Not Your Strong Black Woman

Nassimbwa Ruffin
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Here we welcome softness, tears, vulnerability, weakness, authenticity, peace, love, and joy.

  1. 5d ago

    3 Easy Ways to Believe in Yourself

    Send us Fan Mail Do you struggle to believe in yourself? In Part 3 of the Lock In series, we’re talking about self-reliance and why believing in yourself matters more than you think. If you’ve ever told yourself “I can’t do this,” “I’m not disciplined,” this episode is for you. We’ll explore how your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your behaviors, and how to use my RCR Framework (Recognize, Challenge, Reframe) to change negative self-talk and build confidence from the inside out. Hope this episode provides a space for you to breathe 💎 About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    9 min

  2. Jun 1

    How to Build Discipline Without Motivation

    Send us Fan Mail Self-discipline is not about punishing yourself. It’s about learning yourself. In Part 2 of the Lock In series, Nassimbwa Ruffin shares the truth about self-discipline nobody talks about.  In this episode, we discuss: • What self-discipline really means • Why consistency can feel so difficult • The emotional truth underneath our habits This episode is for the high-achieving woman who is tired of abandoning herself and ready to start choosing healing one decision at a time. Hope this episode provides a space for you to breathe 💎 About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    11 min

  3. May 25

    Part 1: 3 Easy Ways to Stop Living on Autopilot

    Send us Fan Mail Are you ready to finally stop living on autopilot? In this episode, I’m sharing the first step of my SELF Framework to show you how to lock in and take control of your future. This is self-improvement that actually works because it starts from the inside out. For many people, self-awareness can feel overwhelming, but I’m breaking down how a simple mindset shift can become the catalyst for real change. We’ll talk about: ✨ Why we get stuck in autopilot patterns ✨ How your thoughts shape your behavior ✨ The power of self-awareness ✨ How to begin changing your life from the inside out If you’ve been feeling stuck, disconnected, or inconsistent, this episode is for you. Hope this episode provides a space for you to breathe 💎 About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    10 min

  4. May 11

    4 Easy Ways to Prevent Burnout (REST)

    Send us Fan Mail In today’s episode, we’re talking about something many women desperately need but rarely feel allowed to do… rest After hearing another Mother’s Day message about “being strong,” I started thinking: Why don’t we talk about rest too? Using the story of Mary and Martha in The Bible Luke 10:38–42, I break down how many high-functioning women end up stuck in survival mode, constantly carrying the weight of everyone and everything. In this episode, I walk you through my REST framework to help you prevent burnout, regulate your nervous system, and stop running on empty. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    11 min

  5. May 4

    3 Easy Ways to Stop Fighting Your Feelings

    Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like you were "doing it wrong" because you couldn't just choose to be happy? I’m sharing the one secret to finding peace that nobody talks about: how to embrace the paradox of feeling two things at once. In this video, I’m opening up about my own journey through birth trauma and the realization that changed everything for me. We often think we have to choose between joy and grief, but the real path to peace is learning to let them coexist. What we’ll explore in this video: Why "fighting" your feelings is making you more exhausted. The "Paradox" of feeling happy and sad at the same time. 3 simple steps to stop the internal battle and finally breathe again. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed or like your emotions are a constant struggle, this perspective shift is for you. You don't have to be "fixed"—you just need to learn how to feel. Let’s connect: If this resonated with you, please share your thoughts in the comments. Have you ever felt the "Paradox"? Let’s talk about it. Subscribe to Nassimbwa Ruffin for more honest conversations on healing, resilience, and finding peace in the middle of the mess. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    9 min

  6. Apr 27

    The Cost of Always Being Strong

    Send us Fan Mail In this powerful episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down the truth behind the Strong Black Woman stereotype and how it can keep many women stuck in survival mode. What looks like strength on the outside can sometimes be pain, pressure, emotional suppression, and carrying too much alone. Through personal storytelling, research-backed insight, and practical healing tools, Nassimbwa explores how the pressure to always be strong can impact mental health, boundaries, rest, and the ability to ask for help. In this episode, you’ll learn: • What the Strong Black Woman stereotype really is   • How it can increase anxiety, depression, and emotional exhaustion   • Why asking for help can feel so difficult   • How emotional suppression affects the nervous system   • One easy way to begin unmasking and healing If you’ve ever felt like you had to hold it all together while silently struggling, this episode is for you. You do not have to carry everything alone.   You do not have to perform strength to be worthy.   You can heal. Subscribe for more conversations on confidence, healing, trauma recovery, boundaries, and easy self-care tools.  About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    7 min

  7. Apr 20

    How to Stick to Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty

    Send us Fan Mail In this episode, Nassimbwa Ruffin breaks down why setting boundaries is one thing—but keeping them is where many people struggle. If you’ve ever felt guilty saying no, found yourself overgiving, or watched people push back when you started changing, this episode is for you. You’ll learn what boundaries really are, why they can feel so uncomfortable, and how to stay consistent using Nassimbwa’s REST Framework: ✨ R – Recognize when your boundaries are being crossed ✨ E – Evaluate what the boundary needs to be ✨ S – Shift your behavior to match the boundary ✨ T – Train yourself to stay consistent This episode also explores how to respect boundaries when you’re the one receiving them—because healthy relationships require both setting limits and honoring them. If you look strong on the outside but feel tired on the inside, this conversation will give you practical tools to protect your peace without abandoning yourself. 💎 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this reminder today. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    7 min

  8. Apr 13

    4 Easy Ways to Stop Running on Empty

    Send us Fan Mail If you’ve been tired, overwhelmed, emotionally drained, but still getting everything done… this episode is for you. We’re talking about functional freeze, why so many women keep pushing past their limits, and 4 easy ways to REST using my R.E.S.T. framework: Recognize, Evaluate, Shift, and Train. Because functioning is not the same thing as feeling okay. About Nassimbwa: I am Licensed Graduate Professional Counselor, this podcast is to teach easy holistic health and wellness practices to empower black women to prioritize self-care. YouTube: @nassimbwaruffin Website: Feel Good Treasures

    10 min
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  • Creator
    Nassimbwa Ruffin
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    33
  • Rating
    Clean
  • Copyright
    © 2026 Not Your Strong Black Woman
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