Guys Dealings with Feelings

Aaron
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For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not. Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language. Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness. Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.

  1. 2d ago

    You’re Not Overthinking—You’ve Lost Control of Your Attention

    Why does your mind replay the same conversation, decision, mistake, or painful experience over and over—even when thinking about it isn’t getting you anywhere? In this full episode, Aaron and Jason take a deeper look at overthinking and explain why the problem may not be your thoughts themselves, but where your attention becomes trapped. They discuss how trauma, anxiety, fear, expectations, and unprocessed emotions can keep us stuck in the past or worried about the future. They also explore why we delay decisions, look for happiness in money and possessions, and struggle to remain present in our relationships. Most importantly, they explain how meditation, self-awareness, and intentional action can help us regain control of our attention and find greater clarity. You don’t have to know every possible outcome before making a move. Sometimes clarity doesn’t come before action—it comes because you finally acted. If this conversation speaks to you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who may need to hear it. #Overthinking #Anxiety #MentalHealth #MensMentalHealth #TraumaHealing #SelfAwareness #Mindfulness #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    You’re Not Overthinking—You’ve Lost Control of Your Attention

  2. Aug 12

    Comparison Is Stealing Your Life—and You Don’t Even Notice It

    We’ve never had more access to other people’s lives—and we’ve never felt more behind. Every time we open our phones, we see someone making more money, getting in better shape, taking better vacations, or seemingly living a happier life. But we’re comparing the full reality of our lives to a carefully edited version of theirs. In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore why comparison creates envy, steals our gratitude, and keeps us chasing goals that never deliver the peace we expected. They discuss the voice in our heads that constantly tells us we need more, why the finish line keeps moving, and how bringing our attention back to the present can help us step off the hamster wheel. Your life isn’t supposed to look like someone else’s. It’s supposed to become the fullest, most authentic version of your own. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #Comparison #StopComparing #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalAwareness #SocialMedia #SelfWorth #InnerPeace #Gratitude #PersonalGrowth #Mindfulness

    Comparison Is Stealing Your Life—and You Don’t Even Notice It

  3. Aug 5

    Why We Push Away the People We Love—and How to Stop Running From Connection

    Why do we distance ourselves from the very people we want closest to us? In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore how past hurt, fear of abandonment, shame, and the discomfort of vulnerability can cause us to sabotage healthy relationships. We may tell ourselves we’re protecting other people—or protecting ourselves—but often, we’re reacting to old wounds and imagined threats instead of what is actually happening. The conversation examines why calm can feel uncomfortable when you’re accustomed to chaos, how overthinking creates conflict, and why learning to recognize your feelings can change the way you connect with others. The more secure and authentic you become within yourself, the less you need to run, control, or push people away. Real connection begins when you stop treating vulnerability like danger. #MensMentalHealth #Relationships #Vulnerability #FearOfAbandonment #EmotionalHealing #Overthinking #SelfAwareness #HealthyRelationships #PersonalGrowth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    Why We Push Away the People We Love—and How to Stop Running From Connection

  4. Jul 29

    Why Success Never Feels Like Enough—and What You’re Really Searching For

    You reach the goal, earn the promotion, buy the house, or finally get what you’ve been chasing—so why doesn’t it feel like enough? In this episode of Guys Dealings with Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the difference between achievement and purpose. They discuss why accomplishments provide only temporary satisfaction, how attaching your identity to success keeps the goalposts moving, and why fulfillment comes from who you become—not what you collect. They also examine our need for safety, the pressure to constantly achieve, our connection to others and nature, and how healing changes the energy we bring into the world. Achievement isn’t the enemy—but it was never meant to define you. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #PurposeVsAchievement #WhySuccessIsntEnough #FindingPurpose #MensMentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalAwareness #SelfDiscovery #TrueFulfillment #SuccessMindset #HealingJourney #MeaningfulLife #MentalHealthPodcast #MensPodcast

    Why Success Never Feels Like Enough—and What You’re Really Searching For

  5. Jul 22

    If You're Always Waiting for "One Day"... This Episode Is for You

    Most people spend their lives waiting. Waiting for Friday. Waiting for vacation. Waiting until they have more money. Waiting until the next relationship, the next promotion, or the next move to finally feel at peace. But what if the problem isn't where you are? What if it's how you're experiencing your life? In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore why changing your circumstances rarely creates lasting fulfillment—and why the mind you're trying to escape is usually the one that follows you wherever you go. They discuss the surprising relationship between your nervous system, your thoughts, and your emotions, why so many of us mistake overthinking for problem-solving, and how creating inner stability changes the way you experience everything around you. If you've ever found yourself thinking, "Once this changes, I'll finally be happy," this conversation may completely change the way you see your life. In this episode you'll learn:  Why escaping your circumstances rarely brings lasting peace  The difference between changing your environment and changing yourself  How your nervous system shapes your perception of reality  Why overthinking keeps you stuck in the same emotional patterns  The daily habits that create genuine peace instead of temporary relief  How to build a life you're excited to wake up to—not one you're constantly trying to escape The goal isn't to create the perfect life. It's to become the kind of person who can fully experience the life you already have. #MentalHealth #MensMentalHealth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #Healing #SelfAwareness #Overthinking #NervousSystem #Mindfulness #TraumaRecovery #EmotionalResilience #InnerPeace #Podcast

    If You're Always Waiting for "One Day"... This Episode Is for You

  6. Jul 15

    You're Trying to Control the Wrong Things (And It's Costing You Everything)

    Most of us spend our lives trying to control people, relationships, outcomes, finances, careers, and even our emotions. The harder we try, the more exhausted we become. In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore one of the biggest mindset shifts you can make: you control very little—but you influence almost everything. Together, they unpack: Why trying to control life creates anxiety and frustrationThe difference between control and influenceHow your internal state shapes every relationship you haveWhy accountability is the foundation of real freedomHow your nervous system affects the way you experience the worldWhy the energy you bring into a room often determines what comes back to youHow to become the kind of person who naturally influences others without forcing changeIf you've been waiting for life, people, or circumstances to change before you can finally feel at peace, this conversation may completely change the way you think. The greatest influence you'll ever have isn't over other people—it's over the person you become. #MentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #SelfAwareness #EmotionalHealth #Mindset #Healing #Relationships #Influence #Accountability #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfImprovement #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #Podcast #GrowthMindset

    You're Trying to Control the Wrong Things (And It's Costing You Everything)

  7. Jul 8

    You Can't Change What Happened—But You Can Change What Happens Next

    Life can change in an instant. One phone call. A divorce. A diagnosis. Losing someone you love. Losing the future you thought you were going to have. None of us chooses these moments. The real question is: What do we do after they happen? In this episode, Aaron shares the unimaginable loss of his son Joel and the journey that followed—not toward "getting over it," but toward finding meaning, acceptance, and eventually peace. Jason explains why our nervous system naturally resists change, why we become trapped in rumination, and why healing begins when we stop fighting reality and start learning how to work with it. In this conversation, you'll learn: • Why accepting reality is not the same as approving of it • The hidden reason we stay emotionally stuck after loss and trauma • How our thoughts keep us trapped in the past • Why healing isn't about forgetting—it's about changing your relationship with what happened • The role of the nervous system and vagus nerve in emotional recovery • Practical ways to begin moving forward after life changes overnight Whether you're grieving someone you lost, recovering from divorce, facing a career change, or simply struggling with a future you never imagined, this episode offers hope without pretending the pain isn't real. Sometimes healing doesn't begin when life changes. It begins when we stop fighting the fact that it already has. If this episode helped you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share. Every share helps us reach another man who may be silently carrying more than anyone realizes. Stay in the fight. The world is a better place with you in it. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Healing #Acceptance #Grief #TraumaRecovery #MentalHealth #EmotionalHealing #PersonalGrowth #Resilience #Mindset #SelfImprovement #EmotionalAwareness #LifeAfterLoss #VagusNerve

    You Can't Change What Happened—But You Can Change What Happens Next

  8. Jul 1

    Why You Can't Let Go (And the Mindset That Finally Sets You Free)

    What if forgiveness has nothing to do with the person who hurt you? Most of us think forgiveness means excusing someone's behavior, pretending it didn't hurt, or allowing them back into our lives. It doesn't. In this episode, we challenge that belief and explore a different perspective: Forgiveness isn't about setting them free—it's about setting yourself free. Aaron shares how years of resentment, trauma, and the loss of his son shaped his understanding of forgiveness, while Jason explains why our nervous system keeps replaying old wounds and why letting go is less about thinking differently and more about learning to release what we're carrying. We discuss: • Why resentment feels like protection—but becomes a prison  • The difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, and healthy boundaries  • Why your nervous system keeps replaying painful memories  • How gratitude can help transform even life's hardest experiences  • Why "letting go" is a skill—not a personality trait  • The hidden emotional cost of carrying old pain  • How to stop reliving the past without pretending it never happened If you've been holding onto anger, betrayal, guilt, or regret, this conversation isn't asking you to excuse what happened. It's inviting you to stop carrying it. Because sometimes the greatest act of courage isn't getting even. It's deciding your peace matters more than your resentment. If this episode resonates with you, please Like, Subscribe, and Share. Every share helps us reach another man who may be silently carrying more than anyone realizes. Stay in the fight. The world is a better place with you in it. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #MensMentalHealth #Forgiveness #Healing #TraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealth #Resentment #LettingGo #MentalHealth #SelfGrowth #Mindset #EmotionalAwareness #PersonalDevelopment #InnerPeace #Podcast

    Why You Can't Let Go (And the Mindset That Finally Sets You Free)
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For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not. Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language. Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness. Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.

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  • Creator
    Aaron
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Guys Dealings with Feelings
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