Bisexual Killjoy

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It’s not a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Bisexual Killjoy is an informative, hilarious, and occasionally spite-fueled podcast dedicated to everything bisexual+ (which means welcome to our pansexual and non-monosexual friends). Fronted by two bi+ folks willing to talk about anything and everything bi+, you can expect to hear good stories, meet bi+ scholars and advocates from around the world, and learn how to be a better Bisexual Killjoy. Find us @bisexualkilljoy on Instagram.

  1. 16h ago

    S6E5: Sleeping with the Patriarchy: Bisexual Men and Masculinity

    In today’s episode, “Sleeping with the Patriarchy: Bisexual Men and Masculinity,” we’re talking about bi+ men and feelings of masculinity. Just a bit of a heads-up, today’s paper is about sex, so if you’re carpooling or at home around folks or young-uns that you don’t want to hear about that, grab your headphones! Also buckle up, because honey, Bailey and Jace have thoughts, and lots of ‘em. Bi+ guys, know that these killjoys love you and it is for this exact reason why we need to discuss and critique this article and the data they collected. And for all of our listeners, we hope that today’s discussion brings you clarity on how you can be a better partner to your special someone(s). So, as some wise philosophers once said, let’s talk about sex, baby. Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com    Resources James P. Ravenhill, Jason Preston, Richard O. de Visser & Júlio Molica (2026) “I Feel More Masculine Having Sex with a Woman Than Being F****d by a Man”: Masculinity and Bisexual Men's Experiences of Sex with Women and Men, The Journal of Sex Research, 63:5, 812-824, DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2024.2413695  Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  2. Oct 14

    S6E4: What Do You Mean? Definitions of Bisexuality in Research

    Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  This week we’re taking a closer look at what researchers mean when they say “bisexual,” and why the answer matters. We unpack “To Bi: An Exploration of Sexual and Romantic Identities, Attractions, and Behaviors,” a study exploring how sexual and romantic attraction relate to people’s experiences and whether they identify as bi. We break down the distinction between who you’re attracted to and who you’ve actually been with, including the finding that sexual history didn’t significantly predict whether someone identified as bi. If you’ve ever wondered whether you need a particular dating history to call yourself bisexual, there’s something here for you. We also get into the choices researchers make before the results ever reach us, including this study’s decision to separate bisexual and pansexual identities. How do those choices shape what we can learn about bi+ people? And how do the definitions used to study us relate to the language we use to find each other and build community? Along the way, we talk about where we agree with the authors, where we push back, and why doing research that serves bi+ people means being clear about who’s included…and who’s missing. As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com  Resources: Vonlanthen, C., Savoie, É., & Roy-Charland, A. (2026). To Bi: An Exploration of Sexual and Romantic Identities, Attractions, and Behaviors. Journal of Bisexuality, 26(1), 78–102. https://doi.org/10.1080/15299716.2025.2566033  Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  3. Sep 30

    S6E3: The Gemini Effect: Bi+ Women Are Suspicious

    Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  This week we’re unpacking "Sincere But Suspect," a new study on how bi+ women are perceived when they express their identity in the dating world. We break down why bisexual displays, like changing how you present on dates with men versus dates with women, can lead others to see bi+ women as less authentic, less likeable, and less trustworthy. Plus, we get into the study's surprising finding that straight men still want to date bi+ women even when they don't trust them… As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com  Resources: Baron, L., Deska, J.C. Sincere But Suspect: Perceptions of Bisexual Women’s Authentic Expression in the Dating Context. Arch Sex Behav 55, 1975–1988 (2026). https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-026-03483-5  Herek, G. M. (2002). Heterosexuals’ attitudes toward bisexual men and women in the United States. Journal of Sex Research, 39(4), 264–274. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224490209552150  Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  4. Sep 16

    S6E2: How to Convince Your Brain You’re Queer Enough

    We promised you cutting-edge research, and you know the killjoys make good on their promises. That’s right, we’re discussing the recent March 2026 article, “From Self-Stigmatization to Self-Affirmation: Plurisexual People’s Experiences with Internalized Sexual Stigma and Positive Identity Attitudes,” by Clara McNamee, J. Roy Gillis & Abby L. Goldstein, published in the Journal of Bisexuality. After hearing a lot of chatter online about how bi+ identities don’t exist or that bi+ people need to make themselves smaller, we chose this article first to discuss the power of positivity, even if that positivity is only coming from within. So buckle up, it's time to learn how cool research is and why affirming your identity is actually really important! Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com  Resources: McNamee McNamee, J. Roy Gillis & Abby L. Goldstein (2026) From Self-Stigmatization to Self-Affirmation: Plurisexual People’s Experiences with Internalized Sexual Stigma and Positive Identity Attitudes, Journal of Bisexuality, 26:3, 415-447, DOI: 10.1080/15299716.2026.2633762 Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  5. Sep 2

    S6E1: Who Gets Counted? Why Bisexuality Needs Research

    Welcome back to Bisexual Killjoy! Online “discourse” is at an all-time high, and it’s about time we started building a solid foundation. Season 6 is here to gather the skills and tools you need so we can get to work! You know us and our love for a good book, research article, and well-explained methods. Over the next 9 episodes, we hope to instill some of that same love in you by going over the latest in Bi+ research across disciplines. And like Jace says, “We’re gonna co-construct a reality based on actual truth, goddamit!”  Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks about all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com  Resources: Check out the upcoming International Bi+ Research Conference: https://www.bisexualresearch.com/ibrcconference2025cfp-1-1  Check out BiWeekly shop for Bi+ Fashion: https://biweekly.shop/  For more information on the Attraction, Identity, and Behavior Model, check out our blog post: https://open.substack.com/pub/bisexualkilljoy/p/but-my-actions-dont-define-me?r=3ma0e6&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=web  Learn more about science and post-truth: Chalmers, A. (2013). What is this thing called science? (4th ed.). University of Queensland Press. Fuller, S. (2018). Post-Truth: Knowledge as a power game. Anthem Press. Malcolm, D. (2021). Post-Truth Society? An Eliasian Sociological Analysis of Knowledge in the 21st Century. Sociology, 55(6), 1063–1079. https://www.jstor.org/stable/27108945 McIntyre, L. C. (2018). Post-truth. MIT Press.  Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  6. Jun 24

    S5E9: Because I Love You

    We’re winding down this season on love, and what better way to bid you farewell than with a love letter? This episode is a walk down memory lane of all the nooks and crannies love encompasses. We’re so grateful for bell hook’s guidance with her book, All About Love, and all of you who took the time to read and reflect with us. We do this work because we love you. Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com   Resources: hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999) Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  7. Jun 10

    S5E8: Bi+ Community as Revolution

    We don’t shut up about Bi+ community, and this season sure wasn’t going to be the exception. We’re firm believers that Bi+ community is the life-hack we all need to embrace so we can feel confident in our queerness and bring forth the Bi+ revolution we didn’t know we needed. Sit with Bailey and Jace in this episode that exists as a living love letter to Bi+ communities around the world. Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com   Resources: hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999) Sound engineer: Richie Smith

  8. May 27

    S5E7: Plurisexuals and the Myth of Platonic Purity

    Are friendships important? Can you be friends with folks of the genders they’re attracted to? Can bisexuals even HAVE friends? These questions have plagued us since we came out, and now we’re here to share our answers with you. Friendships are crucial for us to foster healthy interdependence and learn how to love selflessly. In this intimate conversation with Bailey and Jace, we cover all the basics on how friendship shows up for Bi+ people. Hosted by bi+ academics, writers, and advocates Bailey Merlin and Jace Rios Rivera, Bisexual Killjoy talks all things bisexual (pansexual, omnisexual, plurisexual, and overall bi+ness) because bisexuality isn’t a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Get even more Bisexual Killjoy content by joining our Patreon and following us on Instagram.  As always, we want to hear from you! You can chat with us on our Discord Server, send us a message, or email us at podcast@bisexualkilljoy.com   Resources: Cohen, R. (2024). The Other Significant Others. St. Martin’s Press. hooks, bell. All About Love: New Visions. (1999) Rich, A. (1980). Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence. Signs, 5(4), 631–660. http://www.jstor.org/stable/3173834 https://www.biwomenquarterly.com/against-the-hierarchy-centering-friendship-in-bi-womens-relational-lives/  Sound engineer: Richie Smith

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It’s not a phase; it’s a phenomenon. Bisexual Killjoy is an informative, hilarious, and occasionally spite-fueled podcast dedicated to everything bisexual+ (which means welcome to our pansexual and non-monosexual friends). Fronted by two bi+ folks willing to talk about anything and everything bi+, you can expect to hear good stories, meet bi+ scholars and advocates from around the world, and learn how to be a better Bisexual Killjoy. Find us @bisexualkilljoy on Instagram.

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    bisexualkilljoy
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    50
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