Getting used to it, Midlife

Beth & Suzee

Getting Used to It, Midlife is a show hosted by two executive life coaches, Beth & Suzee, who are also expert friends and are both getting used to midlife. From empty nesting and aging parents to painful sex, and let’s not forget the extra lubrication, we will sift through all of it, speaking our truth faithfully and vulnerably. Listen as we live through this in ourselves and our relationships in real time and tease through the “how to” of this next phase of life. As coaches, we have the tools, but as women in the middle, we may not have all the answers. Scratch that— we’ll have some damn good ideas, too. Join us, and let’s get used to it together! 

  1. 13H AGO

    Getting Used To It: Your Midlife Body's New Playbook

    Send us a text The rules changed and no one handed us a new playbook. We sat down to compare what midlife really feels like in our bodies—what crept up, what hit like a freight train, and which fixes finally worked after the old standbys failed. If you’ve tried more walking, more Pilates, or a round of intermittent fasting and watched your middle thicken anyway, you’re not imagining it. Our physiology shifts, and the plan has to shift with it. The rules changed and no one handed us a new playbook. We sat down to compare what midlife really feels like in our bodies—what crept up, what hit like a freight train, and which fixes finally worked after the old standbys failed. If you've tried more walking, more Pilates, or a round of intermittent fasting and watched your middle thicken anyway, you're not imagining it. Our physiology shifts, and the plan has to shift with it. Beth shares her turning point at 55: intermittent fasting gave energy but didn't move the scale. The fix? Strength training, sprint intervals, and targeted macros. Guided by Dr. Stacy Sims' insights, we cover protein, progressive overload, and cardio that supports muscle instead of stealing it. We also tackle the quieter stuff: flatter moods, dry eyes, grief when periods end, and menopause hormone therapy for brain and bone health. This is what we wish we knew at 45. Press play, share with a friend, subscribe, and leave a review with your best midlife training tip—we'll feature favorites next week. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    26 min
  2. JAN 30

    Getting Used To It: What If I Look Stupid? (Coaches Need Coaching Too)

    Send us a text The year opens with a hot seat and a hard truth: loving your craft isn't enough when no one can find you. We pull back the curtain on Beth's midlife career crisis as a life coach whose former company folded, taking the client pipeline with it. Beth knows social media could help. But every time she tries to start, her brain floods with terror: What if I look stupid? What if my content is boring? What if I'm too old for this? Suzee coaches her through the spiral in real time, and what emerges isn't lack of knowledge—it's fear of execution. We explore why even seasoned coaches need coaches, especially when the obstacle is looking amateurish or posting the "wrong" content. Instead of chasing a perfect niche, we focus on first steps: pick one platform, choose a simple format, commit to a deadline. Beth commits to posting. Not because she's suddenly brave, but because sometimes you just need someone to hold your feet to the fire. If you've ever felt smart, experienced, and strangely stuck, this conversation will feel like a hand on your shoulder and a gentle push forward. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    24 min
  3. 12/04/2025

    Getting Used To It: I’m Watching My Parents Fade And I Don’t Know What I Am Supposed To Feel

    Send us a text What do you do when your parents aren't dying, but they're not really living either? And worse—what do you do with the guilty thought: when will this be over? Suzee's parents are in their 80s, healthy enough, but they've stopped doing anything. Just sitting. Watching YouTube. Existing. And watching it is surprisingly unbearable. But as Beth pushes, something harder emerges: Is Suzee worried about them, or uncomfortable that they've chosen stillness when she needs them to keep going? Beth counters with her own difficult truth: she lost both parents young and admits there's a jealousy hearing friends complain about their boring, healthy parents. At least they're still here to be boring. The conversation lands on an impossible question: How do you stay connected to parents who are choosing to disconnect? How do you grieve someone still alive but already kind of... gone? There's no resolution because there isn't one. We end where we started—in the question. Whether you're frustrated by your parents' choices or mourning the ones you've lost, this won't fix it. But you're not alone in not having it figured out. We're all just getting used to it. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    24 min
  4. 11/28/2025

    Getting Used To It: His Panic Attacks My Peace: When Anxiety Is Contagious

    Send us a text You know that feeling when your partner walks in stressed and your body knows before they even speak? That chest-tightening dread that feels like being pulled into a riptide? That's anxiety contagion—and it might be ruining your week. Suzee's husband spirals about money. Even though she does the budget and knows they're fine, his panic hijacks her. Two days of crisis mode later, she proves they're okay. He's instantly fine. She's wrung out and resentful. Beth's version is different: total contraction. When her partner announced they needed to cut spending by 40% at Christmas, she froze. No Target for two months. Dish soap guilt. Different response, same trap. The impossible question: What happens when NOT getting on the anxiety train makes things worse? When boundaries get you accused of not caring? There's no answer here. Just two women admitting they're still figuring out how to love someone without drowning in their fear. If you're exhausted from being Command Central for everyone's emotions, this won't solve it. But you're not alone. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    29 min
  5. 10/23/2025

    Getting Used To It: We're Not Sleeping Either: Midlife Insomnia Real Talk (From Season 2)

    Send us a text We're revisiting this gem from Season 2 with a fresh perspective! Whether you missed it the first time or want a refresher, we're getting real about the 3 AM wake-ups and sharing what's genuinely made a difference for us.  If you're lying awake at 3 AM wondering why sleep suddenly got so complicated, you're not alone. We're right there with you. In this episode, Beth and Suzee get honest about their own midlife sleep struggles—the hormone shifts, the racing thoughts, the snoring spouses, the experiments that worked (and the ones that definitely didn't). We talk about why our bodies seem to have forgotten how to sleep, what we've learned from tracking it all, and why there's no one-size-fits-all answer. This isn't about perfect sleep hygiene or doing it right. It's about comparing notes, trying things out, and getting used to the fact that sleep in midlife just looks different. We share what we've discovered—from midnight journaling to letting go of the pressure to fix it all—and remind ourselves (and you) that we're all just figuring this out as we go. Because sometimes the most helpful thing is knowing you're not the only one staring at the ceiling. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    24 min
  6. 10/16/2025

    Getting Used To It: BONUS: The Book That Changed How We Think About Our Bodies (And Ourselves) (From Season 2)

    Send us a text This bonus episode was originally released in Season 2, but we felt it deserved another moment in the spotlight with you. Whether you missed it the first time or want a refresher, this episode reveals how deeply our body image and self-worth get entangled—and how to start separating them. We picked up Anuschka Rees' Beyond Beautiful thinking it was just another book about body image. But it cracked something open for us—showing us just how much mental and emotional space our bodies have been taking up, often without us even realizing it. In this episode, we talk about what we found in those pages: how body image can quietly dominate our sense of self-worth, why we're all working with beauty standards that were never really ours to begin with, and what it might feel like to step back from the mirror a little bit—especially now, in midlife, when everything's shifting anyway. We share our own stories—the moments we've caught ourselves waiting for our bodies to cooperate before we could feel okay—and explore what body neutrality actually means when you're getting used to a body that keeps changing. Not as a fix, but as a practice. A way of reclaiming energy we didn't know we'd given away. This isn't about having it figured out. It's about noticing, questioning, and maybe finding a little more freedom in who we are beyond what we see. Because maybe getting used to midlife also means getting used to caring a little less about all of this. Thanks for tuning in to this episode of Getting Used To It! If you enjoyed today’s conversation, please consider subscribing, rating, and leaving us a review—it helps others discover the show! We’d also love to hear your thoughts, so drop us a comment or connect with us on social media. Stay connected, stay curious, and we’ll see you next time!

    42 min

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Getting Used to It, Midlife is a show hosted by two executive life coaches, Beth & Suzee, who are also expert friends and are both getting used to midlife. From empty nesting and aging parents to painful sex, and let’s not forget the extra lubrication, we will sift through all of it, speaking our truth faithfully and vulnerably. Listen as we live through this in ourselves and our relationships in real time and tease through the “how to” of this next phase of life. As coaches, we have the tools, but as women in the middle, we may not have all the answers. Scratch that— we’ll have some damn good ideas, too. Join us, and let’s get used to it together!