logic-Led Characters 14:15 Dating as a Logical Woman: When Romance Lines Don’t Land 18:00 Real-Life Logic at Work: Hospital Frustrations & Emotional Families 22:29 Emotional Etiquette: Acknowledge Feelings, Then Redirect to Solutions 24:32 Not Everyone Has to Match Your Mood 26:28 Staying Calm Under Pressure: Hospital & Scuba Diving Examples 29:00 Use Curiosity to Defuse Anger (Driving & Daily Triggers) 32:09 Life Comes in Seasons: Choosing Your Reaction 35:00 Dating, Relationships & Balancing Logic With Emotion 40:00 Cooling Down Before You Respond (and Why Bridges Burn) 42:25 Emotional Resilience as the Real Test of Character 43:52 Being the ‘Logical One’ in an Emotional World 47:22 Personality Types Tease: INTJ/ENTJ and the Next Episode 49:04 Final Takeaway: Balance Logic and Emotion + Where to Find Us Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    52 min

  3. FEB 8

    The Cost of Living Abroad

    In this episode, Choolwe and Zelda engage in a heart-to-heart discussion about the challenges and nuances of maintaining family connections while living abroad. Reflecting on their own experiences of living in the US and the UK with family back in Zambia and Kenya, they explore the frequency of family communication, the role of technology like WhatsApp groups, to the cost of missing important family milestones. They also delve into how one adapts and changes in a new country and the impact it has on familial relationships. Join the conversation and share your own experiences of loving family from afar. 00:00 Introduction and Family Communication Dynamics 01:06 Welcome to The Feminine Outliers 01:54 Navigating Family Relationships from Afar 03:59 Balancing Independence and Family Ties 08:09 The Role of Technology in Family Connections 20:07 Visiting Family: When and How? 26:30 Travel Mindsets and Preferences 27:05 Challenges of Traveling from Africa 29:47 Emotional Costs of Living Abroad 32:56 Missing Family Milestones 34:25 Holiday Nostalgia and Cultural Differences 37:45 Balancing Work and Family During Holidays 41:55 Changing Identities and Family Dynamics 44:56 Maintaining Connections from Afar 50:19 Conclusion and Call to Share Experiences Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    52 min

  4. JAN 24

    Challenging Beauty Standards: A Deep Dive into Cultural and Personal Perspectives

    Welcome back to the Feminine Outliers Podcast! In this episode, we tackle the topic of beauty standards and how they are influenced by cultural perceptions. We share personal anecdotes and discuss the impact of Western beauty ideals on black women, the challenges of embracing natural hair, and the importance of self-acceptance. We also highlight the significance of building a supportive environment and maintaining healthy self-esteem. Tune in for an insightful conversation about redefining beauty standards and embracing authenticity.  00:00 Introduction and Hosts Welcome  00:21 Today's Topic: Beauty Standards  00:53 Personal Experience with Hair and Beauty Standards  03:01 Discussion on Hair Perception and Compliments  07:52 Cultural Differences in Beauty Perception  20:23 Fitness and Body Image  23:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts  24:31 Embracing Unconventional Beauty  26:05 The Strength in Self-Acceptance  26:40 Challenges of Beauty Standards  28:14 Natural Hair and Cultural Pressures  29:14 Questioning Beauty Norms  30:22 The Role of Media and Movements  36:17 Practical Hair Care Tips  38:41 Simplifying Hair Care  44:44 Building Self-Esteem and Health  46:23 Conclusion and Podcast Information  Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    48 min

  5. 10/25/2025

    Accents, Attitudes and Assumptions

    In this episode of the Feminine Outliers Podcast, we delve into the complexities of accents, attitudes, and assumptions that arise when living abroad or in a multicultural environment. We share personal experiences about cultural misunderstandings and the biases faced due to different accents. The discussion touches on how accents can affect perceptions of intelligence and competence, both in social and professional settings. We also highlight the importance of embracing differences, expanding one's mindset, and being curious about other cultures. Join the conversation and share your thoughts on navigating identity beyond borders. 00:00 Introduction and Initial Thoughts 00:37 Welcome to the Family Lias Podcast 00:58 Accents, Attitudes, and Assumptions 01:52 Experiences with British and American English 03:52 Challenges with Language and Communication 04:46 Navigating Cultural Differences 07:25 Perceptions and Biases in Language 09:37 The Impact of Accents on Perception 11:56 Relatability and Bias in Communication 16:22 Discrimination Based on Speech 23:46 Regional Accents and Stereotypes 26:05 Stories of Immigrant Professionals 27:00 The Importance of Curiosity 27:29 Navigating Conversations as an Introvert 28:03 Respect and Understanding in Communication 28:45 Dealing with Stereotypes and Assumptions 30:45 Challenges of Being a Female Doctor 38:39 Strategies for Addressing Bias 41:24 Embracing Differences and Change 47:34 Conclusion and Call to Action Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    49 min

  6. 10/11/2025

    None of Us Are Perfect: The Art of Consistency

    In this episode, we dive into 'The Art of Consistency'. Choolwe shares her fitness journey and insights on staying motivated. We discuss the challenges of transitioning our podcast from audio to video, the importance of planning, and how identifying with your goals can keep you on track. We explore how external factors and personal discipline play roles in achieving long-term goals. Whether it's fitness, podcasting, or personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights to help you stay consistent in your endeavours. Tune in and let's explore the journey together!  00:00 Introduction and Personal Milestones 00:48 Welcome to the Feminine Outliers Podcast 01:04 The Art of Consistency 01:24 Challenges and Growth in Podcasting 02:16 Personal Reflections on Fitness 03:13 Consistency in Life and Work 11:38 The Journey of Medical School and Residency 14:32 Perfection vs. Consistency 18:03 Fitness and Discipline 21:28 The Power of Identifying with Your Goals 22:37 The Role of Accountability in Consistency 25:16 Balancing Motivation and Realism 26:12 The Impact of Social Media on Focus 28:02 Creating a Plan to Stay Consistent 28:26 Adapting Goals to Personal Rhythms 32:51 Protecting Your Energy and Willpower 34:14 Practical Tips for Staying on Track 39:22 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement  Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    41 min

  7. 08/02/2025

    Why are Westerners Called Expats and Non-Westerners Called Immigrants?

    In this episode we delve into the world of Double Standards that exist in this world especially from the Western and non-Western view points. We tap into our experiences as African women who have experienced some of these double standards. 00:00 Welcome Back to the Feminine Outliers Podcast 02:34 Discussing Double Standards: Western vs Non-Western 03:25 Expat vs Immigrant: A Deep Dive 10:37 Personal Experiences and Observations 19:17 The Power of Labels and Media Narratives 22:40 Media's Negative Portrayal of Non-Western Countries 23:11 Perceptions of America from Abroad 23:39 The Illusion of the Western Dream 24:54 Psychological Impact of Media Narratives 27:42 Questioning the Narrative 29:12 The Power of Marketing and Perception 32:56 Conspiracy Theories and Critical Thinking 35:57 Reflecting on Double Standards 42:33 Conclusion and Call to Action Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    44 min

  8. 07/26/2025

    The Silent Crisis of Black Women's Health

    Join Zelda and Choolwe as they dive into the multifaceted topic of Black women's health. From physical health issues like vitamin D and iron deficiencies to the emotional and mental health challenges encountered in the western world, this episode explores a wide spectrum of health-related experiences and insights. This engaging conversation also delves into societal pressures, family expectations, and the critical importance of self-care and health advocacy. Tune in to hear personal stories, expert opinions, and valuable advice aimed at empowering Black women to prioritize their well-being. 00:00 Welcome to the Feminine Outliers Podcast 00:42 Introduction to Black Women's Health 01:24 Personal Health Journeys 02:34 Common Health Issues in Black Women 05:01 Exploring the Why Behind Health Trends 10:41 Impact of Hair Products on Health 13:53 Cultural Standards and Health 20:25 Physical Health and Cultural Norms 21:26 Emotional and Mental Health 22:20 Unexpected Hair Store Encounter 22:43 Navigating Social Judgments 23:55 Cultural Adaptation and Stereotypes 27:03 Challenges in Professional Spaces 29:44 Emotional and Mental Health Struggles 31:28 The Importance of Self-Care 34:43 Family Expectations and Stress 42:36 Taking Control of Your Health 45:26 Engage with Us   Leave us a comment or question or just say hi :)

    47 min
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Join two globally-minded, culture-curious women as they share the raw, real, and sometimes radical journey of uprooting their lives from the African continent to forge new paths in the US and UK. This isn’t just about immigration, it’s about Self Discovery. Through bold conversations and honest storytelling, they unpack what it truly means to seek sovereignty in identity, womanhood, work, and self-worth despite where you are from or where you are headed. From navigating culture shock to redefining success, love, and belonging,  this is a space for anyone who’s ever questioned the script and dared to live beyond borders.

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  • Creator
    The Feminine Outliers
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    55
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2026 The Feminine Outliers
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