Domestic Dad Cleaning Up The Mess | Sobriety, Parenting, Dad, Addiction, Recovery,

Nick Barnett Founder of Domestic Dad Project
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Are you looking for inspiration to start your journey into sobriety and become a better Dad?   Has that hard wired feeling of “suck it up and deal with it”, gotten to a point where you had to sedate the weight of it with something else?   Me too!  Im Nick Barnett, Founder of the domestic dad project,  A brand that strives to create a community that breaks the stigma around dads reaching out for help to get their lives back on track and become better Fathers.    Welcome to The Domestic Dad Podcast, your go-to destination for candid discussions on journeys into sobriety, parenting, and personal growth.   Ive been a dad since I was 18 years old.  Im also a trauma survivor, alcoholic, divorced, happily re-married, proud, hard working, humbled by life domestic Dad.     I remember realizing I was in the pit of addiction when I couldn’t leave the house without planning a stop to grab a few shooters at the gas station before I got home.   Or Making up reasons to go to the grocery store just to make a un-necessary food purchase to bury a bottle of booze or wine in my cart and Stashing “back up bottles” around the house..   Only to wake up in the middle of the night, parched with a glass filled with vodka disguised as water on my night stand to quench my thirst so I could get through the next few hours without getting sick…   Just to get hit with another devastating hangover that left me with debilitating heart burn, bloating, vomiting and shaking so bad that I couldn’t write an email, send a text or complete sentence without stammering over words… all while coming up with reasons in my head that every person in the world was against me and I was the “victim”   Looking back at the way addiction stained my days and nights, stole time from me, my wife, and my kids left me embarrassed and ashamed.    Because of this, I struggled with the pit of mental health issues in some of the darkest ways imaginable.  But I fought my way out.  With the help of community resources, life changing coaches, mentors, pastors and raw will power.     Since then, I’ve embarked on an unbreakable journey into sobriety and life that has changed in some the greatest ways imaginable.  There is not one goal I have set for myself that I haven’t had the confidence to go after, most which I’ve achieved.    Today I feel great when I wake up in the morning, I’m productive with my work, my 40 year old body feels great, I’m present with my family and friends, I sleep through the night, I don’t have the fear of dying from my disease, I no longer doubt my value to my family and I know I have a meaningful future!    My mission here is to share the resources that worked for me, with you! In the form of candid interviews and conversations around journeys into sobriety. But that’s not all – we also tackle the sheer delight and trials of parenting, sharing practical tips, heartfelt anecdotes, and expert advice to help you navigate the wonderful adventure of raising children and being the glue that not only allows your family to survive but more importantly THRIVE!    Because you’re worth it, you have value in this world, there is a bright future for you here, and there is a son or daughter that needs and wants a meaningful relationship with you.   My hope is that you will subscribe to this podcast and that it inspires you to join our growing community!   So grab a mop and let’s start cleaning up the mess! Website: www.domesticdadproject.com  YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project

  1. Sep 14

    Keep Going: Jake Arends on Suicide Loss, Sobriety, Faith, and Fatherhood

    Description KEEP GOING: Jake Arends on Loss, Sobriety, Fatherhood, and Finding Purpose After Suicide In this raw and deeply personal episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Jake Arends to honor the life of Jake’s older brother, Jared, and talk honestly about grief, suicide loss, alcohol, sobriety, faith, fatherhood, and the decision to keep moving forward when life feels impossible. Jake remembers a storybook childhood in Waterloo, Iowa—wrestling, Iowa State football games, summers at Clear Lake, and a tight-knit family built on love, humor, and loyalty. Jared was Jake’s protector, his tormentor in the way only an older brother can be, and a bright, charismatic presence who made people feel seen. But beneath that light, alcohol slowly took hold. Jake describes the progression from social drinking to dependence, isolation, lost opportunities, and the heartbreaking helplessness of watching someone you love become trapped by addiction. When Jared died by suicide, Jake was left carrying grief, anger, guilt, and the endless questions that so often follow this kind of loss. Jake also speaks candidly about his own response. He used alcohol to numb the pain and became emotionally absent from his wife and children. Eventually, he recognized that grief and drinking were stealing moments his family deserved to have with him. He chose sobriety—and has now been alcohol-free for two years. Nick and Jake discuss what it means to lead by example, why children repeat what they see, how a spouse can become a lifeline, and why quitting alcohol does not require waiting for a dramatic rock-bottom moment. They also explore Jake’s growing faith, the assurance that nothing can separate us from the love of God, and the responsibility to turn pain into purpose by helping someone else. This conversation is not only about what Jake lost. It is about what he chose to build afterward: a healthier marriage, a more present relationship with his children, a deeper faith, and a legacy his family can be proud of. If you are grieving, questioning your relationship with alcohol, or struggling to see a path forward, Jake’s message is simple: Take it one day at a time. Ask for help. Remember who needs you. Keep going. Content note: This episode includes honest discussion of suicide, grief, depression, and alcohol addiction. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger or experiencing a suicidal crisis in the United States, call or text 988 to reach the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.   Table of Contents / YouTube Chapters 00:00 – Welcome to Domestic Dad Nick welcomes Jake and explains why sharing Jared’s story matters. 01:18 – A Storybook Childhood Jake remembers growing up in Waterloo, wrestling, family, Clear Lake, and Iowa State football. 03:42 – Jared the Protector Stories about the older brother who picked on Jake but never let anyone else touch him. 05:00 – A Loving, Close-Knit Family Jake describes his parents, the love in their home, and Jared’s willingness to tell people he loved them. 07:06 – Jared’s Charisma and Big Personality Why people were drawn to Jared, his smile, his stories, and the light he brought into a room. 10:33 – When Drinking Became Part of the Story Jake and Nick discuss how normal social drinking can gradually become something more dangerous. 13:57 – Recognizing Jared’s Alcohol Problem Jake begins noticing that Jared is drinking more than everyone around him. 17:42 – Trying to Reach Someone You Love The difficult conversations, letters, and attempts to help without losing sight of the person underneath the addiction. 21:46 – Loss, Numbness, and Escalation How grief and mental health struggles can deepen alcohol dependence. 27:03 – From Wanting a Drink to Needing One Nick explains the physical and emotional cycle of alcohol dependence and the shame it creates. 31:04 – Denial, Stubbornness, and Helplessness What it feels like when everyone sees the problem except the person trapped inside it. 39:49 – “If You Have to Ask…” A direct conversation about recognizing when alcohol has become a real problem. 40:51 – Be Alert and Sober-Minded Faith, spiritual vulnerability, and the ways addiction attacks identity and relationships. 49:17 – The Call That Changed Everything Jake recounts being asked to check on Jared and the devastating moment that followed. 52:37 – The Unique Weight of Suicide Loss Guilt, anger, unanswered questions, and why suicide grief feels different. 55:53 – Jared’s Funeral and the Love Around Him Jake reflects on the support surrounding the family and the painful contrast between Jared’s impact and what he could no longer see. 01:01:27 – Living With Grief How grief changes day to day and continues showing up in unexpected ways. 01:02:22 – Drinking to Cope Jake explains how alcohol became a nightly escape and made him less present with his wife and children. 01:04:22 – Two Years Without Alcohol Jake shares how sobriety gave him back the moments alcohol was stealing. 01:06:28 – The Switch That Changed His Life Choosing to stop drinking, accepting support, and becoming accountable to the people he loves. 01:09:09 – What Your Children See Nick and Jake discuss fatherhood, modeling behavior, and why example matters more than lectures. 01:13:05 – Faith After Loss Jake describes how death, sobriety, prayer, and church drew him closer to God. 01:13:52 – Keep Going The central message of the episode: pain is real, but stopping is not the answer. 01:15:21 – Remember Who You Are A call to remember who you are for your spouse, your children, and the people who depend on you. 01:19:39 – Can Suicide Separate Someone From God? A vulnerable faith conversation about Jared, salvation, grace, and Romans 8. 01:22:57 – Why Domestic Dad Exists Nick explains how Jared’s memory became part of the mission behind the show. 01:24:07 – Turning Pain Into Help Jake talks about advocacy, mental-health support, and using Jared’s story to help others. 01:25:12 – Take It Day by Day Practical encouragement for anyone facing grief, addiction, finances, marriage problems, or despair. 01:28:04 – Rapid-Fire Reflections Jake answers questions about change, sobriety, fatherhood, and what matters now. 01:30:51 – Advice for Someone Considering Sobriety Stop trying to solve forever. Focus on not drinking today and build support around you. 01:36:29 – Keep Going, One More Time Why consistency, accountability, and small wins make sobriety stronger. 01:36:40 – The Biggest Mess Jake Cleaned Up Jake reflects on what has changed most since he stopped drinking. 01:37:38 – The Legacy He Wants to Leave What Jake hopes his children remember and how Jared’s life continues to shape his purpose. 01:41:18 – Choosing a Different Ending Jake explains why sobriety was a decision for his children, family, and future generations. 01:43:21 – God Has a Purpose for You Final encouragement for anyone who cannot yet see the purpose in their pain.   Key Themes and Takeaways Keep Going: You do not have to solve the rest of your life today; take the next right step. Suicide Loss Is Different: Survivors often carry anger, guilt, confusion, and questions that may never receive complete answers. Alcohol Steals Presence: It takes time, clarity, connection, and moments your spouse and children deserve. You Don’t Need a Dramatic Rock Bottom: If alcohol is hurting your life, that is enough reason to stop. Children Follow Examples: Fatherhood is shaped more by what children observe than by what they are told. Support Changes Outcomes: A spouse, counselor, recovery group, church, or trusted friend can become a lifeline. Faith Can Hold the Questions: Grief and doubt do not separate anyone from the love of God. Pain Can Become Purpose: Telling the truth about Jared’s story may help another family choose a different ending. Legacy Is Built Today: The choices made now become the example passed to the next generation.   Why This Episode Matters Jake’s story captures the heart of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess: honest men talking about the pain they usually hide, taking responsibility for the choices they can change, and becoming more present husbands and fathers. This episode honors Jared without reducing him to the way he died. It remembers the brother, husband, friend, storyteller, protector, and bright light people loved. At the same time, it refuses to soften the damage caused by alcohol, isolation, and untreated pain. Most importantly, the conversation gives listeners a next step. Ask for help. Talk to someone. Stop trying to carry everything alone. Make the decision that protects your life and your family today. Your pain can become purpose. Your story is not over. Keep going.   Website: www.domesticdadproject.com Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/domestic-dad-cleaning-up-the-mess-sobriety-parenting/id1732379029 Spotify podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/12eQNKuS1adoNiclmfn3wS Facebook: facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT Instagram: instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project

  2. Mar 9

    From Addiction to Obedience: Keith Jeffries Story of Faith, Redemption, and God's Grace

    In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Keith Jeffries to unpack a story marked by addiction, heartbreak, spiritual awakening, and the life-changing power of surrendering to God.   Keith shares openly about growing up in a loving home that lacked a spiritual foundation, and how his desire for acceptance and belonging led him down a destructive path at an early age. What began with drinking as a teenager quickly escalated into marijuana, prescription pills, heroin, and eventually years of meth addiction. Through his brutally honest reflection, Keith reveals how addiction slowly eroded his relationships, fueled selfish choices, and left him feeling empty despite outward success.   Nick and Keith explore the deep wounds that often live beneath addiction—including father wounds, unresolved anger, and the quiet shame that lingers long after the chaos of substance abuse fades. Keith reflects on the painful realization that the scars addicts leave on others can be some of the hardest burdens to carry in sobriety.   The turning point in Keith’s story came during one of the darkest moments of his life. After years of addiction and the loss of his father, Keith found himself sitting alone with a gun in his hand, ready to end everything. Instead, in a moment he still struggles to fully explain, he fired the gun into the floor—an act that became a permanent reminder of the life he almost lost.   Soon after, Keith attended a men’s event called The Launching Pad in Dallas, Texas, where he experienced a powerful encounter with God that would change everything. In that moment of surrender, the addictions that once controlled him were broken, and Keith began a new journey of faith, obedience, and purpose.   But the journey wasn’t without heartbreak. After five years of infertility, Keith and his wife Kayla experienced the joy of discovering they were pregnant with twins—only to lose both babies to miscarriage weeks later. In one of the most painful seasons of their lives, they made the difficult decision to remain faithful and obedient to God, trusting that He still had a plan for their family.   Today, Keith lives a completely transformed life—devoted to his faith, his marriage, and helping other men find freedom from addiction and hopelessness. His story is a powerful reminder that no matter how far someone believes they have fallen, redemption is always possible.   Through honest conversation, Nick and Keith discuss the role of obedience, the importance of brotherhood and accountability, and the incredible ways God reveals Himself when people choose faith over fear.   This episode is a raw and inspiring testimony that no one is too far gone for grace—and that sometimes the greatest miracles come after the darkest moments.     🧭 The Journey — A Timeline of Redemption   00:00 – Welcome to Domestic Dad Nick introduces the episode and sets the stage for a powerful conversation about addiction, faith, and redemption.   01:06 – Growing Up and Early Trouble Keith reflects on his childhood, growing up in a loving but financially struggling household and the early choices that began shaping his path.   03:31 – School Struggles and Rebellion Teachers knew Keith was smart, but rebellion and lack of motivation kept him from applying himself.   04:48 – Dad Absence and the Void Keith opens up about the emotional impact of his father being gone often for work, and the deep void that absence created.   11:44 – First Job and a Father Figure Working for a local farmer gave Keith mentorship and discipline that he had been missing at home.   13:42 – From Weed to Heroin Experimentation escalates quickly from marijuana to opioids and eventually heroin addiction.   16:59 – Cooking Meth and Losing It All At just nineteen years old, addiction pushes Keith into cooking meth as his life spirals out of control.   21:55 – Relationships and Regret Keith reflects on the damage addiction caused to the people who loved him most.   26:49 – Forgiveness and Staying Sober The conversation turns to the challenge of forgiving yourself and repairing relationships after addiction.   36:20 – Alcohol Spiral and Daily Sickness Keith describes the brutal cycle of alcoholism—waking up sick, drinking again, and living in a constant physical and emotional crash.   44:10 – Breaking Drinking Culture at Home Nick and Keith discuss the cultural glorification of alcohol and the importance of changing that narrative for their children.   49:00 – Rock Bottom Moment Keith shares the night he sat with a gun in his hand, ready to end his life.   51:52 – Empty Success Realized Despite financial stability and outward success, Keith realized his life felt completely empty.   53:58 – Brother’s Playbook Keith reaches out to his brother for help and begins exploring a new path forward.   57:22 – Texas Intensive Begins Keith travels to Dallas for The Launching Pad men’s event, unsure of what to expect.   58:57 – Worship Encounter During worship and prayer, Keith experiences a life-changing encounter with God that breaks his addiction.   01:02:30 – Bringing Men Back Keith now returns to serve other men at the same event, helping others experience the same freedom.   01:10:11 – Infertility and Loss After five years of trying to have children, Keith and his wife experience the joy of pregnancy with twins—followed by the heartbreak of miscarriage.   01:15:55 – Obedience and New Pregnancy Instead of turning back to alcohol, they remain faithful and obedient to God.   01:18:15 – Miracle Timing Stories Keith shares the incredible timing surrounding their new pregnancy and how it connects to conversations about faith and obedience.   01:26:21 – Rapid Fire Reflections Keith answers questions about sobriety, growth, and the biggest accomplishments since turning his life over to Christ.   01:34:01 – Legacy and Final Advice Keith shares what he hopes his child will remember about him—and encourages listeners that no one is too far gone for redemption.       🔥 Key Themes and Takeaways   • No One Is Too Far Gone: Keith went from heroin and meth addiction to leading men to Christ. • The Power of Obedience: blessings often follow faithfulness in the hardest seasons. • Addiction’s Hidden Cost: the deepest wounds addicts carry are often the scars left on others. • Fatherhood and Healing: breaking generational cycles and becoming the father you never had. • Faith Through Grief: trusting God even after losing twins through miscarriage. • Brotherhood and Accountability: how men supporting men creates lasting transformation. • Redemption Story: how one encounter with God can change an entire life trajectory.   🙌 Why This Episode Matters   Keith’s story captures everything Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up the Mess stands for—raw honesty, redemption, and the courage to rebuild after failure.   This episode is a powerful reminder that addiction does not get the final word. Whether someone is battling alcohol, drugs, shame, or hopelessness, there is always another path forward.   Through faith, brotherhood, and obedience, Keith’s life was transformed from destruction to purpose. Today he lives with a mission to help other men break free from the chains he once carried.   His story proves something every father needs to hear:   You are never too far gone for God to restore your life.   faith-based recovery, Christian podcast, addiction recovery, sobriety journey, overcoming addiction, fatherhood and faith, redemption story, Christian testimony, meth addiction recovery, heroin recovery story, alcoholism recovery, faith and obedience, parenting after addiction, healing families, men’s ministry, Launching Pad Dallas, Hope City Church, Waterloo Iowa, Domestic Dad Project, Nick Barnett podcast, inspirational faith story, breaking generational cycles, Christian men’s podcast, testimony of redemption     Website: www.domesticdadproject.com    YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project   Kieth Jeffries on Meta: https://www.facebook.com/keith.jeffries.5   Keith Jeffries on Insta: @jeffrieskeith

  3. 12/15/2025

    The Complexity of Change: How Men and Fathers Actually Grow with Shane Fuller

    In this deeply honest episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Shane Fuller—former pastor, husband, and father of four—for a powerful conversation about the complexity of change and what it truly takes for men and fathers to become who they want to be.   Rather than a dramatic downfall or instant breakthrough, Shane’s story unfolds through layers: childhood influences, faith formation, identity pressure, emotional suppression, and the quiet realization that doing all the “right” things doesn’t always lead to a healthy or fulfilled life. Together, Nick and Shane unpack how discouragement, shame, and unresolved pain often masquerade as anger, addiction, or control—and why most men are trying to fix the wrong problem.   The episode explores how change actually happens: through self-awareness, acceptance, consistency, and small daily decisions—not perfection or willpower. Shane offers compassionate insight into fatherhood, emotional leadership, and how tending to our inner life transforms the way we show up for our spouses and children.   This conversation is for the man who knows something needs to change, feels overwhelmed by where to start, and wants to grow without burning everything down. Shane’s story is a reminder that meaningful change is rarely simple—but it is always possible.   Episode Timeline •00:00 Introduction and Greetings •00:54 Childhood Memories and Family Background •02:49 Moving to Cedar Falls •07:19 First Jobs and Early Interests •13:36 Understanding and Managing Emotions •23:04 The Importance of Self-Awareness •30:44 Navigating Faith and Family •34:55 College and Faith Formation •36:08 Theology and Personal Growth •41:39 Struggles with Pastoring •44:22 Rediscovering Compassion •50:07 Embracing Perspective and Change •56:31 Addressing Hurt and Anger •01:02:50 Practical Steps for Positive Change •01:05:39 The Power of Positive Attention •01:16:07 Small Changes, Big Impact •01:17:21 Overcoming Shame and Self-Doubt •01:18:13 Breaking the Cycle of Negative Beliefs •01:19:19 The Power of Consistency in Parenting •01:34:08 The Joys and Challenges of Fatherhood •01:43:44 Advice for Those Feeling Stuck •01:46:23 Final Thoughts and Farewell   ⸻   Key Themes •Why change for men is complex and often misunderstood •Discouragement, shame, and the roots of anger •Faith beyond performance and pressure •Fatherhood, emotional presence, and leadership at home •Small, consistent changes that reshape families   This episode speaks directly to fathers who feel stuck between who they are and who they want to be—and are ready to understand how real change actually works.   Website | YouTube | Facebook | Instagram | Book Appointment | B2B Meeting Website: www.domesticdadproject.com    YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project   Shanes Website: https://fullercs.com

  4. 10/20/2025

    Failure Isn’t Final: The Redemption Story of Jason Comer

    In one of the most emotional and powerful episodes of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up the Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Jason Comer, a husband, father of five, and living testimony of how God’s grace can turn devastation into destiny.   Jason’s life is a raw reflection of brokenness, rebellion, incarceration, relapse, forgiveness, and divine restoration. This episode traces his complete journey—from a troubled childhood and early substance use, to meth addiction, prison, family separation, and the miraculous road back to sobriety, faith, and fatherhood.   Through tears, laughter, and hard truths, Jason opens up about what it means to be a man redeemed. He shares how Hope City Church, mentorship, and a community of believers gave him the spiritual and emotional tools he never had growing up. His story reveals the brutal reality of addiction—but more importantly, the beauty of God’s redemption story when we finally stop running.   This is more than a story about getting sober. It’s a story about becoming whole, about how God can take the pieces of a shattered life and build something new—something strong enough to lead a family, raise kids with love, and inspire others to believe that no matter how dark the pit, there is always a way out.   If you’re a parent fighting your own battles, a man seeking purpose, or someone walking through the ashes of addiction or shame—this episode will meet you right where you are.   ⸻   🧭 The Journey — A Timeline of Redemption   00:00 – Podcast Introduction and Technical Glitch 00:08 – Guest Introduction and Initial Conversation 01:06 – Jason’s Childhood and Family Background: growing up without consistent structure, navigating ADHD, and early identity struggles. 02:25 – Dealing with ADHD and Early School Experiences: learning challenges and emotional disconnection. 04:13 – Struggles with Authority and Early Rebellions: the seedbed of anger and defiance that would shape his teens. 12:25 – Teenage Years and Substance Use: alcohol, marijuana, and the first taste of escape. 14:25 – Yearning for Connection and Role Models: the father-shaped void that fueled destructive choices. 19:37 – High School Challenges and Moving in with Dad: searching for belonging and the impact of a broken home. 26:23 – Legal Troubles and Incarceration: addiction catches up—arrests, consequences, and a wake-up call. 29:57 – Finding Faith and Mentorship in Jail: discovering the Bible behind bars and realizing God still had a plan. 40:12 – Struggles with Alcohol and Meth: the relapse cycle and the deception of “just one drink.” 40:48 – The Gateway of Alcohol: the door that reopened old chains. 41:58 – Impact on Family and Self: the heartbreak his wife and kids endured as addiction took over. 44:12 – The Turning Point: the night everything fell apart—and God began to rebuild. 48:12 – Meeting My Future Wife: the divine appointment that would change everything. 55:39 – Adoption and Family Life: building a blended home, holding onto hope. 01:05:01 – Relapse and Consequences: the fall after progress and the battle to get back up. 01:19:03 – Repairing Relationships: forgiveness, humility, and doing the real work of restoration. 01:24:49 – Embracing Forgiveness and Love: rediscovering grace through his wife’s unwavering faith. 01:25:53 – Struggles and Poor Decisions: lessons learned in failure. 01:27:20 – A Life-Changing Accident: a moment that shifted everything. 01:30:53 – Rebuilding and Relapse: learning that healing isn’t linear. 01:35:22 – Finding Faith and Community: Hope City, mentorship, and rediscovering purpose through service. 01:43:05 – Family and Personal Growth: thriving in sobriety and watching his children flourish. 01:56:28 – Lessons in Sobriety and Fatherhood: hard-earned wisdom, legacy, and learning to fight from victory, not for it.   ⸻   🔥 Key Themes and Takeaways •Faith Over Failure: How surrendering to God’s will became the foundation for healing. •Fatherhood in Recovery: What it takes to rebuild trust, show up, and lead your family after addiction. •Power of Community: How Hope City Church and mentorship gave Jason and Brie the tools to thrive. •Marriage Restoration: A love story rebuilt on forgiveness, prayer, and obedience. •Generational Healing: Turning pain into purpose and breaking the cycle for the next generation. •Practical Sobriety Lessons: “Stay away from the fence,” “failure isn’t final,” and “change your association.”   ⸻   🙌 Why This Episode Matters   Jason’s story embodies everything Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up the Mess stands for—honesty, redemption, and the power of showing up. This is a masterclass in grace under fire, a guide for any parent trying to rebuild from chaos, and a testament that God restores what the enemy tried to destroy.   By the end, you’ll understand why Jason says, “We didn’t smell like smoke anymore—we smelled like victory.”   ⸻   🎧 Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube to hear how one man turned pain into purpose, addiction into anointing, and fatherhood into a daily act of faith.   ⸻   🕊️ Keywords   faith-based recovery, Christian podcast, addiction recovery, fatherhood, sobriety, redemption, healing families, overcoming meth addiction, recovery journey, domestic dad podcast, Nick Barnett, Hope City Church, Waterloo Iowa, inspirational podcast, testimony, family restoration, relapse and forgiveness, God’s grace, purpose after pain, parenting in recovery   Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/domestic-dad-cleaning-up-the-mess-sobriety-parenting/id1732379029   Spotify podcasts: https://open.spotify.com/show/12eQNKuS1adoNiclmfn3wS   Website: www.domesticdadproject.com    YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project   Jason on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jason.comer.182/

  5. 09/15/2025

    Making Jesus Known: Missions, Miracles, And Family With David Ursin

    In this moving episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up the Mess, Nick sits down with evangelist David Ursin to unpack a life shaped by faith, tested by trials, and transformed by grace.   David grew up in Cedar Falls, Iowa, the son of a Methodist pastor, learning early what it meant to be a “PK.” Yet despite being surrounded by church, he admits he lived in a lukewarm faith—outwardly devoted, but inwardly unsure what true surrender looked like. That all changed at 19, when a simple trip to Memphis opened his eyes to believers on fire for Jesus. In that airport, he made the decision to give God everything—and he never looked back.   David shares how fasting, Bible college, and unexpected mentorship under evangelism legends Reinhard Bonnke and Daniel Kolenda propelled him into global ministry. From learning the foundations of scripture to organizing gospel crusades for tens of thousands in Pakistan and India, David opens up about the miracles, the challenges, and the very real risks that come with preaching in hostile environments—including persecution, terrorist threats, and even moments of radical conversion among those once opposed to the gospel.   But this isn’t just a story of global missions—it’s also one of family. David reflects on meeting his wife Natalia, a widowed mother of two whose husband was tragically murdered. He shares how her radical act of forgiveness just one week after the killing became one of the clearest pictures of Christ he has ever seen. Together, David and Natalia built a family rooted in redemption: he legally adopted her twins earlier this year, giving them his name as their father, and they recently welcomed their first biological daughter, Evangelina, whose birth carries a powerful tie to Romans 1:16.   Throughout the conversation, David and Nick dive deep into themes of faith, forgiveness, and fatherhood. They talk about the challenges of blended families, the responsibility of spiritual leadership in the home, and why spending daily time with Jesus is the only way to lead with strength.   This episode is both inspiring and practical—a reminder that faith isn’t passive, it’s a verb. Whether you’re wrestling with forgiveness, searching for direction, or simply navigating the everyday chaos of parenting, David’s story will encourage you to trust God with everything. 00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome 00:59 David's Early Life and Upbringing 01:56 Struggles with Faith and Youth Group Experiences 04:13 Turning Point: Encounter in Memphis 11:48 Bible College Journey 19:21 Evangelism Training and Mentorship 26:23 Organizing Mass Gospel Events 37:06 Personal Life and Meeting His Wife 41:03 Introduction to Natalia's Story 41:48 The Power of Forgiveness 42:23 A Tragic Murder and Its Aftermath 43:27 Reflections on Forgiveness and Faith 51:02 Challenges of Blended Families 57:59 Adoption and Legal Parenthood 01:00:47 Becoming a Biological Father 01:06:30 Faith and Parenting 01:16:42 Final Thoughts and Advice   YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject   Website: www.domesticdadproject.com    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project   Making Jesus Known Website: www.makingjesusknown.org   David on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evangelistdavidursin/   Donate to Making Jesus Known: https://pushpay.com/g/makingjesusknown?src=hpp

  6. 08/25/2025

    Trust God Bro: Jordan Finger AKA Jay The Barber's Road to Restoration

    In one of the most powerful testimonies ever shared on Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up the Mess, Nick Barnett sits down with Jay—a father, barber, and man radically transformed by the grace of God—to tell a story that is nothing short of miraculous.   Jay’s journey begins in the thick of childhood instability and relational chaos, navigating life without the tools or truth he desperately needed. Like many men, he sought identity in all the wrong places: the streets, lust, broken relationships, and worldly validation. But the enemy’s lies only led him deeper into confusion, shame, and emotional devastation. A custody battle, trust issues, and even suicidal thoughts drove Jay to the edge.   But it was in the dirt, in the very place he thought was his lowest point, that God began to move. With unmatched vulnerability and boldness, Jay recounts the moment he gave his life to Christ—how God didn’t wait for him to be perfect, polished, or prepared. He met Jay right where he was: in the pain, in the questions, in the mess.   This episode is a front-row seat to the supernatural transformation of a man who learned that true healing comes through surrender, obedience, and intimacy with the Father. Jay speaks about the holy impact of his baptism, the way daily devotion is reshaping his mind, and how God is now using his barbershop as sacred ground for ministry—turning haircuts into holy encounters.   What you’ll hear is not self-help. It’s not behavior modification. It’s regeneration through the Holy Spirit. Jay’s story is a testimony to the living God who still raises the dead, breaks chains, and plants seeds in dirt to bear fruit for generations.   If you’ve ever wondered whether God could use your mess for His glory—this episode will leave no doubt. God is still in the business of resurrection. And Jay is living proof.   Episode Timeline Highlights •00:46 Childhood & Chaos: Where the cracks began •14:32 Teenage Years & the Streets: Looking for identity •22:40 Barbering: A craft becomes a calling •34:46 Rock Bottom: The night suicide felt like the only option •35:58 The Gym & Brotherhood: God begins to pursue Jay •47:58 Baptism & Bold Faith: Publicly choosing Christ •54:47 Godly Friendship: The importance of spiritual community •01:07:41 “The Fence” Story: The cost of sitting in the middle •01:10:44 Creating a God-Centered Space: Turning the barbershop into a ministry •01:14:48 Discipling His Children: Fathering with eternity in mind •01:22:49 What He Wants to Be Remembered For: A holy man of God   Key Spiritual Themes •God meets us in the dirt—not when we’re clean, but when we’re surrendered •The false promise of lust and the redemptive power of purity •Baptism as a public declaration of spiritual death and rebirth •The power of daily obedience and devotional discipline •Barbershop as sanctuary: bringing ministry into the marketplace •Discipling your children toward Heaven—not success, but salvation •Why you don’t have to be perfect to be used by God •The truth that every man is either on the narrow path or the wide one—there is no fence       This episode isn’t just about Jay. It’s about what God can do with any man—any father—who is willing to lay down pride, pick up the cross, and walk in faith, no matter how dirty the path once was.   Tune in and be reminded: You are never too far gone. You are never too dirty. And you are never beyond the reach of the redeeming love of Jesus Christ.     Website: www.domesticdadproject.com    YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT   Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project   Jay’s Insta: PWRD_BY_HIM

  7. 05/19/2025

    Crushed by Depression, Called by God: How Faith and Purpose Saved Mason Smith

    Crushed by Depression, Called by God: How Faith and Purpose Saved Mason Smith   In this powerful and vulnerable episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Mason Smith—a former youth pastor, missionary, husband, and father—for a deeply personal journey through depression, a suicide attempt, spiritual awakening, and calling.   Mason didn’t grow up in chaos. He had a loving family and a strong foundation. But his world was shattered by a series of tragic losses that opened the door to darkness, depression, and numbness. At just 17 years old, he sat on his bed with a loaded shotgun, ready to end his life—until God intervened in a miraculous way.   This episode explores that moment—and everything that followed. Mason shares the long road from surviving to living: walking away from the fence of apathy, wrestling with his faith, and slowly rebuilding his life one surrendered step at a time. From college disillusionment to his first mission trip that awakened a true love for God, Mason’s story is one of obedience, purpose, and the relentless pursuit of truth.   Nick and Mason dive into the messiness of ministry, the beauty of fatherhood, and the calling that eventually led Mason to become the Asia Director for a global missions organization. Along the way, we hear about his love story with his wife, raising two boys, and what it means to lead with humility, honesty, and faith.   For anyone who’s ever wondered if their past disqualifies them from their purpose—this conversation is proof that your darkest moments can become your greatest testimony. Mason’s story is a reminder that no matter how far you’ve fallen, God isn’t done with you yet.   Timestamps:   00:00 Introduction and Greetings 00:30 Childhood Memories 02:22 First Encounter with Loss 04:48 Struggles with Depression 06:19 Turning Point and Faith Journey 08:43 High School Challenges 18:59 College Life and Spiritual Awakening 23:53 Mission Work and Personal Growth 30:34 Finding Love and Building a Family 37:56 Ministry and Life Lessons 39:31 Supporting Each Other in Ministry 40:24 A Call to Missions 42:06 A Divine Encounter 44:53 Stepping Out in Faith 45:46 Finding the Right Fit 48:37 The Importance of Support 56:53 Fatherhood Reflections 01:06:18 Advice for Those in Despair 01:14:50 The Power of Community 01:15:27 Final Thoughts and Gratitude   ⸻   Website: www.domesticdadproject.com YouTube: @DomesticDadProject Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT/ Instagram: @the_domestic_dad_project   ⸻   Support Mason’s Missions Work: Visit www.storylinemissions.org, click on “Give,” and consider donating to Mason Smith or the Asia missions team. Every dollar makes a difference—and sometimes, $12 can change a life.   Mason Smith Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/p/Mason-Smith-100075804065429/

  8. 05/05/2025

    Torn by Trauma, Anchored by Love: How Faith and Family Saved Veteran Chris Jung

    From Combat to Calling: How Chris Jung Found Faith and Fatherhood   In this deeply moving episode of Domestic Dad: Cleaning Up The Mess, host Nick Barnett sits down with Chris Jung, a military veteran, husband, and father, for an emotional journey through war, trauma, healing, and redemption. Chris opens up about his deployment to Afghanistan, the loss of a friend in combat, and the invisible wounds of PTSD that followed him home.   From the adrenaline of firefights and close calls with death, to the heartbreak of watching a friend’s life taken in an instant, Chris shares the harrowing reality of military life with raw honesty. But the battles didn’t stop when he came home. Like so many veterans, Chris found himself trying to survive civilian life with trauma he didn’t know how to process—turning to alcohol to numb the pain, isolate, and escape.   What followed was a hard-fought climb toward healing. Chris talks about the darkness of suicidal thoughts, the moment he picked up the phone instead of the gun, and the powerful role his wife played in helping him face his demons. Their story of love, resilience, and faith is a testament to the strength of community and the power of accountability.   Nick and Chris dive deep into the challenges of marriage after trauma, the lessons learned through fatherhood, and what it means to break generational cycles. Chris also shares how he’s turning pain into purpose—leading his family with intention, serving on his local fire department, and giving back through his business, Stuff Etc. in Waterloo, which is donating 10% of Father’s Day sales to the Domestic Dad Project.   This episode is a must-listen for veterans, parents, and anyone navigating trauma, grief, or the long road to becoming the person they were meant to be. Chris’s story is a reminder that no matter how broken you feel, healing is possible—and you are never alone in the fight.   00:00 Introduction and Greetings 01:10 Childhood Memories and Challenges 04:49 Struggles with ADHD and School 13:21 Reconnecting with Estranged Father 21:10 Joining the Military 24:53 Deployment to Afghanistan 30:35 Patrolling the Sangar Valley 31:27 The Tragic Loss of Donny 33:25 Dealing with the Aftermath 36:28 A Lighter Mission 36:59 Unexpected Firefight 40:16 Battle of Dab 47:35 Returning Home and Coping 49:34 Struggles with Alcohol 52:37 Meeting My Wife 57:31 Adjusting to Family Life 01:00:16 Battling Depression and PTSD 01:03:39 Therapy and the Role of a Supportive Spouse 01:05:43 The Importance of Honesty in Marriage 01:11:29 Parenting Lessons and Disciplinary Approaches 01:16:58 The Role of Faith in Overcoming Fear 01:19:30 Memorable Moments and Lessons for Children 01:26:52 Advice for Veterans and Community Support   ⸻   Website: www.domesticdadproject.com YouTube: @DomesticDadProject Facebook: Domestic Dad Project Instagram: @the_domestic_dad_project   ⸻ Connect with Chris: https://www.facebook.com/chris.jung.7712

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Are you looking for inspiration to start your journey into sobriety and become a better Dad?   Has that hard wired feeling of “suck it up and deal with it”, gotten to a point where you had to sedate the weight of it with something else?   Me too!  Im Nick Barnett, Founder of the domestic dad project,  A brand that strives to create a community that breaks the stigma around dads reaching out for help to get their lives back on track and become better Fathers.    Welcome to The Domestic Dad Podcast, your go-to destination for candid discussions on journeys into sobriety, parenting, and personal growth.   Ive been a dad since I was 18 years old.  Im also a trauma survivor, alcoholic, divorced, happily re-married, proud, hard working, humbled by life domestic Dad.     I remember realizing I was in the pit of addiction when I couldn’t leave the house without planning a stop to grab a few shooters at the gas station before I got home.   Or Making up reasons to go to the grocery store just to make a un-necessary food purchase to bury a bottle of booze or wine in my cart and Stashing “back up bottles” around the house..   Only to wake up in the middle of the night, parched with a glass filled with vodka disguised as water on my night stand to quench my thirst so I could get through the next few hours without getting sick…   Just to get hit with another devastating hangover that left me with debilitating heart burn, bloating, vomiting and shaking so bad that I couldn’t write an email, send a text or complete sentence without stammering over words… all while coming up with reasons in my head that every person in the world was against me and I was the “victim”   Looking back at the way addiction stained my days and nights, stole time from me, my wife, and my kids left me embarrassed and ashamed.    Because of this, I struggled with the pit of mental health issues in some of the darkest ways imaginable.  But I fought my way out.  With the help of community resources, life changing coaches, mentors, pastors and raw will power.     Since then, I’ve embarked on an unbreakable journey into sobriety and life that has changed in some the greatest ways imaginable.  There is not one goal I have set for myself that I haven’t had the confidence to go after, most which I’ve achieved.    Today I feel great when I wake up in the morning, I’m productive with my work, my 40 year old body feels great, I’m present with my family and friends, I sleep through the night, I don’t have the fear of dying from my disease, I no longer doubt my value to my family and I know I have a meaningful future!    My mission here is to share the resources that worked for me, with you! In the form of candid interviews and conversations around journeys into sobriety. But that’s not all – we also tackle the sheer delight and trials of parenting, sharing practical tips, heartfelt anecdotes, and expert advice to help you navigate the wonderful adventure of raising children and being the glue that not only allows your family to survive but more importantly THRIVE!    Because you’re worth it, you have value in this world, there is a bright future for you here, and there is a son or daughter that needs and wants a meaningful relationship with you.   My hope is that you will subscribe to this podcast and that it inspires you to join our growing community!   So grab a mop and let’s start cleaning up the mess! Website: www.domesticdadproject.com  YouTube: www.youtube.com/@DomesticDadProject Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DOMESTICDADPROJECT Insta: https://www.instagram.com/the_domestic_dad_project

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