Thoughts From My Thirties

Kala Riggins
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Life is complicated. And honestly? Most of us are just trying to understand it while we’re still living it. Thoughts From My Thirties is my ongoing conversation with the in-between seasons — the ones where you’re not who you used to be, but you’re not fully who you’re becoming yet. I’m your host, Kala Riggins. I think out loud. I feel deeply. And I care about what’s underneath the surface. Each episode is part reflection, part confession, part real-time processing. The kind of conversations that don’t try to tie everything into a bow… but help you breathe, soften, and realize you’re not behind — you’re human. Because in your thirties, you stop chasing perfect and start craving honest. You stop performing clarity and start asking better questions. And you realize that most of life isn’t about having it figured out — it’s about staying present while you’re becoming. No pressure. No pretending. Just permission to be in process. Welcome to Thoughts From My Thirties. This is where we think. We feel. We grow — in real time. @KalaRiggins

  1. 4d ago

    7 Quiet Ways I Know I’m Becoming a Different Woman

    In this episode, we’re talking about the kind of growth that doesn’t always look like growth from the outside. How do you know you’re becoming a different woman when nobody else can see it yet? We talk a lot about transformation like it’s supposed to be obvious. A new look. A new life. A completely different version of you. But lately, I’ve been noticing the quieter ways I’m changing. The things I believe differently. The things I no longer need. The relationships I’m questioning. The parts of myself I’m finally trusting without needing everybody else to understand. If you’ve been feeling yourself shift in ways you can’t quite explain yet, this conversation is for you. In this episode, we get into: Why I no longer need everybody in my life to fully understand meSpending more money on the parts of my life only I get to experienceWhat changed when I stopped negotiating with my callingGetting more specific about what I actually like and learning to trust my own tasteWhy we may be outsourcing too many of our preferences to the internetThe difficult realization that history alone isn’t enough to sustain a friendshipThe difference between catching up with your friends and actually keeping up with each otherWhy everything you love doesn’t need to become productive, profitable, or purposefulHow trying to be “realistic” can sometimes be another way of making yourself smallerWhy I’d rather be absolutely ridiculous than regularBecoming more comfortable with being different, giving a different answer, and choosing a different direction Resources + Links: Download the episode companion guide: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community, Our Inner Thoughts: https://tinyurl.com/34c8hbpj Inside the community: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions)Inside My Mind Q&A sessions Let’s keep the conversation going: What are some of the quiet ways you know you’re becoming a different woman? Not the obvious things everybody else can see. What has changed in the way you think, what you tolerate, what you want, how you spend your time, who you keep close, or how you see yourself? Connect with me: Instagram & TikTok: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Email: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About the show: Thoughts From My Thirties is a love letter to millennials who are just trying to figure it out. I’m Kala, content creator, storyteller, and your host. This is a space where we say the quiet part out loud, unpack real-life experiences, and have honest conversations about identity, creativity, relationships, and becoming. Because becoming a different woman isn’t always about completely reinventing yourself. Sometimes it’s quieter than that. It’s needing less explanation. Trusting your own taste. Taking your calling seriously. Reconsidering relationships that may no longer fit. Letting yourself enjoy something without needing to monetize it. And getting more comfortable with the fact that your answer, your direction, and your life might look different from everybody else’s. Over here, we’re learning to find peace in the process of simply figuring it out.

  2. Aug 12

    I Have Friends. So Why the Hell Am I Lonely? | Thinking it Through

    I’m thinking through…feeling lonely even when your life is full the difference between having people and actually feeling known my deep desire to be understood… and how it can sometimes get in the way of connection grieving old versions of yourself while you’re still figuring out who you’re becoming why missing a place, season, or life might actually mean you miss who you were back then and the quiet realization that sometimes loneliness isn’t about who’s missing… but how much of yourself you’re willing to let people know JOIN MY PRIVATE COMMUNITY Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: • Monthly Group Thoughts — live virtual discussions • Inside My Mind Q&A sessions — ask me anything about creativity, strategy, life, love, and becoming Join here: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2F LET’S STAY CONNECTED Socials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com ABOUT ME I’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your expression, and your identity… and having the courage to become someone your old life may not quite know how to hold yet.

  3. May 5

    the Internet Is Making Us All Think the Same | A different perspective on Meg The Stallion & Emma Grede

    In this episode, we’re unpacking a question that’s been sitting heavy: Are we actually thinking for ourselves anymore… or just repeating what we see online? Social media and pop culture used to be entertainment. Now? It’s shaping how we think, how we date, how we see ourselves — and most of us didn’t even realize when the shift happened. If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, influenced, or disconnected from your own voice… this conversation is for you. In this episode, we get into: How social media and pop culture quietly shape your worldviewThe shift from entertainment → instruction (and why that matters)Why we’ve started forming opinions based on other people’s livesThe difference between groupthink and original thoughtHow overconsumption disconnects you from your own voiceWhy not everything needs a take… some things need timeThe importance of sitting with your thoughts before outsourcing themHow to rebuild trust in your own perspective and lived experience Resources + Links: Download the episode companion guide: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community, Our Inner Thoughts: https://tinyurl.com/34c8hbpj Inside the community: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions)Inside My Mind Q&A sessions Let’s keep the conversation going: How much of what you think is actually yours? And what would it look like to sit with your thoughts… before the world tells you what to think? Connect with me: Instagram & TikTok: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Email: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About the show: Thoughts From My Thirties is a love letter to millennials who are just trying to figure it out. I’m Kala — content creator, storyteller, and your host. This is a space where we say the quiet part out loud, unpack real-life experiences, and have honest conversations about identity, creativity, relationships, and becoming. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your expression, and your truth.

  4. Apr 21

    Girl, Stop Waiting for a Reason to Look Good

    This one is for the woman who wants to feel like herself again… but keeps saving her best self for a “real” reason. In this episode, we get into:Why you’ve been saving your best self for special occasions — and how that’s actually limiting youThe deeper meaning behind personal style (it’s not vanity… it’s identity)The subtle ways people project when they say “you’re doing too much”Why looking good is a practice — not a performanceThe connection between effort, confidence, and how you see yourselfWhy your wardrobe (and how you use it) reflects what you believe about yourselfHow to rebuild your confidence through everyday habits — not big moments Resources + LinksDownload the episode companion resource: I created a companion guide to help you reconnect with your personal style and stop saving your best self for “someday.” → https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community→ https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2F Our Inner Thoughts is where we keep the conversation going: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions)Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you…What part of yourself have you been saving for later? And what would it look like to bring her into your everyday life? Drop it in the comments… let’s tell the truth out loud. Let’s stay connectedSocials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About MeI’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your expression, your identity… and having the courage to show up as her every single day.

  5. Apr 9

    Are You Actually Ready for What You’re Asking For? | Thinking It Through

    I’m thinking through… wanting more… and wanting it now God’s timing vs. my impatience what it really means to be ready for what you’re asking for and the quiet realization that maybe… I’m still being prepared for it Join my private community: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2F Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: • Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) • Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Let’s stay connected Socials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About Me: I’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and your calling… and having the courage to act on it.

  6. Apr 2

    You’re Not Getting What You Want Because You’re Not Being Honest About What You Want

    This one is for the woman who keeps saying she wants more… but hasn’t been fully honest about what “more” actually is. In this episode, we get into: Why you might not have what you want because you’re not being honest about itThe difference between saying what you want vs. telling the truth about what you wantHow I realized I was hiding my true identity behind more “understandable” titlesWhat successful creatives have in common and what it means to stay in your main character energyChoosing what’s practical vs. choosing what’s actually meant for youHow being influenced can keep you stuck in the wrong laneThe truth about “realistic dreams” and why that concept might be a lieBeing honest in every area: career, relationships, friendships, and your relationship with GodWhat it looks like to talk to God like He’s your father and actually ask for what you wantAdmitting you want new friends and why that doesn’t make you ungratefulHow conditioning — not fear — keeps us playing smallWhy safe answers are blocking real outcomesThe difference between self-awareness and actual change5 ways I’m learning to get honest about what I want and take action toward it Resources + Links Download the episode companion resource: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.... Join my private community: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subs... Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you: What’s one thing you’ve been saying you want… but haven’t been fully honest about? Drop it in the comments — let’s tell the truth out loud. Let’s stay connected Socials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About Me: I’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop diluting, and start telling the truth about who they are and what they actually want. Over here, it’s about returning to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and your calling… and having the courage to act on it.

  7. Mar 5

    I Turned 35 and Here’s What I’m Proud Of | A Birthday Brag Session

    Turning 35 made me realize something: you don’t need the traditional milestones to be proud of your life. In this birthday episode, I’m bragging on myself — petty and popping. If you’ve ever felt behind, in-between, or unsure if you’re doing life “right”… this one is for you. This one is for the girl who needs to brag on herself a little more. The thirty-something who’s tired of milestones being used as a measuring stick. The millennial who’s learning: two things can be true… and I’m still that girl. In this birthday episode, I’m not doing the usual deep dive. I’m doing a brag session. In this episode, we get into:• Why I’m proud I’m prompt (and why being late every time isn’t cute) • Being okay in silence + not needing constant stimulation • The freedom of not having the “traditional” milestones (house, marriage, kids) and not feeling less fulfilled • Starting over, starting from scratch, starting in the middle of chaos… and still showing up • My hygiene routine (yes, it’s petty… and yes, I smell good 😭) • My relationship with God: deepened discernment + no longer trying to live without Him • Having refined taste in people, places, and experiences • Being a good friend: safe, nonjudgmental, and built for real conversation • “No longer negotiating with my calling” + why hearing isn’t enough… it’s time to move A few thoughts from my thirties… Timestamp Breakdown00:00 — Brag session rules + “She’s 35. She has arrived.” 02:10 — Golden birthday energy + why we’re not doing the deep reflective thing today 04:40 — Petty flex: I’m prompt, and I’m proud 07:10 — Silence, nervous systems, and not needing constant stimulation 10:30 — Not married, not a homeowner, no kids… and not feeling less than 14:10 — Starting over without reverting back to the “mundane” plan 16:30 — Petty but important: hygiene routine + “you’ll never say I was stink” 19:20 — My relationship with God + the 33-year-old resurrection year 23:40 — Community break: Our Inner Thoughts (keep the convo going) 26:10 — Taste, “outside,” and not living life in isolation 29:30 — I’m a really good friend (and what safe friendship actually looks like) 33:10 — “No longer negotiating with my calling” + James 1:22 36:10 — Face card, skills, and thanking the 2016 YouTube girlies 38:40 — Saying the quiet part out loud: loneliness + still being that girl 44:00 — The duality: low days don’t cancel your identity 47:20 — Closing: brag on yourself + peace in the process of figuring it out Resources + LinksDownload the episode companion resource: I started a resource library for y’all. After each episode, I drop a Kala-coded companion guide so the conversation doesn’t end when the episode ends. Download here: https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private communityhttps://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe Our Inner Thoughts is a space to keep the conversation going with: • Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) • Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you…What’s one petty thing and one popping thing you’re proud of in this season? Drop yours in the comments — and if you’re my friend, go ahead and “amen” me too. 😭 Let’s stay connectedSocials: @KalaRiggins Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com About MeI’m Kala — host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters.

  8. Feb 12

    Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job (Here’s How to Clock Back In)

    Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job If you’ve been trying to “stay positive” but doubt keeps sliding into the room this episode is for you. This is for the girl who clocked out for a minute. The thirty-something who got tired. The millennial who needs to clock back in. In this episode, we get into: -Doubt creeping in and why it made me question my faith -Why I’m rejecting the idea that doubt and faith can’t coexist -“Detours are not delays” — and how I’m rewiring my mind around timing -Creativity without capitalism: your art doesn’t need entrepreneurship to matter -The “hard body” energy I may be giving off (and how it doesn’t match my real desire: love) -Believing in love when singleness makes you comfortable (and guarded) -The real fear underneath love: “Will it cost me myself?” -Abundance as birthright (not burnout) + letting peace be profitable -Believing God is easy… believing His timing is the real work -Grieving the life you thought you’d have by now (and still trusting you’re not behind) -“Clocking back in” as a mindset: treating belief like a daily practice, not a mood Resources + Links Download the guide: CLOCK BACK IN: This guide is your gentle (but firm) guide to believing in you again. LINK - https://spring-basil-85806.myflodesk.com/e85zoionw0 Join my private community: https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2F Our Inner Thoughts: A space to keep the conversation going with: -Monthly Group Thoughts (live virtual discussions) -Inside My Mind Q&A sessions (ask me anything — creativity, strategy, life, love, becoming) Question for you: What area are you clocking back into right now — love, abundance, creativity, faith, or timing? Let's stay connected! About Me: I’m Kala! Host, content creator, and storyteller. I create content and conversations that inspire women to stop hiding, stop apologizing, and show up as their full selves. Over here, it’s about thoughts and conversations that help you return to yourself — your voice, your clarity, and what actually matters. Socials: @KalaRiggins My Website: https://kalariggins.com/ Contact: Kala@KalaRiggins.com

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Life is complicated. And honestly? Most of us are just trying to understand it while we’re still living it. Thoughts From My Thirties is my ongoing conversation with the in-between seasons — the ones where you’re not who you used to be, but you’re not fully who you’re becoming yet. I’m your host, Kala Riggins. I think out loud. I feel deeply. And I care about what’s underneath the surface. Each episode is part reflection, part confession, part real-time processing. The kind of conversations that don’t try to tie everything into a bow… but help you breathe, soften, and realize you’re not behind — you’re human. Because in your thirties, you stop chasing perfect and start craving honest. You stop performing clarity and start asking better questions. And you realize that most of life isn’t about having it figured out — it’s about staying present while you’re becoming. No pressure. No pretending. Just permission to be in process. Welcome to Thoughts From My Thirties. This is where we think. We feel. We grow — in real time. @KalaRiggins

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  • Creator
    Kala Riggins
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    46
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    Explicit
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    © Copyright 2026 Kala Riggins
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