It's Not About Money

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It's Not About Money

Join us, Charla and Matt McKinley, as we delve into the world of parenting with a financial twist. This podcast is your go-to resource for raising responsible and ready adults, providing insights and actionable advice on money matters and beyond.

  1. 4 DAYS AGO

    Self-Confidence Shapes the Future

    7 Ways Self-Confidence Shapes the Future (Part Two) In this second installment of the confidence series, Matt and Charla dive into the final three ways self-confidence can transform a child’s life. They explore the deep connections between confidence, mindset, motivation, and leadership, offering practical insights and real-life examples. To wrap up the episode, Charla shares actionable tips for parents to help foster confidence in their kids. Key Topics Covered: - Fostering a Positive Mindset: Charla explains how confidence helps children overcome negative self-talk and maintain optimism, even in challenging social situations. She highlights how confident kids can persevere when things don’t go as planned, viewing setbacks as opportunities rather than personal failures. Matt shares his perspective on optimism as a “superpower,” showcasing how it can reframe difficulties into growth moments. - Staying Driven and Focused: Confidence gives kids the belief that their efforts make a difference, fueling their motivation to set goals and work toward them. Charla emphasizes the importance of giving children a sense of purpose, helping them connect their actions to a bigger picture. Whether it’s chores or schoolwork, confident kids approach tasks with persistence and a forward-looking attitude. - Stepping Into Leadership Roles: Leadership requires self-assurance, and confident kids are more likely to take initiative, inspire others, and handle responsibility. Charla discusses the importance of equipping kids with the confidence to lead positively, ensuring they are prepared to step into roles that influence their peers and communities for good. - Strategies for Building Confidence: Foster confidence by modeling and encouraging growth through action. Try new things yourself and openly share your experiences to inspire kids by example. Celebrate effort over results to build resilience, focusing on what they learned rather than just outcomes. Provide opportunities for responsibility, such as managing chores or handling their own appointments, to help them realize their capability and develop independence. Call to Action: * Reflect: What is your child’s confidence level? Are there areas where they could use more encouragement or opportunities to grow? * Download the Printable Guide: Check out the full list of “7 Ways” that Matt and Charla began talking through in this episode and in the prior episode. * Get Caught Up: Tune in to part one (24-01) of this series if you missed it, where Matt and Charla cover the first four ways confidence impacts a child’s future. * Join the Discussion: Have you seen confidence shape your kids? We would love to hear it!  You can find us on our social media channels or comment here. Connect With Us: - Read more about this topic and other discussions on Charla’s blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog) - Subscribe to the weekly email with links to our podcast and blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1) - Learn more about our unique products designed to enhance your children’s understanding of real-world money management: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/)

    19 min

  2. JAN 8

    7 Ways Self-Confidence Shapes the Future

    7 Ways Self-Confidence Shapes the Future (Part One) In this episode, Matt and Charla discuss how building self-confidence in children can create a positive ripple effect throughout their lives. Charla shares her insights and experiences, highlighting the importance of confidence in helping kids navigate challenges, make decisions, and foster resilience. The episode also teases a second part where actionable tips for boosting confidence in kids will be shared. Key Topics Covered: - Confidence in the Classroom: Charla explains how self-confidence impacts a child’s willingness to try new things, even when the material gets tough. Confidence allows kids to trust their abilities, push through barriers, and stay motivated, ultimately improving their academic performance. - Decision-Making with Confidence: Confident kids are better equipped to make decisions without fear of failure or second-guessing. Charla emphasizes how decision-making builds through experience and how parents can encourage kids to trust their judgment, even when the outcome isn’t perfect. - Bouncing Back from Setbacks: Resilience and confidence go hand in hand. Charla discusses how confident children view failure as a learning opportunity rather than a reflection of their worth. Teaching kids to navigate mistakes helps them grow into adaptable and self-assured adults. - Confidence in Relationships: Confidence plays a vital role in forming healthy relationships. Charla shares her perspective as a mom, stressing the importance of teaching kids to set boundaries and avoid unhealthy relationships by knowing their worth. Call to Action: * Reflect: How has confidence shaped your child’s life so far? Are there areas where they could use more encouragement? * Download the Printable Guide: Check out the full list of “7 Ways” that Matt and Charla began talking through in this episode. * Tune in next week: Ready to hear the rest of the “7 Ways”? Great!  Tune in next week for the rest of the discussion and get some practical tips to get started. * Join the Discussion: Have you seen confidence shape your kids? We would love to hear it!  You can find us on our social media channels or comment here. Connect With Us: - Read more about this topic and other discussions on Charla’s blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog) - Subscribe to the weekly email with links to our podcast and blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1) - Learn more about our unique products designed to enhance your children’s understanding of real-world money management: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/)

    18 min

  3. JAN 1

    Let Your Teen Pay (Replay)

    Let Your Teen Pay:  Empower Your Teen with Financial Ownership Episode Summary: In this episode, Matt and Charla discuss the importance of teaching teens financial responsibility by giving them ownership over their own expenses. They explore practical strategies to help teens understand the value of money and make informed financial decisions. Discussion Highlights: Real-Life Financial Management: - Charla emphasizes the importance of teens handling real-life expenses, not just allowances for trivial items. This includes significant costs like extracurricular activities and college savings. Decision Making and Budgeting: - By giving teens a budget, they learn to make choices based on their priorities. For example, choosing between a high-end item or several less expensive ones fosters better financial decision-making. Building Financial Muscle: - Allowing teens to experience financial tension prepares them for future financial independence. This practice also helps them develop a better understanding of budgeting and saving. Parental Involvement: - While teens manage their allocated budget, parents should still guide and support them. This dual approach ensures that teens are learning while still having a safety net. Examples of How to Let Your Teen Pay * Extracurricular Activities: - Teens often want to participate in numerous activities without understanding the associated costs. By providing them with a set budget for these activities, they learn to prioritize and manage their expenses. This includes registration fees, equipment, and travel costs. * Food: - Give teens a weekly or monthly food budget for their snacks and extras. This helps them learn to shop wisely and manage their own food expenses. It's a practical way to teach them about the costs of their dietary choices and encourage them to make healthier, budget-friendly decisions. * College Expenses: - Discuss the costs of college early on and set clear expectations about financial contributions. Encourage teens to save for college and seek scholarships. This helps them appreciate the value of their education and motivates them to perform well academically. Practical Tips for Parents: * Set Clear Budgets: - Provide a specific amount for activities, food, and other expenses. Make sure teens understand they must stay within this budget. * Encourage Work: - If teens want more than their budget allows, encourage them to find part-time jobs to cover the additional costs. This teaches them the value of earning money. * Discuss Long-Term Goals: - Have open conversations about future expenses like a car, living expenses and college. Make sure teens understand the financial commitment from the family and start saving early to help make those future plans succeed. Connect With Us: To read more about this (or past topics) go to Charla’s blog:  https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog To subscribe to the weekly email with links to our podcast and blog, go here:  https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1 To learn more about our unique products designed to increase your children’s understanding of how money works in the real world, go here:  https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/

    18 min

  4. 12/25/2024

    7 Things To Stop Doing (Replay)

    7 Things To Stop Doing For Your Kids - Episode 17 Introduction: - Welcome back to "It's Not About Money," the podcast for intentional parents. - Join us as we guide you through empowering your tweens and teens on their journey to adulthood. Episode Highlights: * Stop Waking Your Teens Up: - Encourage independence by letting your children wake themselves up in the morning. - Create an environment where it's safe for them to fail and learn from natural consequences. * Teach Self-Care: - Encourage your kids to pack their own snacks and lunches for school or outings. - Allow them to experience natural consequences if they forget, helping them learn responsibility. * Avoid Micro-Managing Clothing Choices: - Don't engage in battles over what your child wears, as long as it's appropriate for the weather and situation. - Let them learn from their own experiences, such as feeling cold without a coat. Parenting Insights: - Matt and Charla share personal anecdotes and insights from their own parenting journey. - They emphasize the importance of allowing kids to take responsibility and learn from their actions. - Natural consequences can be powerful teachers and help kids develop critical life skills. Conclusion: - Empowering your kids involves letting go of certain parental responsibilities. - Visit the podcast's website or show notes for more details on the 7 things parents should stop doing. - Remember, guiding your children towards independence is key to their growth and development. Note: These show notes capture the essence of the episode's discussion on empowering kids. For the full context and additional insights, listen to the complete podcast episode.

    19 min

  5. 12/18/2024

    INAM: Empowering Teens (Replay)

    Empowering Teens Episode 9 Summary: "Empowering Teens: 28 Essential Life Skills to Start Now" In this episode of "It’s Not About Money," hosts Matt and Charla McKinley, the Artisan of Adulting, unveil a comprehensive list of 28 essential life skills that every teen should know.  The skills are categorized into personal care, kitchen, outside the house, and miscellaneous, providing practical insights for intentional parents. Segments Introduction to the Essential Life Skills List: Matt and Charla introduce the list teased in previous episodes. Charla explains the motivation behind providing practical life skills for teens to empower them for the real world. Parenting with the Future in Mind: Charla shares her mission to help parents empower their teens for the challenges of adulthood.  Reflecting on her parenting approach, she discusses the significance of teaching teens by involving them in practical activities. Teaching Life Skills during Tough Attitude Years: Charla and Matt reflect on challenging moments during their teens' tough attitude years and the persistence required to instill life skills.  They celebrate the positive outcomes, demonstrating how teens learn to handle real-life situations independently. Explore the Essential Life Skills List for Teens: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/artisan-of-adulting-essential-skills For more, go to our podcast website: https://itsnotaboutmoneypodcast.com To subscribe to our weekly content email: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/inam-subscribe Thanks for tuning in!  For more parenting insights and to stay connected, visit Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

    13 min

  6. 12/11/2024

    7 Holiday “Dangers”

    7 Holiday “Dangers” That Aren’t Dangerous In this holiday-themed episode, Matt and Charla take a lighthearted look at the "dangers" parents often worry about during the holiday season. Through humorous and relatable stories, they explore how letting go of perfection and allowing children to make small mistakes can help families enjoy a more relaxed, joyful holiday together. Key Topics Covered: - Letting Kids Learn Through Natural Consequences:  Charla shares her philosophy of letting her kids experience minor discomforts—like burning their mouths on hot drinks. By allowing these small mistakes, kids learn to heed warnings and practice self-control. This sets the stage for understanding the natural consequences of their actions without micromanagement. - The Magic of Messy Cookie Baking:  Matt and Charla discuss the joys of holiday baking and why parents should let go of the fear of mess or failure. Allowing kids to mix ingredients, use the oven, and make mistakes (like adding salt instead of sugar) fosters creativity, confidence, and family bonding. It’s not about creating picture-perfect cookies; it’s about creating memories. - Peeking at Presents—A Lesson in Patience:  Charla shares a childhood story of sneaking a peek at her gifts, only to realize it stole the joy of Christmas morning. She and Matt reflect on how these experiences can teach kids about the value of patience and delayed gratification, key life lessons that go far beyond the holidays. - Giving Kids Big Responsibilities, Even if They Mess Up:  Whether it’s letting children wrap presents (even if they’re not perfectly done) or bake cookies (even if they look like a mess), Matt and Charla emphasize the importance of empowering kids. By allowing children to take on big tasks, parents give them the confidence to succeed—or learn from their mistakes—while creating cherished family moments. - Relaxing and Enjoying Holiday Moments:  Charla reminds listeners that the holidays are fleeting, and it’s important to prioritize the joy of spending time with your family over stressing about the small stuff. By choosing not to micromanage, parents can cultivate a more relaxed atmosphere that allows everyone to enjoy the season’s magic. Call to Action: * Consider these questions in your family: - How can we give our kids a chance to try new things and let them make mistakes during the holidays?  How do we balance creating a magical holiday experience with letting kids take on responsibilities?  What are some family new traditions that you could start to encourage bonding without being too rigid or perfect? * Download the Printable Guide: Check out the full list of “holiday dangers” that Matt and Charla didn’t get to cover in this episode by visiting the blog. These lighthearted “dangers” will remind you to relax and focus on the joy of family time this holiday season. * Join the Discussion: Share your holiday traditions and experiences with letting kids take on more responsibility during this busy season. You can find us on our social media channels or comment here. Connect With Us: - Read more about this topic and other discussions on Charla’s blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/our-blog) - Subscribe to the weekly email with links to our podcast and blog: [https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1](https://beyondpersonalfinance.com/subscribe-1) - Learn more about our unique products designed to ...

    17 min

  7. 12/04/2024

    INAM: Peaceful Parenting (Replay)

    Peaceful Parenting Episode 5 Summary: "Peaceful Parenting:  10 Battles that Aren’t Worth It" In this episode of "It’s Not About Money," hosts Matt and Charla McKinley, the Artisan of Adulting, discuss the importance of choosing battles wisely when parenting teens. Charla shares insights on 10 battles with teens that may not be worth the struggle. Segments Basic Hygiene: Charla emphasizes the challenge of forcing kids to care about basic hygiene and suggests letting them make these choices for themselves.  She shares anecdotes and practical strategies for encouraging teens to take responsibility for their personal hygiene. Clean Room: We discuss the battle over teens' messy rooms and propose letting go of strict cleanliness expectations in their personal space.  Charla encourages setting boundaries that align with family needs without unnecessary conflicts. Hairstyle Choices: Charla shares the experience of allowing her son to express himself through a unique hairstyle.  We discuss the importance of letting teens make decisions about their appearance within reasonable boundaries. Explore the Full List of Battles to Let Go: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/aoa-10-battles-to-let-go-social For more, go to our podcast website: https://itsnotaboutmoneypodcast.com To subscribe to our weekly content email: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/inam-subscribe Thanks for tuning in! For more parenting insights and to stay connected, visit Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

    16 min

  8. 11/27/2024

    INAM: Beyond the Nest (Replay)

    Beyond the Nest Episode 3 Summary: "Beyond the Nest:  Nurturing Self-Confidence in Kids" In this episode of "It’s Not About Money," hosts Matt and Charla McKinley, the Artisan of Adulting, delve into the essential topic of self-confidence in children. Charla shares her insights on nurturing self-confidence through meaningful experiences. Segments Helping Someone Different from You: Charla emphasizes the importance of kids helping strangers who are different from them. Engaging in activities like Meals on Wheels provides a sense of purpose and showcases the meaningful impact of their unique gifts. A Week Away at Camp: Reflecting on the impact of a week away at camp, Charla highlights the significance of gentle exposure to life outside the comfort of home. This experience fosters independence and a deeper understanding of the world. Learning a New Skill: Charla discusses the value of learning new skills in building self-confidence. Overcoming the initial intimidation by trying something new offers a sense of accomplishment and mastery crucial for future challenges. Listen to the Full Episode: Link to Full Episode Explore the Full List of Confidence-Building Experiences: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/aoa-9-experiences For more, go to our podcast website: https://itsnotaboutmoneypodcast.com To subscribe to our weekly content email: https://classes.beyondpersonalfinance.com/inam-subscribe Thanks for joining us on this parenting journey! For more insights and connections, visit Ultimate Homeschool Podcast Network.

    15 min
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Join us, Charla and Matt McKinley, as we delve into the world of parenting with a financial twist. This podcast is your go-to resource for raising responsible and ready adults, providing insights and actionable advice on money matters and beyond.

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    It's Not About Money
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    2024 - 2025
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