Tap in with Tiffany

Dr Tiffanys
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We are three Ph.D. level mental health practitioners who all happen to be named Tiffany, doing a podcast discussing wellness related topics. From the importance of therapy, relationships, parenting, families, women concerns, self-care etc.

  1. Sep 25

    Growing Through It

    What happens when you’re grieving, hurting, or going through a major transition—but the world keeps moving anyway? In this episode, we look at relationships (friendship & romantic) and what it really means to be “soft.” We talk about boundaries, compromise, endurance, forgiveness, and the ways women can slowly move the line in the sand until they barely recognize themselves anymore. We unpack the difference between tolerating the toothpaste in the sink and tolerating disrespect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, cheating, or financial dysfunction—and why knowing your own limits matters. We also get real about the messages many of us inherited from our mothers and grandmothers: stand by your man, endure, forgive, keep the family together, and make it work. We talk about how independence, faith, gender roles, and the changing expectations of relationships have left many of us trying to figure out what the middle ground actually looks like. And then there’s dating after divorce. In the Tap In or Tap Out? segment, we answer a listener who is struggling to tell the difference between not being ready to date and being afraid to be vulnerable after a painful marriage. We talk about healing, getting reacquainted with yourself, dating yourself, figuring out your non-negotiables, and refusing to rush into a new relationship just to replace what you lost. 💎The gem: Compromise should never require you to abandon yourself. Know your limits, trust your gut, and don’t be afraid to choose yourself when something no longer feels right. Tap in. Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Growing Through It

  2. Aug 28

    Red Flags: In Therapy, Relationships, & Life

    The real conversation: What happens when your therapist isn't working for you anymore? We share our own experiences with therapy and talk about why sometimes you have to say, “Yeah… this ain't it.” It doesn't necessarily mean the therapist is bad. Sometimes the fit just isn't right, your needs have changed, or you need a completely different approach. We break down what makes a good therapist-client fit, from communication style and therapeutic approach to boundaries, professionalism, and whether you actually feel heard. Because therapy is your time — not an opportunity for your therapist to tell you their whole life story. 🚩 Therapy Red Flags Therapists who constantly reschedule or show up late Therapists who make the session about themselves Poor boundaries or unprofessional behavior Being pushed into an approach that doesn't work for you Not feeling like you're getting the attention or support you need Understanding that sometimes the therapist isn't necessarily “bad” — they're just not your therapist And most importantly, we talk about giving yourself permission to leave when the relationship isn't serving you. 💬 TAP IN OR TAP OUT!? For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, we tackle a listener dilemma about anxious attachment, texting, and trusting your gut. Our listener knows that when their partner takes a few hours to respond, their mind starts doing what anxious attachment does best: creating a whole movie with absolutely no evidence. They find themselves wanting to pull away, overcorrect, or send a text they may regret later. So the question is: How do you know when it's your attachment system being triggered versus when your gut is actually telling you something is off? We get into the messy middle — because knowing your attachment style is helpful, but it doesn't mean you should automatically dismiss every feeling you have as “Oh, that's just my anxiety.” Sometimes your nervous system is activated. And sometimes… something really is off. We talk about learning to pause, check the facts, recognize your patterns, and still honor what you need in a relationship 💎Key Takeaway💎 You’re allowed to acknowledge that something isn’t working for you—and make a change. Whether it’s your therapist, your treatment approach, or even a relationship, recognizing that something isn’t a good fit isn’t failure. The goal is to pay attention to what you need, communicate it when possible, and give yourself permission to choose differently when necessary. Tap in Ya'll! Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

  3. Jul 17

    Good Morning Summer

    It's officially summertime! So we're catchin' up on life and laughing about the reality of trying to control everything. From flat tires and roadside mishaps to the doo doo in the dating pool, we talk about learning when to let go, pivot, and allow other people to help instead of trying to handle every situation ourselves (even though we know we can do it betttter) With summer officially here, the conversation turns to what we call "outsiding" season—and, of course, dating. We debate whether the dating pool has improved (spoiler: we’re still not convinced), share the kinds of people we’re typically attracted to, and discuss whether sticking too closely to a certain "type" can keep us from meeting someone who might actually be a great match. We also dive into interracial and intercultural dating, exploring the difference between personal preference and exclusion. We discuss why cultural understanding can matter deeply in relationships, particularly when it comes to shared experiences as Black Americans, while recognizing that everyone has different values and priorities when choosing a partner. We also reflect on how dating changes as we get older, especially as people become more established in their routines, expectations, and lifestyles. For this week’s Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, our listener shares that social media has left her feeling like she’s wasting her summer while everyone else seems to be traveling, partying, and constantly having fun. She also wants affordable ways to make summer special for herself and her niece and nephew. We talk about the importance of limiting comparison, spending less time scrolling, and getting curious about what actually brings you joy instead of chasing someone else’s version of a good time. We also share practical ways to enjoy the season on a budget, including checking local community calendars, attending free events, trying new hobbies, exploring nearby parks and attractions, and remembering that meaningful memories don't have to come with a big price tag. Sometimes the best summer moments are the simplest ones. 💎 Bottom line—summer doesn't have to look like anyone else's highlight reel to be meaningful. Whether you're navigating dating, redefining your preferences, or simply looking for ways to enjoy the season, focus on experiences that genuinely bring you joy instead of chasing what social media says your life should look like. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Show Intro And Disclaimer 01:12 Life Updates And Letting Go Of Control 06:18 Flat Tires And Missing Spare Tires 10:35 Summer Outsiding Season 14:47 Is The Dating Pool Still Trash? 19:58 Having A Type In Dating 25:46 Dating Preferences And Compatibility 31:22 Interracial And Intercultural Dating 39:10 Dating Gets Harder With Age 45:18 Tap In or Tap Out!? Summer FOMO 49:27 Social Media And Comparison 54:33 Finding Joy Offline 58:41 Affordable Summer Activities 01:03:18 Simple Fun With Kids 01:06:54 Final Thoughts And Wrap Up Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Good Morning Summer

  4. Jun 19

    Talk To Me Nice

    This episode starts with a Mother’s Day catch-up and a story that sounds straight out of a reality show. Dr. Darby recounts a tense prom lineup encounter that nearly turned into a fight after an unexpected confrontation with a woman in furry boots. Because apparently prom season isn’t stressful enough. We also reflect on Mother’s Day experiences, including the emotional reality of working in crisis counseling and responding to the aftermath of a  mall shooting. We then shift into a deep discussion about fatherhood and what defines a truly good dad. For us, it goes far beyond financial support. We talk about the importance of being present, engaged, loving, protective, and knowing how to provide guidance and discipline without creating fear or distance. From there, we explore how our relationships with our fathers shape the way we date, what we look for in partners, and the emotional needs we carry into adulthood. We discuss the desire for affection, safety, and emotional security—and why being spoken to with kindness and respect matters more than someone trying to lead through authority or control. Sometimes it really comes down to one simple request: talk to me nice. For this week’s Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, a listener asks how to verify a therapist’s qualifications following recent conversations surrounding certain public figures in the mental health space. We break down practical steps for protecting yourself when seeking care, including checking state licensing boards, understanding different license types, verifying educational credentials and doctoral work, using insurance provider directories, and recognizing evasiveness or a lack of transparency as potential red flags. We also discuss the importance of doing your own research, asking questions, and feeling empowered to advocate for yourself when choosing a therapist. Finding the right support is too important to leave to assumptions. 💎 Bottom line—whether it’s parenting, dating, or seeking professional help, trust is built through consistency, transparency, and showing up with care. Don’t be afraid to ask questions, set standards, and choose the people who make you feel safe, respected, and supported. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Show Intro And Disclaimer 01:10 Life Updates And Prom Chaos 04:56 Fur Boots And Fighting Stories 08:20 Mothers Day Recap And Work Call 11:51 Good Dads And Father Figures 17:48 How Dad Shapes Dating Choices 23:56 Talk To Me Nice In Relationships 28:53 Breaking Cycles And Resetting 32:14 Dating With Kids 33:07 What Makes a Good Dad 34:00 Breaking Family Cycles 35:34 Parenting Classes Debate 37:12 Absent Fathers Impact 41:22 Setting Boundaries With Dad 43:23 When Parents Become Grandparents 45:42 Respect Is Earned 49:33 Tap In or Tap Out?! Cheyenne Bryant 52:26 How to Verify Therapists 55:06 Doctorates and Credentials 57:36 Life Coaches vs Licensed Care 59:55 Finding Affordable Therapy 01:02:28 Ask Credentials Up Front 01:04:04 Fathers Day Wrap Up Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Talk To Me Nice

  5. May 8

    Happy Mother's Day

    This episode is very much “life is life-ing,” and we’re just trying to keep up. We get into the chaos of parenting in today’s world—from over-the-top prom culture (why is this a full production??) to the emotional and financial weight that comes with raising kids at every stage. As our children get older, the challenges shift, but the responsibility never really goes away. We talk honestly about what it means to be a mom and still be a whole person. That means setting boundaries, not doing things you don’t want to do, and letting go of the idea that motherhood has to equal sacrifice and suffering. Some of us learned that the hard way. There’s also a real conversation about anxiety, self-worth, and that constant feeling of being “not enough,” even when everything looks fine on paper. We break down how anxiety and imposter syndrome show up—not just mentally, but physically—and why support (therapy, medication, even checking your hormones) is nothing to be ashamed of. For this week's Tap In or Tap Out!? segment, a listener opens up about struggling with anxiety and the constant feeling of not being “enough,” even when life looks good on paper. We unpack how anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome can overlap—and what it takes to start quieting that inner voice We also touch on relationships, single motherhood, and how life changes force you to redefine yourself over and over again. Through it all, one thing stays true: you can’t pour into anybody else if you’re running on empty. 💎 Bottom line—do what works for you, take care of yourself, and stop trying to be everything for everybody. 💎 Tap in!! Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Welcome 01:00 Life updates, being sick, and perimenopause brain fog 03:30 Prom season stress and over-the-top expectations 08:30 Marriage, support, and who takes care of mom 13:00 Single motherhood, burnout, and pushing through 16:30 Relationships, cheating, and doing life alone 23:00 Mother’s Day, rest, and letting go of guilt 26:30 Motherhood without martyrdom and asking for help 27:30 Kids growing up and preparing to let go 33:00 Teaching life skills and learning through experience 38:00 The myth of stability and adjusting to life changes 41:00 Identity beyond motherhood and setting boundaries 55:00 Listener question: anxiety, self-worth, and imposter syndrome 01:03:00 Hormones, perimenopause, and mental health shifts 01:08:00 Final thoughts and Mother’s Day encouragement Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Happy Mother's Day

  6. Mar 23

    Was Her. Still Her. Always gon' be Her.

    Aging, confidence, and evolving identity.. we discuss what it means to grow into yourself—embracing change in your body, mindset, and relationships—while letting go of external validation. Health, wellness, and physical changes are addressed with honesty, including conversations around hormones, memory, and the realities of aging bodies. In this week’s Tap In or Tap Out? segment, the focus shifts to political stress and emotional burnout, as a listener shares there struggle with staying informed vs. staying overloaded and consumed by the woes of the world. We unpack how confidence deepens with age, why community matters more than ever, and how to navigate life transitions with honesty and self-trust. Tap in. https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ Episode Chapters: 00:00 Intro 00:59 Patreon and Live Plans 01:43 Birthday Recovery Stories 04:46 New Orleans Trip Recap 06:05 Travel Fears and News 07:41 AI and Fact Checking 08:59 Aging Body and Libido 10:15 Confidence in Your Forties 11:14 Hair and Self Image 16:01 Childhood Roots of Confidence 17:37 Not Caring What People Think 20:01 Work Era Mindset Shift 23:28 Professional Image and Race 26:20 Imposter Syndrome and Privilege 29:28 Pretty Privilege Talk 31:03 Body Confidence Shift 32:05 Family Judgment Culture 37:26 Kindness Over Critique 39:47 Aging Body Surprises 42:23 Girlfriends Keep You Sane 44:32 Do Men Talk Too 48:29 Confidence Changes With Age 51:11 Tap In Listener Question 53:17 Staying Engaged Not Consumed 58:25 Build Community Locally 01:00:00 Prayer And Sign Off   Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    Was Her. Still Her. Always gon' be Her.

  7. Jan 19

    New Beginnings

    From New Year “resolutions” that last two days to unpacking emotional clutter, shopping habits, control, and the fear of slowing down, we explore what it means to grow older, wiser, and more self-aware—without pretending it’s easy. The conversation moves through themes of productivity, grief, identity shifts, motherhood wounds, friendships changing with life stages, and the realization that many of us were surviving long before we ever learned how to be present. In the Tap In or Tap Out? segment, we speak to a listener navigating guilt, shame, and fear around leaving relationships, setting boundaries, and choosing themselves.  The gem: It’s never too late to change, heal, forgive, and reinvent who you are. Tap in. Episode Chapters: 00:00 Introduction and Welcome  00:56 New Year's Reflections  03:23 Setting Intentional Goals  04:20 The 12-Week Year Explained  09:50 Challenges of Perimenopause  11:29 Moving and Decluttering  24:43 Aging and Memory  30:43 Navigating Identity/Self-Discovery  31:15 Breaking Free from the Hamster Wheel  31:29 Exploring New Hobbies and Interests  34:09 Adapting to Life Changes and Friendships  38:21 Aging and Health Concerns  44:01 Planning for the Future  52:22 Tap In or Tap Out!? Moving Forward and Self-Forgiveness  01:00:55 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    New Beginnings

  8. 12/29/2025

    The Hamster Wheel

    We open up with a catch-up on life, exhaustion, and transitions—moving homes, shifting work dynamics, and the realities of being high-achieving Black women who are still BLACKITY BLACK! This leads to a deeper conversation about identity, education, and the stereotypes placed on Black professionals, particularly around PhDs, power dynamics, and ego. From there, we turn toward reflection and end-of-year evaluation. We examine what it means to “move softer,” questioning whether rest, boundaries, and doing less truly feel safe when control has long been tied to our survival. High pain tolerance, overfunctioning, and constant productivity can disguise emotional numbness—and that numbness often keeps people trapped in cycles that look productive but feel empty. The metaphor of the hamster wheel becomes central: getting off briefly for rest, self-care, or vacations, but always jumping back on without fundamentally changing the cage itself. The conversation challenges us to consider whether we are truly choosing ourselves—or simply managing burnout while avoiding bigger, scarier changes. In Tap In or Tap Out?, a listener asks how to grieve a living parent—specifically a mother who is emotionally unavailable, self-centered, and resistant to accountability. We discuss grief, reparenting, unrealistic expectations, boundaries, and the painful but necessary process of removing titles in order to see relationships clearly. Choosing peace does not mean carrying hatred, but it may mean accepting who someone is—and deciding how much access they get to you. Change is inevitable, resilience is learned, and community support is essential. Growth doesn’t come from staying comfortable—it comes from stepping into the unknown, trusting yourself, and allowing life to move you forward. Tap in. Episode Chapters00:00 Introduction and Catch-Up 02:30 Life Changes, Exhaustion, and Reflection 05:45 Black Identity, PhDs, and Stereotypes 10:12 Ego, Power Dynamics, and Dating with Advanced Degrees 14:20 Control, Softness, and Safety 18:45 Letting Go, Fixing, and Overfunctioning 24:30 What “Soft Life” Actually Means 29:10 Work, Money, and the Pressure to Grind 34:55 The Hamster Wheel Metaphor 40:15 Comfort vs Growth 45:10 Pain Tolerance, Numbness, and Resilience 51:20 Faith, Change, and Trusting the Unknown 55:00 Tap In or Tap Out?: Grieving a Living Parent 01:03:00 Reparenting, Boundaries, and Choosing Peace 01:10:30 Final Reflections and Closing Hosts: Dr. Tiffany Darby, Dr. Tiffany Monroe-Hurd, Dr. Tiffany Hairston https://www.instagram.com/tapinwithtiffany/ tapinwithtiffany@gmail.com Produced By: Lumen Vision Sound https://www.lumen-vision-sound.com/podcasts

    The Hamster Wheel
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We are three Ph.D. level mental health practitioners who all happen to be named Tiffany, doing a podcast discussing wellness related topics. From the importance of therapy, relationships, parenting, families, women concerns, self-care etc.

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  • Creator
    Dr Tiffanys
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    29
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2025 Tap in with Tiffany
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