Continuing Education for Homeschooling Families

Heidi

Dedicated to supporting families in their journey of homeschooling by providing teaching strategies, curriculum guidance, and other actually helpful tips and insights. Whether you’re a seasoned homeschooling veteran or just starting out on this educational adventure, join us for wisdom and practical advice to help you navigate the homeschooling landscape with confidence and success. homeschoolce.substack.com

  1. 3d ago

    Structured Choice: The Teaching Strategy That Honors Your Kid and Your Sanity

    This episode breaks down structured choice — a research-backed strategy for giving students meaningful autonomy within a framework you design. Heidi walks through what structured choice actually is, what the research says about why it works, and five concrete techniques homeschool parents can start using immediately. What You’ll Learn * Why choice improves motivation, effort, and task performance — and why too much choice backfires * The difference between autonomy and unlimited freedom (and why it matters for your homeschool) * Five specific structured-choice techniques you can layer into your existing routine * How to avoid the most common mistakes when offering options to your kids * Why structure and choice aren’t opposites — they work together Research & Resources Mentioned * Patall, Erika A., Harris Cooper, and Jorgianne Civey Robinson. “The Effects of Choice on Intrinsic Motivation and Related Outcomes: A Meta-Analysis of Research Findings.” Psychological Bulletin 134, no. 2 (2008): 270–300. researchgate.net * Deci, Edward L. and Richard M. Ryan. Self-Determination Theory. Foundational framework for understanding autonomy, competence, and relatedness in motivation. Overview at selfdeterminationtheory.org * Schwartz, Barry. The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less. HarperCollins, 2004. TED Talk also available on YouTube: “The Paradox of Choice.” * Patall, E. A. “Optimizing the Power of Choice: Supporting Student Autonomy to Foster Motivation and Engagement in Learning.” Theory Into Practice, 2015. researchgate.net Additional Resources * Tomlinson, Carol Ann. The Differentiated Classroom: Responding to the Needs of All Learners. ASCD. A practical classic for designing instruction that meets learners where they are — structured choice lives here. * Ryan, Richard M. and Edward L. Deci. “Self-Determination and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being.” American Psychologist 55 (2000): 68–78. The foundational paper if you want to go deep on SDT. * Kohn, Alfie. Punished by Rewards. Houghton Mifflin, 1993. A more provocative look at motivation, control, and what we lose when we lean too hard on external incentives — good counterweight reading. Key Terms * Structured Choice — A teaching approach in which the educator defines a set of meaningful, equivalent options and the student selects among them. * Self-Determination Theory (SDT) — A framework in motivational psychology (Deci & Ryan) that identifies autonomy, competence, and relatedness as three core psychological needs for intrinsic motivation. * Paradox of Choice — The finding that an excess of options can overwhelm decision-makers, leading to paralysis, dissatisfaction, and regret rather than freedom. * Intrinsic Motivation — The drive to do something because it is inherently interesting or satisfying, as opposed to doing it for external rewards or to avoid punishment. * Autonomy-Supportive Teaching — An instructional style that acknowledges students’ perspectives, provides meaningful rationale, and offers options — associated with better engagement and academic outcomes. * Decision Fatigue — The deterioration in decision-making quality that follows prolonged or repeated decision-making; a reason not to layer choice into every moment of the school day. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    21 min

  2. 6d ago

    June 2026: News & Research: Laws, Brain Science, and Everyday Learning

    In this episode of Continuing Education, Heidi walks through the biggest homeschool‑related legal changes from the past month and then breaks down new research on how kids learn—especially around executive function, math, and unstructured time—into practical, home-friendly ideas. You’ll hear neutral, sourced summaries of recent bills, plus simple ways to weave brain‑based strategies into your daily routines with your kiddos. What You’ll Learn * How new homeschool oversight in one state and deregulation in another could signal future trends nationwide. * Why researchers are excited about pairing executive function practice with early math—and how to try this at home. * How free, less‑structured time may support kids’ ability to self‑direct their learning. * Simple writing and planning routines that help math and science “stick” for homeschooled students. Key News Stories & Links Connecticut: First statewide homeschool oversight law * Coalition for Responsible Home Education press release on HB 5468, “An Act Concerning the Provision of Parent‑Managed Learning,” outlining new requirements for parent notice and a one‑time child‑abuse registry check. * Link: https://crhe.org/connecticut-victory/ * HSLDA response explaining why they oppose the law and their concerns about families being flagged through child‑welfare databases. * Link: https://hslda.org/post/hslda-condemns-connecticuts-new-homeschooling-law New Hampshire: Bill to loosen homeschool requirements * HSLDA summary of HB 1268, describing how the bill would remove mandatory notification, annual evaluations, and portfolio requirements, and clarify that homeschooling alone cannot be treated as neglect. * Link: https://hslda.org/post/hb-1268 * NHPR coverage of the bill, including supportive and critical perspectives on reducing state oversight of home education. * Link: https://www.nhpr.org/nh-news/2026-04-21/nh-newhampshire-homeschool-homeschooling-regulations * Regional reporting on New Hampshire’s Senate Republicans backing the bill and concerns raised by child advocates about the loss of basic safeguards. * Link (example): https://granitepostnews.com/news/video/new-hampshire-senate-republicans-back-bill-curbing-homeschool-regulations/ National advocacy and ongoing policy debates * HSLDA’s “News & Updates” page, highlighting contrasting moves in different states (like Connecticut’s added oversight versus New Hampshire’s deregulation) and tracking both regulatory changes and access issues for homeschool graduates. * Link: https://hslda.org/explore/latest-resources/news-and-updates Featured Studies & Resources Executive function woven into early numeracy * npc Science of Learning study on an intervention that explicitly combined executive function tasks (working memory, flexible thinking, self‑control) with early math activities, finding gains in numeracy and in the linkage between executive function and math skills. * Link: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41539-025-00302-9 Executive functions and math achievement * Recent review showing that global executive function—especially working memory, inhibitory control, and cognitive flexibility—has a meaningful, positive relationship with students’ mathematics achievement. * Link: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/39466137/ * Earlier longitudinal work indicating that executive function in early childhood predicts later academic achievement, including math and reading in elementary school. * Link: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5448237/ Less‑structured time and self‑directed executive function * Study summarized by Education Week reporting that 6‑year‑olds who spent more of their week in less‑structured activities (free play, child‑chosen reading, informal family time) showed more advanced self‑directed executive function than peers whose schedules were more adult‑structured. * Link: https://www.edweek.org/teaching-learning/study-too-many-structured-activities-may-hinder-childrens-executive-functioning/2014/07 Writing to support math and science learning * Edutopia article by neurologist Judy Willis describing how regular writing in math and science—journals, explanations of problem‑solving steps, analogies—supports attention, pattern recognition, and long‑term retention. * Link: https://www.edutopia.org/blog/writing-executive-function-brain-research-judy-willis * Edutopia strategies for bolstering executive function in tweens and teens, including planning tasks, organizing responsibilities, and using self‑monitoring tools. * Link: https://www.edutopia.org/article/8-ways-bolster-executive-function-teens-and-tweens * Edutopia guidance on executive function and kindergarten readiness, with simple routines early‑years teachers use that can be adapted for homeschool. * Link: https://www.edutopia.org/article/executive-functioning-and-kindergarten-readiness Practical Tips Mentioned * Use “rule‑switching” games in math—changing skip‑counting patterns or problem rules mid‑stream—to exercise both numeracy and executive function. * Build everyday planning practice by letting kids choose the order of subjects or break a project into steps while you coach. * Protect pockets of truly unstructured time for free play or interest‑driven projects to support self‑directed executive function. * Invite your child or teen to write short reflections about tricky math problems or science concepts, focusing on explaining their thinking rathe r than getting “perfect” prose. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    19 min

  3. Jun 25

    The Goal-Setting Episode Nobody Gave You

    Goal setting sounds simple — until you’re the one responsible for both setting goals for your kids AND sustaining the energy to actually show up every day and homeschool them. In this episode, Heidi breaks down what the research actually says about goal setting, why vague goals fail, and how to build a goal-setting practice that works for your kids and for you. Practical, honest, and grounded in real motivation science. What You’ll Learn * Why “do your best” is actually less effective than specific, challenging goals — and how to help your kids set better ones * The difference between learning goals and performance goals, and why it matters for long-term motivation * How parental burnout connects to goal setting — and why setting a goal for yourself is not selfish * Five concrete strategies for goal setting with your kids AND for yourself * Why shorter goal cycles (think 6 weeks, not 6 months) actually work better for homeschooling families Research & Resources Mentioned * Locke, Edwin A. and Latham, Gary P. “Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey.” American Psychologist, Vol. 57, No. 9, 2002. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.57.9.705 * Locke, Edwin A. and Latham, Gary P. “New Directions in Goal-Setting Theory.” Current Directions in Psychological Science, 2006. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-8721.2006.00449.x * Dweck, Carol. “Carol Dweck Revisits the ‘Growth Mindset.’” Education Week, September 2015. https://www.edweek.org/leadership/opinion-carol-dweck-revisits-the-growth-mindset/2015/09 * Dweck, Carol S. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Ballantine Books, 2006. * Deci, Edward L. and Ryan, Richard M. “The ‘What’ and ‘Why’ of Goal Pursuits: Human Needs and the Self-Determination of Behavior.” Psychological Inquiry, 2000. * Joussemet, Mireille et al. “A Self-Determination Theory Perspective on Parenting.” Canadian Psychology, 2008. https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2008_JoussemetLandryKoestner_CanPsych.pdf * Ohio State University College of Nursing. “The Power of Positive Parenting: Evidence to Help Parents and Their Children Thrive.” 2024. https://nursing.osu.edu/news/2024/05/08/perfect-parent-study Additional Resources * Dweck, Carol. Mindset: The New Psychology of Success — the foundational book, accessible and practical for any parent * Emily Ley’s Grace, Not Perfection — not a research book, but a grounding read for parents navigating the pressure to do everything perfectly * The Self-Determination Theory website (selfdeterminationtheory.org) — free access to many of Deci and Ryan’s key papers for parents who want to go deeper Key Terms Goal-Setting Theory — A framework developed by Locke and Latham that identifies the conditions under which goals most effectively drive performance: goals should be specific, challenging, have clear feedback loops, and be connected to commitment and meaning. Learning Goals vs. Performance Goals — A distinction from Carol Dweck’s research. Learning goals focus on developing understanding and skill; performance goals focus on outcomes and external measures. Learning goals tend to produce more durable motivation. Self-Determination Theory (SDT) — Deci and Ryan’s theory of human motivation, which identifies three core psychological needs: autonomy (feeling in control of one’s choices), competence (feeling capable), and relatedness (feeling connected). When these needs are met, intrinsic motivation thrives. Parental Burnout — Distinct from general burnout, parental burnout is characterized by emotional exhaustion in the parenting role, emotional distancing from children, and a sense of inadequacy as a parent. Research shows it is associated with perfectionism and unrealistic expectations. Intrinsic Motivation — Motivation that comes from within — doing something because it is genuinely interesting, meaningful, or satisfying — as opposed to extrinsic motivation driven by rewards or external pressure. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    19 min

  4. Jun 15

    The 6-Minute Lesson: Why Shorter Chunks Actually Stick

    Chunking with processing time is a research-backed teaching rhythm that breaks lessons into small, digestible pieces and uses short active pauses between each one so learners actually retain what they’ve been taught. In this episode, Heidi walks through the cognitive science behind why it works, why it’s especially effective for neurodivergent learners, and six concrete techniques homeschooling parents can start using immediately. What You’ll Learn * Why working memory limits cause information to “evaporate” — and what to do about it * What retrieval practice actually means, and why it’s more effective than reviewing material * How predictable lesson structure reduces anxiety and supports regulation in neurodivergent learners * Six step-by-step techniques for implementing chunking at home, from planning chunk size to low-stakes delayed recall * Troubleshooting tips for freezing, resistance to timers, and attention drift mid-lesson Research & Resources Mentioned * Sweller, John. “Cognitive Load During Problem Solving: Effects on Learning.” Cognitive Science, 1988. [Available via Google Scholar] * Brown, Peter C., Henry L. Roediger III, and Mark A. McDaniel. Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning. Harvard University Press, 2014. https://www.hup.harvard.edu/books/9780674729018 * Miller, George A. “The Magical Number Seven, Plus or Minus Two.” Psychological Review, 1956. https://doi.org/10.1037/h0043158 * Adesope, O. O., Trevisan, D. A., & Sundararajan, N. “Rethinking the Use of Tests: A Meta-Analysis of Practice Testing.” Review of Educational Research, 2017. https://doi.org/10.3102/0034654316689306 Additional Resources * Overcoming Dyslexia by Sally Shaywitz, M.D. — excellent for understanding how reading and processing difficulties intersect with working memory; practical applications for homeschool * Understood.org’s explainer on working memory: https://www.understood.org/en/articles/working-memory-what-it-is-and-how-it-works * “Retrieval Practice” resource hub at retrievalpractice.org — free teacher-facing (and parent-facing) tools and research summaries: https://www.retrievalpractice.org Key Terms * Chunking — Breaking instruction into small, focused segments, each containing one main idea or step * Processing time — A short, active pause after a chunk where the learner retrieves or responds to what was just taught * Working memory — The brain’s short-term mental workspace; it has limited capacity and can become overloaded * Cognitive Load Theory — John Sweller’s framework describing how mental effort during learning affects what gets retained; high cognitive load impairs learning * Retrieval practice — The act of pulling information back out of memory (vs. passively reviewing it); shown to significantly improve long-term retention * Spaced practice — Spreading retrieval over time (e.g., reviewing material hours or days later) rather than in one block; increases retention * Scaffolding — Temporary supports — sentence starters, visual organizers, A/B choices — that help learners access tasks they couldn’t complete independently yet This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    27 min

  5. Jun 8

    Inclusive Devotional: What the Hard Feeling Is Trying to Say

    This devotional is for the homeschooling parent who is very good at pushing past uncomfortable feelings to keep the day moving — and who suspects something might be getting lost in that habit. Drawing on Rumi’s poetry, contemporary psychology, and Japanese aesthetics, this episode makes a gentle case for treating your hard feelings not as problems to solve, but as messengers worth listening to. LEARN The central idea is this: most of us have learned to treat difficult emotions as obstacles — things to manage, outlast, or outrun as quickly as possible. But a 13th-century Persian poet, a Harvard psychologist, and a centuries-old Japanese aesthetic concept all point toward the same counter-intuitive truth: our hard feelings are carrying information. They are pointing at what matters to us. The episode explores Rumi’s “The Guest House” — which imagines every emotion as a guest sent to guide us — alongside psychologist Susan David’s framework of emotions as data rather than directives, and the Japanese concept of mono no aware, which holds sadness and appreciation at the same time rather than asking us to choose between them. TALK — Conversation Starters * For little ones: “If your sad feeling were a character in a story, what would it look like? What would it need?” * For middle years: “Have you ever had a feeling you didn’t understand? What do you think it was trying to tell you?” * For older kids: “Is there a difference between having a feeling and believing everything that feeling says? What would that look like?” * For any age: “What’s a feeling you keep pushing away? What might happen if you just let it be there for a minute?” * For yourself, at the end of a hard day: “What was today’s difficult feeling pointing at?” DO — To Ponder or Practice * Try the question. The next time a difficult feeling shows up and your instinct is to push past it, just pause and ask it: What are you here for? You don’t have to journal it or analyze it. Just ask. See what surfaces. * Read “The Guest House” slowly, once a day, for a week. That may sound simple. It isn’t. Each line has more in it than the first read suggests. The Coleman Barks translation in The Essential Rumi is the most widely available and the most readable. * With your kids: Ask them to draw their feelings as characters or creatures. Give the creature a name. Ask it what it came to say. This works remarkably well for kids who shut down verbally when asked to talk about feelings directly. * Sit with one difficult feeling this week without trying to fix it. Not indefinitely — just for a few minutes. Practice witnessing it rather than managing it. Notice what it points toward. * Consider Susan David’s TED Talk. It’s about 16 minutes, it’s warm and personal (she opens with her own grief), and it will change how you think about the tyranny of positivity. Search “Susan David emotional courage TED Talk.” Sources & Further Reading Sources cited in the episode: * Rumi, “The Guest House,” translated by Coleman Barks. Appears in The Essential Rumi (HarperOne). The poem is from Rumi’s Masnavi, written in the 13th century. * Susan David, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life (Avery, 2016). Quote: “Emotions are data. They are not directives.” — from David’s TED Talk “The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage” (2017), viewed over 10 million times. * Mono no aware — Japanese aesthetic concept articulated in the 18th century by literary scholar Motoori Norinaga in his analysis of The Tale of Genji. Literally “the pathos of things”; an awareness of impermanence that holds sadness and appreciation simultaneously. For going deeper: * Susan David’s TED Talk: “The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage” (2017) — searchable on TED.com * Mary Oliver, Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver (Penguin Press) — for more poetry that witnesses difficult feelings without rushing past them * Bessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the Score (Viking) — for understanding how suppressed emotion lives in the body; accessible even if you’re not a psychology reader Key Ideas Emotional agility (Susan David): The ability to be present with your emotions — with curiosity and compassion — without letting them become directives. Emotions carry information; they don’t have to run the show. Mono no aware: A Japanese aesthetic concept meaning roughly “the pathos of things.” An awareness of impermanence that finds beauty and meaning in the bittersweet — in the recognition that something matters precisely because it will not last. Not pessimism; emotional literacy. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    18 min

  6. Jun 2

    Before You Teach Anything New, Do This First

    Before You Teach Anything New, Do This First Episode Summary Prior knowledge activation is one of the most research-backed teaching strategies available — and one of the easiest to use at home. In this episode, Heidi explains what the strategy is, why neuroscience and cognitive research support it, and gives six specific, age-flexible techniques homeschool parents can use starting today. What You’ll Learn * What prior knowledge activation actually is (and why it’s not just a warm-up) * The cognitive science behind why new learning sticks when connected to existing knowledge * Six practical techniques — from the Brain Dump to the Anticipation Guide — that work across subjects and ages * How to handle topics where your child has little or no background knowledge * The mistake that turns activation into a quiz (and how to avoid it) Research & Resources Mentioned * Hattan, Courtney, Patricia A. Alexander, and Sarah M. Lupo. “Leveraging What Students Know to Make Sense of Texts: What the Research Says About Prior Knowledge Activation.” Review of Educational Research, 2024. * Alber, Rebecca. “12 Ways to Activate Your Students’ Prior Knowledge.” Edutopia, February 2026. * Guo, Dingrong, et al. “Effects of Prior Knowledge on Brain Activation and Functional Connectivity during Memory Retrieval.” Scientific Reports, August 2023. * Ausubel, David P. Educational Psychology: A Cognitive View. Holt, Rinehart and Winston, 1968. * Cummins, Jim. Quoted in Future Educators, “Prior Knowledge Activities,” 2021. https://www.futureeducators.org/prior-knowledge-activities-classroom/ Additional Resources * Make It Stick: The Science of Successful Learning by Peter Brown, Henry Roediger, and Mark McDaniel — excellent companion reading for understanding retrieval and memory * Virginia Tech Center for Excellence in Teaching and Learning: Activating Prior Knowledge — practical overview with techniques * Donna Ogle’s original KWL chart framework (1987) — search “KWL chart Donna Ogle” for printable templates Key Terms * Prior knowledge: The information, experiences, and mental models a learner already holds before encountering new material * Schema: A mental framework — a kind of filing system — that organizes related knowledge in long-term memory * Subsumption theory: David Ausubel’s 1968 theory that meaningful learning occurs when new information is incorporated into existing mental structures, rather than memorized in isolation * Working memory: The short-term mental “workspace” where active thinking happens; prior knowledge activation helps move relevant information here before the lesson begins * Anticipation guide: A pre-reading or pre-lesson tool with true/false or agree/disagree statements that prompt students to surface what they already believe about a topic This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    21 min

  7. May 26

    Inclusive Devotional: You Are Allowed to Just Be

    LEARN This episode names the particular weight homeschool parents carry — the pressure to constantly justify their choices, to themselves as much as the world. Drawing on three traditions from three very different corners of the world, it offers a different way of holding that weight. Mary Oliver’s poem Wild Geese opens the door. Lao Tzu’s concept of wu wei reframes rest as working with, not against. And Desmond Tutu’s ubuntu reminds us that belonging is not a performance — it’s a given. TALK — Conversation Starters * For younger kids: “What’s your favorite thing to do just because it makes you happy, not because it’s for school or because someone asked you to?” * For older kids/teens: “Do you ever feel like you have to earn the right to rest? Like rest has to be deserved first?” * Any age: Read them Wild Geese by Mary Oliver. Ask which line stands out. Wait. Don’t push. * Any age: “Tell me about a moment this week when you felt really like yourself.” (Not an achievement — just a moment of being.) * Any age: “If you could spend a whole afternoon doing exactly what you wanted, with nothing on the schedule and no one watching, what would it look like?” DO — To Ponder or Practice * Sit with the voice. The next time you stop and the voice says you should be doing something — notice it. Name it. You don’t have to argue with it. Just recognize it as a voice, not a fact. * Write out one line. Copy a single line from Wild Geese that landed for you and put it somewhere you’ll see it this week. On the fridge. In your planner. Anywhere. * Try the ubuntu greeting. In the Zulu language, sawubona means “I see you” and the response sikhona means “I am seen.” Try the practice with your kids this week — not necessarily the Zulu words, but the intention: look at them and say “I see you.” Mean it. * Read Wild Geese aloud to your family. Don’t introduce it. Don’t explain it first. Just read it and see what happens. Sources & Further Reading * Oliver, Mary. “Wild Geese.” Dream Work. Atlantic Monthly Press, 1986. * Lao Tzu. Tao Te Ching, Chapter 48. (The Stephen Mitchell translation is widely praised for readability — Harper Perennial, 1988) * Tutu, Desmond. No Future Without Forgiveness. Doubleday, 1999. (Source of the ubuntu quote used in this episode) * Buckingham, Will. “Desmond Tutu, Ubuntu and the Possibility of Hope.” Looking for Wisdom, 2022. — https://www.willbuckingham.com/ubuntu/ Additional Reading * Oliver, Mary. Devotions: The Selected Poems of Mary Oliver. Penguin Press, 2017. (The best single-volume introduction to her work) * Mitchell, Stephen, trans. Tao Te Ching: A New English Version. Harper Perennial, 1988. (Very short — can be read in an evening) * Tutu, Desmond and Mpho Tutu. The Book of Forgiving. HarperOne, 2014. Key Ideas * Wu wei (无为) — A Taoist concept meaning “effortless action” or “non-striving.” Not passivity, but the practice of working with rather than forcing against. From Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching. * Ubuntu — A philosophy from the Bantu-speaking peoples of Southern Africa: I am because we are. Your humanity is not self-created or earned — it exists in relation to others. Belonging is not a performance; it is a given. * Wild Geese — A 1986 poem by Mary Oliver. Its central gift: you do not have to prove your worthiness. You already have a place in the family of things. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    16 min

  8. May 19

    Teaching Emotional Regulation Through Gaming Rage

    SHOW NOTES When the Controller Gets Slammed: Teaching Emotional Regulation Through Gaming Rage Episode Summary Gaming rage isn’t a parenting failure — it’s a neuroscience problem. This episode breaks down what’s actually happening in your child’s brain during a meltdown, what the research says about emotional validation and skill-building, and exactly what to do in the moment, after the storm, and over the long haul to raise a kid who can handle losing gracefully. What You’ll Learn * Why losing gracefully is a learned skill — and why kids’ brains literally aren’t equipped to do it yet * What Dr. John Gottman’s research on emotion coaching says about validation and calming down * A step-by-step approach for the moment of rage, the aftermath, and the long game * How to build a calm-down toolkit with your child before the next meltdown hits * Why gradual social exposure — not avoidance — is the right move for homeschool families worried about their child’s emotional regulation in group settings Research & Resources Mentioned * Arain, Mariam, et al. “Maturation of the Adolescent Brain.” Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment, 2013. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3621648/ * Hartley, C.A. & Somerville, L.H. “The Neuroscience of Adolescent Decision-Making.” Current Opinion in Behavioral Sciences, 2015. (Referenced in Lumen Learning’s Adolescent Psychology course: https://courses.lumenlearning.com/adolescent/chapter/brain-changes/) * Gottman, John M. Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child. Simon & Schuster, 1997. Overview of emotion coaching research and the five-step model. * Gottman Institute. “How to Strengthen Your Child’s Emotional Intelligence.” https://www.gottman.com/blog/strengthen-childs-emotional-intelligence/ * Medlin, Richard G. “Homeschooling and the Question of Socialization Revisited.” The Peabody Journal of Education, 2013. https://www.stetson.edu/artsci/psychology/media/medlin-socialization-2013.pdf Additional Resources * The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson — practical neuroscience for parents, written for actual humans (not just researchers) * Raising Good Humans by Hunter Clarke-Fields — mindfulness-based approach to emotional regulation for both kids and parents * The Gottman Institute’s free resources on emotion coaching: https://www.gottman.com/parents/ Key Terms * Executive Function — A set of mental skills including impulse control, working memory, and flexible thinking. These are housed primarily in the prefrontal cortex and develop throughout childhood and into early adulthood. * Prefrontal Cortex — The front region of the brain responsible for planning, decision-making, and impulse control. Last brain region to fully develop — research places full maturity around age 25. * Emotion Coaching — A parenting approach developed by Dr. John Gottman in which parents acknowledge and validate a child’s feelings rather than dismissing or immediately correcting them. Associated with faster emotional recovery and stronger long-term regulation skills. * Fight-or-Flight Response — The body’s automatic stress response when a perceived threat is detected. In this state, the rational prefrontal cortex is essentially offline, making reasoning or teaching ineffective until the child returns to calm. * Gradual Exposure — A research-backed approach to building tolerance for challenging situations by starting small and increasing difficulty over time. Used in both therapeutic and educational contexts. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit homeschoolce.substack.com

    29 min
See All (40)

About

Dedicated to supporting families in their journey of homeschooling by providing teaching strategies, curriculum guidance, and other actually helpful tips and insights. Whether you’re a seasoned homeschooling veteran or just starting out on this educational adventure, join us for wisdom and practical advice to help you navigate the homeschooling landscape with confidence and success. homeschoolce.substack.com

Information