3AM Reset : Intimacy After Porn

Elisha Kolade | Christ - Centered Recovery Coach, Intimacy Expert
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The 3AM Reset Podcast is your guide to permanently overcoming porn addiction. Hosted by Elisha Kolade, who fought this battle for over 13 years, this show fuses Christian wisdom, neuroscience, and coaching to reveal how your brain gets hijacked and how to reclaim control. Each episode delivers practical steps to break free from compulsive behaviors and rewire your mind for success in work, relationships, and life. With over 200 episodes, discover actionable strategies to become your best self. Join the journey to lasting recovery.

  1. 05/18/2025

    222 - The ONE MISTAKE That RUINS Porn Recovery (Dating Too Soon)

    Should I be dating during recovery?" Drawing from his personal recovery journey, Elisha reveals the intense challenges he faced – including persistent wet dreams featuring porn stars and severe cognitive impairment. He explains why recovery is an inherently "selfish" time focused on rediscovering identity and healing childhood trauma. Elisha ultimately advises against dating during active recovery, emphasizing that the goal should be becoming a complete, healed person before entering a relationship

    10 min

  2. 05/10/2025

    221 - When Your Child Says 'I'm Attracted To Same Sex' A Christian Mom's Guide

    In this Spirit-led conversation, Melinda Patrick shares her journey as a Christian parent whose daughter walked away from biblical teaching by embracing an LGBT identity. She offers scripture-based wisdom gained through her own painful mistakes and God's faithful guidance. Melinda delivers a biblical critique of popular pastor Andy Stanley's compromising stance, while emphasizing how parents can maintain their biblical convictions without losing relationship with their children. Throughout the discussion, she balances God's unchanging truth with Christ-like compassion, reminding Christian parents that God is sovereign even in their most difficult parenting seasons, and providing practical, Scripture-rooted guidance for responding in a way that honors both God and their children.Connect With Melinda: Website : https://melindapatrick.org/the-bridge-between-us/ Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/melindahpatrick/ Youtube : https://www.youtube.com/@melindapatrick9775 Comments on Andy Stanley : An LGBTQ Mom Responds to Andy Stanley (w/ Melinda Patrick) - Ep. 77 The Daring Rescue :  https://melindapatrick.org/the-daring-rescue/

    59 min

  3. 05/03/2025

    220 - How To Know When To LEAVE Your Church: A Pastor's Honest Advice

    In this raw and unfiltered conversation, Pastor Tunde Cole of The Transformers Church shares his journey from experiencing spiritual abuse in church leadership to founding his own ministry focused on truth and freedom. He discusses how to recognize toxic church environments, navigate spiritual abuse, and practical steps for leaving unhealthy church situations. Pastor Cole also opens up about personal struggles with pornography, revealing how unresolved pain and unforgiveness created a pathway for addiction. Throughout the interview, he emphasizes the importance of prioritizing authentic relationship with Jesus over religious performance, and offers candid insights about the challenges of pastoral ministry and maintaining healthy boundaries with church members. 00:00: Introduction to Pastor Tunde Cole00:59: Who is Tunde Cole: "A guy who loves truth and freedom"01:56: The vision behind Transformers Church05:21: Advice for Christians suffering abuse from church leadership06:11: Understanding your spiritual freedom: "No one owns your life"10:32: Practical steps for leaving an abusive church12:42: Pastor Tunde's personal experience with church abuse15:04: Avoiding church leadership "ambush" situations17:35: Why you shouldn't enter an ambush: "It may take only God's grace to recover"19:27: The importance of forgiveness in spiritual healing20:02: The danger of remaining in toxic environments24:26: Finding true identity in Christ26:30: Using interactive teaching to transform lives28:31: The problem with Christians wanting pastors to do everything31:04: Leading with vulnerability: "Netflix was programming my mind"34:11: Being honest about struggles as a pastor39:10: Pastor Tunde's journey with pornography41:10: The connection between pain and addiction: "Pain and hurt could be a breeding ground"42:55: Fighting spiritual battles: "The force left me and my head was pounding"46:16: The Holy Spirit's role in identifying root issues47:24: Allowing the Holy Spirit to guide you to freedom48:41: Closing thoughts on finding freedom in Christ

    50 min

  4. 04/26/2025

    219 - I Was Raped By A Demon: My Journey From Sex Addiction to Freedom

    In this powerful interview, fashion designer and ministry leader Bobbi Kumari shares her extraordinary journey from sexual brokenness to freedom. She discusses her background in Hinduism, childhood sexual abuse, and her descent into addiction and promiscuity before a supernatural encounter with a demonic entity changed everything. 00:00: Introduction to Bobbi Kumari00:56: Why the Passion for Sacred Sexuality?03:43: Bobbi's Background: Hindu Home, Molestation & Finding Jesus07:12: The Backsliding Years: Hedonism, Drug Use & Rock Bottom09:36: The Demonic Attack: "This Spirit Hates You"11:22: Understanding Sex Demons & Spiritual Soul Ties14:06: Instant Deliverance vs. Mind Renewal: The Process of Freedom17:09: Soul Ties Explained: The Covenant Nature of Sex21:07: Breaking Soul Ties: The Practical Steps23:34: Addressing the Root Causes of Sexual Sin26:34: Sex as a Blood Covenant: Why It's Sacred31:31: True Repentance: The First Step to Freedom34:17: Breaking 300+ Soul Ties: The Process40:32: Healing from Sexual Abuse & Trauma46:55: What Men Are Really Looking For: Beyond Physical Needs49:45: Dealing With Ongoing Sexual Desires55:52: The Intimacy Question: "Father, How Are You Today?"57:14: About Bobbi's Conferences: Sexpose & More59:32: Celebrating Your Sex Drive: A Final Encouragement

    1h 6m
  5. 218: WHY Journaling Is Your Secret Weapon Against Porn Addiction

    04/19/2025

    218: WHY Journaling Is Your Secret Weapon Against Porn Addiction

    Struggling with pornography addiction often feels like fighting an invisible enemy. But what if one of your most powerful weapons is simply a pen and paper? In this eye-opening episode , I reveal WHY journaling is not just helpful but essential for breaking free from porn addiction. Discover how this simple daily practice targets the root causes of addictive behavior by: Bringing hidden triggers and emotional patterns into the lightCreating a personal accountability system that actually worksTransforming negative thought cycles that lead to relapseBuilding self-awareness that medication and willpower alone cannot provide

    10 min
  6. 217 - How To Forgive Yourself

    04/12/2025

    217 - How To Forgive Yourself

    o you know that many Christians silently battle with shame and guilt after watching porn? In this powerful episode, I share my personal journey of self-forgiveness and why it's crucial for your spiritual healing and relationship with God. Learn biblical principles and practical techniques to release self-blame, embrace God's forgiveness, and move forward without the weight of past mistakes. Discover how forgiving yourself isn't just permitted but actually essential for Christians struggling with porn addiction. Join me to start your path towards self-acceptance through Christ's redemptive love and find freedom from the cycle of shame and addiction

    13 min
  7. 216 - How To Kill Lust And Stay Focused

    04/05/2025

    216 - How To Kill Lust And Stay Focused

    In todays' episode I speak on why and how I struggled with lust and ways to beat it. So to all my brothers who are in that season or struggle like I was, Grab your pen and paper. Because this one has too many gems.

    11 min

  8. 03/29/2025

    215 - 3 Reason Why Christians Struggle With Porn

    Are you struggling to break free from porn addiction as a Christian? You're not alone. Many believers face this battle daily, feeling trapped between their faith and persistent temptations. In this powerful episode, host Elisha Kolade shares his personal journey and the three essential parameters that can lead to lasting freedom. Drawing from his own experiences and biblical principles, Elisha reveals how understanding your identity in Christ, transforming your mind, and presenting your body as a living sacrifice creates the foundation for victory. Whether you're a new Christian or have been walking with God for years while secretly battling this addiction, this episode offers practical, spiritually-grounded guidance without judgment or condemnation. Discover how to navigate today's sexually charged society while maintaining your faith and finding true freedom. Join Elisha for this transformative conversation that addresses one of the most common yet least discussed struggles in the Christian community

    16 min
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The 3AM Reset Podcast is your guide to permanently overcoming porn addiction. Hosted by Elisha Kolade, who fought this battle for over 13 years, this show fuses Christian wisdom, neuroscience, and coaching to reveal how your brain gets hijacked and how to reclaim control. Each episode delivers practical steps to break free from compulsive behaviors and rewire your mind for success in work, relationships, and life. With over 200 episodes, discover actionable strategies to become your best self. Join the journey to lasting recovery.

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  • Creator
    Elisha Kolade | Christ - Centered Recovery Coach, Intimacy Expert
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    222
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Elisha Kolade | Christ - Centered Recovery Coach, Intimacy Expert
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