Where Do Gays Retire Podcast

Mark Goldstein

Where Do Gays Retire is a podcast where we help you in the LGBTQ+ community find a safe and affordable retirement destination. Join Mark Goldstein as he interviews others who live in gay-friendly places around the globe. Learn about the climate, cost of living, the LGBTQ + community, healthcare, crime and safety, and more.

  1. 1D AGO

    The Mediterranean Dream: Why We Chose Oliva, Spain

    Summary In this episode, Mark Goldstein interviews Brad Shreve and Maurice Chevalier, a couple who recently relocated to Oliva, Spain, after years of contemplating a move abroad. They share their journey of deciding between Ecuador and Spain, ultimately choosing Spain for its quality of life and community. The couple discusses their specific criteria for choosing a location, including a preference for smaller towns, affordability, and a welcoming atmosphere for the LGBTQ+ community. They emphasize that their move was not an escape from the U.S. but rather a pursuit of a different lifestyle and culture. Brad and Maurice recount their experiences of moving to Oliva without ever having visited, highlighting their extensive research and the importance of community connections. They discuss the cultural adjustments they’ve faced, including the pace of life, meal times, and the siesta concept. The couple also touches on the cost of living in Spain compared to their previous life in California, noting significant savings in rent and utilities, as well as the quality of food. Their story is a testament to the joys and challenges of relocating to a new country, and they offer insights into the vibrant life they are building in Oliva. In this episode, Maurice Chevalier shares his experiences of living in Oliva, Spain, particularly as part of the local gay community. He describes the vibrant and inclusive atmosphere, noting that being gay is a non-issue in the area and that a strong expat community regularly gathers for social events. Maurice discusses the ease of making acquaintances and the importance of community in their new life, emphasizing that they enjoy the local culture and the relaxed pace of life. He also touches on the practical aspects of living in Oliva, such as transportation, walkability, and the unique dining culture that differs from the U.S. lifestyle. The conversation shifts to the logistics of relocating to Spain, including the visa process and the importance of hiring relocation specialists to navigate the bureaucracy. Maurice explains the differences in daily life, including the Spanish dining schedule and the social norms surrounding coffee culture. He concludes by reflecting on the long-term prospects of living in Oliva, expressing a strong sense of belonging and contentment in their new home, while also acknowledging the importance of adaptability and openness to new experiences. Takeaways "We wanted somewhere that was openly gay friendly." "We did not want to work 60 to 70 hours a week to buy things that we then didn't have time to enjoy." "We are purposely not putting ourselves in that bubble." "We want to be able to converse, even if it's just minimal conversation." "We could change that overnight if we wanted to." "We love the concept of siesta. There's nothing about it that's negative in our mind." "We are actually trying to learn the language and practice it." "We felt instantly at home. It was just like this place has been waiting for me my whole life." "We are living in a much larger space for less money." "We are trying to build ties to the local community, not just the expat community." It's a non-issue, quite honestly. We wanted to have an active gay community. We can go be gay for the weekend. Everything's pretty much within a 15-minute walk. It's a clean town because people physically sweep the streets. Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.comwww.youtube.com/@ourchosenspanishlife Companies mentioned in this episode: Marriott Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 45m
  2. FEB 25

    Discovering Zaragoza: A Gay Couple's Journey to Spain with Chad and Jorge Pitts

    Summary In this conversation, Mark Goldstein interviews Chad Pitts and Jorge Pitts about their experiences living in Zaragoza, Spain. They discuss their motivations for moving, the research they conducted, and their first impressions of the city. The couple shares insights into the cultural vibe, community building, cost of living, transportation, food scene, and healthcare in Zaragoza. They also touch on the challenges of navigating Spanish bureaucracy and the benefits of living in a city that is both family-friendly and LGBTQ+ safe. Overall, they emphasize the importance of embracing the local culture and the rewarding experiences of expat life in Zaragoza. Takeaways Zaragoza offers a very authentic Spanish vibe, with a strong sense of community. The cost of living in Zaragoza is significantly lower than in larger cities like Madrid and Barcelona. Transportation in Zaragoza is excellent, with walkable streets and a reliable public transport system. Cultural experiences in Zaragoza are rich, with festivals and events happening regularly. Making friends in Zaragoza can be challenging, but it is possible with effort and openness. Healthcare in Zaragoza is accessible and affordable, especially compared to the US. The climate in Zaragoza can be extreme, with hot summers and cold winters, but it is manageable. Zaragoza is a safe place for LGBTQ+ families, with a welcoming community. The food scene in Zaragoza is diverse and delicious, with many international options available. Navigating Spanish bureaucracy can be frustrating, but it is part of the expat experience. Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.com Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 16m
  3. FEB 11

    Sherry, Sun, and Safety: Living Your Best Life in El Puerto! With Daniel Cairns

    We're diving into the sunny vibes of El Puerto de Santa Maria, a gem in southern Spain, where life is all about community and connection. Our guest, Daniel Cairns, swapped the hustle of London for the laid-back lifestyle of Andalusia, and he’s here to share how he and his partner are creating a welcoming home for expats in their Casa de Vecinos project. Together, they’re redefining retirement by blending practical tips on healthcare and living costs with the joy of embracing local culture—think flamenco and sherry tastings! We’ll chat about how to navigate life in this vibrant town, from the best places to eat (hello, tapas!) to how to get involved in the community. So grab your sunglasses and let’s get into the good life in El Puerto! El Puerto de Santa Maria is where the sun shines, the sherry flows, and the LGBTQ community thrives! In this episode, we dive into the coastal charm of this Andalusian gem with our guest Daniel Cairns, who swapped the hustle of London for a more relaxed life in Spain. Daniel shares how he and his partner, John, created a cozy home and a vibrant community project that welcomes newcomers with open arms. We talk about the importance of integrating into local culture, navigating the healthcare system, and embracing the joys of outdoor living. Daniel's stories are not just about retirement; they’re about finding your place in the world, making friends, and enjoying life to the fullest. Whether you're thinking of moving or just dreaming, this episode paints a picture of what life in El Puerto can be like for LGBTQ people, sprinkled with humor and heart. Get ready to be inspired by the beauty of community and connection! Takeaways: El Puerto de Santa Maria is a vibrant coastal town in Spain, perfect for LGBTQ retirees.Daniel and John created a community-focused project that blends affordable living with shared spaces.The local lifestyle includes outdoor living, festivals, and a strong sense of community and belonging.Healthcare in El Puerto is efficient, private insurance is affordable, and the services are excellent.Living in El Puerto means embracing a unique culture rich in flamenco, sherry, and local cuisine.Transportation is super convenient, making it easy to explore nearby cities and towns. Links referenced in this episode: https://andaluzliving.com/wheredogaysretire.comlgbtqseniors.com Companies mentioned in this episode: Louis VuittonChanelHarrods

    50 min
  4. JAN 28

    Where to Find Your Retirement Joy: 10 Questions to Ask! with Mark Goldstein & Michael AI

    Ready to level up your retirement game? We're diving into the 10 essential questions every LGBTQ person should ask before picking their retirement city. Forget about palm trees and sunshine; we're talking about finding a place that vibes with who you are today, not who you were in your 20s. From walkability to genuine LGBTQ friendliness, we've got the scoop on what really matters for your happiness and sanity. Join me and my sassy AI sidekick, Michael, as we navigate the nitty-gritty of making your golden years truly shine! Diving straight into the heart of retirement planning, this week’s episode is all about the essential questions every LGBTQ retiree needs to ask when choosing that perfect place to kick back and relax. We start by discussing the importance of picking a city that resonates with who you are today—not who you were 20 years ago. I mean, did you really think a beachside bungalow would still be your jam when you can barely handle a sand grain in your flip-flop? The conversation is rich with insights about walkability, cost of living, and how a place can either support or stifle your daily joy. We even share a few personal anecdotes about our own misadventures in city selection, which, spoiler alert, involved a gator or two in a retention pond. So grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let’s unravel what makes a retirement city the right fit for you. Next up, we tackle the burning question of LGBTQ friendliness. Spoiler: it’s not just about rainbows and parades! We dive into what actual protections look like and how to spot a community that truly embraces you year-round, not just during Pride Month. Think about it—wouldn’t it be nice to stroll down the street with your partner without feeling like you’re on display? We chat about cities that excel in creating inclusive environments, from the glittering streets of San Francisco to the surprisingly warm vibes of Asheville, North Carolina. Plus, we share how places in Spain set the bar high when it comes to feeling normal and accepted. Trust us; it’s a conversation you won’t want to miss! Finally, we wrap it all up with the big picture—what does your ideal Tuesday look like in retirement? No, really! Tuesday is the unsung hero of your week, and we explore how the day-to-day aspects of a city can make or break your experience. Accessibility to stores, health care, and even coffee shops play crucial roles in your retirement happiness. We throw in a dash of humor with tales of our own Tuesday escapades, comparing cities that excel at making life easier (hello, Spanish trams!) versus those that turn errands into Olympic events. So, hang tight as we help you navigate these essential questions, ensuring your retirement isn’t just about the sun—it's about thriving in your new home! Takeaways: Choosing a retirement city is all about finding the right vibe for who you are today, not who you were in the past.Is the city LGBTQ friendly year-round? Because Pride Month isn't the only time we need love and support!Your Tuesday routine matters more than you think—make sure it fits your retirement lifestyle and makes you happy.Don't forget to check out the healthcare situation; it’s crucial to know if you can get the care you need when you need it!Affordability goes beyond just rent; consider all the little costs that can add up and stress you out.Ask yourself if the city supports your dreams for this new chapter of life, because you deserve to thrive! Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.com Cities mentioned in this episode: San FranciscoAshevilleMadisonPalm SpringsCathedral CityRancho MirageSeattlePortlandBostonSpainSan DiegoValenciaAlicante Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    19 min
  5. JAN 14

    Living La Vida Local: Gay Retirement in Oaxaca with David Shallenberger and Harvey Nystrom

    Ever been curious about retiring in Oaxaca, Mexico? Well, grab your sun hat, because today we're diving into that dreamy destination! We chat with David and Harvey, a dynamic duo who’ve crafted their lives in this vibrant city after years of exploring Latin America. They'll share the scoop on community vibes, cost of living, and the oh-so-important healthcare scene. Spoiler alert: it’s all about connection and convenience, from the cobblestone streets to the local markets. So, stick around and soak in the wisdom from two guys who’ve turned their retirement into a colorful adventure! Let’s talk about walkability, community vibes, and the sweet life in Oaxaca! David and Harvey break down the nitty-gritty of life in their new home, where cobblestone streets lead to charming markets and friendly faces greet you at every corner. They’ve lived in several neighborhoods, each with its own unique flavor, and they reveal what surprised them most about settling in. Spoiler alert: the vibrant energy of the city, especially during the Day of the Dead celebrations, is a total game-changer! They emphasize the importance of community and how they've built connections with fellow LGBTQ folks, from volunteer opportunities to regular meetups. Plus, they share tips on navigating local healthcare and the importance of learning some Spanish to truly immerse yourself in the culture. This episode is packed with insights for anyone considering a retirement adventure south of the border! Takeaways: Oaxaca is a vibrant city filled with music, art, and a friendly atmosphere, perfect for retirees.David and Harvey share their experiences living in various Latin American countries before settling in Oaxaca.The cost of living in Oaxaca is quite reasonable, with rent for a two-bedroom apartment around $500 monthly.Healthcare in Oaxaca can be affordable, but many choose private care due to overcrowded public hospitals.Community is key in Oaxaca, with places like the Oaxaca Lending Library connecting LGBTQ folks with each other.Transportation in Oaxaca is walkable, and public options like taxis and buses are readily available, making car ownership unnecessary. Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.com Companies mentioned in this episode: AirbnbAmazonCostcoSantander Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 5m
  6. 12/31/2025

    Don't Just Visit—Live! Americans Moving To Spain -With Christopher Hughey

    Today, we're diving headfirst into the world of Americans moving to Spain! We'll chat about why folks from the LGBTQ community are flocking to this sunny slice of Europe, seeking safer and more affordable retirement spots. Our guest, Christopher Hughey, is a relocation guru who's got the inside scoop on what it takes to make the big move. From climate to cost of living, he's got the lowdown on everything you need to know to ensure a smooth transition. So, whether you're dreaming of tapas in Sevilla or sunbathing in Alicante, stick around for some fabulous tips and tricks to make your Spanish adventure a reality! Who knew moving to Spain could spark a whole new identity? In this episode, we chat with Christopher about the nitty-gritty of relocating, focusing on the non-lucrative visa that many Americans are eyeing. It's not just about the paperwork; it’s about understanding what life will look like once you land in Spain. Christopher emphasizes the importance of scouting trips, not just vacations, to get the real feel of living in Spanish neighborhoods. We also dive into the social aspects, from the vibrant LGBTQ community to the challenges of adapting to a new culture and language. Let’s just say, if you’re thinking about making Spain your next home, you might want to pack more than just your bags! Takeaways: This podcast episode highlights how to find affordable and gay-friendly retirement spots globally, especially in Spain.Mark Goldstein interviews Christopher Hughey, who shares insights about moving to Spain and life there.Understanding the visa process for moving to Spain is crucial, especially for retirees in the U.S.Scouting trips to Spain are essential for ensuring a smooth transition and happy living experience. Links referenced in this episode: americansmovingtospain.comwww.wheredogaysretire.com Companies mentioned in this episode: Americans Moving to SpainFacebook Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 22m
  7. 12/16/2025

    The Day That Changed My Life. 43 Years Later, I’m Going Back to Málaga

    We’re diving into some heavy stuff today, folks! This episode is all about survival and community, wrapped in a personal story that hits hard. Mark Goldstein shares his experience surviving an aviation disaster 43 years ago, and how that day shaped his journey. We talk about the importance of choosing safe, queer-friendly places and how community can be your lifeline. Plus, we throw in some tips on what to look for when scouting your next retirement spot. So, grab a cozy drink, settle in, and let’s explore how navigating life—and where to live—is all about connection and choice! Strap in, folks! We’re taking a detour from the usual retirement chit-chat to tackle a wild and emotional ride. Mark Goldstein shares a gripping personal story about surviving a plane crash in Malaga, Spain, 43 years ago, and how that experience shaped his outlook on life and community. He reflects on the chaos of that day and the choices he made that still resonate with him. It’s all about survival, connection, and the power of returning to a place that holds so much history. This isn’t just about retirement; it’s about the life we lead and the people we surround ourselves with. Mark’s journey reminds us that choosing a retirement destination is about more than just geography; it’s about choosing a community that feels like home. Takeaways: This episode dives deep into the journey of finding safe and affordable retirement options for the LGBTQ community. Mark Goldstein shares a gripping personal story about surviving an airplane crash in Spain back in 1982. The discussion highlights the importance of community and connection when choosing a place to retire happily. Listeners are encouraged to consider key factors like walkability and safety in their retirement planning. Mark reflects on how past experiences shape our choices in life and retirement, emphasizing the value of chosen family. The episode wraps up with a reminder that choosing joy and community is a powerful act of survival. Companies mentioned in this episode: Drexel Burnham Lambert Iberia Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.comlgbtqseniors.com

    25 min
  8. 12/03/2025

    Discover the Mediterranean Gem for LGBTQ Retirees: Montpellier! - With Lloyd Meeker

    We're taking a virtual trip to the gorgeous city of Montpellier in southern France, where retirement life for the LGBTQ community is as bright as the Mediterranean sun! Joining me, Mark Goldstein, is the fabulous Lloyd Meeker, who's got the inside scoop on everything you need to know—housing, healthcare, and the local vibe. Imagine living in a place where being gay is a total non-issue and the community is all about acceptance and celebration. We’ll dive into the costs of living, the stunning culture, and how to navigate the French healthcare system without losing your marbles. So grab your sunscreen and let’s explore what makes Montpellier a Mediterranean gem for retirement! Welcome to the sunny shores of Montpellier, where the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast takes you on a lively exploration of this Mediterranean haven! Mark Goldstein is on the mic with local resident Lloyd Meeker, who spills the secrets of what makes this city so special for LGBTQ retirees. From the moment you arrive, you’ll find a place that feels like home, where the climate is as warm as the community spirit. Lloyd shares his story of moving from the U.S. to France, navigating the housing market, and getting to grips with the local customs. Want to know about healthcare? He’s got you covered with all the juicy details on how the French system works and why it’s a game changer for retirees. Plus, if you’re a foodie, you’re in for a treat! The culinary scene in Montpellier is a delightful mix of traditional Occitan dishes and fresh seafood that’ll make your taste buds dance with joy. Throughout the episode, you’ll hear about the vibrant arts scene, the ease of getting around thanks to a top-notch public transport system, and the sense of safety that comes from living in such an accepting city. Whether you’re in the planning stages or just curious about life abroad, this episode is a treasure trove of information, camaraderie, and inspiration for your next big life chapter. So tune in and let’s get ready to retire in style! Takeaways: Montpellier is a Mediterranean gem where the LGBTQ community can feel safe and thrive. Living in Montpellier offers a unique blend of sunshine, culture, and community vibes for everyone. Healthcare in France is amazing, providing quality services without the exorbitant costs found in the U.S. Public transport in Montpellier is not only efficient but also free for residents, making life easier and more enjoyable. Links referenced in this episode: wheredogaysretire.com Mentioned in this episode: Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

    1h 23m

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Where Do Gays Retire is a podcast where we help you in the LGBTQ+ community find a safe and affordable retirement destination. Join Mark Goldstein as he interviews others who live in gay-friendly places around the globe. Learn about the climate, cost of living, the LGBTQ + community, healthcare, crime and safety, and more.