获取全部文本资料公众号搜索:yymaster888 Conversation 1 Dad, you wanted to talk to me. Remember, I have to work today, so I don't have much time. Yes, I know that, but I don't know. I'm not sure I can tell you this. Well, you will have to hurry up because I will be late for a meeting. Come on. That's the thing. You're always busy. It's Sunday, but you have to work anyway. I can't believe you're telling me this. You perfectly know why I have to work hard. I know that. I mean, I thought I knew, but I don't anymore. Why? How do you think we can pay for all these things? This luxury house, the new car, the school. It costs a lot of money. We have talked about this topic many times. Don't you remember? Yeah, I know we have a lot of things. We have money. In fact, I think we have too much money. And that's the thing. Why don't we go on vacation together as a family? We do that. We go on vacation once a year, usually in December. No, I mean, why don't we just go together as a family? When we travel, you work anyway. I think you don't understand. I will explain it to you. Pay attention. Your dad hasn't always been a rich man. In fact, I was really poor when I was a child. I was born in a poor family. It was a huge family. We were seven brothers and two sisters. Our house was nothing compared to this one. We lived in a very small and poor house. It was an old house. The walls were made of wood, and the ceiling was falling apart. It was dangerous to live there, but we didn't have any other options since we didn't have money to move. Despite all that, your mother worked hard so we could have something to eat every day. She had to sell a lot of things: old flowers, toys, many things. Life was not easy back then. When I was your age, I had to start working. I got a job selling food on the beach. It was one of the most horrible jobs I could have. The weather was horrible, really sunny. I had to wake up at 4:00 in the morning so I could go to my boss's house to prepare the meal. So, not only did I sell the food, but I also had to prepare it early in the morning. I was hungry all the time. Hungry and tired. We used to eat only a piece of bread and some coffee for breakfast. And for lunch, just a little food. It wasn't enough. I usually finished work at 10:00 or 11:00 in the evening. I arrived home very late. And I had to work every day. Believe me, that job was horrible. And like that job, I had many others. I had to work, otherwise I wouldn't eat. I also helped a mechanic. I was a carpenter. I worked as a waiter in a restaurant. I had many jobs. We didn't have money, so I had to help my mom. Difficult times. Then I decided I wanted to study something. Maybe that way I could live better. So I studied in an institute near my house. It was not very famous, but it was cheap. And I worked and studied at the same time. It was not easy, but I could make it. Three years later, I graduated. I was so happy. I was really happy. Because I thought my life was going to change, you know? Now that I graduated, I could get a good job, earn a lot of money, buy a beautiful house, get an expensive car, and travel around the world. I thought my life was going to be perfect. Unfortunately, none of that happened. I couldn't get a job. And when I got one, it was horrible, and the payment sucked. So, I decided to quit. Then I made the decision to start my own business. I made a plan, asked for a loan, invested more money, and now here we are. What I mean is, it wasn't easy. I had to work really hard to get all these things. That's why I have to work today. Because that's the only way to get good things in life. You need to understand, son. That's why I don't have much time now. I understand that. I understand you have to work to improve your lifestyle. And I really appreciate all you do for this family. But you have everything now, am I right? We have a big house, an expensive car, and I study in one of the most famous schools. And you told me you have millions of dollars in your bank account. Is that correct? Maybe I shouldn't have told you that. But yeah, you're right. Yeah, so I understand you went through difficult times, but when will it be enough for you? How much money should you have to be happy? What do you mean? We need the money to have a good life, and you know that. Yes, we need money, but you already have it. When will you start enjoying that money? You already have millions of dollars in the bank, a house, cars, apartments, savings. Don't you think it's time to enjoy life more? To spend more time with your family? I need you. I'm sure my mom misses you, too. We need you to be with us. Please, just spend more time with us. Stop working too much. I need my dad. I didn't know you felt that way. I thought I was a good father. I thought so. You are a great father, but you deserve more. It's time for you to relax and enjoy your life. It's time for us to be happy. Come on. Please, Dad. You're right, son. I have worked hard, and now it's time to relax. Let's go. We need to buy some tickets so we can go on vacation. Conversation 2 Hello, Father. Finally, I could come here to visit you. Sorry for not coming sooner as I promised. Don't worry, son. You look happy to see me. That's not very common. Yeah, I know. What happened is that the advice you gave me last time I was here really worked for me. I could solve my problem, and I want to thank you. And I want to hear more. I'm so happy you could solve that problem. So, do you want to hear more life advice? Yes, Dad. You have a lot of experience since you are old. Well, maybe you're right. Soon, I will leave this world, and it's a great idea to pass on my experience and knowledge to the next generation. So, I will give you the best life advice. The number one is: stop trying to feel happy. You should strive for happiness, but trying to feel happy is a losing strategy. The truth is, you can't self-help yourself into a perfect life. And it's impossible for humans to feel happy all the time. Understanding that, and instead taking conscious actions that make your day-to-day life more joyful, is the key to true happiness. What I mean is, if you have to try to be cool, you will never be cool. Do you understand? If you have to try to be happy, then you will never be happy. People these days are just trying too hard. It is temporary. Always. So, live the moment. Those temporary moments. Another piece of advice I want you to know is: don't make impossible affirmations. Affirmations create belief traps. Standing in the mirror and saying, "I'm a gorgeous model," will only make you feel more inner turmoil because you won't believe the words you're saying. Instead of affirmations, trade up to realistic beliefs that you can accept. "I look amazing for my age." What I mean is, do not exaggerate. You could think it makes you feel better, but no. Being realistic is the best option. What else? Let go of your ego. Your ego tries to protect you from looking stupid. Your ego will keep you from signing up for a dance class, playing a sport, or attending a trivia night, even when those things are good, interesting, and fun. Instead of listening to it all the time, learn when it's okay to let go of your ego and do something different. Learn to accept the essence of something. Life isn't fair, but it can still be wonderful. Sometimes, you simply can't have something in life. Maybe you can't have children. Your dream job didn't work out. Or your relationship with your brother will never be good. Instead of chasing something you can't have, accept that you can have the essence of something. People who can't have babies can adopt. People who don't have their dream career can pursue their interests as hobbies. And people with frayed family bonds can make close connections with friends instead. But there's always a way to enjoy these things. Also, you need to understand what true freedom is. It's very important. Freedom isn't having tons of money or being able to travel all the time. Of course not. Instead, freedom is having a greater ability to control your emotional state, no matter what happens in life. That's what freedom really means. So, the question for you is: are you really free? Be happy instead of right. That's probably some of the best advice I can give you. We talked about not trying to find happiness. That's true. But it's also true that one way to guarantee more happiness in your life involves choosing to be happy instead of right. You can try this the next time you're arguing with your wife, partner, brother, or friend. Ask yourself: would I rather be right or happy? That way, the argument will end peacefully. And something important: this doesn't mean you are being the bigger person, nor does it mean that you are allowing yourself to be pushed around. All it means is that you see that there's a better way. Not every situation should lead to one winner and one loser. By taking this step, you not only preserve your own happiness, but also the happiness of all involved. So, decide to put ego aside and try it. What else? Live according to your values. A lot of us don't always behave in accordance with our values. Let me explain it to you. You can value honesty, creativity, freedom, and ingenuity. But if your beliefs, actions, and lifestyle don't mirror your values, you won't be satisfied with your life. Take stock of your life and see if it matches the values you hold dear. If not, it's time to make some changes. Another thing: whatever you do, give it 100%. Seriously. Whatever you find yourself doing at work or in your personal life, do the very best you can do. To do something mediocre harms both our psyche and our prospects. It negatively impacts our credibility, lets people down, and erodes our self-esteem. So, give your work your all. Do it with excellence. Do it more efficiently. Make it more interesting. Improve it or automate it. Give care to even the smallest task. You'll stand out if you