The Self-Coaching Club: Turn your ”Inner Bully” into a Trusted Ally

Mercy Rice - Inner Work Coach
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Are you living with an inner bully? You know, that voice inside your head that says things to you that you would never say to a stranger, much less someone you love? How about things like forgiveness and grace? Are you willing to offer those things to others but are not so generous when it comes to your own mistakes? If you can relate, welcome to the club! The self-coaching club! I’m mercy rice - Leadership Development Coach, God’s girl, and caffeine queen! I use the same skills I apply in leadership development to teach you how to turn your inner bully into a trusted ally. We’re building a community of self-coaching warriors that are willing to completely flip the script on that inner monologue and finally experience emotional peace!

  1. Sep 19

    Making Room for More: The Best is Yet to Come!

    Episode 110: Making Room for More: The Best is Yet to Come! After 110 episodes, it’s time to close the chapter on The Self-Coaching Club Podcast—and make room for something new. 🩷 In this final episode, I’m reflecting on what these conversations have meant to me, what I hope you’ll carry with you, and why I believe inner work was never meant to become another way to constantly “fix” ourselves. The goal is to know ourselves better, offer ourselves grace, make more intentional choices—and then go live our lives. We’ll talk about trusting what you’ve learned, remembering that you know more than you think you do, and having the courage to recognize when it’s time for a new season. I’m also sharing what’s next: my new podcast, Room for More with Mercy Rice. Because maybe the question isn’t always: What do I need to work on next? Maybe sometimes the better question is: What am I ready to make room for? More joy. More connection. More adventure. More rest. More purpose. More curiosity. More of whatever God may have for you in this next season. You don’t have to be unhappy with your life to want something more. You can be deeply grateful for where you are and still be curious about where you’re going. One Final Self-Coaching Question As we close this chapter, take some time to ask yourself: What am I ready to make room for? You don’t need a plan yet. Just notice your answer. Thank you for listening, growing, laughing, reflecting, and doing your own inner work alongside me for these 110 episodes. The Self-Coaching Club may be ending, but the conversation isn’t. The best is yet to come. Let’s make room for more. 🩷 Let's stay connected: www.mercyrice.com

  2. Sep 7

    You're Allowed to Change Your Mind

    🩷 SHOW NOTES You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind Have you ever continued with something mostly because you'd already told everyone you were going to do it? Changing our minds can feel like failure—but sometimes it's simply evidence that we've learned something. In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club Podcast, we're talking about giving ourselves permission to reconsider decisions, goals, plans, and even things we once felt certain we wanted. Changing your mind doesn't necessarily mean the original choice was wrong. Sometimes you've simply gained information you couldn't have had before. This Week's Self-Coaching Questions If you're reconsidering something, ask: If nobody else knew about my original decision, what would I choose now? Am I changing my mind because this is uncomfortable—or because something has genuinely changed? What do I know now that I didn't know then? Then take it to God and ask for clarity—not simply confirmation. A Thought to Carry With You You don't have to criticize who you were in order to honor who you're becoming. You're allowed to learn. You're allowed to grow. And you're allowed to choose again. 🩷

  3. Aug 31

    The Difference Between Facts and Stories

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  4. Aug 23

    The Magic of Uncertainty - What to do in the in between time

    🩷 SHOW NOTES Maybe You Don’t Need to Figure It Out Yet What if the reason you can't figure something out is simply because there isn't enough information yet? We often believe peace will come once we have the answer, make the decision, understand what happened, or know how everything is going to turn out. But emotional peace doesn't require certainty. In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club Podcast, we're exploring what it looks like to live well in the space between the question and the answer—and how to recognize when thoughtful reflection has quietly turned into rumination. We'll talk about: The difference between reflection and rumination Why uncertainty can create such a sense of urgency Discernment versus anxiety-driven overthinking The deeper connection between uncertainty and self-trust Why faith doesn't always give us certainty Making decisions with the information we have today When action creates clarity When waiting actually is the next right step How to separate facts from assumptions Trusting God when the whole path isn't visible 🌿 Try This: Know, Don't Know, Next Choose one situation you're currently trying to figure out and divide a journal page into three sections: WHAT I KNOW Write only the facts. WHAT I DON'T KNOW Name the things your mind keeps trying to predict or solve that aren't actually knowable yet. MY NEXT STEP Identify one thing that's yours to do now—or give yourself permission to wait if there genuinely isn't one yet. Then ask: What would change if I believed I didn't have to know yet? A Thought to Carry With You You don't have to solve tomorrow to experience peace today. You don't need the whole map. You need enough light for the next faithful step. 🩷

  5. Aug 16

    System Regulation Part 3: How to Manage Your State

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  6. Aug 10

    The Inner Work Skill of Self-Compassion

    SHOW NOTES Speak to Yourself Like Someone You’re Responsible For Self-Compassion Isn’t Self-Indulgence Why is it so easy to extend grace to everyone else—and so difficult to offer that same grace to ourselves? In this episode of The Self-Coaching Club, we're talking about self-compassion as an emotional regulation skill and why shame isn't nearly as effective a motivator as we sometimes think it is. Self-compassion doesn't mean ignoring mistakes, making excuses, or lowering your standards. It means learning to tell yourself the truth without turning every mistake into an indictment of who you are. We explore the difference between accountability and shame, why “I should know better by now” can keep us stuck, how faith and grace influence the way we speak to ourselves, and a simple four-step practice for responding differently when you disappoint yourself. In this episode: Why being hard on yourself isn't necessarily the same as holding yourself accountable How shame cycles can actually interfere with change The difference between “I made a mistake” and “I am a failure” Why knowing better doesn't always mean we'll immediately do better How self-compassion and personal responsibility can coexist A faith-centered perspective on grace, conviction, and growth Four practical steps for compassionate self-coaching This Week's Self-Coaching Questions When you notice yourself becoming critical after a mistake, ask: What happened? What am I feeling? What do I need to take responsibility for? What would compassion look like here? What would I like to do differently next time? You don't have to shame yourself into becoming someone better. Sometimes lasting change begins when you learn to tell yourself the truth—with grace.

  7. Aug 3

    Learning the Art of Urge Surfing

    Show Notes Episode Title You Don't Have to Act on Every Feeling: Learning the Skill of Urge Surfing Our emotions are valuable, but they aren't meant to make every decision for us. In this episode, we're exploring the emotional regulation skill known as urge surfing—the practice of noticing uncomfortable impulses without immediately acting on them. You'll learn why emotions naturally rise and fall like waves, how curiosity creates space between a feeling and a reaction, and three simple self-coaching questions that can help you respond with greater wisdom and peace. In this episode you'll learn: What urge surfing is and why it works Why emotions often feel urgent (even when they aren't) How to identify what's underneath your strongest impulses Three practical questions to help you pause before reacting A faith-centered perspective on responding rather than reacting This Week's Self-Coaching Challenge The next time you notice a strong emotional urge, pause and ask: What am I feeling? What story am I telling myself? What do I really need right now? Then wait just a few minutes before deciding what to do. You may discover that the wave begins to settle all on its own.

  8. Jul 26

    The Power of Curiosity: Questions that can Change Your Life

    Show Notes 🎙️ Episode 103: The Power of Curiosity – The Questions That Can Change Your Life Have you ever noticed how quickly your mind fills in the blanks after something happens? A text goes unanswered. Someone seems distant. A conversation feels awkward. Before we know it, we've written an entire story—and we often believe it's the only possible explanation. In this episode, we're exploring how curiosity can interrupt that pattern and become one of the most powerful tools in self-coaching. By learning to pause, ask better questions, and create space between what happens and the story we tell ourselves, we can respond with greater wisdom, emotional peace, and compassion. In this episode, we'll explore: Why our brains rush to create meaning The difference between assumptions and reality How curiosity reduces emotional reactivity Powerful self-coaching questions to ask yourself How curiosity strengthens relationships A simple practice you can begin using today Questions to reflect on this week: What story am I telling myself? What evidence do I actually have? What else could be true? What am I feeling beneath the surface? Is this situation reminding me of something older? What would peace ask me right now? ✨ This week's encouragement: Curiosity doesn't mean doubting yourself—it means giving yourself enough grace to explore before you decide. Sometimes the path to emotional peace begins with one simple question instead of one quick conclusion.

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Are you living with an inner bully? You know, that voice inside your head that says things to you that you would never say to a stranger, much less someone you love? How about things like forgiveness and grace? Are you willing to offer those things to others but are not so generous when it comes to your own mistakes? If you can relate, welcome to the club! The self-coaching club! I’m mercy rice - Leadership Development Coach, God’s girl, and caffeine queen! I use the same skills I apply in leadership development to teach you how to turn your inner bully into a trusted ally. We’re building a community of self-coaching warriors that are willing to completely flip the script on that inner monologue and finally experience emotional peace!

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