Deeper Sex - A podcast about deeper connections and incredible sex

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Hosted by real life couple Will & Chiara, Deeper Sex is a fun and sexy podcast about deep love, exploration and adventure. It’s for those who crave connection that’s real, sex that makes you feel alive, and love that’s rooted in authenticity. Our mission is to help passionate, growth-minded professionals get past their fears, and lay the foundations for deep, authentic connections, so you can increase trust in intimacy, and transform your romantic relationship for good, because the best sex of your life is in your future, and not in your past. With decades of experience in love and intimacy matters, specialised in ENM and open relationships, we’re here to share everything that we’ve learned about helping people unlock the Extraordinary in relationships and in sex. Deeper Sex is part of Deeper Lovers™ - our coaching method created from our passion for love, connection, and sexual exploration. After testing it on ourselves and hundreds of other people, we can't wait to show you too what becomes possible when you become a Deeper Lover - and how you can get there. For more info, visit deeperlovers.com About your host: Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships.

  1. Sep 22

    We said "I love you" to other people | Why "don't catch feelings" is bad advice | What happens when you let love in | E29

    We were taught that catching feelings for others was a bad idea. We have been doing the exact opposite, and our relationship only got stronger – not to mention the incredible sex between us... Today we talk about Love and how you can experience its deepest and purest form – whether you’re monogamous or not. We discuss: why "don't catch feelings" is a rule worth questioning the difference between f*****g and making love, and why you want to flow through both how jealousy gets smaller every time you face it why chasing your partner for sex doesn’t work (and what to do instead) == CHAPTERS: 02:42 Rule n. 1: Don't catch feelings - true or false? 04:02 F*****g, making love, and why you want both 07:30 You can have love without a relationship (and a relationship without love) 08:39 You're never in love with the person per se 12:33 Stop trying to convince them to have more sex 13:29 10 prompts for deeper conversations with your partner 18:43 Every test you pass takes one fear off the list 22:12 Why chasing women makes them run away - and what you should do instead 29:25 You can love someone and still go months without speaking == You might also like - related to this topic: E26 | Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars - With Eva Di Pierro - on Apple or Spotify E25 | Dreaming To Sleep With Multiple People But In A Monogamous Relationship? Here's How You Do Both - on Apple or Spotify E11 | How Do I Deal With Jealousy In My Relationship? – on Apple or Spotify FREE GUIDE: 10 Prompts For Deeper Conversations With Your Partner - Get your copy == Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn about what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationship.

  2. Sep 8

    The fine line making or breaking your sex life: 4 nervous system regulation hacks for wild adventures | E28

    “Feeling safe” is what makes great sex possible: your nervous system needs to feel completely at ease to really let go — but when your intimate encounter gets too safe, too planned, too nice, it’s no longer sexy. No matter if you’re man or woman. So how can you feel safe enough / provide the necessary “nervous system safety” to get sexy and maybe even a little kinky, without becoming boring? That's what this episode is about. We discuss: why your body won't do what you want on until it’s sure there's no tiger behind the tree why decisiveness is sexy: how to lead in bed without taking away their choice the nice guy paradox: how to stop getting friend-zoned now how to ask for what you want without fearing rejection (hint: it's not about you) If there's something you've been wanting to try, or say, and you haven't felt safe enough to go there yet, this is what you want to listen to today. == CHAPTERS: 01:30 Why men need to feel safe too 02:43 How to ask for something that you want, and be ok with a NO 03:12 How to have deeper conversations with your partner 03:41 What to do when energies don't exactly match 06:46 Why is the sense of safety so important 07:56 Safe enough or too safe? 10:19 Why decisiveness is sexy 13:15 How to regulate the nervous system – bedroom edit 14:17 The more they feel seen, the safer they feel 16:49 Safety starts with yourself 18:14 Secret Fantasies Live Workshop 19:43 Curiosity is what gets you laid 22:48 "Would you like to...?" vs. "Can I...?" 28:49 How to "actively listen" 31:01 How to touch “with quality” 33:52 How to re-establish safety in long-term relationships – and get that New Relationship Energy back 36:49 What if I'm afraid of being rejected? == You might also like - related to this topic: E19 | Threesome Fantasy? How To Talk To Your Partner About It (And Make It Happen) - on Apple or Spotify E22 | How To Share Secret Sexual Desires & Why We're Turned On By Taboos - on Apple or Spotify E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) - on Apple or Spotify  == Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships. Meet your mother's worst enemy at her next LIVE online workshop: Reserve your FREE seat

  3. Jul 28

    "You should not be wanting sex" - How Shame kills your sex life (and how to stop that) | E27

    📩 FREE GUIDE: How to talk about sex with your partner — download our 10 prompts If anyone has ever said that to you "You should not be wanting so much sex" - related to how often you want it, a fantasy, or a desire that turned up uninvited — this one is for you. We go straight to the point today: shame is the cause of almost every problem in a relationship. We discuss: how shame is something that we are not born with – but that is rather taught us – for good and, not so good, reasons how body shame is a boner/libido killer why you should trust your desires how stop giving a f**k about what people think creates space for curiosity, endless possibilities, and new levels of pleasures If you’ve ever found yourself fighting with your partner about how much sex you’re (not) having – listen to this and go back to that conversation. == TIMESTAMPS 02:01 What is shame? 04:44 Shame is learned 07:09 What are you ashamed of? 10:46 Body image shame 12:40 Intimacy: the relationship with yourself, before anybody else 15:50 Stop giving a f**k and it will affect others 16:42 What happens on the other side of shame 18:15 Shame as an identity 19:17 Shame for kinks and fantasies 22:28 Trust your desires 24:58 Shame of craving intimacy with a partner 26:42 Ban the phrase "you should not want this" and you'll have a happier relationship 28:32 How knowing your values improves and deepens your relationship 29:43 Shame is a mechanism of control. Control comes from fear   For more info, visit deeperlovers.com == Curious about this topic? Don't miss these other episodes: » E4 | Don't Like The Way You Look? Reframing Body Shame Leads To Deeper Intimacy – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E24 | Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive And How You Can Live Out Your Fantasies – Listen on Apple or Spotify » E26 | Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro – Listen on Apple or Spotify == JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" Reserve your seat

  4. Jul 14

    Open Or Monogamous Relationship? Neither Lasts Without These 3 Pillars — With Eva Di Pierro | E26

    ⚡️ FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" — join Chiara live. Reserve your seat ⚡️ Today we are joined by Eva Di Pierro - a somatic practitioner and bodyworker who's spent over 15 years guiding individuals, couples and leaders into deeper connection and presence — we trained under her years ago and have been working with her since. Will and I built our relationship on being open. Eva built hers on staying monogamous. We sat down to find out what actually makes a relationship work — and it turns out the model has almost nothing to do with it. In this episode we explore: what is a Sacred Relationship how to have one why idolising your partner is a just a trap how past fears impact your present relationship the 3 pillars of a successful relationship (Intimacy, Polarity, Devotion) whether monogamy is a "safer" option than an open relationship – but not necessarily the only “right” option the difference between choosing from Love or from Fear (Chiara’s favourite) people’s “craziest” fantasy – it’s not what you think! For more info, visit deeperlovers.com == TIME STAMPS 03:52 What is a Sacred Relationship 05:11 Transactional Sex vs. Sacred Love 06:29 Why idolising your partner doesn't serve you (nor them) 12:17 What is Devotion 14:58 What happens when only one partner wants to grow 19:30 Faith and Trust as "Devotion" 21:33 How past fears impact your present relationship (or lack thereof) 24:38 Pillar 1: Intimacy 25:07 Pillar 2: Polarity 25:28 Pillar 3: Devotion 27:13 Sacrifice = Giving up something for Something Sacred 28:28 Being Worshipped to Know We Are Enough 31:53 Shallow vs. Deep Relationship Choices 33:27 Are you choosing from Love or from Fear? 34:28 Your Open Relationship Will Fail Without Clear Agreements 36:39 Deep Intimacy is THE most craved fantasy 38:24 Practical ritual tip for the highest form of intimacy 41:55 Touch more, Talk less == If you enjoyed this episode, don't miss: » E16 | How To Restore Masculine/Feminine Polarity To Bring The Passion Back When Your Relationship Gets Meh – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify » E23 | What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify » E25 | Partners Variety Fantasy But In A Monogamous Relationship? Here's How You Can Have Both – Listen on Apple or Listen on Spotify == JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How To Share Your Secret Fantasies" - Reserve your seat here

  5. Apr 28

    Dreaming to sleep with multiple people but in a monogamous relationship? Here’s how you do both | E25

    Book your free spot: Chiara’s Live Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” – limited seats available Most people fantasise about being with someone other than their partner. That’s normal. The question is what you do with it. In this episode, we get into one of the most common — and least talked-about — sexual fantasies: desiring variety in sexual partners. We cover what ENM (Ethical Non-Monogamy) looks like in practice – with all its various flavours - and how monogamous couples can safely explore this territory without anyone doing anything with anybody else. This is one of the many things that become possible when you learn to share fantasies with each other. We also end up in a surprisingly good conversation about "having a type" — where it comes from, why biology explains far less of it than you'd expect, and what you might be missing out on if you keep yourself constrained to a rigid checklist of qualities to tick off. == TIME STAMPS 00:00 E25 Non-monogamy fantasy - having variety 01:25 Partners variety (ENM) is amongst the most common sexual fantasies 03:59 ENM structures: dating separately 04:32 ENM structures: dating together as a couple >> shared experience 05:08 ENM structures: polyamory 05:19 Fantasies as a tool to explore ENM for monogamous couples 07:15 How To Share Your Secret Fantasies - live workshop 08:32 Why variety is important 09:24 Is "having a type" blocking or expanding your relationship potential? 12:16 Why do we have "a type"? 15:31 Become aware of your own conditioning to access a wider dating pool 18:57 Awareness is key 25:20 Listen to your dreams For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == Curious about better expressing and making your sexual fantasies happen? Don’t miss these episodes:   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E24 Why Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive – Listen on Apple or Spotify

  6. Apr 15

    Suppressing Your Fantasies Is Counter Productive: We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others - with Paris | E24

    ⚡️Join us live: Free Online Workshop “How To Share Your Secret Fantasies” - Limited spots available⚡️ What if the fantasy you've been hiding is the exact thing your relationship needs? Most of us treat our desires like secrets — something to protect our partner from. Today we are joined by Paris, a longtime tantric practitioner and facilitator who went from completely frigid to living out every fantasy she's ever had. She is one of Will and Chiara's main teachers. In this episode we discuss: 🩶 why suppressing your fantasies makes them more obsessive, not less 🩶 how jealousy can turn into compersion (the opposite feeling to jealousy) — and what it takes to get there 🩶 the orgasm myths that's keeping millions of men and women from the best sex of their lives 🩶 tantric practices to expand g******s sensitivity and presence 🩶 how you transform your relationship when you start sharing out loud your desires 🩶 why men exploring their feminine side might be the sexiest thing you've ever witnessed (and how to get started) 🩶 the 21-day challenge that rewires how your body experiences pleasure Sharing and going after your desires doesn't damage a relationship. It deepens it. Listen to this incredible episode to know how. == TIME STAMPS 02:57 It's Time To Normalise Fantasies 03:42 Free Fantasies Live Workshop Invitation 04:41 Do You Know Where The Man's G-spot is? 05:47 Why It's Important To Live Out Your Fantasies 07:50 Serving vs. Taking 09:10 We Are Wired To Be Attracted To Others! 10:29 Jealousy vs. Compersion 11:05 Deal With Your Childhood Issues First! 11:57 Jealousy Is About YOU, Not Them 12:20 Jealousy Is Often FOMO 14:24 Try This   Biohack For Porn Addiction 16:53 How To Stop Your Sexual Obsessions 18:11 Why Suppressing Your Sexuality Is Counter Productive 20:24 Find A Tantric Community Near You... 21:26 ...Or Get Really Good At Communicating 24:28 Let's Normalise Sexual Language 25:26 Embrace The Slut Within You (for men and women) 26:54 How To Experience More Pleasure ( Debunking Orgasm Myths) 29:07 How To Improve Your Sex Life 34:17 The 21 Day Challenge 35:06 The Allowing vs. Forcing Principle 37:51 Exploring Fantasies As A Doorway To Deeper Connection And Trust 44:47 Bi-curiosity And Shame 46:46 Threesomes As Doorways To Brotherhood 48:29 Our Top Tips For Today == For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com Paris & The New Tantra school: https://thenewtantra.com/ == More episodes on the same topic:   >> E17 | How to get 10-minute long orgasms (for both men and women) - Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E23 What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That) – Listen on Apple or Spotify

  7. Apr 1

    What's Really Cockblocking Your Wildest Fantasies (And How To Stop That Now) | E23

    What’s the thing that scares the shit out of most couples? Being seen for who they really are. And in sex? Sharing their fantasies. What’s the one thing that sits underneath every fantasy, every risk, and every deeply connected relationship? It’s TRUST. Most of us simply don't trust what will happen when we share ourselves completely. So, today’s episode is all about helping you doing exactly that. We cover: the difference between fantasy and action the reasons why "convincing" your partner never works why a hard "no" today doesn't mean no forever how to talk about what turns you on without pressing your partner how the nervous system needs to hear something a few times before it stops treating it like a threat The best relationships are not built on playing safe. They’re built on the kind of trust that lets two people tell the truth, stay close, explore, and grow together. If you've been sitting on a sexy fantasy for a while but haven't found the way in yet, this episode is the conversation you need to hear – make it a date night to listen to it with your partner! For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com == TIME STAMPS 02:00 Free Fantasy Live Workshop Invitation 02:23 You Don't Know What You Don't Know 06:29 Challenging Times In A Relationship Don't Have To Be The End Of It 07:46 Trust Is What Changes Everything 10:01 What Are You Scared Of? 11:40 What Are They Going To Think? 13:08 How Chiara Felt Safe To Talk About Her Threesome Fantasy 14:42 The Secret Fantasies Workshop You Don't Want To Miss 15:19 How Do You Create Safety? 16:50 Is This A Relationship Worth Saving? 17:54 How To Know If You Should Turn Your Fantasy Into Reality 18:59 "I want to convince my partner to..." 22:09 Your Answer: Nervous System + Play 24:59 How To Find Your Voice 26:01 What Sops You From Sharing Fantasies 28:15 The Leap Of Faith To Trust 30:04 Ask Yourself This Question == More content about Sexual Fantasies: >> E6 | There’s No Shame In “Dirty” Fantasies: How Speaking Them Out Loud Transforms Taboos into Passion – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E19 | Threesome fantasy? How to talk to your partner about it (and make it happen) – Listen on Apple or Spotify   >> E22 | How to share secret sexual desires and why we're turned on by taboos – Listen on Apple or Spotify   JOIN CHIARA'S NEXT LIVE WORKSHOP: "How to share your secret fantasies and upgrade your sex life" Save your spot at https://chiarahardie.com/secret-fantasies-workshop-signup

  8. 05/07/2025

    How to share secret sexual desires & why we’re turned on by taboos | E22

    >> FREE LIVE WORKSHOP: "Finally Share your Secret Fantasies without Shame or Fear" > Download the free guide: “10 phrases to start deeper conversations with your partner”   Listen to E16 on masculine/feminine polarity in relationships: on Apple or Spotify Listen to E19 on threesome fantasies: on Apple or Spotify   For more info, visit www.deeperlovers.com

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Hosted by real life couple Will & Chiara, Deeper Sex is a fun and sexy podcast about deep love, exploration and adventure. It’s for those who crave connection that’s real, sex that makes you feel alive, and love that’s rooted in authenticity. Our mission is to help passionate, growth-minded professionals get past their fears, and lay the foundations for deep, authentic connections, so you can increase trust in intimacy, and transform your romantic relationship for good, because the best sex of your life is in your future, and not in your past. With decades of experience in love and intimacy matters, specialised in ENM and open relationships, we’re here to share everything that we’ve learned about helping people unlock the Extraordinary in relationships and in sex. Deeper Sex is part of Deeper Lovers™ - our coaching method created from our passion for love, connection, and sexual exploration. After testing it on ourselves and hundreds of other people, we can't wait to show you too what becomes possible when you become a Deeper Lover - and how you can get there. For more info, visit deeperlovers.com About your host: Chiara Hardie is an intimacy coach who shows you how to stop giving a damn what anyone thinks. She helps you find the confidence and freedom to express what you've never dared say — be it sex, taboos, or your relationships.

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