Because I'm Healing

Asha Wilkerson
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You did everything right. And still... something's off. Not quite broken, but not quite right either. Because I've Healed is for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. We have real conversations and give real solutions. Asha Wilkerson is a former attorney, healing guide, and retreat curator in Lisbon, Portugal. She's been where you are. She got out., and she came back to get you! New episodes drop regularly. Go deeper with Love Notes, a weekly email for women ready to trust themselves again.

  1. 6d ago

    Ep 67: Protecting Your Power: The Empath’s Guide to Boundaries

    In this final installment of the Reclaiming Your Personal Power series, I explore how highly empathic people can protect their energetic boundaries without sacrificing their compassion. Reflecting on my transition from legal practice and higher education to running Asha's Place Lisbon, I share real-life examples of how unhealed people-pleasing and old family dynamics can pull us into fixing other people's emotional chaos, and I provide a framework for separating what is yours to hold from what belongs to someone else.   Key Takeaways Empathy vs. Empathic Perception: Empathy allows you to understand and care for someone else's experience, while being an empath means physically absorbing their emotional state. Power lies in learning to separate your energy from theirs.The Pause as Energetic Protection: When confronted with conflict, dissatisfaction, or external reactivity, taking a step back to process gives you space to respond from a grounded place rather than react from defensiveness.Uncoupling Blame from Responsibility: Unresolved childhood dynamics, such as managing an unpredictable parent's emotions, often teach us to absorb misplaced blame. Maturing as an empath means recognizing that another person's dysregulation is not yours to fix.Protecting Business & Personal Energy: Responding to client feedback or misunderstandings from an anxious desire to "fix it right now" surrenders your personal power. Objective distance helps you hold your boundaries while staying clear and kind.  (00:00) - Reclaiming Your Personal Power (00:38) - Customer Service, People-Pleasing & Emotional Burnout (02:17) - Protecting Your Energy as an Introvert (03:30) - Empathy vs. Being an Empath (05:07) - Separating Your Emotions From Other People’s Emotions (07:05) - Childhood Patterns, Emotional Manipulation & Boundaries (11:16) - Handling Client Complaints Without Losing Your Power (14:48) - How Pausing Helps You Respond Instead of React (16:01) - Emotional Regulation, Self-Awareness & Healthy Boundaries (17:15) - Setting Boundaries With Parents and Family (20:10) - Responding to Criticism, Feedback & Difficult Customers (21:15) - A Practice for Healers, People-Pleasers & Adult Children (22:22) - Reclaim Your Energy and Personal Power   Resources Mentioned Asha's Place Lisbon: Studio offerings, workshops, and community circles. Explore the classes HEREThreads: Join the conversation with me @ashawilkersonesq.Love Notes: Subscribe to my weekly newsletter for updates on online courses, memberships, and studio events. Sign up HERE. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 67: Protecting Your Power: The Empath’s Guide to Boundaries

  2. Sep 22

    Ep 66: Somatic Wisdom: How Your Body Perceives What Your Eyes Can’t

    In this episode, I explore how connecting with your spirituality and intuition serves as a primary doorway to reclaiming your personal power. Grounding the esoteric in high school physics, I break down how we are energetic beings who constantly perceive invisible information, why society conditions us to ignore our innate body wisdom, and how honoring your physical data directly increases your personal power and self-trust.   Key Takeaways The Physics of Intuition: Everything is made of energy. Human beings are electrical beings designed to pick up on unseeable data, intuition is simply your body processing real information before your brain applies logic.Body Data as Power: Tapping into physical sensations (like a sudden drop in your stomach or an ache in your chest) gives you more information to make aligned choices about your career, business, and relationships.Redefining Spirituality: Spirituality isn’t about external dogma, complex rituals, or moral control. True spirituality is your internal connection with yourself as a valid, trusted energy source.Life Force Within: Practices like yoga and breathwork teach us that life force energy (prana or qi) is already inside us. Listening to your body is a direct connection to universal consciousness.Sovereignty in Action: Making choices based on your body’s intelligence, such as resting in bed while working instead of forcing yourself into a rigid chair, builds self-trust and true autonomy.  (00:00) — Spirituality, intuition, and personal power (00:29) — Why intuition makes sense scientifically (00:58) — Energy, physics, and human awareness (02:22) — Energy perception and energetic shifts (03:49) — Intuition as information (05:36) — The limits of logic vs body wisdom (07:32) — Spirituality as self-connection (09:29) — Spirituality vs control and oppression (10:30) — Breath, prana, qi, and life force energy (11:58) — Reclaiming power through embodied decisions (12:54) — A real-life example: moving to Portugal (14:50) — Rest, intuition, and productive flow (15:50) — Spiritual practice as empowerment   Resources Mentioned Asha's Place Lisbon: Studio offerings, bodywork, and community circles.Threads: Connect and share your reflections with me @ashawilkersonesq.Email List Community (Love Notes): Join my email list for updates on new online offerings, courses, and studio events.  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 66: Somatic Wisdom: How Your Body Perceives What Your Eyes Can’t

  3. Sep 15

    Ep 65: The Systems Keeping You Exhausted and How to Rebel

    Spurred by a discussion on Threads about creating a life that supports the nervous system rather than constantly forcing it to adapt, I unpack why exhaustion in a capitalist society isn't a personal failure. I explore the historical roots of modern capitalism and explain why you shouldn't expect your nervous system to go quiet in the face of a genuine threat, along with how small, daily micro-acts of rebellion allow you to reclaim your personal power.   Key Takeaways Systemic Design of Burnout: Capitalism is built to keep us busy and depleted so there is no time or energy left to analyze, question, or rebel against the system.Rebellion Over Adaptation: Instead of trying to force your nervous system to adapt to overwhelming environments, true power lies in rebelling, slowing down, setting firm boundaries, and choosing where your energy goes.Listen, Don't Silence: Your nervous system freaks out because it perceives a threat; the goal isn't to silence or force it into compliance, but to listen to its data and move away from the threat.Generational Shifts in Autonomy: Autonomy and the ability to push back look different across generations; honoring how much room you have to rebel allows you to take calculated risks for your peace.Micro-Acts of Power: Reclaiming your power starts with accessible micro-decisions, taking a breath before answering the phone, closing your inbox early, or taking a walk instead of forcing another meeting.    (00:00) – Intro: Black Women, Recovery, and Nervous System Support (01:22) – Reclaiming Personal Power in a Capitalist System (03:16) – Rest Is Resistance and the History of Capitalism (07:07) – Burnout, Recovery, and Living a Life of Ease (08:01) – Small Acts of Rebellion to Reclaim Energy (09:29) – Generational Differences, Career Pressure, and Rebellion (12:46) – Nervous System Regulation and Listening to Your Body (14:42) – How to Start Reclaiming Power Today (16:35) – Closing Thoughts and Listener Call to Action   Resources Mentioned Rest Is Resistance: A Manifesto by Tricia HerseyThreads: Join the conversation with me @ashawilkersonesqLove Notes: Subscribe to my weekly newsletter for updates on online courses, studio events, and community offerings Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 65: The Systems Keeping You Exhausted and How to Rebel

  4. Sep 8

    Ep 64: Reclaiming Personal Power: Are You Willing to Do the Work?

    I share a vulnerable look into my weekly "money dates" and paying instructors at my Lisbon studio. I open up about how financial conversations re-trigger old somatic memories from my teenage years, and why true personal power isn't about physical labor; it's about doing the internal, somatic work to grow through discomfort.   Key Takeaways The Internal Shift: True growth isn't about working harder or putting in physical labor; it's about your willingness to do the internal, emotional, and somatic work required to reach your next level.Trauma in Business: Unhealed childhood experiences, especially around money, control, and negotiation, will show up in your day-to-day business operations if left unaddressed.Self-Awareness vs. Action: Self-reflection is only the first step; moving from understanding into real action requires nervous system regulation and sitting through somatic discomfort.Power in the Choice: Deciding if you are willing to work through the stickiness of a goal reclaims your power. If you decide you aren't willing to do the work for a specific dream, letting it go is an equally empowered choice.  (00:00) — Self-Empowerment: The Work Behind Personal Growth (01:47) — Self-Sabotage, Healing & Building Self-Trust (03:39) — Money Trauma, Entrepreneurship & Nervous System Regulation (08:07) — Overcoming Financial Anxiety as a Business Owner (12:05) — Working Through Discomfort to Grow Your Business (13:13) — Personal Power: Making Empowered Decisions (16:05) — How to Stop Feeling Stuck and Reclaim Your Power (17:42) — Healing Community, Online Offerings & Staying Connected   Resources Mentioned Asha's Place Lisbon: Studio offerings, workshops, and weekly classes.Threads: Connect and share your reflections with me @ashawilkersonesq.Email List Community: Join my email list for updates on new online offerings, memberships, and courses. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 64: Reclaiming Personal Power: Are You Willing to Do the Work?

  5. Sep 1

    Ep 63: Reclaim Your Power with Your Ancestors

    What if reconnecting to yourself doesn't have to happen alone? As we wrap up our August series on reconnection, Asha talks about two powerful ways we can come home to ourselves: community and ancestry. Community can become a mirror, a place where parts of you that you've questioned or hidden are reflected back to you. When you're around people who share your values, interests, experiences, or ways of seeing the world, you may finally feel safe enough to put some of your armor down. And then there's ancestry. You don't have to know every name in your family tree. You don't need a perfect lineage. You don't even have to feel connected to your immediate family. Asha shares how connecting with the benevolent parts of her ancestry helped her realize something profound. This episode is an invitation to consider what happens when you stop trying to prove yourself and begin connecting with the people, places, and energies that remind you who you already are.  In this episode, Asha explores:Why community can act as a mirrorHow finding aligned community can help your nervous system settleThe role of co-regulation in feeling safe enough to restWhy you are allowed to create new communities as your life changesWhat to do when your family or immediate lineage doesn't feel safe or healthyWhy you don't need to know your ancestors' names to connect with ancestral energyHow to intentionally connect with the benevolent and supportive parts of your lineageAsha's experience connecting with her ancestral lineagesThe message she received: “We’ve been waiting for you.”How ancestral connection helped Asha release the pressure to prove herselfThe difference between carrying your lineage and being loyal to energy that makes you smallWhy you can let the BS goWays to begin reconnecting with community and ancestry in your own life  (00:00) - Reconnecting Through Community and Ancestry (03:17) - How to Build a Supportive Community (05:41) - Community, Safety, and Nervous System Regulation (08:25) - How to Connect With Your Ancestors Through Intention (12:20) - Ancestral Freedom, Healing, and Personal Power (13:26) - Living in Alignment and Releasing the Need to Prove Yourself (17:42) - Choosing a Healthy Ancestral Connection (19:01) - Practical Ways to Connect With Community and Ancestry   Resources & Ways to ConnectAsha mentions several resources and experiences during this episode: Meet Your Ancestral Guide Meditation - a guided practice to help you begin connecting with your ancestral energy.Meet Your Four Ancestral Lineages - a one-on-one guided meditation with Asha exploring the maternal and paternal lines on both sides.Ancestral Tarot Reading - an intuitive reading focused on the energies, gifts, messages, and wishes present within your ancestral lineage.  Connect with Asha: Threads: @ashawilkersonesqInstagram: @ashawilkersonesqWeekly Love Notes Newsletter: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/659871/112719372217222301/share Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 63: Reclaim Your Power with Your Ancestors

  6. Aug 25

    Ep 62: Reclaiming Your Power: How Reconnecting to Yourself is an Act of Rebellion ✨

    Welcome to the third week of our short series on reconnection. In our first week, we explored practical exercises to ground yourself, and last week, we talked about how reconnecting to your wants, needs, and desires is really an act of reclaiming your power. This week, I’m talking about how reconnecting to your body and your truth is an act of rebellion, particularly for those of us who come from the African diaspora, live in Black or brown bodies, or function as worker bees in a capitalist system. Historically, systems of capitalism and colonialism were designed to separate us from our bodies, turn us into labor, and make us operate as machines. When you pause, listen to your physical data, and choose what actually honors your spirit instead of sacrificing yourself to keep the peace, you break that cycle. Reclaiming your sovereignty doesn't require a grand, loud protest. It happens in the quiet, daily moments where you allow yourself to be fully human. (00:00) - Reconnecting to Yourself: Why It Matters (01:07) - How Capitalism, Racism, and Colonialism Disconnect Us From Our Bodies (02:10) - Reconnecting With Your Body as an Act of Rebellion (03:12) - How Rest Helps You Reclaim Autonomy and Personal Power (04:15) - You Don’t Have to Earn Rest: Small Ways to Listen to Your Body (05:36) - Reclaiming Your Desires, Needs, and Boundaries (06:18) - Honoring Your Ancestors Through Rest and Self-Connection (06:56) - Why Capitalism Doesn’t Create Equal Autonomy (07:35) - Do You Need to Quit Your Job to Reclaim Your Life? (08:11) - Small Acts of Rebellion for Black and Brown Bodies (09:32) - Everyday Boundaries: Saying No, Resting, and Choosing Yourself (10:05) - Being Fully Human Is an Act of Rebellion (10:39) - How to Practice Reconnection This Week Key Takeaways The Historical Disconnect: Systems of capitalism and colonialism were built to disconnect Black and brown people from their bodies and turn human beings into tools for output.Reconnection as Rebellion: Reclaiming your time, resting before you're completely exhausted, and listening to your body's needs counteracts systemic exploitation.The Power of Small Decisions: Rebellion isn't always grand; it shows up when you say no to things you don't want, ask for job accommodations, or simply refuse to eat the office pizza if you're lactose intolerant.Reclaiming Full Humanity: Reconnecting to yourself doesn't take anything away from anyone else; it simply returns you to your inherent sovereignty and power to be fully human. Resources & Links Previous Episodes Mentioned: Ep 60: Reconnect With Yourself: 3 Simple Ways to Come Back to What Feels GoodEpisode 61: Reconnecting as reclaiming your power Connect with Asha: Threads: Connect and share your reflections @ashawilkersonesqInstagram: Follow @ashawilkersonesqJoin the Weekly Love Notes: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/659871/112719372217222301/share Offers & Sanctuary: RESET: Live Group Experience: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/resetHELD: 1:1 Lisbon Retreat: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/solo-retreatAsha’s Place Lisbon: Studio offerings and bodywork: https://www.ashasplacelisbon.com/experiences Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 62: Reclaiming Your Power: How Reconnecting to Yourself is an Act of Rebellion ✨

  7. Aug 18

    Ep 61: Why Reconnecting to Yourself is Your Ultimate Superpower

    Welcome back to the second week of our conversations around reconnecting. In the wellness and healing spaces, we hear buzzwords like "reconnect," "go deep," or "tap in" tossed around all the time, without always understanding what they actually mean or how they fit into the bigger picture. Last week, we talked about reconnecting through play, nostalgic traditions/foods, and writing a letter from your future self to your present self. This week, I’m diving into why reconnecting to yourself matters so deeply. Reconnecting to yourself gives you the superpower you have been looking for in everything else. When you connect to your intuition, your body, your wants, your needs, and your desires, you start making decisions that align with how you actually want to feel today, tomorrow, and five years from now. (00:00) - Reconnecting and personal power (01:05) - Intuition, needs, and intentional decisions (02:24) - Burnout and giving away power (03:29) - Conscious choices and responsibility (06:25) - Survival mode and disconnection (08:37) - Desires as a decision-making filter (10:33) - Small choices and agency (11:41) - Personal needs and relationships (13:55 - Self-reflection and future desires Key Takeaways Beyond the Buzzwords: Words like "tap in" and "reconnect" often lose their meaning when we don't look at why they matter to our overall well-being. The True Superpower: Connecting to your intuition, body, wants, needs, and desires is the ultimate superpower you’ve been searching for outside yourself. Asking the Right Questions: Taking time to ask yourself What do I want in this moment? What feelings do I want to feel? (powerful, alive, hopeful, loved, adventurous, curious) creates immediate clarity. Future-Aligned Decision Making: When you know how you want to feel, you can start making decisions today that align with where you want to be in one, two, or five years. Resources Mentioned Podcast Platforms: Leave a comment/review on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or YouTube. Threads: Connect directly with Asha on Threads at @ashawilkersonesq. Newsletter: Subscribe to Love Notes, Asha's weekly newsletter sharing insights, stories, and opportunities to connect, grow, and heal (link at the bottom of the show notes). Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 61: Why Reconnecting to Yourself is Your Ultimate Superpower

  8. Aug 11

    Ep 60: Reconnect With Yourself: 3 Simple Ways to Come Back to What Feels Good

    This month, I’m thinking about reconnecting. I’m spending August back in the United States with my family, and being home has me reflecting on all the ways we can reconnect, not just with others but also with ourselves. It’s easy to get caught up in doing everything, meeting expectations, showing up where we’re supposed to be, and building the life we thought we wanted. Then we realize that some of it doesn’t feel good anymore. In this episode, I’m starting with something simple: remembering. I also discuss the link between play, the chakra system, human development, and intuition. I explain how trying out what feels good can help you rebuild trust in yourself. It doesn't have to be big or dramatic; it just has to help you reconnect. (00:00) - How to Reconnect With Yourself (02:29) - Why Childhood Joy Helps You Feel More Grounded (03:46) - How Play Supports Emotional Well-Being (06:24) - Reconnecting With Your Intuition Through Play (10:20) - Comfort Food, Culture, and Feeling at Home (12:00) - Creating Rituals That Help You Reconnect (14:09) - Write a Letter From Your Future Self (16:55) - Three Simple Practices to Reconnect With Yourself Key Takeaways Beware of the Overfunctioning Trap: It’s easy to perform and meet external expectations while privately feeling empty inside.Play as a Somatic Reset: Play brings you back into your body and breaks up the rigid routine of adult responsibilities.Grounding in Roots: Tapping into old traditions or foods creates a bridge back to simpler parts of yourself.Future Self Guidance: Writing a letter from your future self offers perspective, validation, and a gentle connection to the present. Resources Mentioned Weekly Newsletter (Love Notes): Join Asha's email list for weekly reflections, community updates, and upcoming offers.Social Media: Connect with Asha on Threads at @ashawilkersonesq to share your reflections on these exercises. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

    Ep 60: Reconnect With Yourself: 3 Simple Ways to Come Back to What Feels Good
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You did everything right. And still... something's off. Not quite broken, but not quite right either. Because I've Healed is for high-achieving Black women who are ready to stop performing and come home to themselves. We have real conversations and give real solutions. Asha Wilkerson is a former attorney, healing guide, and retreat curator in Lisbon, Portugal. She's been where you are. She got out., and she came back to get you! New episodes drop regularly. Go deeper with Love Notes, a weekly email for women ready to trust themselves again.

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  • Creator
    Asha Wilkerson
  • Years Active
    2023 - 2026
  • Episodes
    67
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Asha Wilkerson
  • Show Website
    Because I'm Healing

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