Guys Dealings with Feelings

Aaron
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For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not. Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language. Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness. Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.

  1. 4d ago

    The Clancy Trial: The Hardest Time to Show Compassion May Be When It Matters Most

    Can we show compassion in the face of something horrific without excusing what happened? In this full-length episode of Guys Dealings with Feelings, Aaron and Jason discuss the Lindsay Clancy case and the difficult questions it raises about grief, mental illness, accountability, and our willingness to understand pain we haven’t lived. Drawing on his own experience of losing a child, Aaron shares why compassion isn’t the same as approval—and why acknowledging what we don’t understand can change how we respond to tragedy. Jason brings a therapist’s perspective to suffering, emotional awareness, and the possibility of holding people accountable while still treating them humanely. Together, they explore why judgment can come more easily than understanding, what our strongest reactions might reveal about our own pain, and how we can turn our attention toward protecting children and preventing another tragedy. This isn’t about choosing a side or deciding a verdict. It’s about asking what actually helps—and whether the hardest moments to show compassion are the ones when it matters most. If this conversation resonates, like, follow, and share to help us reach more people. Join the conversation: What does compassion without abandoning accountability look like to you? Content note: Discussion of child death, suicide, and severe mental illness. #ClancyTrial #LindsayClancy #Compassion #Accountability #MentalHealthAwareness #PostpartumMentalHealth #Grief #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalAwareness #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    The Clancy Trial: The Hardest Time to Show Compassion May Be When It Matters Most

  2. Sep 2

    Money Anxiety: Why “Enough” Never Feels Like Enough

    Money is supposed to provide security—but what happens when no amount ever makes us feel secure? In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore why money has so much power over our emotions, how financial pressure affects the nervous system, and why many men connect their income with their identity, value, and ability to provide. They discuss the difference between having a real financial problem and living with constant financial anxiety, how comparison and lifestyle expectations keep moving the finish line, and what we sacrifice while waiting to finally have “enough.” Money matters—but financial security and feeling secure are not always the same thing. If your family’s needs were permanently covered, but nobody could see your wealth, would you live differently? Your answer may reveal whether you’re chasing security—or validation. If this conversation speaks to you, please like, follow, comment, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Hashtags: #MoneyAnxiety #FinancialStress #MensMentalHealth #MoneyAndMentalHealth #SelfWorth #FinancialPressure #NervousSystem #EmotionalHealth #MensHealth #MoneyMindset #MentalHealthPodcast #PersonalGrowth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    Money Anxiety: Why “Enough” Never Feels Like Enough

  3. Aug 26

    AI May Take Your Job—But Fear Is Already Taking Your Life

    Artificial intelligence is advancing fast—and depending on who you listen to, it will either transform our lives, eliminate millions of jobs, or eventually make humans obsolete. But how much of that fear is based on reality, and how much is being amplified to capture our attention? In this full episode, Aaron and Jason discuss the uncertainty surrounding AI, the legitimate concerns about job displacement, and why the nonstop predictions are creating so much anxiety—especially for younger adults preparing to enter the workforce. They explore how corporations and the media profit from fear, why we become addicted to consuming frightening information, and what happens when our identity and sense of security are tied to our careers. More importantly, they explain how strengthening your attention, grounding yourself in the present, and building a deeper relationship with yourself can help you face an uncertain future without allowing it to consume your life. AI may change your job. It may change the economy. It may change the world. But worrying about every possible outcome will not prepare you for what comes next. You cannot worry yourself into a safer future. You can only strengthen the ground you’re standing on today. If this episode speaks to you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who is anxious about what AI could mean for their future. #ArtificialIntelligence #AI #FutureOfWork #JobLoss #Anxiety #Fear #MensMentalHealth #MentalHealth #Mindfulness #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    AI May Take Your Job—But Fear Is Already Taking Your Life

  4. Aug 19

    You’re Not Overthinking—You’ve Lost Control of Your Attention

    Why does your mind replay the same conversation, decision, mistake, or painful experience over and over—even when thinking about it isn’t getting you anywhere? In this full episode, Aaron and Jason take a deeper look at overthinking and explain why the problem may not be your thoughts themselves, but where your attention becomes trapped. They discuss how trauma, anxiety, fear, expectations, and unprocessed emotions can keep us stuck in the past or worried about the future. They also explore why we delay decisions, look for happiness in money and possessions, and struggle to remain present in our relationships. Most importantly, they explain how meditation, self-awareness, and intentional action can help us regain control of our attention and find greater clarity. You don’t have to know every possible outcome before making a move. Sometimes clarity doesn’t come before action—it comes because you finally acted. If this conversation speaks to you, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who may need to hear it. #Overthinking #Anxiety #MentalHealth #MensMentalHealth #TraumaHealing #SelfAwareness #Mindfulness #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    You’re Not Overthinking—You’ve Lost Control of Your Attention

  5. Aug 12

    Comparison Is Stealing Your Life—and You Don’t Even Notice It

    We’ve never had more access to other people’s lives—and we’ve never felt more behind. Every time we open our phones, we see someone making more money, getting in better shape, taking better vacations, or seemingly living a happier life. But we’re comparing the full reality of our lives to a carefully edited version of theirs. In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore why comparison creates envy, steals our gratitude, and keeps us chasing goals that never deliver the peace we expected. They discuss the voice in our heads that constantly tells us we need more, why the finish line keeps moving, and how bringing our attention back to the present can help us step off the hamster wheel. Your life isn’t supposed to look like someone else’s. It’s supposed to become the fullest, most authentic version of your own. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #Comparison #StopComparing #MensMentalHealth #EmotionalAwareness #SocialMedia #SelfWorth #InnerPeace #Gratitude #PersonalGrowth #Mindfulness

    Comparison Is Stealing Your Life—and You Don’t Even Notice It

  6. Aug 5

    Why We Push Away the People We Love—and How to Stop Running From Connection

    Why do we distance ourselves from the very people we want closest to us? In this episode of Guys Dealings With Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore how past hurt, fear of abandonment, shame, and the discomfort of vulnerability can cause us to sabotage healthy relationships. We may tell ourselves we’re protecting other people—or protecting ourselves—but often, we’re reacting to old wounds and imagined threats instead of what is actually happening. The conversation examines why calm can feel uncomfortable when you’re accustomed to chaos, how overthinking creates conflict, and why learning to recognize your feelings can change the way you connect with others. The more secure and authentic you become within yourself, the less you need to run, control, or push people away. Real connection begins when you stop treating vulnerability like danger. #MensMentalHealth #Relationships #Vulnerability #FearOfAbandonment #EmotionalHealing #Overthinking #SelfAwareness #HealthyRelationships #PersonalGrowth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings

    Why We Push Away the People We Love—and How to Stop Running From Connection

  7. Jul 29

    Why Success Never Feels Like Enough—and What You’re Really Searching For

    You reach the goal, earn the promotion, buy the house, or finally get what you’ve been chasing—so why doesn’t it feel like enough? In this episode of Guys Dealings with Feelings, Aaron and Jason explore the difference between achievement and purpose. They discuss why accomplishments provide only temporary satisfaction, how attaching your identity to success keeps the goalposts moving, and why fulfillment comes from who you become—not what you collect. They also examine our need for safety, the pressure to constantly achieve, our connection to others and nature, and how healing changes the energy we bring into the world. Achievement isn’t the enemy—but it was never meant to define you. #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #PurposeVsAchievement #WhySuccessIsntEnough #FindingPurpose #MensMentalHealth #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalAwareness #SelfDiscovery #TrueFulfillment #SuccessMindset #HealingJourney #MeaningfulLife #MentalHealthPodcast #MensPodcast

    Why Success Never Feels Like Enough—and What You’re Really Searching For

  8. Jul 22

    If You're Always Waiting for "One Day"... This Episode Is for You

    Most people spend their lives waiting. Waiting for Friday. Waiting for vacation. Waiting until they have more money. Waiting until the next relationship, the next promotion, or the next move to finally feel at peace. But what if the problem isn't where you are? What if it's how you're experiencing your life? In this episode, Aaron and Jason explore why changing your circumstances rarely creates lasting fulfillment—and why the mind you're trying to escape is usually the one that follows you wherever you go. They discuss the surprising relationship between your nervous system, your thoughts, and your emotions, why so many of us mistake overthinking for problem-solving, and how creating inner stability changes the way you experience everything around you. If you've ever found yourself thinking, "Once this changes, I'll finally be happy," this conversation may completely change the way you see your life. In this episode you'll learn:  Why escaping your circumstances rarely brings lasting peace  The difference between changing your environment and changing yourself  How your nervous system shapes your perception of reality  Why overthinking keeps you stuck in the same emotional patterns  The daily habits that create genuine peace instead of temporary relief  How to build a life you're excited to wake up to—not one you're constantly trying to escape The goal isn't to create the perfect life. It's to become the kind of person who can fully experience the life you already have. #MentalHealth #MensMentalHealth #GuysDealingsWithFeelings #EmotionalHealth #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #Healing #SelfAwareness #Overthinking #NervousSystem #Mindfulness #TraumaRecovery #EmotionalResilience #InnerPeace #Podcast

    If You're Always Waiting for "One Day"... This Episode Is for You
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For men who say "I'm fine" when they're not. Guys Dealings With Feelings is a podcast about what men actually carry — anger, grief, shutdown, the things they don't say out loud. Aaron Gray, who lost his infant son Joel in 2012, hosts with his childhood friend Jason, a therapist with 18 years of clinical experience. One of them has lived it. The other knows the language. Together they talk about identity, trauma, presence, being a man, and what it takes to feel anything again — without judgment or performative toughness. Also searchable as Guys Dealing With Feelings.

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  • Creator
    Aaron
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    74
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 Guys Dealings with Feelings
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