We F*cked Up So You Don't Have To

Stijn Smet & Melanie Faye

Ever wonder if all those CS thought leaders, you know, mess up? Turns out, we all do! That's why we're launching "We F*cked Up, So You Don't Have To!", a hilariously insightful podcast where we spill the tea (and the lessons learned) on our biggest f**k ups. From onboarding disasters to communication catastrophes, we'll dissect our epic fails in bite-sized, 30-minute episodes – perfect for your daily commute. No sugarcoating, just real talk and actionable takeaways.

  1. JAN 20

    We F****d up...the perception of the customer

    As we welcome the new year, it's time to reflect on the lessons learned from the past and how they can shape our future. In the first episode of 2026 of "We F****d Up So You Don't Have To Show," hosts Stino Smet and Melanie Faye share their experiences, insights, and a few laughs, emphasizing the importance of understanding customer perception in business. Introduction: Happy New Year! As we step into 2026, Stino and Melanie kick off the first episode with a lighthearted discussion about holiday traditions and personal reflections. But amidst the jokes and nostalgia, they dive into a crucial topic that affects every business: customer perception. This episode is packed with insights on how to handle customer feedback, especially when it doesn't align with the facts. Section 1: The Holiday Hangover Stino and Melanie reminisce about their holiday experiences, highlighting the common struggle of returning to work post-holidays. "It was just a slog last week, like getting back into it," Melanie shares, resonating with many listeners who feel the same way after the festive season. They discuss how the period between Christmas and New Year's can feel like a twilight zone, where energy levels are low, and everyone is trying to adjust back to reality. Section 2: Diving into Customer Perception The conversation quickly shifts to a recent experience Stino had with a customer complaint. After receiving an email expressing dissatisfaction with service, he meticulously checked the logs to ensure he understood the situation. However, he learned a valuable lesson when his boss pointed out that the customer’s perception was valid, regardless of the facts. Stino emphasizes, "The perception of the customer is always right, even if they are in the wrong." This insight is crucial for anyone in customer service, as it reiterates the need to listen and empathize with customers, rather than just defending the company's position. Section 3: Handling Difficult Conversations Melanie adds to the discussion by sharing her own strategies for managing difficult customer interactions. "I'll type out an email and then walk away from it," she admits, recognizing the importance of taking a step back to avoid emotional responses. This technique can help professionals respond more thoughtfully and effectively, turning potential conflicts into productive conversations. Section 4: The Role of Communication Both hosts agree that direct communication often resolves issues more effectively than email exchanges, which can easily be misinterpreted. Melanie suggests, "Talking about it is going to make it better than just emails going back and forth." This approach fosters a better understanding between the customer and the service provider, leading to improved relationships and outcomes. Conclusion: Key Takeaways In this engaging episode, Stino and Melanie remind us that while facts are important, understanding and addressing customer perceptions is crucial for success. As we enter 2026, let’s commit to listening to our customers, responding with empathy, and recognizing that their perceptions shape their experiences. By doing so, we can build stronger relationships and create a more positive impact in our professional lives.

    30 min
  2. 12/18/2025

    We f****d up... Lessons from Generational Differences and AI

    In a world where technology continues to reshape our workplaces, the emergence of AI tools like ChatGPT has sparked both excitement and concern, particularly among different generations in the workforce. In this episode of the ‘We F****d Up So You Don’t Have To’ podcast, hosts Stino and Melanie delve into the challenges faced by customer success managers (CSMs) as they navigate these changes, especially with the influx of Gen Z into the job market. Section 1: Understanding the Generational Divide The hosts kick off the conversation with a light-hearted yet honest discussion about their experiences as millennials working alongside Gen Z. Stino shares his thoughts on how Gen Z’s reliance on technology, particularly AI, contrasts starkly with the manual skills that millennials developed early in their careers. He emphasizes that while Gen Z may have access to advanced tools that can streamline workflows, they often lack the foundational experience needed to effectively engage with customers. For instance, Stino notes, "They have it quote unquote, maybe easier, but it also terrifies me. How are they going to drive value?" This sentiment highlights a growing concern: can a generation that has relied on AI truly understand the nuances of customer interactions? Section 2: The Role of AI in Customer Success As the discussion progresses, Melanie and Stino explore the role of AI in customer success, acknowledging its potential to enhance productivity. They agree that AI can be a powerful ally in preparing for customer calls, providing prompts and suggestions that can make conversations smoother. However, they also caution against over-reliance on these tools. Melanie points out, "As soon as that gets derailed, it's like, what do you do next? Help, I'm not prepared for this." This highlights a critical gap: while AI can assist with basic tasks, it cannot replace the strategic thinking and adaptability that comes from real-world experience. Section 3: Learning from Mistakes Throughout the episode, both hosts reflect on their own learning curves when it comes to integrating AI into their workflows. Stino recounts an instance where he blindly trusted AI to draft an email, resulting in a costly mistake. "I once promised a refund where I shouldn't have," he admits, illustrating the pitfalls of relying too heavily on technology without applying human judgment. Melanie echoes this sentiment, mentioning how inaccuracies in AI-generated notes can lead to confusion and miscommunication in customer interactions. Section 4: Building a Balanced Approach The conversation shifts towards the importance of striking a balance between leveraging AI and maintaining a human touch in customer success roles. Stino emphasizes the need for managers to train new hires effectively, ensuring they develop the necessary skills to think critically and engage authentically with customers. "I'd rather want you to spend six hours on it, using your logical brain in combination with ChatGPT," he advises, underscoring the value of personal input and creativity in customer interactions. Conclusion: Key Takeaways As Stino and Melanie wrap up their insightful discussion, they leave listeners with several key takeaways. First, while AI can significantly enhance efficiency, it's essential to remember the importance of human experience and intuition in customer success. Second, managers play a crucial role in onboarding new team members, ensuring they understand the balance between using technology and applying their own skills. Finally, fostering an environment where mistakes are viewed as learning opportunities can lead to greater growth and development in customer success roles.

    34 min
  3. We F****d Up...and brought Xena Energy

    09/16/2025

    We F****d Up...and brought Xena Energy

    Full Show NotesWe’re back, babes. Season 2 is here and we’re booked through the end of the year. In this episode, Stino and Mel debrief a spicy refund blow-up (yes, bank fees and all), why “being right” can still cost you credibility, and how to set boundaries when a customer’s tone crosses the line. We also talk about segmenting customers by personality fit, calling people in (not just out), and channeling your inner Canadian when the petty meter spikes. What we coverThe lost, too-unhinged summer episode (RIP) and why this one’s the real S2 kickoffWhen policy says “refund” but your pride says “absolutely not”Xena Warrior Princess mode vs. credible CSM mode (and how to get back to center)Using policies + facts to de-escalate (and when to escalate internally)Personality-based account assignments (yes, that’s a thing—and it works)Scripts to professionally call out rude behavior without lighting a matchExtra prep for “tooth-pull” customers: prompts, slides, and value-first agendasWhy some leaders clam up 1:1 and open up in a group (status anxiety is real)Remember: you’re a value driver, not a doormat The Playbook (steal these)Policy First: Lead with written policies and timelines; emotion comes second.Call It In: “This tone isn’t how we work best—can we reset?”Personality Routing: It’s okay to reassign accounts for better fit.Prep Like a Pro: Pre-write questions, add a slide, and make “value receipts.”Escalate Early: Pull in a manager or peer to defuse status anxiety.Credibility > Victory: Being right isn’t worth losing the room. HousekeepingWe’re recording through the end of the year—weekly drops for Season 2.Got a glorious workplace screw-up (or lesson) to share? Want to guest? Slide into our DMs.Explicit language warning. Proceed with headphones if HR sits nearby. “We F****d Up So You Don’t Have To” is the no-fluff podcast where Stino & Mel turn real-life facepalms into repeatable playbooks. Subscribe, rate, and send this to the one colleague who needs to stop emailing like it’s a cage match. 💋

    26 min

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Ever wonder if all those CS thought leaders, you know, mess up? Turns out, we all do! That's why we're launching "We F*cked Up, So You Don't Have To!", a hilariously insightful podcast where we spill the tea (and the lessons learned) on our biggest f**k ups. From onboarding disasters to communication catastrophes, we'll dissect our epic fails in bite-sized, 30-minute episodes – perfect for your daily commute. No sugarcoating, just real talk and actionable takeaways.