Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories

Our People Podcast
Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories

Our People is a podcast dedicated to the unique experiences within the Church of God In Christ Mennonite. Through heartfelt interviews, we spotlight the emotional and mental odysseys of current and former Holdeman members. We aim to provide a safe space for sharing the real impacts of life inside this high-control church, the challenging journey of questioning, and the transformative path to independence and emotional health. Listen to tales of survival, healing, and thriving beyond the church's confines, offering solace and encouragement to those on a similar journey.

  1. 12/10/2024

    Walking Each Other Home: A Conversation With Cam Isaac

    In this heartfelt episode of Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories, hosts Waylon and Carlie welcome guest Cam Isaac for an enlightening and deeply personal discussion. Cam, who previously delivered a widely resonated TED Talk, revisits some of the key lessons from his journey and expands on the life experiences that led to his transformative insights. The episode delves into Cam’s evolving relationship with faith, authority, and community. He reflects on his upbringing, the challenges of navigating rigid structures, and the profound importance of humility and apology in parenting—a concept that challenges traditional norms of parental authority. The discussion also explores the value of collective fellowship over hierarchical leadership, emphasizing authentic connection and mutual support in spiritual practices. Cam shares his emotional battle with stage-four lymphoma, highlighting the role of mindset, emotional awareness, and intuition in his recovery journey. He underscores the importance of listening to one’s body, processing emotions, and breaking generational cycles of trauma. These insights resonate as Cam talks about finding peace within himself, which he describes as the ultimate gift he treasures after years of struggle. The conversation touches on themes of love for the Holdeman Mennonite community, even amidst the complexities of leaving and navigating life outside of it. Cam's message is one of hope and encouragement for anyone walking similar paths, emphasizing that connection and mutual support are integral to the human experience. The episode concludes with a poignant reminder that life is about “walking each other home,” as the hosts and Cam express gratitude, love, and mutual respect for one another. This conversation is a moving testament to resilience, the power of shared stories, and the enduring impact of compassion and understanding. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast

    2h 13m
  2. 11/24/2024

    Mamzy's Story of Kidnapping and Abuse at a Holdeman Facility: A Voice From Fort Vermillion

    In this episode, Amanda and Weylin hear from Roberta, who was abducted from her mother by Hilltop Mission, a children's home that was then operated by Church of God in Christ Mennonite. Following her kidnapping, she details years of abuse including sexual assaults and regular beatings that left major emotional scars. Mamzy, as her loved ones call her, goes on to describe how her "foster parents" turned her into a missionary, pressing her to try to convert fellow indigenous children. At one point, she recounts, she was told to hide several Indigenous children within the childcare facility so that their parents could not take them home. Eventually, police intervened, stopping the abduction. As she grew older, she left the church and built a life of her own. Mamzy pursued an education in Indigenous counseling and has a family of her own. If you would like to learn more about her story, her forthcoming book is titled The Lucky One: A Memoir of the Sixty Scoop Woman by Roberta McKinnen. Follow us on Facebook: https://rb.gy/cj55td Subscribe on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490 Subscribe on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1 Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045 Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast

    1h 57m
  3. 11/17/2024

    Ray's Story of Faith and Family on the Mennonite Margins: A Voice From Fredonia

    In this episode of Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories, Waylon and Amanda welcome Ray, who takes us on a journey through his life as a member of the Church of God in Christ Mennonite. Ray begins by introducing himself as someone currently living in Muskogee, Oklahoma, but his story starts in the small, tight-knit congregation of Crooked Creek in northern Alberta, Canada. At just four years old, Ray’s family moved to Kansas, where he grew up in the Fredonia congregation, a community that profoundly shaped his worldview and sense of belonging. Ray shares vivid anecdotes from his upbringing, including the challenges of transitioning from one congregation to another at a young age and the deep familial roots that connected him to the church. His father was an outsider who joined the Holdeman faith, while his mother came from a well-established Holdeman family in Halstead, Kansas. These contrasting backgrounds provided Ray with a unique perspective on faith, tradition, and the sense of community within the church. One of the most impactful chapters of Ray’s life was his time in the Holdeman voluntary service units, an alternative to military service for conscientious objectors. He recounts how this experience gave him the opportunity to step outside the insular Holdeman world and connect with others in meaningful ways while still adhering to the church’s commitment to nonviolence. Ray reflects on the camaraderie, challenges, and moments of personal growth he experienced during his time in voluntary service, offering a rare glimpse into how this tradition shaped his understanding of work, service, and faith. His stories from this period reveal both the joys and the challenges of maintaining the Holdeman values in a broader societal context. Throughout the conversation, Ray reflects on the distinct practices and beliefs that defined his early life. He discusses the church's emphasis on unity, the simplicity of lifestyle, and the powerful role of family in shaping personal and spiritual identity. He also touches on the sacrifices and decisions his parents made in their faith journey and how those choices impacted his own understanding of what it means to grow up within a high-control religious group. Ray doesn’t shy away from discussing the challenges of Holdeman life. He talks about the cultural expectations placed on individuals and families and the way those expectations influenced his upbringing. His stories offer a nuanced perspective on the joys and struggles of belonging to such a close-knit faith community. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of roots, resilience, and faith as Ray offers a window into his life’s journey. Whether you grew up in the Holdeman church or are curious about its culture and traditions, this conversation is full of relatable moments and deep reflections on the enduring impact of faith, family, and service. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast⁠

    1h 19m
  4. 11/12/2024

    Wes's Story of Disillusionment, Loss, and Spiritual Growth: A Voice From Barron

    In this episode of "Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories," we had the pleasure of sitting down with Wes Friesen from the Barron, Wisconsin congregation of Church of God in Christ Mennonite. Wes takes us on a journey through his life, sharing intimate and heartfelt stories about his upbringing, experiences within the church, and his eventual path out of the Holdeman community. Wes begins by recounting his childhood in Barron, Wisconsin, a place where he spent the majority of his formative years. He reflects on the strong sense of community and belonging that characterized his early life, describing the close-knit nature of the Holdeman Mennonite congregation and the deep-rooted traditions that shaped his worldview. Despite the warmth and support of the community, Wes also touches on the restrictive aspects of growing up in a high-control environment, where conformity and adherence to church doctrines were paramount. As Wes delves deeper into his story, he shares poignant anecdotes about pivotal moments in his life. He speaks candidly about the internal struggles he faced as he began to question the teachings and practices of the church. These moments of doubt and introspection eventually led him to seek a life beyond the confines of the Holdeman community. One of the most compelling parts of Wes's narrative is his account of the personal and emotional challenges he encountered during his transition out of the church. He talks about the feelings of isolation and the loss of familial connections that often accompany such a significant life change. Despite these hardships, Wes's resilience and determination shine through as he describes how he rebuilt his life, forging new relationships and finding a sense of purpose outside the Holdeman Mennonite faith. Throughout the episode, Wes's storytelling is infused with a mix of humor, reflection, and raw honesty. He shares lighter moments that highlight the quirks and idiosyncrasies of life within the church, providing listeners with a nuanced perspective on the Holdeman experience. At the same time, his more serious reflections offer a profound insight into the personal cost of leaving a high-control religious group. Wes's story is not just one of leaving, but also of growth and self-discovery. He talks about the newfound freedoms and opportunities he has embraced since leaving the church, and how these have allowed him to explore his own identity and beliefs. His journey is a testament to the strength and courage it takes to break away from a life that no longer aligns with one's values and to seek out a path that is true to oneself. In this episode, listeners are invited to witness Wes's transformation from a young boy in Barron, Wisconsin, to a man who has navigated the complexities of faith, community, and personal identity. His story is a powerful reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the enduring quest for authenticity and freedom. Join us as we listen to Wes Friesen's inspiring journey on "Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories." His tale is a compelling addition to our series, offering hope and encouragement to anyone who has ever questioned their path and sought to forge a new direction in life. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast⁠

    1h 49m
  5. 11/10/2024

    Rosina's Story of Leaving and Living Fully: A Voice From Crooked Creek

    In this heartfelt episode of Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories, we sit down with Rosina Friesen, who offers a candid and inspiring account of her life’s journey. Born in 1950 in Crooked Creek, Alberta, Rosina grew up as the third of nine children in a bustling, hardworking family. Now living in Peace River, Alberta, she reflects on her early years in a traditional, close-knit community, shaped by the teachings of the Church of God in Christ Mennonite. Rosina’s story takes us through her career as a licensed practical nurse, a path she pursued with determination and compassion. She speaks about the joys and challenges of working in healthcare, especially as she balanced her professional aspirations with the church's strict gender roles and expectations. Her nursing career became a place where she could channel her innate drive to help others, but it also highlighted the tensions she felt between her evolving personal values and the constraints of her faith. As Rosina began questioning the church’s teachings, particularly its emphasis on conformity and control, she faced an inner battle that ultimately led to her decision to leave. She reflects on the courage it took to walk away from the only community she had ever known, and the profound personal growth she experienced in doing so. Leaving the church was not just about stepping into a new chapter but about rebuilding her sense of identity and autonomy. While it came with heartbreak—especially in navigating relationships with loved ones still in the church—it also brought new opportunities for self-discovery. One of the most striking anecdotes Rosina shares is how, later in life, she took up running as a way to challenge herself and embrace her independence. She humorously recounts the struggles and triumphs of starting to run as an elderly woman, defying expectations and finding joy in surprising new ways. This anecdote reflects a recurring theme in her story: the resilience to embrace change, the courage to try something new, and the determination to live life on her own terms. Rosina’s journey is a powerful reminder that it’s never too late to reinvent yourself, seek freedom, and carve out a life that reflects who you truly are. With warmth, humility, and a spark of humor, she invites listeners to reflect on their own paths and the strength it takes to walk toward authenticity. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast⁠

    1 hr
  6. 11/04/2024

    Herman's Story of The Challenges of Freedom and Building A Life Outside: A Voice From Crooked Creek

    In this episode of Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories, Amanda is joined by Herman Friesen, who shares his deeply personal story of growing up in a Holdeman Mennonite family and his life after leaving the church. Herman begins by recounting his early years, including his father’s role as a preacher and the significant moment when his father was "benched" from preaching when Herman was only four years old. He shares how he was converted at age 10 and baptized at 11, reflecting on the strong spiritual framework that shaped his childhood. As the conversation progresses, Herman dives into his experience of leaving the Holdeman church and navigating life beyond its strict boundaries. He talks about the struggles of breaking away from a high-control religious community, including the feelings of isolation, confusion, and loss. Herman opens up about how hard it was to reconcile the faith he was raised in with the new beliefs he was beginning to form. He shares the emotional toll of distancing himself from family and friends who remained in the church, highlighting the personal costs of leaving. Herman also discusses the sense of freedom he found after leaving, including the opportunities to explore different ways of thinking and living. He talks about building a new life, developing new friendships, and finding a different sense of purpose outside of the Holdeman church. His story is one of resilience, as he found ways to balance his respect for his roots with his desire for independence and personal growth. This episode provides an intimate, detailed look at what it’s like to grow up in and eventually leave a high-control religious environment. Herman’s honesty and vulnerability make this episode a powerful exploration of faith, identity, and the challenges of starting over. It’s a must-listen for anyone interested in the human side of religious transitions and personal transformation. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast⁠

    2h 11m
  7. 10/27/2024

    Tyson's Story of Struggle and Recovery: A Voice from Edberg

    This episode of Our People: Holdeman Mennonite Stories features Tyson, a guest who joins Amanda to discuss his journey of personal growth, healing, and self-discovery. Tyson starts off nervously but quickly opens up, sharing how he envisioned a podcast like this two years ago as a way for people with similar experiences to connect and heal. Surprisingly, Tyson discovered the podcast only a few months prior, making his appearance feel almost serendipitous. In the episode, Tyson dives into his background, touching on the struggles and turning points he encountered while grappling with his faith, identity, and community expectations. He candidly reflects on moments of self-doubt and the process of unlearning some of the restrictive beliefs he grew up with. Tyson emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain and past traumas as steps toward finding peace. He and Amanda discuss the broader themes of community, acceptance, and what it means to find freedom while staying true to one’s values. Listeners will hear Tyson’s reflections on family and friendship, especially how relationships change when one's belief system evolves. His honesty offers an insightful look into how leaving or questioning a high-control church affects not only one's spiritual path but also personal relationships and self-worth. This episode is a heartfelt and raw conversation, encouraging those who may feel isolated in their journey to find connection and support through shared stories. Tyson’s words will resonate with anyone who has experienced a period of questioning and transformation, particularly within tight-knit religious communities. Follow us on Facebook: ⁠https://rb.gy/cj55td⁠ Subscribe on Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/1KwYkbtbIswUN3z6JSrqz5?si=0913b1c334724490⁠ Subscribe on YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@OurPeoplePodcast?sub_confirmation=1⁠ Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-people-holdeman-mennonite-stories/id1740613045⁠ Are you or is someone you know interested in sharing a story on the podcast? Reach out to OurPeoplePodcastTeam@gmail.com or message us on Facebook. We would love to hear from you. Support Us On Patreon: ⁠https://patreon.com/OurPeoplePodcast⁠

    2h 10m

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Our People is a podcast dedicated to the unique experiences within the Church of God In Christ Mennonite. Through heartfelt interviews, we spotlight the emotional and mental odysseys of current and former Holdeman members. We aim to provide a safe space for sharing the real impacts of life inside this high-control church, the challenging journey of questioning, and the transformative path to independence and emotional health. Listen to tales of survival, healing, and thriving beyond the church's confines, offering solace and encouragement to those on a similar journey.

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