The Motherhood Mentor

Rebecca Dollard: Somatic Mind-Body Life Coach, Enneagram Coach, Speaker, Boundaries Coach, Mindset
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Welcome to The Motherhood Mentor Podcast your go-to resource for moms seeking holistic healing and transformation. Hosted by mind-body somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach Becca Dollard.  Join us as we explore the transformative power of somatic healing, offering practical tools and strategies to help you navigate overwhelm, burnout, and stress. Through insightful conversations, empowering stories, and expert guidance, you'll discover how to cultivate resilience, reclaim balance, and thrive in every aspect of your life while still feeling permission to be a human.  Are you a woman who is building a business while raising babies who refuses to burnout? These are conversations and support for you.   We believe in the power of vulnerability, connection, and self-discovery, and our goal is to create a space where you feel seen, heard, and valued. Whether you're juggling career, family, or personal growth, this podcast is your sanctuary for holistic healing and growth all while normalizing the ups and downs, the messy and the magic, and the wild ride of this season of motherhood.  Your host: Becca is a mom of two, married for 14years to her husband Jay living in Colorado. She is a certified somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach to high functioning moms. She works with women who are navigating raising babies, building businesses, and prioritizing their own wellbeing and healing. She understands the unique challenges of navigating being fully present in motherhood while also wanting to be wildly creative and ambitious in her work. The Motherhood Mentor serves and supports moms through 1:1 coaching, in person community, and weekend retreats.  Follow on IG: @themotherhoodmentor , send me a dm and let me know you found me through the podcast!  Website:  https://www.the-motherhood-mentor.com/ Want to join the email fam for free workshops and more support: https://themotherhoodmentor.myflodesk.com/ujaud8t4x9

  1. 4D AGO

    Parenting Big Feelings & Strong Wills With Loving Boundaries with Mary Van Geffen

    Do you have a strong-willed, big-feeling, highly sensitive child who feels like “too much”? Parenting the “Spicy” Child: Strong-Willed Kids, Big Feelings, and Connection-Based Discipline Parenting a strong-willed, big-feeling child can feel like living next to a volcano-beautiful, powerful, and unpredictable. We explore what Mary calls the spicy child: kids with high intensity, low adaptability, high perceptibility, and high persistence. These are the children who feel deeply, notice everything, and refuse to be easily managed. You’ll learn why shame and punishment backfire, how to regulate your nervous system during meltdowns, and how to lead with connection while still holding firm boundaries. We also talk about parenting in community spaces, navigating pressure to control behavior, and why repair after rupture is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. If you’re raising a sensitive, strong-willed child and want fewer power struggles, more cooperation, and deeper trust—this episode is for you. ✨ In This Episode, We Cover: • The four traits of a “spicy” child  • Why traditional discipline doesn’t work for sensitive kids  • How to stay calm during meltdowns  • The “conscious pause”  • Completing the stress cycle  • Play as a regulation tool  • Separating your nervous system from your child’s  • How to repair after hard moments  • Mary’s book, audiobook, quiz, and preorder bonuses You can pre-order Mary's new book here: Pre-Order Parenting a Spicy One  Check out Mary on Instagram If you are local to Northern Colorado- come join our book club!  ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Introduction: Parenting the “Spicy” Child  02:45 – What Makes a Child “Spicy”? The Four Core Traits  07:30 – Why Punishment and Shame Backfire  12:10 – Gentle Parenting vs. Nervous System Leadership  16:40 – Parenting Under Community & Church Pressure  21:15 – Making Regulation Visible  26:00 – Completing the Stress Cycle  30:20 – The Conscious Pause During Meltdowns  34:45 – Why Lectures Don’t Work Mid-Storm  38:10 – Playful De-Escalation: Singing, Silliness, and Connection  42:55 – When Your Child’s Energy Overwhelms You  47:30 – Separating Your Experience From Theirs  51:20 – Repair After Rupture: Owning Impact  56:10 – Raising Future Leaders, Not “Too Much” Kids  59:40 – Mary’s Book, Quiz, and Preorder Bonuses  1:03:15 – Final Reflections + Listener Invitation Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    54 min

  2. JAN 28

    When It’s Never Enough: Healing the High-Achiever Nervous System

    Let's explore how to stay hungry for growth without missing the life you already built. We share practical ways to feel content now while nurturing ambition for your body, marriage, work, and motherhood. • naming the gap obsession and its cost • choosing hungry not starving as a core mindset • celebrating wins you already own and wanting what you already have  • body peace through strength, food freedom and comfort • building a resilient marriage with real boundaries • steady parenting with repair and regulation • keeping ambition as permission not pressure • rejecting one-size blueprints for inner GPS • making next-step choices in the fog If this is you and you feel like you are trying to build capacity to pursue your incessant ambition and desire, while also feeling enough- like you can slow down and be present and content- this is exactly the work we do in my 1:1 coaching and at the upcoming Steady Retreat.  You can find all the details for Retreat here: https://themotherhoodmentor.myflodesk.com/steadyretreat Or coaching work here: https://www.the-motherhood-mentor.com/reclamationcoaching Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    18 min

  3. JAN 16

    From Overhaul To Integrity: A Gentle Steady New Year

    Forget the sprint. We’re starting the year steady, grounded, and honest about capacity. Instead of chasing a dazzling future self, we look at what’s here now- what worked, what didn’t, and how to build change that outlasts a January dopamine hit. In this episode I share why integrity beats motivation, how to regulate your nervous system in real life, and what it means to show up in the messy middle with devotion and mercy rather than perfection. This is also your invitation to join Steady January, halfway through the month- a free broadcast channel with short love notes, somatic practices, and thoughtful prompts designed to fit into the margins of motherhood and work. No feed to keep up with, no pressure to share- just simple guidance that respects your time and energy. If you’re tired of quick fixes, you’ll hear how tiny, consistent micro-shifts compound into durable habits and a calmer baseline you can actually feel. I'm also opening the doors to deeper support: one-on-one coaching for women who want a focused, fit-first space to metabolize stress, set aligned goals, and expand capacity without the urgency spiral. Then we dive into our spring retreat-why co-regulation is a force multiplier for healing, how workshops translate into daily life, and the joy of being well-fed, well-rested, and well-held in a room where growth is contagious. You’ll leave with tools you can use at home and a felt sense of ease that doesn’t evaporate on the tarmac. If this resonates, join Steady January, explore coaching, or apply for the retreat while early-bird spots last. And if the podcast supports you, follow and leave a quick review on Apple or Spotify—it helps more women find a steadier way forward. Join Steady January Here: https://themotherhoodmentor.myflodesk.com/steadyjanuary Want to sneak peak the Spring Retreat: https://themotherhoodmentor.myflodesk.com/steadyretreat Book an interest call here: https://calendly.com/themotherhoodmentor/exploration-call Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    25 min

  4. JAN 13

    When Safety Returns, Who Are You? Chonda Costin on Survival, Burnout, and Redefining Success

    What if survival mode saved your life, and then quietly held you back once you were safe? That's the tension we unpack with coach, veteran, and mother of five Chonda Costin, whose journey from domestic violence recovery to military service to purpose-driven coaching reveals the hidden cost of operating in crisis long after the crisis ends. The story is raw and generous: leaving an abusive marriage, joining the military at 25 with three little girls, twin beds and hand-me-down furniture, nursing through boot camp, and the sobering calculus of choosing safety for your children while learning, much later, to choose yourself too. This is trauma healing for mothers who built everything from nothing-and now face the harder question: who am I when I'm finally safe? We dig into how survival patterns morph into professional habits for the high-functioning woman: constant firefighting, over-functioning, perfectionism recovery that never quite lands, and defining success by boxes checked instead of a life felt. Chonda breaks down the difference between reactive living and proactive design, using the same rigor she brought to program management—risk mitigation, clear milestones, and systems that actually fit a human nervous system. This is career reinvention meets emotional capacity building. We talk about burnout masked by accolades, the limits of strategy without somatic awareness, and why blueprints fail without the inner work to implement them. Then we go deeper: self-permission as a daily practice, community as a stabilizer for the over-functioning mom, and honest feedback as the fastest route to self-awareness when you've spent decades performing strength. Motherhood and identity crisis run through every chapter-early years defined by survival and post-traumatic growth, parenting teens that demand new leadership, and the often ignored earthquake of empty nest syndrome.  We share practical ways to redefine success through life transitions, from evolving boundaries with your kids to business models that respect your healing journey. This is for the military mom transitioning home, the veteran mother finding purpose beyond service, and any woman navigating midlife pivot after years of putting everyone else first. Expect a mix of hard-won wisdom and pragmatic steps for leaving corporate, reinventing yourself, and mothering through seasons: questions to spot whether work still feeds you, a simple framework to exit survival mode, and ways to align goals with values so your time feels as good as it looks on the calendar. This is raising teenagers, parenting adult children, and finding yourself again—all at once. If you're ready to move from reactive to proactive, from crisis to clarity, this conversation offers the messy map that only you can make. This is healing from abuse that doesn't erase your strength—it redirects it. About Chanda: Chanda Coston is a Business Strategist, Navy Veteran, and devoted mom of five who helps women move from chaos to clarity in life and business. As the founder of Chanda Co., she guides high-capacity women, especially those in midlife transitions, t Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    1 hr

  5. 12/11/2025

    Fight, flight, freeze, and fawn- Your bodies responses to triggers and threats

    Our bodies have unconscious patterns of responding to perceived threats that happen without conscious control, ranging from simple to complex defensive reactions. • Fight response involves mobilizing energy against a threat with aggressive outbursts, criticism, or controlling behaviors • Flight response means moving away from threats through anxiety, overthinking, or intellectual distancing • Freeze response feels like "one foot on gas, one on brake" – internal activation with external immobilization • Functional freeze allows you to operate normally while feeling detached from yourself and others • Shutdown/collapse response creates complete disconnection, numbness, and loss of muscle tone • Fawning response involves pleasing others while disconnecting from your authentic needs and feelings • These responses aren't defects but natural protections that can become problematic when chronically activated • Healing involves metabolizing these energies rather than eliminating them • The goal is creating a nervous system that's both strong and flexible in its responses • Understanding your default patterns helps you respond more authentically in relationships Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    23 min

  6. 12/09/2025

    The Real Reason 'Just Communicate' Doesn't Work with Michelle McDonald: Enneagram Instincts and Your Nervous System

    What if the thing sabotaging your communication isn't your words, but your body's stuck survival strategy just trying to keep you safe? We go deep with Enneagram coach Michelle McDonald to explore the instinct layer of enneagram-self-preservation, social, and one-to-one—and how these fast, automatic behavior patterns quietly steer your relationships, leadership, and daily choices. This is personal development that bridges the gap between insight and embodied change. Instead of stopping at personality types, we map motivation to somatic awareness so you can notice dysregulation, pause, and choose a different path in the moments that matter. This is self-awareness tools meets nervous system regulation for women who've done the therapy and read the books but still get caught in the same loops. Michelle shares how the Enneagram outperforms other typologies as a practical growth tool by revealing protective patterns and giving each Enneagram type a unique, actionable route to change. We break down the Enneagram instincts and Enneagram subtypes with vivid anchors—a vigilant rabbit (self-preservation), a cohesive herd (social), and bonded macaws (one-to-one)—and translate them into real life for conscious leadership and relationship repair. You'll hear: the partner who withdraws to protect autonomy (classic pursue-withdraw pattern), the parent who pursues repair to protect belonging (attachment styles in action), the business owner who craves intensity to feel alive and effective. This is conflict resolution through the lens of fight flight freeze, not just better communication scripts. We dig into why "just communicate" fails when you're dysregulated, how to spot your instinct's telltale moves through body-based healing cues, and what a simple pause can do to bring your body, head, and heart back online. This is emotional intelligence that respects your window of tolerance—self-regulation for the over-functioning woman who leads at work and home. This conversation is rich with marriage communication examples, team dynamics insights, and grounded takeaways for breaking cycles: identify your lead instinct, strengthen the neglected one, and right-size the one that overdrives your system. You'll leave with a clear framework to navigate conflict in marriage more skillfully, set cleaner boundaries with somatic awareness, and feel more like yourself—present, resourced, and able to choose. This is inner work that translates to outer results. If you've mastered the concepts but still feel the pursue-withdraw cycle in your relationship, if you lead teams but struggle with authentic leadership in conflict, if you're craving conscious awareness that lands in your body—this is your bridge from thought patterns to embodied change. This is mindfulness practice meets Enneagram subtypes, polyvagal theory meets real-life relationships. Find Michelle: Instagram @ origins_enneagram_consulting Website Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    58 min

  7. 12/04/2025

    5 minute morning meditation- Orienting

    We guide a short morning practice to center attention, reclaim energy, and choose how to move through the day with grace and clarity. Gratitude, body awareness, and gentle course-correction help build presence without pressure. • orienting to day, time, and season • sensory check-in with the world outside • body scan from head to feet • deep breathing to build calm energy • naming agency, choice, and intention • calling energy back and setting boundaries • releasing what is not ours to carry • practicing pause, forgiveness, and reset • ending with gratitude and a slower pace Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    5 min

  8. 11/20/2025

    Somatic Boundaries Meditation

    We guide a grounded practice to meet your emotions, feel where you end and others begin, and build flexible boundaries that protect your energy while keeping connection possible. Through imagery, breath, and simple prompts, you restore right distance, agency, and choice. • orienting to room, time, age, and body • mapping emotion by location, speed, and color • sensing others’ presence and the space between • calling your energy back, sending others’ back • building soft yet strong barriers of light or water • adjusting distance to restore right relationship • journaling wants, needs, limits, and capacity • releasing what is not yours with respect • walking forward with clear, bright energy Send us a text If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start leading your life with deep presence, I’d love to work with you. Book a free interest call here: Click Here 💌 Want more? Follow me on Instagram @themotherhoodmentor for somatic tools, nervous system support, and real-talk on high-functioning burnout, ambition, healing perfectionism, and motherhood. And also pretty epic meme drops. 🎧 Did you love this episode? Be sure to follow and please take a quick moment to leave a review and send this episode to a friend. I'd love to hear from you on how this podcast impacted you, send me a DM or an email.

    22 min
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Welcome to The Motherhood Mentor Podcast your go-to resource for moms seeking holistic healing and transformation. Hosted by mind-body somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach Becca Dollard.  Join us as we explore the transformative power of somatic healing, offering practical tools and strategies to help you navigate overwhelm, burnout, and stress. Through insightful conversations, empowering stories, and expert guidance, you'll discover how to cultivate resilience, reclaim balance, and thrive in every aspect of your life while still feeling permission to be a human.  Are you a woman who is building a business while raising babies who refuses to burnout? These are conversations and support for you.   We believe in the power of vulnerability, connection, and self-discovery, and our goal is to create a space where you feel seen, heard, and valued. Whether you're juggling career, family, or personal growth, this podcast is your sanctuary for holistic healing and growth all while normalizing the ups and downs, the messy and the magic, and the wild ride of this season of motherhood.  Your host: Becca is a mom of two, married for 14years to her husband Jay living in Colorado. She is a certified somatic healing practitioner and holistic life coach to high functioning moms. She works with women who are navigating raising babies, building businesses, and prioritizing their own wellbeing and healing. She understands the unique challenges of navigating being fully present in motherhood while also wanting to be wildly creative and ambitious in her work. The Motherhood Mentor serves and supports moms through 1:1 coaching, in person community, and weekend retreats.  Follow on IG: @themotherhoodmentor , send me a dm and let me know you found me through the podcast!  Website:  https://www.the-motherhood-mentor.com/ Want to join the email fam for free workshops and more support: https://themotherhoodmentor.myflodesk.com/ujaud8t4x9

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  • Creator
    Rebecca Dollard: Somatic Mind-Body Life Coach, Enneagram Coach, Speaker, Boundaries Coach, Mindset
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    81
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Motherhood Mentor
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