Muse Yourself

Gemma James
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Muse Yourself

A global platform for women ready to rewrite their stories and reclaim their power. Hosted by self-proclaimed Reinvention Queen, Gemma James, expect powerful voices and transformative conversations on reinventing yourself at any life stage, turning your hardest moments into meaning, and boldly stepping into the life you were born to create. If you’re ready to own who the f**k you are, become your OWN inspiration, and go after what you want - without apology - you’re in the right place! gemmaj.substack.com

  1. 29: ATTACHMENT STYLES. The key to understanding our relationship behaviour, healing toxic patterns, and creating better boundaries with licensed therapist Lauren Walsh

    12/16/2024

    29: ATTACHMENT STYLES. The key to understanding our relationship behaviour, healing toxic patterns, and creating better boundaries with licensed therapist Lauren Walsh

    What if you could show up in your relationships feeling completely secure? What if you could know that you’re enough, exactly as you are? Chances are you’ve come across the term ‘attachment style’ before - whether we’re aware of it or not, most of us default to one of 4 main attachment types: secure (the holy grail!) anxious, avoidant or anxious-avoidant (also known as fearful avoidant, or disorganized.) If you’ve ever found yourself caught in unhealthy relationship cycles, repeating the same patterns over and over and not understanding why, chances are your attachment style is to blame. The good news? We CAN change. In this episode, licensed therapist Lauren Walsh is back to explain attachment theory and break down how understanding the root cause of our behaviour is the key to finally being able to rewrite the patterns keeping us stuck. Because we ALL deserve healthy relationships - with others and most importantly, with ourselves. TOPICS WE COVER: -The main attachment styles and the different characteristics of each -How starting to truly understand our attachment style can help us begin to rewrite unhealthy relationship patterns  -Inner child healing and the role understanding our attachment style plays in helping heal childhood wounds -People pleasing - the role attachment style plays in people pleasing tendencies both in and out of romantic relationships -The common signs that someone is giving too much or losing themselves in a relationship because of an anxious attachment style  -How we can set - and maintain - proper boundaries when we have an anxious or avoidant attachment style, particularly when we get pushback from the people around us -Navigating a dating scene that’s more geared towards short-term connections if you’re someone who’s anxiously attached -How to spot the early signs of unhealthy attachment patterns in new relationships and start to course-correct -How we can take charge of our own healing and take steps to become more securely attached, so that we can attract healthy love, and become the best version of ourselves, FOR ourselves And SO much more! If you enjoyed this episode, catch up on part one HERE Until next time X RESOURCES: Find Lauren’s Instagram HERE Connect + work with her for coaching or therapy HERE Listen to the ‘Let’s Go Girls’ Podcast HERE Find the book ‘Attached’ HERE Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    55 min
  2. 28: TOXIC TRAITS: Why you’re not a problem that needs to be ‘fixed...’

    11/25/2024

    28: TOXIC TRAITS: Why you’re not a problem that needs to be ‘fixed...’

    PSA: Your toxic traits aren’t that toxic In this episode I’m getting into why it’s so important that we remember the difference between working on being the best version of ourselves, and trying to CHANGE all of the things that make us, US. If you’re overwhelmed and tired of the personal development and coaching industries making you feel like every single trait that makes up your entire personality is something that needs to be ‘healed’ from - then this is the episode for you! Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    15 min
  3. 27: BURNOUT AND NEGATIVE SELF-TALK. How to shift your thoughts when you feel like you’re never doing ‘enough.’

    11/11/2024

    27: BURNOUT AND NEGATIVE SELF-TALK. How to shift your thoughts when you feel like you’re never doing ‘enough.’

    I know you want to build a better life. I know you have big goals. I know you want to create your world. I see you… BUT, if like me, you’ve been guilty of demanding WAY too much from yourself, setting expectations that you’d never expect someone else to meet, then feeling like a failure when you inevitably burn out? Today's episode is the mindset shift - and the pep-talk - you need to hear. Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    11 min
  4. 26: FEELING BEHIND. How to measure how far you’ve ACTUALLY come and start giving yourself the credit you DESERVE.

    10/30/2024

    26: FEELING BEHIND. How to measure how far you’ve ACTUALLY come and start giving yourself the credit you DESERVE.

    How far have you come in the last 12 months…really? How much have you actually stopped to give yourself credit for? If you’re an over-thinker, an overachiever, always in a hurry to get to where you’re going and forgetting to give an occasional glance backwards to see how far you’ve come - this episode is for you… I’m also sharing the one trick that never fails when you’re caught in the spiral of feeling like you’re not making progress on your goals fast enough and need a reality check on how far you’ve ACTUALLY come! Until next time X Resources: It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    14 min
  5. 25: Fear of being single forever, dating after heartbreak, and attracting healthy love... with licensed therapist and couples counselor, Lauren Walsh.

    10/21/2024

    25: Fear of being single forever, dating after heartbreak, and attracting healthy love... with licensed therapist and couples counselor, Lauren Walsh.

    (There is SO much goodness packed into this episode it was literally impossible to think of a title that does it justice.) In what’s been one of my favourite episodes to record so far, I’m talking to licensed therapist, couples counselor and relationship coach, Lauren Walsh. Through Lauren’s extensive career in mental health and her own private practice, she helps women heal from past relationship trauma so that they can choose healthier love and become the highest version of themselves. We cover so much ground in this episode but ultimately it all comes back to how to build the best relationship with yourself first so that we can get to a place of making healthier choices… So whether you’re trying (successfully or unsuccessfully) to navigate the dating world, you’re in a relationship, you’re married, or you just want to build a stronger relationship with yourself - there will be something in this conversation for you! TOPICS WE COVER: -Fear of being single - how we can start to shift our mindset around being single so that we can avoid making fear-based decisions that won’t make us happy long term -Self-love: How to overcome the feeling of being ‘lost’ when we aren’t in a relationship and build a solid foundation in ourselves so that we never feel pressure to settle for a situation that isn’t right -Getting to know YOU, the first steps of building a relationship with yourself when you have no idea where to start! -Dating after heartbreak - how to balance self-protection with still allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and open to finding love again after heartbreak -When to stay and when to go - knowing when you’re ‘settling’ versus making healthy compromises in a relationship -Can we really find love on dating apps?! -Attracting HEALTHY love - habits to look for in a healthy relationship - and how to maintain one! And SO much more!  Enjoy! X Resources: Find Lauren’s Instagram HERE Connect + work with her for coaching or therapy HERE Listen to the ‘Let’s Go Girls’ Podcast HERE Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    49 min
  6. 24: OVERTHINKING. How to move forward when you're scared to take the risk...

    10/08/2024

    24: OVERTHINKING. How to move forward when you're scared to take the risk...

    What are you risking by NOT chasing the life you truly want? Is certain unhappiness, better than uncertainty? We’re conditioned to think that familiar is better, safer, that even if it’s not actually making us happy it’s still better than the unknown, better than uncertainty - but is it? In this episode I’m offering a mindset shift on why the biggest risk in life isn’t taking the bet on yourself and following your dreams… the risk is what happens if you don’t… Until next time X Resources It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    13 min
  7. 23: CHOOSING A DIFFERENT PATH. Starting over when 'success' doesn't bring fulfilment, with Lindsey Jane Gordon.

    10/01/2024

    23: CHOOSING A DIFFERENT PATH. Starting over when 'success' doesn't bring fulfilment, with Lindsey Jane Gordon.

    What does ‘fulfilment’ look like when we’re not chasing the traditional milestones? When we’re not interested in the timelines and the conventional ‘successes’ that we’ve been so conditioned to believe equal happiness?  In this episode, I’m talking to Lyndsey Jane Gordon, writer, and creator of ‘The Other Way’ blog and podcast series, who, despite having an incredibly successful life ‘on paper’ walked away from a high-flying finance career with a salary and a glamorous expat lifestyle in Singapore to match. This is Lindsey’s story of trusting the niggle when you KNOW you want more, giving YOURSELF permission to explore and create your own path…and starting over from your childhood bedroom to build a community of thousands who are choosing to live life ‘the other way.’ If you’ve ever wondered if it’s ok to make different choices, to take a different path - you’re not on your own and this is the episode for you. TOPICS WE COVER: -Why fear of judgment is still the number one thing that stops us from making changes and how we can start to work through our fears and beliefs to create a life that’s in alignment with what we truly value -How to tune into your own guidance and hear your own voice in the noise of other people's opinions -How to deal with the external pressure of the timelines and conventional milestones while creating a life that feels authentic to YOU -Navigating dating and dealing with stereotypes as a woman who is child-free by choice -What ‘fulfilment’ and having a full life look like when you’re not chasing the traditional milestones -Practical steps on how we can start to create change and move in the direction of the life we want to live, even when it feels like we don’t have options And so much more… Until next time X Resources: OUR GUEST: Lyndsey Jane Gordon is a writer and creator of 'The Other Way, with Lindsey,' where she shares real-time reflections on her own unique journey, to help inspire others to embrace their curiosities and follow their own fulfilment. You can find Lindsey's website and podcast HERE Connect with Lindsey on Instagram HERE Connect with Lindsey on TikTok HERE Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 3m
  8. 22: Understanding narcissism and breaking toxic relationship patterns with Relationship Mentor, Maria Rei

    09/24/2024

    22: Understanding narcissism and breaking toxic relationship patterns with Relationship Mentor, Maria Rei

    There is nothing I find more inspiring than a powerful story of turning pain into purpose (it’s the reason this podcast exists after all!!) In part 2 of my conversation with Relationship Mentor Maria Rei, Maria shares her story of surviving narcissistic abuse within relationships and how her own experiences have shaped her path as a coach, helping women break free from toxic relationship patterns. This is an incredibly insightful, raw conversation raising awareness on such an important topic and Maria shares her story so beautifully, I really hope you take away as much from this episode as I did… Topics we’re covering: * Understanding narcissism and how it differs from other toxic behaviours * Behaviour patterns of narcissistic abuse in relationships  * The biggest challenges in leaving a narcissistic relationship and how to begin the process * Setting boundaries with a narcissist * Advice for anyone beginning to heal from a narcissistic relationship * Helping someone you think may be in an abusive relationship And so much more… Until next time X Listen to part 1 of this conversation HERE Resources: Our guest: Maria Rei is a Master Energy Healer, Self Love Leader, and Relationship Mentor. She is also the creator and host of The Femme Cast podcast.  Maria empowers you to break free from toxic relationship patterns, choose yourself, and become a magnet for emotionally available relationships through the art of radical self-love and emotional energetics. Find Maria’s Instagram HERE Connect + work with her HERE Listen to The Femme Cast Podcast HERE Have you subscribed yet? It would mean the absolute world to me if you would SUBSCRIBE, SHARE OR REVIEW Muse Yourself wherever you get your podcasts! Apple Podcasts | Spotify JOIN MY COMMUNITY: Subscribe HERE⁠⁠ if you’d like new podcast episodes and blogs delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe for free or, for less than the price of one latte a month, support my work by becoming a paid subscriber WORK WITH ME: If you’d like to explore how we can work together, you can contact me ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠ Get full access to Muse Yourself. at gemmaj.substack.com/subscribe

    1h 13m
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A global platform for women ready to rewrite their stories and reclaim their power. Hosted by self-proclaimed Reinvention Queen, Gemma James, expect powerful voices and transformative conversations on reinventing yourself at any life stage, turning your hardest moments into meaning, and boldly stepping into the life you were born to create. If you’re ready to own who the f**k you are, become your OWN inspiration, and go after what you want - without apology - you’re in the right place! gemmaj.substack.com

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    Gemma James
  • Years Active
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  • Episodes
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