Having A Pulse By Zandile Melissa

Zandile M Luthuli
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Having a pulse is a podcast dedicated to living with purpose and identity. The topics are centered around self-love, self-improvement, and re-invention. Life teaches and challenges, in return, requires growth. Therefore, Having a Pulse aims to achieve this by connecting the body, mind, and soul through conversations. Join me weekly on Spotify, Apple podcasts, and wherever you get your podcasts❤ If you like the podcast, share, comment, and follow Having a Pulse on TikTok and Instagram.

  1. Sep 25

    Envy and Jealous : What Can They Teach Us ?

    Jealous and envy are not proof that you are a bad person—they are clues. Zandile M Luthuli breaks down the real difference between wanting what someone has and wanting to protect what you already have, and why both emotions can reveal exactly what you value, fear, and desire.If you’ve ever felt that tightening in your chest when someone else wins, or that uneasy sting when a friend gets what you’ve been praying for, this episode gives you language for what’s happening inside you Zandile gets personal about her own recent experiences with envy and jealousy, from the stomach-drop moments that caught her off guard to the relationship tensions that made her stop and ask what these feelings were really trying to say.You’ll discover: The actual definitions of envy and jealousy, and why most people mix them upThe difference between benign envy and malicious envyHow social comparison shapes who you envy and why certain people trigger you more than othersWhy jealousy can point to fragile trust, unclear boundaries, and deep insecurityHow to turn uncomfortable emotions into self-awareness instead of shameZandile also explores how negative emotions can become a mirror instead of a sentence, and why calling yourself “evil” or “wicked” can actually make things worse. She reframes envy as a signpost toward desire and jealousy as a warning light around what you fear losing, then pushes deeper into what happens when those feelings are left unchecked.This conversation matters because shame can keep you stuck in silence, while awareness can help you move differently. If you’ve been comparing your life to someone else’s, feeling behind, or wondering why certain people make you feel small, this episode will help you slow down, reflect honestly, and figure out what those emotions are really asking of you.Essential listening if you want to stop being ruled by comparison, understand your emotional triggers, and turn envy and jealousy into something constructive instead of destructive.

  2. Sep 21

    When Ambition Doesn't Deliver What it Promised: Can I want Success without Needing it to make Me Happy

    Zandile M. Luthuli makes a compelling case that ambition can drive you forward, but it cannot give you identity, worth, or peace. If you have ever tied your happiness to views, money, career wins, or being seen as “successful,” this episode will hit hard.On Having a Pulse, Zandile reflects on the gap between what we chase and what actually sustains us. She unpacks the pressure to keep creating for numbers, how external validation can trap you in an identity that no longer fits, and why failure does not have to destroy your sense of value. Along the way, she shares personal stories from seven years of podcasting, starting and stopping creative projects, launching a clothing business, and even feeling guilty for being genuinely happy over something as simple as a bicycle.You’ll discover: Why ambition is a tool, not a source of self-worthHow to stop measuring your life only by followers, money, and recognitionThe difference between data and identityWhy being happy, creative, or healed can make old labels feel outdatedHer personal “Pulse Scale” for measuring growth, creation, connection, experience, and becomingZandile also introduces a practical experiment for listeners: track your life through two scoreboards for 30 days—one for outcomes and one for lived experience. The goal is not to reject success, but to stop letting success define your humanity.This episode is for anyone feeling stuck between what they wanted life to be and what it actually is. If you are building something, doubting yourself, or wondering whether you can still be proud of your life without the applause, this conversation offers a gentler, more honest way to measure progress.Perfect for listeners craving encouragement, self-reflection, and a reset on what success really means. Come for the honesty, stay for the reminder that you are allowed to grow, change, and still be worthy.

  3. Sep 10

    The Messy Truth About Building Something Before You Feel Ready

    A brutally honest goodbye, a fresh beginning, and a reminder that failure is not the end of your story. Zandile M Luthuli opens up about the heartbreak of building a podcast for years with little traction, what she learned from publicly stumbling, and why this “messy” chapter is actually the start of something bigger.If you’ve ever poured your heart into something that didn’t grow the way you hoped, this episode will hit home. Zandile reflects on the evolution of Having a Pulse from a teenage passion project to a space for self-discovery, faith, identity, and learning how to live, then explains why it’s time to let go of an old version of herself without letting go of the vision.You’ll hear: How a first iPhone at 17 sparked a love for podcasts and eventually her own showWhy early episodes, inconsistent gear, and self-doubt shaped the journeyThe difference between building for validation and building for growthWhy Jeremiah 29:11 became the anchor when the numbers stayed lowWhat it means to document your seasons, reinvent yourself, and move forward with intentionZandile also gets honest about the pressure to be polished, the frustration of being told you need to be “somebody” before you speak, and her decision to keep showing up as an imperfect, evolving human being. This is not a polished victory lap. It’s a farewell to old expectations and an invitation into a more authentic, more consistent next chapter.Essential listening if you’re in a transition, grieving an old identity, or trying to figure out how to keep going when your effort hasn’t yet matched your results. Sometimes the next version of you starts with the courage to let go.

  4. Aug 14

    Failing to trust God

    In this episode we discuss the challenge we face when we disobey God. The feelings it awakens and how connecting the mind body and soul can help us.

  5. Jul 16

    Understanding Success

    In this episode we look into the fact that success does not always look like what we imagine it to be

  6. Jul 10

    Shame,Comparison and Identity

    This episode explores the power of understanding emotions and who we are

  7. May 20

    Surviving Your 20s : Failure and Success

    In this episode Zandile goes into detail about the four lessons she wants to share with her younger self to survive being in your 20s

  8. Apr 30

    I Love You: Thank You For Listening

    I am grateful to every person that has listened to the podcast.

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Having a pulse is a podcast dedicated to living with purpose and identity. The topics are centered around self-love, self-improvement, and re-invention. Life teaches and challenges, in return, requires growth. Therefore, Having a Pulse aims to achieve this by connecting the body, mind, and soul through conversations. Join me weekly on Spotify, Apple podcasts, and wherever you get your podcasts❤ If you like the podcast, share, comment, and follow Having a Pulse on TikTok and Instagram.

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