F**K ANXIETY: For High Functioning Women Ready to Heal Anxiety with Hypnotherapy

Sari Cowsert Intuitive Hypnotherapist
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F**K Anxiety is a podcast for the woman who looks completely fine on the outside. She shows up for everyone. She holds it all together. She answers “I’m good” on autopilot. But inside, she’s white-knuckling every single day. Overthinking everything. Waiting for the next panic attack. Controlling her schedule, her relationships, and every outcome she can get her hands on — just to feel okay. That’s high-functioning anxiety. And most women living with it have never heard those words applied to them. This podcast exists for her. F**K Anxiety explores the real root of anxiety in women — the fear that got pushed down, the control that took over, and the nervous system that never learned it was safe to rest. Through honest conversations, real-life stories, and practical tools, each episode helps you understand: •  Why overthinking, panic attacks, and the need to control everything are connected •  How high-functioning anxiety shows up in mothers, women, and high-achievers •  What nervous system regulation actually looks like in real life •  How to interrupt anxiety in real time — not just manage it •  What it takes to stop letting fear run the show Hosted by Sari Cowsert — a mother, intuitive hypnotherapist, and someone who has lived this pattern firsthand. This podcast is for women who are exhausted from pretending they’re fine — and ready to understand what’s actually happening inside them. Because when a woman learns how to understand her anxiety instead of suppressing it… She doesn’t just change her own life. She changes the emotional inheritance of her daughters. 

  1. 1d ago

    Ep.82 Demons In Your Choir | When You Become Your Own Worst Enemy

    Send us Fan Mail If the "you're not enough" voice still shows up every time you're about to launch, create, or be seen, this episode is for you. You can't read the label on the jar from inside the jar, and neither could I this week. EPISODE SUMMARY This week is a personal one. I'm telling you about a concert that cracked me wide open, and the very next day, the subconscious programs that tried to convince me none of it was real. If you've ever felt a voice in your head telling you that what you're building won't work, that you're not enough, or that you're not worthy the second you try to create something meaningful, you already know exactly what I'm talking about. Based off a recent concert I went to for The Red Clay Strays, I call these voices the Demons in Your Choir, and they get loudest right when you're about to launch, share, or be seen. This episode walks through what happened on a long car ride home when I couldn't access the awe I'd felt just hours earlier, why the company you keep, including the voices in your own head, shapes the frequency you're actually living in, and why the goal was never to silence these thoughts forever. It's to stop staying seated with them. If you've been advocating for yourself alone for a long time with no one else in your corner, this one's for you too. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why subconscious fear voices get loudest right before you launch, create, or put yourself out thereThe difference between silencing your fears and actually quieting them at the rootWhy "demons in your choir" is such an accurate description of the thoughts that convince you you're not enoughHow the company you keep, including your own inner voice, shapes the frequency you're living inWhy you don't need a dramatic breakthrough thought, just a slightly better feeling oneWhy feeling your emotions instead of bypassing them is part of healing, not a setbackWhat to do when you've mostly had to be your own advocate, with no one coming to pull you outREFLECTION What are the demons in your choir? What thoughts or fears take over right when you're about to do something that matters?If those thoughts quieted down even a little, what song would you want your mind to sing instead?Who has actually been advocating for you? Has it mostly just been you?WORK WITH SARI If you're ready for someone to help you see what you can't see from inside the jar, this is where we start. Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS 00:02 — the Red Clay Strays concert that had Sari in all her feels  02:29 — Naming the demons in your choir, the loud voices that don't actually belong to you  04:11 — The lead singer's raw, ferocious performance and the frequency in the room  07:02 — Go listen to Red Clay Strays, and the irony of what happened the very next day  09:23 — What the song "Demons in Your Choir" actually means  11:38 — Wanting to be pulled from the fire, and why Sari became a hypnotherapist  14:08 — How the people around you shape the thoughts you create in your own mind  14:55 — Why there was never really anyone there to save her, and learning to advocate for herself  16:47 — We all have demons in our choir, and what happens if you let them take hold  17:47 — Reaching for a slightly better feeling thought instead of forcing a huge shift  20:05 — What are the demons in your choir, and what are they costing you day to day  21:24 — The work Sari does in 1:1 sessions: identifying and quieting the demons at the root  22:46 — Closing reflection: what song would you want your mind to sing instead 5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  2. Sep 27

    Ep.81 Self Sabotage and Control: Why Breaking It Yourself Feels Safer Than Waiting

    Send us Fan Mail Are you still thinking, acting, and behaving from the fear? If you've done the work, you know the tools, and something still keeps pulling you back and you can't figure out why, this episode is for you.  EPISODE SUMMARY This week is a personal one. I'm walking you through my process in real time, the exact fear I caught myself in while sitting down to record this episode. Not my old anxiety or panic attacks, not my fear of death or being alone. This time it's my fear about the podcast itself, whether it's reaching people, whether I'm doing the marketing right, whether I even have a purpose if people don't show up. If you've ever noticed that the thing you want most just never actually shows up no matter how hard you try, this is why. You cannot think, act, and behave from fear and expect to create the life of the version of you who already has it. They are mutually exclusive. I walk through the exact formula I use to catch myself mid-fear, using betrayal as an example of how one fear can quietly run every relationship and every day you show up bracing for the other shoe to drop. Awareness isn't a one time fix. It's a practice. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why the thing you actually want most never shows up, no matter how hard you tryWhy you can't create the life you want from the version of you that's still living in fearHow to catch yourself proving your fears right, and why we doubt our faith but never doubt our doubtsHow every fear, big or small, carries its own vibration that dictates how you show up, using betrayal as the exampleWhy awareness has to become a daily practice, not a one time fixThe Marianne Williamson line that reframes what fear is actually protecting you fromWhat real change actually looks like, and why it's never a straight lineREFLECTION What is the fear you've been holding onto right now, and how do you think, act, and behave when you're in it?If you were no longer defined by this fear, who could you become?WORK WITH SARI If you're ready for someone to help you see what you can't see from inside the jar, this is where we start. The Self-Love Chamber is October 3rd & 4th. Only 20 seats, capped intentionally so it stays intimate, and a few are already gone. Sign Up for The Self-Love Chamber → ($47, only 20 spots) Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS  02:42 — Are you aware of your thinking, your actions, your behavior when fear takes over  05:01 — Why Sari left hairstyling after 17 years to become a hypnotherapist  07:26 — The ripple effect: why Sari wants this podcast to reach more women  08:49 — Noticing what fear has actually been doing, using her own podcast anxiety as the example  10:03 — The core idea: you can't create what you want from the version of you still in fear  12:25 — What is the fear you've been holding onto, and how do you think, act, and behave in it  13:00 — Fear disguised as problem solving, and why she had to witness herself  15:02 — The betrayal example: bracing, testing people, waiting for the other shoe to drop  17:03 — The Marianne Williamson quote, and why the fear is that we're powerful beyond measure  19:11 — Bringing it back down to earth: body image and tugging at your clothes  20:47 — Change is not easy, it's a constant pivot, 100% up and down  22:51 — Why the Self-Love Chamber is capped at 20 women, and what happens in the hot seats  24:47 — What is the cost of not showing up, and who could you become 5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  3. Sep 20

    Ep.80 Fear Running Your Life: Realizing I Had Missed Years of my Daughter's Life.

    Send us Fan Mail This week I'm talking about fear, and how it doesn't just show up as panic or a racing heart. Sometimes it shows up quieter than that. Fear is the blinders. It is the belief that good things are luck, not something you're allowed to expect. It is the side door you keep looking for, out of your own life. I use the image of a horse wearing blinders. These blinders, can only see what's directly in front of it, worst case scenario included, while a full 365 degree view of its life goes on completely unseen around it. That's what fear does. It installs itself early, sometimes in childhood, and it becomes the operating system running everything, scanning for what could go wrong, what needs to be controlled, what needs to be braced for. And most of us don't even know it's there, because it's the only life we've ever known. I share the exact moment mine started to lift. A regular Saturday morning, coming out of meditation, walking into the kitchen, and truly seeing my daughter's face for what felt like the first time in years. And what that moment taught me about presence, awe, and the difference between a life run by fear and a life you actually get to feel. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why fear narrows your view to one outcome, usually the worst one, and how much of your actual life that blinds you toHow fear gets installed early, often in childhood, and becomes an "operating system" instead of a passing feelingWhy so many high-functioning women don't even realize how small their world has gottenThe difference between saying an affirmation and actually feeling it, and why one works and the other doesn'tWhy real change usually starts in desperation, not inspirationWhat actually happened the morning the blinders started coming off for SariA different way to think about awe, presence, and what some people call GodREFLECTION If you're honest with yourself, what percentage of your life do you feel like you're actually seeing right now?What has fear cost you in terms of presence with the people you love most?WORK WITH SARI The Self-Love Chamber is happening October 3rd & 4th. An intimate room, capped at just 20 women, where we get hot seated into what's actually driving our change. What is fear costing you? Sign Up for The Self-Love Chamber → ($47, only 20 spots) If the timing isn't right for the Chamber, start here tonight instead. Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS 00:01 —  the question underneath the whole episode: are you looking for the side door out of your own life?  00:57 — Do you think good things happening to you are just luck? Introducing the 365 degree panoramic view and the blinders metaphor  03:06 — What blinders actually block: not just the sides, but above, below, and behind you. Fear narrows you to one outcome, usually the worst one  04:05 — Sari's own story of waking up every day with dread, certain nothing would go right, always looking for a distraction  05:22 — The haunted mansion side door metaphor, and fear becoming the actual operating system running her life  06:10 — The Trojan horse metaphor: once fear gets in, it only scans for what can go wrong  07:04 — How this operating system gets installed early, often in childhood, and starts to feel like "just how life is"  07:44 — Why so many high-functioning women don't realize how small their world has become, and the Four Agreements idea of being domesticated in fear  09:27 — High-functioning doesn't mean it's good. It means the nervous system found a way to survive  09:50 — Fear spreads like a virus, quietly running scans on everything without you noticing  10:17 — The question that changed everything: "is this all there is?" And why affirmations without real emotion behind them don't actually work  12:10 — Real change usually starts in desperation for something different, not inspiration  12:59 — The story: coming out of meditation on a Saturday morning and truly seeing her daughter's face for the first time in years  14:12 — What the blinders had actually been costing her: presence with the people she loves most. Introducing the book Endless Light and reframing God as an experience  16:40 — To be in awe is to experience that connection. Choosing between a reality of fear and a reality of presence  18:31 — It's not about never feeling fear again, it's about choosing what you want more of. What's driving Sari's own change: her daughters  20:09 — What's driving you, if it's not your kids? An invitation to the Self-Love Chamber, October 3rd & 4th  22:50 — Reflection: can you remember a moment of real awe, and what was happening in it?  23:03 — Reflection: what has fear cost you in terms of presence with the people you love most?  5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  4. Sep 13

    Ep.79 Nervous System Regulation: What I Taught My Daughter During Her First Panic Attack

    Send us Fan Mail Your anxiety, Your Panic Attacks, Your Fear....It started with one moment nobody helped you understand, and it is not too late to go back and give it a new ending. EPISODE SUMMARY This week I'm telling you about the night my 10 year old daughter had her first panic attack, and what I watched happen over the next four nights taught me more about how anxiety actually forms than almost anything else has. One new, unfamiliar sensation in her body. That's all it took. Her brain didn't know what it was, so it flagged it as danger. And by night three, the fear wasn't even about the original thing anymore, it was about the fear of the fear. That's how fast one experience becomes a prediction, and a prediction becomes an identity. If you've ever wondered why you still overthink, still brace, still control, even after doing "the work," this episode walks you through the exact mechanism, and the exact thing that actually rewires it. Not more analyzing. Evidence. And I'll show you how to go back and give your own nervous system that evidence now, as an adult, even if nobody did it for you then. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why one unfamiliar sensation in the body gets flagged as danger, and how fast that turns into a full blown panic responseThe exact 4-7-8 breathing technique I used to bring my daughter's nervous system out of fight or flight, step by stepWhy the second and third time you feel a fear is actually scarier than the first, even though nothing new is actually happeningHow one experience becomes a prediction, and how a prediction becomes your identity, in as little as three daysWhy "evidence" is what actually rewires the brain, not more analyzing, more worrying, or more willpowerWhat it actually looks like to reparent yourself, starting with the very first scary moment you can rememberWhy you can start giving your nervous system new evidence today, even if nobody did it for you back thenREFLECTION What was the first scary moment that became a lifetime pattern for you?If you could sit with that version of you right now, what would you want her to know?WORK WITH SARI If you're ready to stop collecting insights and actually feel the shift land in your body, this is your next step. Join The Self Love Chamber October 3rd & 4th A Live Hot Seat Event, Where Real Change Manifests! Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS 00:01 — Welcome back, and the story Sari wants to share about her 10 year old daughter  00:23 — The question underneath the whole episode: the first time fear took over your body, and who was there to help you through it  02:31 — Setting the scene: her daughter's first panic attack, waking up in the night convinced she needed to throw up  04:45 — How Sari and her husband stayed calm and told her, "your body is intelligent"  07:06 — Teaching her daughter the 4-7-8 breath, step by step, including the straw trick to slow the exhale  09:12 — Night four: the fear returns each night until real, lived evidence finally lands  11:14 — Breaking it down: her body did something new, and her brain called it dangerous  12:52 — What her daughter actually learned that night: I'm safe, my body knows what to do, someone is here  13:27 — How one experience becomes a prediction, and a prediction becomes an identity, in three nights  15:16 — Sari's own childhood story: the fear of choking, the glass of milk, and why she couldn't swallow pills for years  17:12 — Living inside a story that started with one moment nobody helped you understand  19:22 — We can't protect our kids from everything, but we can equip them with tools  20:14 — It's not too late to reparent yourself: going back to your own first scary moment and giving it a new story  20:46 — What reparenting actually looks like, and the invitation to book a Freedom Roadmap Session  23:16 — Reflection: what would change if you stopped predicting danger based on old experiences  5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  5. Sep 6

    Ep.78 Still Triggered After Years of Healing | The Subconscious Loop No One Talks About

    Send us Fan Mail If something small goes wrong and you're already contracted, and stressed out, this episode is for you. Your brain isn't broken. It's just been trained to believe every doubt without question, and never question your hope. EPISODE SUMMARY This episode starts with Sari's microphone breaking, a week's worth of pre-recorded episodes ruined, and nothing ready to release. The old version of her would have spiraled straight into worst-case scenario thinking. Instead she caught it. That's the whole episode: why our brains jump from "something went wrong" to full disaster mode, even over small things, and why we question our hope, our faith, our dreams constantly, but almost never question our doubt. We just believe it. Sari breaks down two real examples, her own mic crisis and her husband losing his job last summer, to show how the same circumstance can be met with trust or with fear, and why unaddressed fear just keeps looping. She also gets honest about how addicted we've become to the drama of disaster, using a celebration of life she recently attended as proof. If you've caught yourself catastrophizing before you even have the facts, or you're realizing how rarely you question the doubt itself, this one's going to shift something. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why your brain jumps to worst-case scenario the moment something goes wrong, big or smallWhy we constantly question our hope and our dreams, but almost never question our doubtThe real difference between the same hard circumstance met with trust versus met with fearWhy unresolved fear just keeps looping until you deal with it at the rootHow addicted we've become to the drama of disaster, and why that's not a personal failureWhy control is actually a sign you're trusting yourself instead of something bigger than youHow to start questioning a doubt the same way you'd question a dreamREFLECTION Think of the last time something went wrong. Did you go straight to worst-case scenario? What did that sound like in your head? And what's one doubt you're carrying right now that you've never actually challenged? WORK WITH SARI If you're already bracing for the worst before you even have the facts, start here tonight. Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS  00:02 — Sari's microphone breaks and a week of pre-recorded episodes turn out unusable, and what almost happened next  02:07 — The pattern underneath it: we question our hope and our faith constantly, but we never question our doubt  02:55 — What if the story you're telling yourself about how bad this is going to be isn't even true  05:07 — The real timeline, recording this three days before it airs, and choosing not to panic about it  05:46 — Reframing the new microphone as an overdue upgrade instead of a disaster  06:35 — What the brain actually does the moment something goes wrong: it jumps straight to worst-case scenario  08:08 — Why we're almost addicted to the drama of disaster, and two real examples: the podcast crisis and her husband losing his job  10:24 — Same circumstance, two different lenses: trust versus fear, and why unaddressed fear keeps looping  11:46 — The real question: do you actually want to feel worried, or do you want to feel trust and peace  13:30 — The celebration of life story: choosing to talk about the drama instead of the beauty of it  17:03 — Why our conversations and relationships get built around complaint, and how that's conditioning, not truth  18:55 — Her friend Nikki Dean's line: we doubt our faith, but we never doubt our doubts  19:58 — Your doubts are not facts, they're stories, and fear creates illusions to try to protect you  21:12 — What thirteen years of panic attacks taught her: the worst case scenario she feared never actually happened  22:55 — Announcing the Self-Love Chamber, a live hot-seat event October 3rd and 4th  5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  6. Aug 30

    Ep.77 Mom Guilt and Lost Identity: How to Start Choosing You Again

    Send us Fan Mail If you feel like you've built a good life, but you can't remember the last time something actually excited you, this episode is for you. And if someone asked you right now what you want for your own birthday and you genuinely couldn't answer, that's exactly who this is for too. You're not broken. You've just been trading away little pieces of yourself for so long you stopped noticing. EPISODE SUMMARY  This episode starts with one line Sari couldn't shake: "I do what I do because I like doing it." A quote from Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic that stopped her mid-thought and made her ask, of every single thing in her life, do I actually like this, or am I just doing what I'm supposed to do? For high-functioning women, moms, wives, business owners, that question can feel foreign. Somewhere between the roles and the responsibilities, excitement quietly got replaced with obligation, one "should" at a time. This isn't about something being clinically wrong with you. Sari unpacks why that matters for anxiety specifically: anxiety thrives in a life with no room for joy, for desire, for play. She shares her own moment of realizing she wasn't excited about anything, the story of turning down a day she genuinely wanted (and needing someone to basically convince her she deserved it), and why not knowing what lights you up isn't a dead end. It's feedback. If you've done the healing work, feel calmer than you used to, and still feel like something's missing, this one's going to name it. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why "I do what I do because I like doing it" feels foreign to most high-achieving womenHow overthinking and control can quietly replace your own excitement with obligationWhy anxiety is fertile in a life with no room for joy, desire, or playThe difference between being productive and actually being excitedHow you lose yourself one "should" at a time, not all at onceWhy not knowing what you like anymore is information, not a failureWhat a hypnotherapy discovery journey uncovers when you don't know what you wantREFLECTION  How much of your day is built around what you're supposed to do versus what you actually want to do? If someone asked you right now, not as a mom, not as a wife, not as the one who holds it all together, but just as you, what do you actually want, could you answer? WORK WITH SARI  If you've done the work, know the tools, and something is still pulling you back into a life that isn't fully yours, this is exactly where we start. Grab the Free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset → Book Your Freedom Roadmap Session → You made it here, and that means something. TIMESTAMPS  01:48 — Sari's own confession: recently saying out loud, "I'm not excited about anything," and what a life of ease was hiding  03:33 — The gut-check: evaluating everything in her life against "am I doing this because I like doing it"  04:07 — Why she does this podcast, and the difference between liking journaling and liking what journaling gives her  05:16 — The agreement she and her husband made about not becoming slaves to their kids' activities, and the gymnastics years that broke it  07:42 — Reframing parenting: loving your kids and still getting to love your own life, and what that models for them  08:36 — The radically honest question: how much of your day is actually chosen versus obligated  09:22 — How we lose ourselves one "should" at a time, not in one dramatic moment  10:49 — Who actually decided what you're "supposed to" do, and where that script came from  11:37 — The wake surfing story: turning down a day she wanted, out of guilt she didn't examine  13:31 — Anxiety as fertile ground in a life with no room for joy, desire, or play  15:06 — Why not being able to answer "what excites you" is feedback, not a dead end  17:06 — Permission doesn't require it to be big, profitable, or impressive, plus what a discovery journey is and how hypnosis helps you find what you actually want 5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  7. Aug 23

    Ep.76 PCOS and Anxiety: Why No Doctor Ever Explained This to Me

    Send us Fan Mail If you've been to every doctor, gotten every test, and still no one has connected the dots between what you're eating and the panic attacks you're having, this episode is for you. You're not broken, your blood sugar might be driving the bus. EPISODE SUMMARY  Sari gets real about the daily pattern that was quietly feeding her panic attacks for years: no breakfast, a punishing workout on empty, hours without eating, then whatever was easiest to grab. After being diagnosed with PCOS and learning she was insulin resistant, she started connecting symptoms she'd always chalked up to anxiety. The lightheaded, dizzy, shaky, heart racing, and so much more. Something no doctor had ever mentioned before: blood sugar. This episode breaks down how blood sugar symptoms and anxiety symptoms can look nearly identical, why that overlap kept her stuck in a cycle no doctor was catching, and the one shift that reduced her panic attacks by roughly 30%, without medication. If you've done the doctors, the tests, the medications, and you're still wondering why nothing's changing, this might be the missing piece nobody handed you. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why blood sugar symptoms and anxiety or panic attack symptoms can look almost identicalHow skipping meals and running on caffeine can quietly trigger panic attacks that feel like they come out of nowhereWhy insulin resistance and PCOS make blood sugar regulation even harder, and how that connects to anxietyThe one food habit that helped reduce Sari's panic attacks by about 30%, without medicationWhy doctors so often medicate the symptom instead of asking what you're eatingHow self-research and self-advocacy became the real turning point, not another prescriptionWhat it means to take your power back from anxiety, one small, doable choice at a timeREFLECTION  What did you eat today? When was your last meal, and how long did you go without eating in between? Have you ever noticed your anxiety or panic attacks get worse when you haven't eaten? If changing what you eat could reduce your panic attacks by even 20 or 30 percent, would you be willing to try it? Work With Sari If anxiety feels like it comes out of nowhere and you're exhausted from bracing for the next crash, grab the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset. Something that actually helps tonight. And if you're the woman who's already done the research, tried the things, and is ready to put the full picture together, not just the food, everything, book a free Freedom Roadmap Session. Let's map it out together. You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone. If you made it here, that means something. TIMESTAMPS  00:00: Running out the door on coffee, no breakfast, and wondering why your body falls apart by 2 or 3pm  00:53: The reveal: one change reduced her panic attacks by roughly 30%, no medication involved   02:43: Diagnosed with PCOS, and what insulin resistance actually means for her body  04:02: Thinking it was "just anxiety," and the cycle no doctor ever connected for her  04:55: Why doctors don't ask about diet, and finding a functional doctor who finally did  05:24: Blood sugar symptoms versus anxiety and panic attack symptoms, and how identical they look  06:38: The real trigger behind her panic attacks: blood sugar dropping, not random danger  07:31: The blood sugar rollercoaster: spikes, crashes, and why every crash felt like a panic attack  08:58: Feeling like "a f*****g lunatic," and why the metformin her doctor prescribed made it worse  09:49: Finding the book that connected the dots when no doctor would  11:40: Wanting control back, and why food became the tangible thing she could actually touch  13:34: The non-negotiable rule: protein with every meal and snack  14:58: Cutting the sugary coffee, fueling before and after workouts, and the 30% drop in panic attacks  16:24: Comparing that 30% to how effective most FDA-approved drug studies actually are   19:00: Anxiety as a subconscious operating system, the same way eating patterns are  20:16: Why blood sugar was just the first thing she took back, and where it led her next  5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

  8. Aug 16

    Ep.75 Empath Anxiety | How to Stop Absorbing Other People's Emotions

    Send us Fan Mail  If you walk into a room feeling fine and walk out anxious, heavy, or off with no idea why, this episode is for you. What you've been calling your anxiety might actually be empath anxiety, and it might not even be yours. EPISODE SUMMARY For most of her life, Sari thought her anxiety was entirely her own. Turns out a huge piece of it wasn't. This episode is about empath anxiety: being highly sensitive and absorbing the moods, grief, and stress of the people around you so completely that you lose track of where they end and you begin. Sari walks through her own realization, including a raw, recent moment sitting with grief that wasn't hers to carry, and breaks down why this isn't weakness or drama, it's how some nervous systems are actually wired. She gives you the exact question to ask when a feeling shows up out of nowhere, plus real tools  to let go of what was never yours. If you've spent years managing anxiety that never quite made sense given your actual life, this might be the missing piece. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN Why some anxiety, sadness, or anger isn't actually yours, and how to start telling the differenceThe one question to ask the moment a feeling arrives out of nowhereWhy being highly sensitive or empathic is a nervous system wiring, not a personality flawSimple tools to release energy that isn't yours: grounding, water, and a spoken releaseWhy the people closest to you (partners, kids, roommates) can quietly become your biggest source of absorbed anxietyHow to hold space for someone without absorbing their painREFLECTION Think back to your childhood. Were you always the one who felt everything deeply? What if some of what you've been calling your anxiety wasn't yours at all? What would that give you? If anxiety shows up out of nowhere and you don't know why, grab the free 5-Minute Nervous System Reset. It's the exact tool Sari points to in this episode for releasing what isn't yours, something that actually helps tonight. And if this episode made something click, that "wait, is that why" feeling, book a free Freedom Roadmap Session. Let's figure out what's actually yours to carry, and what you're finally ready to put down. You're not broken. You're not behind. And you're not alone. If you made it here, that means something. TIMESTAMPS  02:27: Realizing absorbed energy isn't yours, and the moment with her daughter's mood at home  04:52: Sitting with her best friend after losing her mom, and almost spiraling into everyone else's grief  06:50: Learning to discern: is this mine? The awareness step, without turning it into a label  08:48: Feelings don't come with a name tag. How absorbed anxiety gets mistaken for your own story  10:39: The key question: how to know if a feeling is actually yours  11:58: Why this has been happening since childhood, and why no one taught you the tools  13:39: What it felt like to finally realize so much of it was never hers, and the tools to release it  16:08: Grounding, hugging a tree, and letting the earth take what isn't yours  18:34: The "gold suit" visualization, and why this sensitivity is also a gift  20:30: Why so much client work is really about untangling carried energy from your own story  22:34: Journaling questions to sit with 5 minute nervous system reset ad for midroll

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F**K Anxiety is a podcast for the woman who looks completely fine on the outside. She shows up for everyone. She holds it all together. She answers “I’m good” on autopilot. But inside, she’s white-knuckling every single day. Overthinking everything. Waiting for the next panic attack. Controlling her schedule, her relationships, and every outcome she can get her hands on — just to feel okay. That’s high-functioning anxiety. And most women living with it have never heard those words applied to them. This podcast exists for her. F**K Anxiety explores the real root of anxiety in women — the fear that got pushed down, the control that took over, and the nervous system that never learned it was safe to rest. Through honest conversations, real-life stories, and practical tools, each episode helps you understand: •  Why overthinking, panic attacks, and the need to control everything are connected •  How high-functioning anxiety shows up in mothers, women, and high-achievers •  What nervous system regulation actually looks like in real life •  How to interrupt anxiety in real time — not just manage it •  What it takes to stop letting fear run the show Hosted by Sari Cowsert — a mother, intuitive hypnotherapist, and someone who has lived this pattern firsthand. This podcast is for women who are exhausted from pretending they’re fine — and ready to understand what’s actually happening inside them. Because when a woman learns how to understand her anxiety instead of suppressing it… She doesn’t just change her own life. She changes the emotional inheritance of her daughters. 

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