Honey, We Need to Chat

Honey, We Need to Chat
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Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again. We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good. We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!

  1. 5D AGO

    73. The Pre-Marriage Conversations Nobody Warns You About | Pre-Marital Coaching

    What questions should every couple answer before getting married? Blair & Amy break down 13 marriage therapist-identified topics across 4 blocks: money & roles, communication, family & in-laws, and intimacy. This is your premarital coaching session. FULL DESCRIPTION: Not premarital counseling, premarital coaching. In this episode, Blair and Amy unpack the 13 most triggering conversations every couple needs to have, whether you're three months in, engaged, or already married. Drawing on insights from marriage therapists and researchers like Dr. Emily Nagoski and Dr. Terry Orbuch, they walk through four key blocks: THE FOUNDATION: How do we handle money? What roles do we default into? What are our digital boundaries?THE TEAM: How do we fight? How do we repair? What does emotional safety look like for us?THE TRIBE: Who handles in-law conflict? How do we parent? What are our family's core values?THE SOUL: How do we define intimacy? What happens if our faith changes? What are our real deal breakers?You can use this episode as a solo reflection, or sit down and listen with your partner. Honest, practical, and real, this is Honey We Need to Chat. These aren't just 'nice to have' conversations, they're the difference between a marriage that survives hard seasons and one that doesn't. Tune in, grab your partner, and start talking. 📌 Chapters:0:00 Intro & Would You Rather segment - Why have these conversations early?1 - Block 1: The Foundation (Money, Roles, Digital Boundaries) - Block 2: The Team (Communication & Conflict) - Block 3: The Tribe (In-Laws, Parenting, Holidays) - Block 4: The Soul (Intimacy, Faith, Health & Deal Breakers) -Final thoughts & how to use this as a couple 🔗 Mentioned in this episode: • Sheila Gregoire episode on intimacy https://youtu.be/Oo5be9xkUaI?si=DQEJly25gJOzq3xR • Marriage Hot Takes episode https://youtu.be/xRDUOUjt0YA?si=Oc1WsfEc_2B436Et • Amy's coaching resources https://nextchaptercoaching.com.au/circuit-breaker-clarity-reset premarital coaching, questions before marriage, marriage preparation, engaged couple podcast, relationship foundations, in-law boundaries, intimacy marriage, faith and marriage, couple communication, Blair and Amy podcast, parenting expectations, marriage deal breakers, mental load, conflict resolution, responsive desire, Honey We Need to Chat

    54 min

  2. MAR 3

    72. Marriage Hot Takes: What You Must Talk About Before You Get Married (Communication, Compatibility, Boundaries)

    If you’re planning a wedding, engaged, newly married, or 10 years in, this episode is for you. We’re reacting to marriage hot takes and the stuff people wish they’d talked about before the big day. Not flowers. Not seating charts. The real topics: communication, compatibility, family dynamics, mental load, sex drive mismatches, porn boundaries, affairs and emotional boundaries, and why marriage does not magically fix insecurity or conflict. We also kick off with a chaotic “Would You Rather” segment (thermostat wars, dishwasher drama, and the drive-through timing debate), then we go rapid-fire through the hot takes that actually shape long-term love. In this episode, we cover: Wedding planning as a stress test for conflict and communication Why wedding excitement is not the same as long-term compatibility Doubts, pressure, and what’s worth exploring before you marry “You marry their habits, not their potential” Why communication issues get louder after marriage, not quieter Mental load and why it never sorts itself out without intention Sex drives changing over time, and why that is normal Porn and boundaries: why it needs to be discussed, not avoided Emotional affairs and why clear boundaries protect your marriage Attraction changing, growing, and becoming more whole over time If you’ve ever thought “surely it gets easier after the wedding”… this one is your reality check, with hope. Subscribe on YouTube, leave a comment with your hottest marriage take, and send this to a friend who is deep in wedding prep ➡️ https://youtu.be/xRDUOUjt0YA marriage hot takes, marriage advice, marriage tips, before you get married, engaged advice, wedding planning stress, premarital counseling, premarital counselling, relationship communication, couples communication, compatibility in marriage, relationship boundaries, boundaries in relationships, emotional affair, affair prevention, porn in marriage, porn boundaries, sex drive mismatch, intimacy in marriage, mental load in marriage, family dynamics marriage, conflict in marriage, hard conversations

    59 min

  3. FEB 22

    71. “I Love You… But I Don't Like Your Friends": Tips & Reddit Stories

    Ever loved your partner… but couldn’t stand their friends? In this episode of Honey, We Need to Chat, we unpack the messy reality of when your partner’s friendship group becomes a relationship problem and why it’s never as simple as “just cut them off”. We talk about the hidden layers: identity, loyalty, history, grief, and the fear of becoming “the controlling partner” plus what it feels like when you’re the one not protected, not included, or treated like the villain. We also explore how friendship dynamics shape your future, why your “social circle” can quietly change what feels normal over time, and the difference between a friend being annoying… vs being genuinely harmful to your relationship. Inside the episode: What to do when you don’t like your partner’s friends (and why it’s so triggering) Reddit stories featuring disrespect, boundary violations, exclusion, and reputation damage Why group dynamics and “the ex still in the circle” can make you feel invisible The research-backed truth: behaviour and mood spreads through social networks A practical framework to decide where people belong: Influence vs Access vs Exposure How to talk about it without control, blame, or becoming the bad guy If you’ve ever thought, “I love you… but your friends are exhausting” this one will give you language, clarity, and a way forward.

    52 min

  4. FEB 15

    70. The Social Load: When One Partner Withdraws

    We’ve talked about the mental load — but today we’re diving into another hidden pressure in relationships: the social load. The social load includes the practical work of managing friendships, invitations, kids’ social calendars and family events… and the in-the-moment strain when one partner withdraws socially (or when one partner becomes the other’s entire social world). We unpack why social withdrawal often develops over time (parenting, burnout, insecurity, mental health), read a relatable Reddit story, and share practical ways couples can rebalance the load — without guilt, pressure, or resentment. Question: Where do you feel the social load most in your relationship?📩 Or DM us on Instagram with your thoughts. #relationships #marriage #relationshipadvice #communication #mentalhealth #socialanxiety #parenting #loneliness #emotionalhealth #mumlife #dadlife #couplespodcast #australianpodcast #relationshiptools

    53 min

  5. FEB 8

    69. We Took a Break. Here’s Why, and How to Know When You Need One Too

    Season 3 is here and we’re coming in honest! Chatting all about the last few months, burnout, life pressure, and a full maintenance phase. In this episode, we share: Why we took a break (and how to know when you need one too) What “survival mode” does to connection and communication A simple couple catch-up game (our “Bingo Check-In”) The practical mindset shift we’re using in 2026: declarations instead of resolutions How to make a tiny change this week that actually sticks (even if you’re tired) If you’ve been feeling flat, disconnected, or like you cannot handle another big talk, this one is for you. Free resource mentioned: The Declarations Worksheet (coming to our website) Write in: What are you in right now, growth phase or maintenance phase? WE'RE SOOOOO thrilled to be back! Make sure you're following us across our platforms to keep up with the weekly happenings! couples communication, relationship burnout, marriage burnout, reconnecting, emotional connection, habits that stick, identity-based habits, resolutions, relationship reset, nervous system, survival mode.

    54 min

  6. 10/16/2025

    68. UPDATE EPISODE - Why We’re Taking a Break | Balancing Burnout, Family & Creative Dreams

    We’re alive 😅 promise. In this update episode, we’re sharing an honest update on life behind the scenes of Honey We Need to Chat podcast: burnout, balance, and big changes ahead. Between raising four kids, working in the not-for-profit world, and creating content we deeply believe in, we hit a wall. So we’re taking a much-needed season break before coming back refreshed, focused, and ready to level up everything we do. In this episode: 💬 Why we decided to pause the podcast for a season 🧠 What burnout can look like when you love your work 💰 How we’re navigating creative passion when it’s not yet paying the bills 🎙️ Our hopes for 2025 and what’s next for Honey We Need to Chat ☕ Blair’s “Christmas coffee” cameo (proof of life included) We’ll be back in February with new energy, strategy, and stories, but in the meantime, we’d love your help. 👉 Share your favourite episode 👉 Leave a quick rating or review 👉 Tag us on socials when you listen Every bit of support helps us keep building this community. 🎧 Catch up on past episodes (67+ available) and check out sneaky bonus episodes! ✈️ Coming soon: our America vlog series + Christmas content! ALSO don't forget to check out our free resources at www.honeyweneedtochat.com marriage podcast, marriage advice, relationship podcast, relationship communication, couples communication, real marriage advice, real marriage talk, couples communication tools, burnout in marriage, burnout recovery, taking a break, creative burnout, podcast burnout, content creator burnout, creator reset, how to balance work and family, family vlog, honest vlog, life update vlog, Honey We Need to Chat podcast, Honey We Need to Chat vlog, australian vlog, faith and family vlog, creative business couple, small creator life, behind the scenes podcast, not for profit work

    12 min

  7. 09/29/2025

    67: The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study)

    The #1 Predictor of Health: Tiny Repairs That Make Relationships Last (Harvard Happiness Study) We’re calling out the “funny” partner-bashing that social media rewards and replacing it with real repair. Backed by the Harvard Happiness Study and other research on wellbeing, we show why relationships are the #1 predictor of health and longevity, more powerful than diet, money, or exercise. In this episode, you’ll learn: • Why contempt in relationships is quietly toxic • How to replace complaints with micro-conversations that rebuild trust • Why weekly relationship check-ins prevent resentment and keep love alive • How to strengthen external friendships to combat loneliness and improve health • Practical couples communication tools you can use today to stop fighting and grow closer If you want to move from “meh” to meaningful connection, this episode will give you clear next steps. Predictor of health, marriage podcast, marriage podcast Australia, relationship podcast, Honey We Need to Chat podcast, relationship advice, marriage tips, communication in marriage, couples communication tools, stop fighting with your partner, repair after conflict, how to keep love alive, healthy relationship habits, contempt in relationships, Harvard happiness study, number one predictor of health, loneliness and health, blue zones connection, weekly relationship check in, micro conversations, rebuild trust

    39 min

  8. 09/22/2025

    66. How to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship | Fresh Honeymoon Vibes at Home

    Ever wondered why your relationship felt so exciting at the start, and how to bring some of that back now? In this episode of Honey We Need to Chat, Amy and Blair dive into the science of attraction (dopamine vs. oxytocin), why the honeymoon phase fades, and, most importantly, how to reignite the spark in your relationship today. We’ll share:✅ Why the early days feel so different (and what’s happening in your brain)✅ How to use anchors and memories to reconnect with your partner✅ Questions that spark curiosity and deepen connection✅ Two simple, practical activities you can do THIS week to create fresh honeymoon vibes Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, these tips will help you move past routine, shift out of “roommate mode,” and rediscover what makes your love fun, safe, and alive. 📌 Try the challenges in this episode and let us know how it goes, we’d love to hear your reflections! 👉 Free resources + coaching tools: ⁠honeyweneedtochat.com relationship advice, how to reignite the spark, honeymoon phase explained, how to keep love alive, marriage tips, dating advice, healthy relationship habits, how to stop being roommates, revive relationship spark, communication in marriage, intimacy tips, how to connect with your partner, relationship podcast, relationship reset How to Reignite the Spark in Your Relationship | Fresh Honeymoon Vibes at Home

    56 min
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Honey, We Need to Chat is the podcast for couples who want to fight less, connect more, and actually enjoy talking again. We’re Amy and Blair, a real-life couple sharing honest conversations, relatable stories, and practical tools to help you navigate conflict, deepen communication, and build a relationship that feels good, not just looks good. We dive into wild Reddit threads, expert interviews, real-life coaching, and hard-earned lessons, offering fresh insights and actionable steps you can use today! Because when communication dies, bad things happen. So... let’s chat!

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  • Creator
    Honey, We Need to Chat
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    102
  • Rating
    Clean
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