My guest today is Eli Weinstein author of "From I Do to We Do: Navigating Marriage in the Parenting Years" Link: https://link.amazon/B07hEPsMF Marriage can feel like it breaks “out of nowhere” after kids, but it usually breaks in a thousand small, exhausting moments: handoffs at bedtime, conversations that turn into schedules, and fights about chores that are really fights about being seen. I’m joined by Ellie Weinstein, licensed clinical social worker, couples therapist, and host of the Dude Therapist Podcast, to talk about what actually drives resentment in the parenting years and how couples can repair without pretending life isn’t loud. We get practical about the invisible load and mental load and why partners often have totally different vantage points on what it takes to run a family. Ellie shares tools he uses with couples and in his own marriage, including journaling to find the “headline” under the argument, building a daily habit of gratitude, and learning how to ask for help without guilt or shame. We also challenge some common shortcuts, including the way people cling to love languages instead of rebuilding friendship, kindness, and trust. Then we dig into Ellie’s “Holy Trinity” framework: expectations shape perceptions, and perceptions shape reality. When expectations stay unspoken, disappointment becomes automatic and your brain starts scanning for proof that your partner does not care. We talk over-communication, benefit of the doubt, and why sympathy is often the bridge you can actually reach when empathy feels impossible at the end of a long day. If you want a stronger partnership while raising kids, listen now, share it with a parent who needs it, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next. If this helped, leave a review and tell me what topic you want us to tackle next. Send us Fan Mail Support the show If parenting has felt hard lately… you don’t have to figure it out alone. Inside The Parent Lab, I’ll help you understand what’s actually going on underneath your child’s behavior — and give you simple, in-the-moment tools that actually work in real life. You’ll get access to my full course library, live coaching calls with me, practical workshops, and our 21-Day Sibling Challenge designed to help reduce the fighting and build better relationships between your kids. If you want support, tools, and a clear plan instead of just guessing your way through parenting… come join us inside The Parent Lab. CLICK HERE to Try the Parent Lab Today Other Links to help you and me: Get Jon’s Book Punishment-Free Parenting Preorder Jon’s Children’s Book Set My Feelings FreeFollow Whole Parent on Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook,...
