The Something to Say Podcast

Something to Say

Founded by Jeremy Indika in 2019, Something to Say is a safe place to share our truth and empower others. We are a community built to break the silence around child abuse, committed to changing the narrative and re-writing the story. Together, we can change the narrative.  To see more - https://jeremyindika.com/stories/ Official website - https://somethingtosayofficial.com/ To share your story - https://jeremyindika.com/contact/#form-something ⁠⁠Here's how you can support our mission:⁠ ⁠ ✅Follow our page for inspiring content and updates⁠ 👕 Wear our merch to help start conversations⁠ 💚Donate to fuel our efforts⁠ 🔐 Sign up for exclusive and early access content on Patreon⁠ 💬 Like, comment, and share our posts to spread the message of survivor support and community empowerment. ⁠   Instagram: www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 LinkedIn: uk.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 Twitter: @sts_official_1   TikTok: @somethingtosayofficial   Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com/collections/all Patreon: https://somethingtosayofficial.com/pages/patreon We want change and wont stop. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. 1d ago

    My Parents Trusted Them

    In this deeply personal conversation, Murielle shares her experience of childhood sexual abuse, which she says began when she was just four years old in France. She describes how people trusted by her family were able to gain access to her, and how, as a very young child, she struggled to understand or communicate what was happening. She also reflects on the signs that something was wrong, the attempts she made to communicate her distress, and the isolation she experienced when the adults around her didn't understand what she was trying to tell them. Murielle also talks about living for many years without conscious memories of much of what she says happened to her. Decades later, she began remembering her childhood experiences and started speaking with members of her family about what they remembered from that period. Her story raises an important question for parents and carers: how do we know that a child is really safe simply because we trust the adults around them? Murielle speaks about the importance of noticing changes in a child's behaviour or wellbeing, listening carefully when a child tries to communicate something they may not have the words to explain, and recognising how difficult it can be for very young children to make sense of what has happened to them. She also shares her belief that technology could play a greater role in identifying connections between historic accounts of abuse. She hopes that bringing information together could help identify patterns and ultimately contribute to protecting children today. To connect with Murielle: http://www.association-iwas.com/ https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLyDGPTTDyGJ4_walXKyCxMTt1sR2XG8qb&si=1Z6rt1dSneIsZzuN Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording. This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    My Parents Trusted Them
  2. Oct 22

    How Grooming Really Happens

    In this conversation, Dr Elizabeth Jeglic, Professor of Psychology at John Jay College of Criminal Justice in New York and a researcher specialising in sexual violence prevention, child sexual abuse and sexual grooming, shares what more than two decades of research has taught us about how grooming happens. Dr Jeglic explains the different stages of the grooming process, from identifying vulnerability and gaining access to a child, through building trust, gradually crossing boundaries and the behaviours that can continue after abuse to discourage a child from telling. Importantly, she explains why grooming can be so difficult to recognise. Many individual behaviours can look like completely normal, positive interactions between an adult and a child. The difference can become clearer when we understand patterns, boundaries and the behaviours research has identified as potential warning signs. Her research with survivors found grooming behaviours reported in more than 99% of the cases studied, with multiple behaviours typically occurring as part of the process. The conversation also explores why parents themselves can be groomed, why familiarity and trust can make concerning behaviour harder to recognise, and why we need to move beyond outdated ideas about who may harm a child. We also discuss how parents can talk to children about grooming without frightening them, the importance of using correct anatomical language, helping children identify more than one trusted adult, child-on-child sexual harm, online abuse, and what to say to a child who realises that something they experienced wasn't OK. Above all, Dr Jeglic's message is clear. Children are never responsible for being groomed or sexually abused. Grooming involves psychological manipulation, and understanding how that process works can give adults and children more knowledge to recognise concerning behaviour and seek help. Dr Jeglic would like education about sexual grooming and its warning signs to become part of standard education for children, parents, professionals and organisations, alongside clearer policies designed to protect children. To contact Dr. Jeglic: www.linkedin.com/in/elizabethjeglic Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording. This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    How Grooming Really Happens
  3. Oct 15

    I Was Groomed: This is What I Want Parents and Carers to Know

    In this second conversation with Tanya, she returns with an important message: it wasn't her fault. The responsibility belonged entirely to the person who groomed and abused her. Drawing on what she now understands, Tanya talks about how grooming can happen, what those who groom children may look for, and why children can never be responsible for the manipulation of an adult. She also shares what she wishes the adults around her had known, including some of the behaviours and changes parents and carers can be aware of, and the importance of creating a relationship where children feel able to talk when something doesn't feel right. This conversation isn't only about looking back. Tanya is sharing what she's learned in the hope that greater understanding can help parents recognise grooming earlier, have important conversations with their children and help protect them from abuse. Above all, her message is clear. A child is never to blame for being groomed or abused. The responsibility always lies with the person who chose to harm them. If you found this conversation valuable, please consider subscribing. Every subscriber helps us reach more people, increase understanding of child sexual abuse, and continue creating conversations that protect children and support survivors. 💚 To connect with Tanya; Instagram: @tmmoore17 Book: https://mybook.to/dayilearnedtopumpgas Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    I Was Groomed: This is What I Want Parents and Carers to Know
  4. Oct 8

    Is This Who You Are, or What You Learned to Survive?

    In this deeply personal reflection with Anu, a CSA survivor and trauma professional, she explore how behaviours such as people pleasing, overworking, overachieving, seeking approval and hyper-independence can develop in response to difficult experiences earlier in life. The conversation looks at how these patterns may once have helped us feel safer, accepted or in control, but can continue long after the circumstances that created them have changed. Through her own experiences, she reflects on learning to recognise these patterns, understanding what sits behind them and creating a pause between an automatic response and a conscious choice. This isn't about giving up ambition, independence, kindness or achievement. It's about asking where those behaviours come from, what they may be costing us today, and whether we're still choosing them. Perhaps the most important question is a simple one: what if this isn't simply who I am, but something I learned to do? To contact Anu: https://victim2victor.net https://silentscreamsdramafeaturefilm... https://www.instagram.com/victim2victor_anuverma/ https://www.instagram.com/silentscreams_dramafeaturefilm/ https://www.facebook.com/anuvermaV2V https://uk.linkedin.com/in/anuvermav2v https://linktr.ee/healing.journeyy Podcasts: https://apple.co/3wHvUof https://spoti.fi/36D6ZYE Thank you, Anu, for sharing your story and expertise with us 💚. Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Is This Who You Are, or What You Learned to Survive?
  5. Oct 1

    He Told Me He Was Preparing Me For Womanhood

    Aziza Kibibi is a chef, author, activist, entrepreneur, mother and founder of Precious Little Ladies, Inc. In this deeply personal interview, Aziza shares her experience of surviving prolonged childhood sexual abuse, gender-based violence and psychological abuse by her biological father. Abused from the age of eight and isolated from the outside world, Aziza describes how manipulation, secrecy and the normalisation of abuse affected her understanding of relationships, consent, identity and her own sense of self. She also reflects on the impact abuse had on her family and the challenges she faced after escaping at 24, including rebuilding her education, raising her children and navigating life outside the environment she had known. Aziza went on to graduate from college, write her book Unashamed, report her father to authorities, and establish Precious Little Ladies, Inc. She is also working to change legislation around incest in New Jersey through what she calls "Aziz Law". Throughout the conversation, Aziza speaks about the importance of listening to survivors, understanding how grooming and manipulation can affect a person's perception of what is happening, and using lived experience to improve awareness and prevention. Her message is ultimately about survival, identity, hope and the importance of creating a world where children are safer and survivors are heard and understood. Some stories are difficult to hear, but understanding how abuse happens is part of preventing it. 💚 To contact Aziza: LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/1azizakibibi Youtube and Instagram:  ⁨@AzizaKibibi⁩  TikTok: @iamazizakibibi Book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/stores/author/B014LN67DK (UK) and https://www.amazon.com/stores/Aziza-Kibibi/author/B014LN67DK (US and non-UK) Website: https://pllnonprofit.com Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording.  This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    He Told Me He Was Preparing Me For Womanhood
  6. Sep 24

    Why Children Don't Tell Anyone About Abuse

    Clinical psychologist Dr Emily combines professional expertise with her own lived experience of childhood trauma to explain why child abuse is so often hidden in plain sight. She explores why many children don't disclose abuse, how fear, shame, manipulation and loyalty can keep them silent, and why disclosure is often a gradual process rather than a single conversation. Drawing on psychology and personal experience, Dr Emily explains how abusive relationships can distort a child's understanding of love, safety and what is considered normal. She discusses the long-term impact of abuse, including shame, complex trauma, difficulties with trust, and why many survivors only recognise the abuse years later. She also examines why families, professionals and institutions sometimes miss the warning signs, and how secrecy can allow abuse to continue. Importantly, this conversation also offers hope. Dr Emily explains how healing is possible through safe relationships, effective therapy, and the brain's remarkable ability to adapt. She shares practical guidance on how adults, schools and communities can create environments where children feel safe enough to ask for help, and why listening with curiosity and compassion can change a child's life. If you're a parent, teacher, professional, survivor, or simply want to better understand the lasting impact of childhood abuse, this is an important conversation about recognising the signs, challenging common misconceptions, and helping protect children. To contact Dr Emily on Instagram: @dremilythepsychologist Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording.  This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Why Children Don't Tell Anyone About Abuse
  7. Sep 17

    Abused in Care, Silenced for Decades, Still Fighting for Justice

    Rafael Viola was just nine years old when he was placed into the care of the local authority. Over the years that followed, he lived in five children's homes, where he says he experienced physical, psychological, and sexual abuse. In this powerful interview, Rafael reflects on the lifelong impact of childhood abuse, from the loss of trust and interrupted education to mental health struggles, addiction, and suicide attempts. He also shares what has helped him continue, speaking openly, connecting with other survivors, and campaigning for accountability. The conversation also explores Rafael Viola’s ongoing fight for justice, including his involvement in major public inquiries that cost around £200 million, yet whose key recommendations remain unimplemented. This interview contains discussions of child sexual abuse, suicide, and trauma that some viewers may find distressing. If you found this conversation valuable, please consider subscribing. Every subscriber helps us reach more people, increase understanding of child sexual abuse, and continue creating conversations that protect children and support survivors. 💚 To contact Rafael: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/rafael-viola-228721158/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/violarafael X: https://x.com/rafael_voila TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stealinglives_ Book: https://stealinglivesbook.com Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial/membership To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording.  This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Abused in Care, Silenced for Decades, Still Fighting for Justice
  8. Sep 10

    Raised in the Shadow of Violence

    EXCLUSIVELY FOR WORLD SUICIDE PREVENTION DAY For years, conversations around childhood trauma have rightly focused on CSA awareness, but there’s another form of abuse that often goes unseen: children witnessing domestic violence inside their own homes. In this video, Luke shares the impact of growing up in an environment shaped by fear, violence, and silence. As a neurodivergent child, he witnessed his mother being beaten by his birth father behind closed doors while the outside world saw nothing unusual. To neighbours, friends, and even professionals, his father appeared calm, respectable, and unsuspecting. Luke also speaks about the deep sense of betrayal he felt from local services that failed to protect his family when help was needed most. The abuse may not have always been directed at him physically, but witnessing it left lasting psychological scars that followed him into adulthood. For decades, Luke buried what he had seen. The anxiety, emotional struggles, and mental health difficulties stayed with him throughout his life, but he never fully spoke about the trauma, until his mid-30s, when he finally began therapy. His therapist became the first person he had ever told the full truth to. This story is a reminder that children do not have to be physically assaulted to be deeply harmed by abuse. Witnessing domestic violence can shape a child’s nervous system, self-worth, relationships, and mental health for years to come. If this video resonates with you, or if you grew up around domestic abuse, know that your experiences matter and deserve to be acknowledged. To contact Luke: http://www.linkedin.com/in/luke-appleyard-140284293 Join our YouTube or Patreon Memberships for extra content and early access: Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/c/SomethingtoSay YouTube membership: https://www.youtube.com/@SomethingtoSayofficial To follow us on social media: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@somethingtosayofficial This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this recording.  This podcast provides a platform for contributors to share their own lived experiences. Unless expressly stated otherwise, Something to Say has not independently verified the factual accuracy of statements made by contributors and does not endorse or adopt any allegations, assertions, opinions or conclusions expressed in this podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    Raised in the Shadow of Violence

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Founded by Jeremy Indika in 2019, Something to Say is a safe place to share our truth and empower others. We are a community built to break the silence around child abuse, committed to changing the narrative and re-writing the story. Together, we can change the narrative.  To see more - https://jeremyindika.com/stories/ Official website - https://somethingtosayofficial.com/ To share your story - https://jeremyindika.com/contact/#form-something ⁠⁠Here's how you can support our mission:⁠ ⁠ ✅Follow our page for inspiring content and updates⁠ 👕 Wear our merch to help start conversations⁠ 💚Donate to fuel our efforts⁠ 🔐 Sign up for exclusive and early access content on Patreon⁠ 💬 Like, comment, and share our posts to spread the message of survivor support and community empowerment. ⁠   Instagram: www.instagram.com/somethingtosayofficial Facebook: www.facebook.com/somethingtosayofficial1 LinkedIn: uk.linkedin.com/company/something-to-say1 Twitter: @sts_official_1   TikTok: @somethingtosayofficial   Merchandise: https://somethingtosayofficial.com/collections/all Patreon: https://somethingtosayofficial.com/pages/patreon We want change and wont stop. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.