The OWN IT Podcast with Nicole Hollar

Nicole Hollar
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After 25+ years of working with people in fitness, coaching and personal development, I've learned one thing: We all have similar battles. They just show up wearing different outfits. The Own It Podcast is about personal power, the choices we make, and all the stuff that gets in the way. Limiting beliefs. Old stories. Relationships. Work. Health. Other people. Ourselves. You know...life. Episodes from Season 1 are conversations I've had with you, the listener. Season 2 digs deeper into ideas I've written about on The Own It Blog, bringing in different perspectives and discussions about what these ideas look like in real life. Because recognizing what's happening is one thing. Recognizing where you have agency and deciding what you want to do next is another. Expect relatable stories, different perspectives, practical ideas and the occasional uncomfortable question, all delivered with my pretty straightforward, sometimes dry sense of humor. Your power. Your choice. Own it.

  1. 1d ago

    5 Principles to Reshape Your Life

    Today we break down Hollar's Potter's Wheel™: The 5 Principles of Personal Agency, the cornerstone framework created by behavior change expert Nicole Hollar. This framework is the "5" from her 6-5-10™ Model, her monograph explaining the process of whole-person transformation. Her article Hollar's Potter's Wheel™: The 5 Principles of Personal Agency, (www.nicolehollar.com/blog) summarizes her structured framework to help individuals develop and practice personal agency. Using the metaphor of a spinning wheel, the model explains that while external forces initially shape us, adults have the power to reconstruct their own lives. This transformation occurs through five specific stages: Awareness, Acceptance, Ownership, Boundaries, and Choice. Nicole emphasizes that gaining autonomy is not a linear event but a continuous cycle of recognizing one's current state and making intentional adjustments. Through personal agency people have the capacity to move away from habitual patterns toward a life designed by deliberate purpose.

  2. 6d ago

    Who Are You When the Spotlight Fades?

    Today's episode examines the profound psychological impact of losing a defining identity, such as a professional career, athletic status, or a long-held personal role. Author Nicole Hollar wrote about this in her article, "Who Am I When the Spotlight Fades?" (www.nicolehollar.com/blog). In it, she explains that these transitions often trigger a genuine grief process because individuals frequently anchor their entire self-worth to external achievements and public validation. Ultimately, it serves as a guide for navigating the void left behind when the scaffolding of a highly visible or demanding role is removed. By viewing these life phases as individual chapters rather than a completed story, people can move past the feeling of disappearance that follows a major ending. Nicole's article emphasizes that true resilience requires acknowledging this loss and intentionally building a new sense of self based on current values rather than past applause and validation.

  3. Sep 29

    The Art of Listening So People Feel Heard

    Integrative life coach, Nicole Hollar, outlines a transformative approach to communication called active listening, which prioritizes genuine comprehension over the common urge to provide unsolicited solutions. In this episode we discuss four specific techniques from her article, "Why Listening Often Beats Problem-Solving," (www.nicolehollar.com/blog): paraphrasing, reflecting feelings, connecting emotions to facts, and clarifying—designed to make others feel truly understood. By moving away from a problem-solving mindset, individuals can allow speakers to retain their own agency and decision-making power. This method distinguishes itself from mere silence by requiring the listener to reflect the speaker's experience back to them without necessarily agreeing or offering judgment. Ultimately, mastering these skills fosters deeper connections in both professional environments and personal relationships. Such a behavioral shift ensures that conversations become a space for authentic validation rather than just a wait for one's turn to speak.

  4. Sep 24

    The Real Reasons You Say, "I Can't"

    In this episode we are discussing integrative life coach Nicole Hollar's article, "You Learned to Say, 'I Can't'," (www.nicolehollar.com/blog) where she examines why competent adults often abandon the adventurous spirit of their childhood to adopt a mindset of perceived helplessness. Nicole argues that the common refrain of "I don't know how" is rarely about a lack of intelligence, but rather a fear of vulnerability and a refusal to be seen as a beginner. This transition from active problem-solving to passive outsourcing creates a "lid" on one's personal potential, driven by the social pressure to avoid failure. In her article, she suggests that individuals can reclaim their confidence by differentiating between a genuine lack of interest and a self-imposed story of inability. By tackling small, low-stakes tasks, people can systematically rebuild the belief that they are still capable of navigating the unknown. Ultimately, Nicole write a call-to-action to stop avoiding discomfort and start reconnecting with the self-reliance of one's youth.

  5. Sep 22

    The High Price of Avoiding Conflict

    Our discussion explores how habitual conflict avoidance functions as a damaging coping mechanism rather than a true peacemaking skill. According to behavior change expert Nicole Hollar, suppressing grievances causes issues to accumulate interest, eventually leading to unspoken resentment, passive-aggressive behavior, and the silent tracking of others' perceived failures. By failing to set clear boundaries early on, individuals inadvertently train others to overlook their needs, which eventually results in disproportionate emotional outbursts. She emphasizes that real peace requires the courage to address problems while they are small and manageable. Ultimately, the source of this discussion, her article, "Why Avoiding Conflict Creates More Conflict," from www.nicolehollar.com/blog serves as a guide for reclaiming personal agency by choosing short-term discomfort over long-term relational decay.

  6. Sep 17

    Proactive Health Ownership: Taking Control Before the Crisis

    In this episode, we discuss Nicole Hollar's emphasis on the critical importance of proactive health management rather than waiting for a medical emergency to force a decision. She explores the psychological reasons why individuals often minimize symptoms and delay care, highlighting that such avoidance actually results in a loss of personal power. By shifting from a passive passenger to an active partner in their own wellness, patients can better advocate for themselves through research and assertive questioning. Nicole argues that ignoring persistent issues creates a compounding cost to one’s physical, mental, and emotional well-being over time. Ultimately, the article from her blog (www.nicolehollar.com/blog) that we are discussing, “Taking Control of Your Health Before the Other Shoe Drops,” serves as a guide for reclaiming personal agency by addressing health concerns before they escalate into unmanageable crises.

  7. Sep 15

    The Architecture of Ownership: Dismantling Personal Silos at Work

    This episode discusses Nicole Hollar’s article, “Who told you that wasn’t your job?” from her blog (www.nicolehollar.com/blog), which explores the psychological and behavioral reasons why individuals often avoid responsibility at work by claiming a task is not their job. While corporate silos are frequently blamed for poor collaboration, Nicole argues that these barriers are actually constructed through individual choices and a desire for personal comfort over professional influence. By choosing silence or disengagement, employees trade their personal agency for a lack of friction, which eventually solidifies into a stagnant company culture. She emphasizes that true ownership is a recurring decision to stay involved in the broader success of a project rather than just completing isolated tasks. Ultimately, Nicole encourages listeners to identify where they have relinquished their power and to distinguish between healthy professional boundaries and habits of avoidance. This perspective shifts the focus from structural organizational flaws to the internal mindset and daily actions of the individual worker.

  8. 11/11/2024

    30 Days to a Happier You! [ #32 #GratitudeChallenge #GratitudeJourney #BoostYourHappiness ]

    In this last episode of Season 1 of The OWN IT Podcast, I dive into the life-changing effects of keeping a gratitude journal, backed by a powerful study on how gratitude impacts happiness and well-being. I’ll show you how focusing on the positives can make you more optimistic, improve your relationships, and even boost your physical health. I’m challenging you to try a 30-day gratitude journal to see how this simple habit can amplify positivity in your life. Join me as we explore how noticing the good around you can transform your outlook and deepen your connections. - Find out more about me and my coaching programs at NicoleHollar.com, and follow me on social media @NicoleHollarCoaching. -- Check out more episodes: #1 — When New is Scary #4 — Get Clear About What You Want #18 — 8 Principles of Success #19 — The Good in the S****y #20 — Out of Control? Get Yourself Aligned #21 — This Is What Confidence Looks Like #24 — Find Your Purpose #30 — You Are More Capable Than You Realize     Connect with Nicole: Watch the episodes on YouTube  Follow Nicole on Instagram  Nicole's TikTok  Sign up for Nicole’s newsletter      Disclaimer: The Own It Podcast and content posted by Nicole Hollar is presented solely for general informational, educational, and entertainment purposes. The use of information on this podcast or materials linked from this podcast or website is at the user’s own risk. It is not intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional, diagnosis, or treatment. Users should not disregard or delay in obtaining medical advice for any medical or mental health condition they may have and should seek the assistance of their healthcare professionals for any such conditions.

    30 Days to a Happier You! [ #32 #GratitudeChallenge #GratitudeJourney #BoostYourHappiness ]
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After 25+ years of working with people in fitness, coaching and personal development, I've learned one thing: We all have similar battles. They just show up wearing different outfits. The Own It Podcast is about personal power, the choices we make, and all the stuff that gets in the way. Limiting beliefs. Old stories. Relationships. Work. Health. Other people. Ourselves. You know...life. Episodes from Season 1 are conversations I've had with you, the listener. Season 2 digs deeper into ideas I've written about on The Own It Blog, bringing in different perspectives and discussions about what these ideas look like in real life. Because recognizing what's happening is one thing. Recognizing where you have agency and deciding what you want to do next is another. Expect relatable stories, different perspectives, practical ideas and the occasional uncomfortable question, all delivered with my pretty straightforward, sometimes dry sense of humor. Your power. Your choice. Own it.

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