mind you

Charlotte Cummings
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  • Mental Health
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Helping people build lives that feel good

  1. 2d ago

    Dress Like You Trust Yourself - with Deb Caldwell

    What would change if you stopped dressing for other people? Deb Caldwell has built STORM on trusting her gut for 20 years, and I think her approach works just as well for your life as it does for your wardrobe. Deb is the founder and creative director of STORM, and she knows what it means to stay in your lane and trust that your people will find you. We talk about why trying to please everyone means losing what makes you different, why she doesn't believe balance exists, and what she hears women say in fitting rooms every single day. Spoiler: nobody is looking at your arms. We also get practical with your wardrobe. Deb shares her five minute declutter trick (it cleared out 22 blouses), why you should ignore the size on the label, and her number one rule: don't save anything for best. You'll see me wearing STORM on the Mind You podcast, and I love the confidence I get from these sharp, edgy, fun clothes. I hope you enjoy this conversation with Deb. Find STORM at stormonline.comExplore the Mind You app at charlottecummings.nz

    Dress Like You Trust Yourself - with Deb Caldwell

  2. Sep 27

    Showing Up Before You Feel Ready - Toni Street

    Broadcaster Toni Street on public speaking nerves, confident communication, burnout and starting counselling for the first time in her life. Toni is one of New Zealand's most loved broadcasters. She's been on our screens and radios for 20 years and has hosted New Zealander of the Year for 12. And for a long time, she still broke into a cold sweat every time she had to speak. We talk about how to speak with confidence when every part of you wants to say no. Why people are judging you anyway, so you may as well put your hand up. Why waiting to feel 100% ready keeps capable people stuck while others get the opportunities. How to manufacture your own energy on camera. And why you don't need to be funny, or feel your best, to be worth listening to. Toni also opens up about her mental health. Hosting through an autoimmune condition and high doses of steroids. Losing three siblings. And this year, noticing her joy had gone flat, and seeing a counsellor who told her she was close to burnout. Everything on her plate was good. It was just too much. We get into micro moments of rest, calming an overloaded nervous system, and simple tricks for public speaking anxiety, including why wriggling your toes tells your body you're not being chased by a tiger. If you're a high-functioning woman who keeps saying no because you don't feel ready yet, this one's for you. Find Toni and her Confident Communication course at tonistreet.com or on Instagram @tonimstreet. Want to take this further? My new Mind You app has tools, courses and resources to help you put these ideas into practice. Find it at charlottecummings.nz.

    Showing Up Before You Feel Ready - Toni Street

  3. Sep 20

    Your Worth Isn't Up For Debate

    Where do you get your sense of worth from? Most of us default to two answers: what we achieve, or what other people think of us. Neither holds up long term. In this episode I talk about non-contingent self-worth, the kind that doesn't move when your circumstances do. I see this come up constantly with clients, in burnout, in people-pleasing, even in addiction and infidelity. It always traces back to the same question: where does my value actually come from? Part of the answer is simple. You have value just for being human. Full stop. It has nothing to do with your achievements or what other people think of you, whatever your circumstances, whatever mistakes you've made, whatever season of life you're in. I get practical too. How to notice fawning. Why perfectionism is a shield, not a strength. How to let people see you unfinished. How to rest without earning it first. Nothing you do can make you more valuable. Nothing you do can make you less. That's the whole point. If this episode helped, I'd love you to follow the podcast, leave a review, or share it with someone who needs to hear it. Come find me at charlottecummings.nz for the Mind You app, courses and resources.

    Your Worth Isn't Up For Debate

  4. Sep 13

    When Your Relationship Has ADHD

    I don't think ADHD belongs to one person in a relationship. I think the relationship has ADHD. This week I'm unpacking what happens when ADHD (diagnosed early, diagnosed late, or still unnamed) shows up in a partnership, and why it affects both people, not just the one who has it. I talk about the emotional weight that comes with a late diagnosis, why rejection sensitive dysphoria is so common, and how understanding your unbearable feeling changes everything. I also share the practical stuff. Why I statements can backfire, how body doubling works, using AI to depersonalise decisions, fighting time blindness with routine, and giving yourself permission to outsource without shame. If ADHD is part of your relationship, I hope this gives you language, a bit of relief, and somewhere to start. Want more? Come find the Mind You app at charlottecummings.nz And here are the episodes I mentioned: Unbearable Feelings and Relationships https://open.spotify.com/episode/2H5kknVJxfiAwa1WjDXDPo?si=41eb4ed029d74536 and Unbearable Feelings https://open.spotify.com/episode/2vh7ZngihnqTVgO9UiawsD?si=5HvaQz6DRwSKvHuWQJV9Yg

    When Your Relationship Has ADHD

  5. Sep 6

    The Truth About Decluttering

    I suddenly kept seeing my friends posting photos of their drawers and pantries, tagging The Home Edit and Mel Robbins. So I sat down and listened to the episode that started this decluttering frenzy. I came away furious, and worried for every overloaded woman hearing it - especially, the neurodivergent ones. My guest is Carrie from Curate Home NZ, a professional declutterer and home organiser who specialises in working with neurodivergent households. We both like Mel Robbins. We both like The Home Edit. What we don't like is telling an already overloaded woman that decluttering is simple, and she should just be able to get on and do it. We talk about: - Why the "it's simple, just do it" message misses what actually makes decluttering hard, whether or not you're neurodivergent - What decluttering looks like for a neurodivergent brain specifically, and why executive function makes it a much bigger task than it looks - The broken window effect, and why putting one thing away can feel completely pointless in an overwhelmed house - The shame spiral behind curated home content - Why the gendered mental load means "messy" gets judged completely differently depending on whose name is on the room - Practical, unglamorous advice for getting started without buying a single storage box. If this episode helps you, I would love you to follow Mind You, leave a review, or share it with someone who needs to hear it. Head to charlottecummings.nz for my other tools and resources, and to sign up for my new app, Mind You, the home for all my resources, post-podcast chat, and everything you need to actually care well for yourself. You can also find the lovely Carrie at curatehome.co.nz

    The Truth About Decluttering

  6. Aug 30

    Beyond Another Trauma: Naomi's Story

    What if the hardest thing that's ever happened to you didn't have to be another trauma? In this episode I'm joined by one of my own clients, Naomi, who shares her deeply personal story of discovering she carries the BRCA1 gene mutation - testing she undertook in her 40s, in light of her Mum sadly passing away with cancer at age 47. We talk about her decision to undergo preventative surgery, learning to disappoint people without guilt, navigating years of secondary infertility, and finding an unexpected sense of empowerment through one of the hardest seasons of her life. Naomi opens up about faith, family, building a support team, and the small shifts in perspective that changed how she moved through fear, including the moment that reframed everything for her: what if this isn't just another traumatic experience, but a life changing and positive one? If you've ever faced a health crisis, a hard diagnosis, or a season that felt like it was taking more than it was giving, this conversation will stay with you. For tools, courses and resources, and to check out my brand new app to support your wellbeing - head to charlottecummings.nz.

    Beyond Another Trauma: Naomi's Story

  7. Aug 23

    The Therapy Concept I've Never Shared

    There's a concept I use with many of my clients, and I've never actually spoken about it on this podcast until now. It's called preferred futures, a concept from narrative therapy. It's about getting clear on two things: where your life is actually headed if nothing changes, and where it could go if you make the changes you've been thinking about. In this episode I walk through exactly how I use this with clients, including: getting honest about where you're headed if nothing changes how this clarity can help you how to build a clear picture of the future you actually wantthe stories you're telling yourself that might be holding you back from itwhat you need to truly believe, not just repeat, for that future to feel possibleThis one applies wherever you're at right now: relationships, work, health, or just the general shape of your life. If today's conversation gave you something to think about my brand new Mind You app takes these ideas further with tools, courses and support you can come back to whenever you need. You can find out more at charlottecummings.nz If you found this helpful, please do follow the podcast, leave a review, or send it to someone who needs to hear it.

    The Therapy Concept I've Never Shared

  8. Aug 16

    Communicate Confidently At Work

    Do you ever know exactly what you want to say at work - but find yourself second-guessing it, softening it, or waiting for the “right” moment to speak? Communicating confidently at work isn't just about having a strong voice or being the loudest person in the room. It's about knowing your value, understanding what gets in the way of speaking up, and learning to contribute without constantly questioning yourself. In this episode of Mind You, I explore the patterns that can make workplace communication harder than it needs to be - particularly for women. She looks at the social expectations that shape how women are perceived, the “unbearable feelings” that can sit underneath our reluctance to speak up, and the subtle ways we can minimise our own ideas before we've even given them a chance. You'll learn how to: recognise the patterns that hold you back in meetings and conversationsstop using language that unintentionally minimises what you have to sayreframe communication as making a contribution, rather than winning an argumentget clearer about what you want from your careerthink about how you want to be perceived - and how you want people to feel around youback yourself and communicate from the value you bringBecause confident communication isn't about becoming someone louder or more forceful. It's about being willing to take up your space and trust that what you have to say matters.

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Helping people build lives that feel good

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  • Creator
    Charlotte Cummings
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    144
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © Charlotte Cummings
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