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Welcome to Salema’s Slow Edits, a space where movement meets stillness, reflection, and curiosity. Flowing with the rhythm of life on the water, I share Reformer, Yin, Pilates, and gentle practices inspired by Movement, TCM, and Zen to help you move, soften, and live with more presence. salemaveliu.substack.com

  1. 2D AGO

    Reform & Renew: Life in Motion

    The pause between movements—the space between breaths—is where we connect to the deeper rhythm of life. It is where we encounter the stillness that grounds and nourishes us.” Bonnie Bainbridge Cohen Welcome to Salema’s Slow Edits. A space where movement meets stillness, reflection, and curiosity. Reformer, Yin, Pilates, and gentle movement provide the canvas to explore life with intention. Inspired by the quiet wisdom of Movement, TCM, and Zen, I share practices, prompts, and reflections to help you move, soften, and live with more presence. Salema’s Slow Edits flows with the rhythm of my life on the water and the laid-back energy of coastal Australia—open, grounded, unhurried. Movement becomes meditation, reflection becomes practice, and curiosity becomes presence. More than movement.It’s presence. It’s practice. It’s life, gently edited. Life in midlife is full of shifts—physically, hormonally, and emotionally. Peri- and menopause for women bring changes that affect our energy, strength, and how we move through the world. That’s why I’ve been exploring Reformer Yin, a practice that meets your body where it is, working deeply into muscles, fascia, and joints while supporting the nervous system. In this podcast, I’ll share how this method l’ve been practising and teaching known as Reformer Yin can help reform your movement, restore balance, and renew your sense of vitality, not just for peri- or menopause, but for life as a whole. Alongside my upcoming workshops at The Ness Club, we’ll dive into the components of the practice, explore its benefits, and give you practical ways to bring mindful, intentional movement into your everyday life. So welcome……. Peri-menopause and menopause are not just phases—they are whole-body transitions. Estrogen and progesterone fluctuations affect nearly every system in the body: connective tissue becomes less resilient, joints feel stiffer, sleep patterns shift, and the nervous system becomes more sensitive. We can begin to notice at first subtle changes at first in posture, core stability, and even energy levels. If these shifts are left unmanaged, they can contribute to chronic discomfort, reduced mobility, and a sense of losing control over your body and basically not feeling like yourself. I was drawn to Reformer Yin because l was looking for practice that could help regulate and balance my nervous system/s. A practice which doesn’t fight the body but instead works with the body’s biology—its fascial structure, joint mechanics, and neuro-hormonal rhythms. And for anyone navigating peri- or menopause, that’s exactly the kind of practice that feels empowering rather than exhausting. Unlike high-intensity workouts that push through fatigue or repetitive strength-only routines, Reformer Yin is a targeted, mindful movement practice designed to meet your body where it is, while enhancing resilience and functional capacity. It merges the supportive mechanics of the Pilates reformer with Yin principles of long, passive stretching, producing benefits that are particularly relevant for those navigating hormonal transitions. REFORMER YIN - origins and key components Reformer Yin is a fusion of mindful movements, intentional breath work, meditation Self massage, self enquiry, fascia and targeted myofascia release techniques. 12 KEY Components of this method/practice: * 1. Taoist Yoga draws upon the practice, energetics and philosophy of Yin/Yang and the importance of balancing energies and our nervous systems in the body. * 2. Traditional Chinese Medicine/Meridans- Shapes are inspired by the Chinese Meridian lines are held for longer to target energy pathways and fascia release. * 3. Anatomy and pathology of movement through an energetic lens and skeletal perspective. Working with the body’s soft tissues—muscles, joints, and fascia—addressing both structural alignment and the common movement patterns that create tension or dysfunction. * 4. The 12 Major Myofascial Lines of Thomas Myers, which show that muscles, tendons, and fascia are interconnected in continuous pathways, challenging the traditional “single muscle” view of anatomy. These myofascial meridians explain how movement in one part of the body can influence distant areas, creating a dynamic, integrated system that supports fluid movement and balance. * 5. Nervous system awareness: Reformer Yin encourages working deeply with both the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems, creating awareness of how each influences movement, tension, and relaxation. * 6. Breathing Techniques (Pranayama practices) from the Yogic tradition. * 7. Chakras Yoga Philosophy. * 8. Long holds for joints and energy: Reformer Yin uses extended posture holds to gently open joints, improve mobility, and stimulate the flow of energy through fascial and TCM meridian lines, supporting overall vitality. * 9. Shapes are divided into Lower and Upper Body segments. * 10. Trigger point therapy & stretching: Release tension in sensitive muscle areas with targeted pressure with (footbar, massage, or peanut ball) to improve flexibility in fascia and muscles through dynamic, static, or PNF stretching. * 11. Hands on Assists for gentle support(with consent). * 12. Supportive spring tension: Using lighter reformer springs to provide support rather than resistance, allowing safe, controlled movement and deeper access to muscles and fascia. This method was created by my teacher Sam Sales at Barre Body Australia and represents her life’s work into understanding various forms of movement and body mechanics. 5 Ways that Reformer Yin Supports the Midlife Body 1. Connective Tissue Health Hormonal changes reduce collagen elasticity, affecting tendons, ligaments, and fascia. Reformer Yin uses sustained holds and gentle loading to improve flexibility and tissue hydration, helping to maintain joint integrity and reduce stiffness. Over time, this practice can help prevent the loss of range of motion that often accompanies peri-menopause. 2. Joint Preservation and Low-Impact Strength The reformer provides adjustable resistance that allows controlled, low-impact strengthening. This is crucial when estrogen decline makes joints more vulnerable to micro-trauma. By combining slow, precise movements with the reformer’s support, you maintain strength, protect cartilage, and reduce the risk of strain or injury. 3. Nervous System Regulation Hormonal fluctuations often heighten sympathetic nervous system activity, increasing stress, anxiety, and sleep disturbances. The mindful, breath-focused nature of Reformer Yin encourages parasympathetic engagement, promoting relaxation, deeper sleep, and a reduction in systemic inflammation. 4. Postural Alignment and Core Integration Perimenopausal shifts in body composition, spinal curvature, and pelvic stability can create imbalances. Reformer Yin emphasises spinal articulation, core engagement, and scapular stabilisation, retraining the body to move efficiently while reducing compensatory patterns that contribute to pain or fatigue. 5. Hormonal and Metabolic Support Movement alone cannot replace hormonal therapy or lifestyle strategies, but Reformer Yin complements these approaches by supporting metabolic health, reducing chronic inflammation, and improving circulation. For many, this combination helps mitigate symptoms like bloating, pelvic tension, and general fatigue. Why I Keep Coming Back I was drawn to Reformer Yin because it doesn’t fight the body. It works with the body’s biology—its fascial structure, joint mechanics, and neuro-hormonal rhythms. And for anyone navigating peri- or menopause, that’s exactly the kind of practice that feels empowering rather than exhausting. This practice isn’t flashy. It’s a clinically intelligent, intuitive, and profoundly respectful of how the body changes with hormones, age, and lifestyle. Every session feels like a reset: tissues release, muscles reconnect, my nervous system calms, and I feel more present in my body. Why It Works Better Than Conventional Approaches Traditional Pilates or yoga practices often focus either on strength or flexibility. Reformer Yin integrates both, with the added benefit of mechanical assistance and resistance modulation. This means midlife bodies can safely achieve deep tissue release without overexertion, while simultaneously activating stabilising muscles to maintain functional capacity. For people in peri- or menopause, this is transformative: the practice addresses both the physical and neurological consequences of hormonal change. It’s restorative yet energising, gentle yet effective, and evidence-informed in its approach to connective tissue, joint health, and nervous system regulation. Practical Takeaways * Start with controlled sessions 1–3 times per week to allow tissue adaptation. * Focus on quality over quantity: depth and precision matter more than duration. * Use breath and mindfulness as part of the practice to enhance nervous system benefits. * Combine with supportive lifestyle habits (sleep, hydration, nutrition, stress management) for maximal impact. In short, Reformer Yin is not just a workout—it’s a comprehensive, functional approach to navigating midlife transitions. It equips the body to maintain strength, flexibility, and resilience, while simultaneously calming the nervous system and supporting overall well-being. For anyone looking to reform their peri- or menopause experience, this practice offers an empowering, clinically-informed path to body confidence, comfort, and control. Thanks for joining me today! Reformer Yin is about more than exercise—it’s about listening to your body, moving with intention, and feeling renewed. If you’d like to explore it further, I’m offering 1:1 Reformer Yin sessions via Zoom—please direct message me if you’re interested. And don’t forget to keep an eye out for my upcoming workshops at The Ness Club, where we’ll dive even

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  2. JAN 6

    Restore & Reform Your Nervous System & Raise Your Vibration for 2026

    A snapshot from one of my reformer stretch/yin sessions @thenessclub. Hello friends, it’s been a while…..October actually was my last full post. Why the pause?…. Well there has been a lot of changes going on behind the scenes and these days l’m a bit more in tune with myself, knowing when l need to retreat, to regroup, to reinvent and when to push forward. How about you? Welcome back if you’ve been here before, and welcome if this is your first time. I created SlowForm Living with Salema, as an invitation for you to slow down, pause and nestle into reflections on life inspired by my slow living on the water, my love 4 movement, travel and all with a touch of an Aussie vibe. Here l offer helpful journalling prompts along with various practices to help you find your laid back vibe to enjoy life and to help you connect with your purpose. This is a free subscription currently however, if you would like to contribute an offering of thanks then you can donate here buy me a coffee All subscriptions and donations greatly appreciated. So what makes my first offering of 2026 different? Well it’s not just grounded in intuition and energy — but also in science-backed mechanisms showing the benefits of intentional practices like reformer yin can help you align with the season influencing your nervous system, stress response, and psychological resilience. So let’s get started. With pre Christmas organising and expectations still lingering in the air and now post festive holidays. You’ll be forgiven if you still feeling mentally hung over…….while you recover from the end of one year with expectations for the new year hovering overhead. Exploring realistic new daily structures, a new rhythm that is more in tune with you. So how are you feeling dear friends? Are you feeling depleted? Do you find yourself already imposing too many goals and deadlines? Right, take a short pause wherever you are right now - to breathe, be still and listen to what is stirring underneath the surface…. Some Prompts for this time……… What needs to be heard? What needs attention ? What needs to release? What boundaries need to be honoured emotionally and physically? What is emotional and physical nourishment looking like for you right now? What are you feeling? What do you need to feel safe? Typically the winter months are for retreating, listening, eating warming foods and taking rest to prepare for moving forward in the spring. Many of these elements reflected through many eastern systems including Ayurveda, Yoga, Yin Yoga, Reformer Yin (which draws from TCM). All of these systems share one thing in common - they honours seasonal transitions rather than rushing them, which is essential for nervous system balance. Seasonal Biology and the Nervous System From a physiological standpoint, any seasonal framework closely mirrors our modern understanding of biological rhythms. Human systems operate in cycles of stimulation, recovery, and integration. During winter and late winter, circadian rhythms slow, tissue repair increases, and the autonomic nervous system benefits from greater parasympathetic dominance. When we ignore these rhythms and continue to push high output, the nervous system often remains in a low-grade sympathetic state. Over time, this can reduce recovery capacity, impair breath mechanics, and increase background muscular tone. The body isn’t asking for a reset—it’s asking for regulation. The Winter / Water Phase in TCM According to Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), we are currently in the Winter / Water phase—a season associated with conservation, storage, and deep restoration. This phase is governed by the Kidney and Bladder systems, which in TCM relate not only to fluid regulation and skeletal support, but also speaks to the body’s capacity for endurance, adaptability, and the body’s stress response for recovery, resilience, and nervous system stability From a physiological perspective, this seasonal framework aligns closely with what we understand about human biology. During winter and late winter, metabolic demand naturally shifts, circadian rhythms slow, and the autonomic nervous system shows a greater need for parasympathetic dominance—supporting repair, integration, and energy preservation. This is not a time for abrupt resets or constant stimulation, but for gradual consolidation. Kidney / Water Themes: Fear, Willpower, and Resilience In TCM, the Kidney system is closely associated with fear and willpower. Practices that support this system are not about pushing through discomfort, but about building trust in the body’s capacity to adapt. Reformer Yin encourages stillness without collapse, effort without force. This balance supports emotional regulation alongside physical resilience, helping individuals meet challenge with steadiness rather than reactivity. Energetically, the Water element is linked to fear and willpower. When balanced, it supports resilience and quiet strength. When depleted, it can manifest as anxiety, fatigue, tension in the lower back, or difficulty regulating stress. Seasonal practices during this phase aim to preserve energy rather than expend it. Seasonally, this phase asks for conservation rather than expenditure—creating the conditions for strength to be restored, not forced. Yet so many of us go against this natural cycle and flow. Tuning into these shifts—rather than overriding them—can be profoundly supportive. Perhaps this is why the Chinese New Year, or lunar calendar, often feels more aligned with who we really are. For how can we raise our vibration to meet the start of new cycles if our nervous system is completely depleted? Practising With the Season & Ayurveda Seasonal practices are not about stopping movement—they are about timing and intention. Winter asks us to consolidate, integrate, and restore so that energy can be mobilised effectively when activity naturally increases. Reformer Yin respects this phase. It supports tissue repair, neural integration, and long-term sustainability, rather than short-term output. This is not a retreat from strength. It is the foundation that allows strength, clarity, and momentum to return—more efficiently and with greater ease. Equally, Ayurveda works with energies and elements of the universe as well as seasons. The universe is believed to be broken down into 5 elements: Earth - Water- Fire - Air and Ether which are also the five seasons of Ayurveda broken down into 3 types/doshas. * Vata = movement, creativity, change * Pitta = transformation, intensity, focus * Kapha = stability, calm, nurturing Everyone has all three doshas, but most people are dominant in one or two, which shapes their body, mind, digestion, habits, and emotional patterns—basically their natural blueprint. Ayurveda helps balance these energies through diet, lifestyle, exercise, and mindfulness, tailored to your unique dosha combination. The Three Dosha’s 1. Vata Dosha – The Energy of Movement Elements: Air + Ether Qualities: Light, dry, cold, mobile, irregular, subtle Body & Physical Traits: * Usually lean or thin * Dry skin and hair * Quick movements and gestures * Irregular appetite and digestion Mind & Behaviour: * Creative, imaginative, and quick-thinking * Energetic but can tire easily * Often adaptable but may feel anxious or restless under stress * Love variety and change Health Tendencies: * Prone to dryness (skin, hair, joints) * Can get bloating, constipation, or cold-related issues * Balance with warmth, grounding, regular routines, and nourishing foods Lifestyle Tips: * Keep warm, stay hydrated * Eat grounding, moist, and warm foods * Maintain a regular schedule for sleep, meals, and work * Gentle exercises like yoga, tai chi, or walking 2. Pitta Dosha – The Energy of Transformation Elements: Fire + Water Qualities: Hot, sharp, oily, intense, penetrating, light Body & Physical Traits: * Medium build, muscular * Warm body temperature * Strong digestion, good appetite * Prone to rashes, acne, or overheating Mind & Behavior: * Intelligent, focused, ambitious * Strong-willed and passionate * Can be easily irritable or impatient * Enjoy challenges and intellectual pursuits Health Tendencies: * Prone to inflammation, acid reflux, or skin irritations * Can overwork or overthink, leading to stress * Balance with cooling, calming routines and foods Lifestyle Tips: * Avoid overheating; enjoy cooling foods and environments * Practice meditation or calming exercises * Eat foods that are less spicy, lighter, and cooling * Engage in moderate exercise, avoid excessive heat 3. Kapha Dosha – The Energy of Stability Elements: Earth + Water Qualities: Heavy, slow, steady, soft, cold, oily Body & Physical Traits: * Solid, strong build, sometimes heavier * Smooth, oily skin * Calm movements and steady stamina * Slower digestion Mind & Behavior: * Loyal, patient, nurturing, and calm * Can be resistant to change * Enjoy routine, comfort, and stability * May have a tendency to attachment or lethargy Health Tendencies: * Prone to weight gain, congestion, or sluggishness * Can get depression or low motivation if out of balance * Balance with stimulating, energizing, and light practices Lifestyle Tips: * Engage in regular exercise to stay active * Eat lighter, spicier, and more energizing foods * Keep changing routines occasionally to avoid stagnation * Stay mentally stimulated and socially engaged Do you resonate with any of the above? Reformer Yin Physical practices like Reformer Yin embody the philosophy of moving with the seasons, offering space to slow down, regulate, and reconnect, allowing the body and the nervous system to move through change with more ease and awareness. This way of marking time is more consistent with how the body actually functions. Human physiology operates through biological rhythms and adaptive cycles, not abrupt resets. Neural, hormonal, and musculoskeletal systems require periods of load, recove

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  3. 10/06/2025

    Reset & Reform Your Breath

    This Week’s Invitation explores * benefits of breath work on and off the reformer * the neuroanatomy of breath and movement * how breathwork can help challenges of the menopause to support Menopause Awareness Month * a reformer yin inspired breathing practice Lately, after an extremely busy six-month cycle of training in mat pilates, reformer pilates and more recently reformer yin. I’ve found myself in a slower, more introspective state—a kind of personal reform. Moments of pauses along the way have become essential to be able to take all the information in and then more importantly have quiet periods to see how l might fuse all of the elements that l’ve learn’t along the way into a offering/s. October, after all is a season of pausing, reviewing, and gently rebuilding. There’s something powerful about giving yourself the time to catch your breath—literally and metaphorically. I now find myself in a very different place: professionally, mentally, and physically. And truthfully? It feels like I’ve landed in a much better place. That said, the journey hasn’t been without its challenges. There were moments along the way when I found myself holding my breath—not sure what would come next or where exactly I would land. Maybe you’ve felt that too? Of course, movement and meditation have been steady companions. But the one thing that truly anchored me—more than anything else—was breath work. Teaching pranayama as it’s known in yogic circles is something l’ve taught for over two decades but never imagined it would resurface the way it has. Something that feels like second nature to me has to always been starting each session/class of movement with a few minutes of breathing to help ground students in their receptivity. In other words helping them to land in the session without rushing them into the movement and at the end to allow their nervous systems to reset. In a world of constant stimulation we deserve to moments allow ourselves to switch off and go within, this l believe is reflected in our breathing and ultimately how we move and think after. What l found was because l started my reformer classes so differently, people were a bit shocked at first but then after the end of the class, people would come up and thank me for giving them the time to pause before they got moving. I have to say the response has been quite overwhelming and more importantly l am so happy that people are benefitting from doing it. Then as serendipity would have it, l recently came across some old notes from a workshop l taught back in 2018 for stress. These concepts felt deeply relevant to what I was relearning through my Reformer Yin training, and I began to see how I could adapt them directly on the Reformer—an element I’m now weaving into my developing Slowform Reformer Method. Reformer Breathwork in Menopause As l have been reviewing my knowledge of the nervous system in my reformer yin course, l also began to understand the relevance and importance for women in perimenopause, menopause and post menopause. During these periods it is essential to listen to what our body needs (and l’m talking from personal experience) rather than push through. Therefore, finding the right balance between our yang and yin energy when we move is key to a smoother pathway through this life transition. The main purpose of breathing techniques are to help shift the body into a more restful state—supporting the calming influence of the parasympathetic nervous system on the heart, lungs, and digestive organs. Reconnecting with your breath can be a powerful tool for navigating some of the challenges that often arise during menopause, including: * Insomnia:Practicing rhythmic, calming breathwork throughout the day helps regulate your nervous system, making it easier to fall asleep—and stay asleep—at night. Better sleep means deeper rest, more energy, and improved emotional resilience the next day. * Pelvic Floor Dysfunction:Diaphragmatic breathing engages and strengthens the deep core and pelvic floor muscles. Understanding the connection between the breath and pelvic floor movement can improve coordination, support bladder control, and enhance overall pelvic health. * Hot Flushes:Slow, controlled breathing has been shown to ease the intensity and frequency of hot flushes, helping you feel more grounded and in control when they arise. * Weight Gain & Cravings:Breath-led practices can support digestion by gently stimulating the organs and promoting movement through the gut. When combined with better sleep (a natural benefit of regular breathwork), you’re also less likely to reach for quick-energy foods or sugar-heavy snacks. Simply this is why breathing correctly helps during menopause. Hormonal shifts during menopause (especially oestrogen + progesterone) affect mood, sleep, energy & stress levels. Your breath directly influences your nervous system — helping you move from survival mode to a state of calm. * Down-regulate your stress levels * Reduce cortisol levels * Support your body through menopause Breath is a tool you already have —so why not use it wisely? Neuroanatomy of Breathing - How our nervous system works and how it serves us Our Autonomic Nervous System (ANS) regulates involuntary bodily functions like heart rate, digestion, respiration, and more. It has three main branches: * Sympathetic Nervous System * Known as the “fight or flight” response * Activates the body during perceived threats or stress (increased heart rate, dilated pupils, suppressed digestion) * Parasympathetic Nervous System * Known as the “rest and digest” system * Promotes relaxation, digestion, and recovery (slows heart rate, stimulates digestion). When we activate the parasympathetic system, the body slows, softens and begins to recover — cortisol lowers, digestion improves, heart rate eases. * Enteric Nervous System * Often called the “second brain” * A complex network of neurons embedded in the gut * It operates largely independently and manages digestion, but also communicates closely with the brain (via the vagus nerve, for example) It is also worth considering that both PSNS and SNS both send signals to many organs within the body. And did you know * The Enteric Nervous System contains over 100 million neurons—more than the spinal cord. While it’s part of the autonomic nervous system, it’s sometimes considered a separate entity due to its semi-autonomous functions and impact on emotions, mood, and even cognition (via the gut-brain axis). Thats why in every Reformer class I teach...We begin and end with conscious breathing. This balances the nervous system and sets the tone for your practice.Post-session, it brings the body into recovery mode — which is where the adaption, strength, balance and healing actually happen.Therefore, there should always be a moment of rest at the end of every session.Not just to catch your breath — but to allow the nervous system to integrate the work you’ve done. For example, when you rush straight out of class, you skip this vital recovery phase.Your brain, heart, gut and skin will thank you for taking that extra minute to pause.In this Menopause Awareness Month, let breath become your daily tool for strength, balance, and resilience — on and off the reformer. Get Your Reformer Glo on - How Breathwork Can Support Healthy, Radiant Skin And if thats not enough to champion why you should be paying more attention to your breath here’s another reason! It helps your skin. * Boosts CirculationDeep breathing increases oxygen flow, which nourishes skin cells and promotes a healthy, natural glow. * Reduces Stress-Related Skin IssuesActivating the parasympathetic nervous system can help calm inflammation, reduce breakouts, and ease conditions like eczema and psoriasis. * Improves DetoxificationConscious breath supports lymphatic drainage and efficient removal of toxins, reducing puffiness and dullness. * Enhances Sleep QualityBetter sleep through breath regulation allows the skin time to repair and regenerate overnight. * Balances HormonesBreathwork helps regulate stress hormones (like cortisol), which in turn supports clearer, more balanced skin. * Hydration + ElasticityImproved oxygen uptake encourages better nutrient absorption and moisture retention at a cellular level. Reformer Yin Inspired Boxed Breath Pranayama Practice on or off the reformer Here is one l practice a lot in my 1-2-1’s and group reformer classes Boxed Breathing (Box Breath) Practice Box breathing is a powerful, calming breathwork technique used to reduce stress, improve focus, and support the nervous system. It’s simple, grounding, and great for beginners or experienced practitioners alike. 🔲 Imagine drawing a box with your breath. Each side of the box is a 4-count phase: Try it now: Guided Box Breath Practice * Inhale slowly through your nose for 4 counts * Hold your breath for 4 counts * Exhale gently through your mouth for 4 counts * Hold again for 4 counts Repeat for 4 rounds, and notice how your mind and body begin to soften. Repeat the cycle for 3–5 minutes, or longer if it feels good. To explore and find out more about Barre Body’s Reformer Yin training use the code AFFILIATE50 to receive $50 off any training at checkout! If you’re ready to elevate your practice, click the link below! REFORMER YIN TT Find out more about my slowform approach to reformer classes slowform reformer classes I finish with one of my favourite poems (by me!) Unfolding Your Myth Light mirrors life Reflecting back what we have chosen to ignore Uncovering undiscovered depths We find ourselves Answering enquiries through a different lens Helping us breathe again Into a new experience we go Not knowing what lays ahead or which way to go Breathing again Somehow finding the path Illuminating forgotten insights and depths A reminder of all that has been and what yet awaits Breathin

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  4. 08/25/2025

    Surfing the Waves Back Home: Reset, Reform, Return

    Nosara, Costa Rica - Blue Spirit Retreat DEC 24 Welcome to SlowForm Living where l nestle into reflections on life inspired by slow living on the water, my love 4 movement, all with a touch of Aussie ease. Expect inspiring reflections, journalling prompts and movement and meditation practices to help you find your laid back vibe It’s been a while since we last met. Much has changed, many reflections, big changes, and deeper insights have all been a theme for me since DEC 24. A real turning point for me, not just in terms of change, but in alignment—body, mind, and spirit in the way that they began to speak the same language, so l listened. During this transitional time, l took my cues from being on the water, watching and being more presence with the ebb and flow of the current, the current of change and cycles. Appreciating the ride of the past, but also on the look out for the next big wave to surf and the pauses in between to listen. As I grow older, I find myself reflecting more on the experiences I've lived, the influences that shaped me, and the inspirations I've acted upon—all of which have led me to this moment, l realise. I’m grateful to have lived my dreams and accomplished far more than I ever imagined, even when faced with seemingly impossible odds. I take pride in my journey—from training and teaching the London circuit, to traveling the world, leading retreats and events. Filming with online platform Grokker. On Retreat in Morocco On Retreat in Morocco Teaching on the top of the EMI Music building in LONDON (one of my regular and favourite gigs. Teaching at The Shard - London Teaching at The Shard - London Eventually, leading me to find a home at the original TriYoga London, where I served as a resident teacher for over a decade. Working alongside the incredible Elena Brower since 2015 sparked another phase of profound growth, both professionally and personally. My teaching style and vibe have since been featured in amazing publications, podcasts, platforms, events, and collaborations. Teaching at the YOGA SHOW - London Teaching at Lululemon, Kings Road, Chelsea - London Then, Covid hit. In the second wave of the pandemic, I found myself questioning if I would ever reconnect with the person I once was—my style, my vibe, which somehow seemed lost. On top of that, navigating through perimenopause, I realised that I needed a profound change, both mentally and physically. With the unwavering support of my partner, I began to make progress. The universe, in its mysterious way, conspired to bring forced changes and unexpected opportunities, manifesting through chance encounters and meaningful connections. Slowly but surely, I was finding my way again. Returning almost full cycle in the process, as l found myself drawn to practicing pilates again, which is where l first started a transformation. Back in the day one of my teachers and friends, was a pilates and yoga teacher and l can’t tell you how much learn’t from her - invaluable. As l practiced more, l was observing all the time, from the hands on adjusts to her cueing and eventually became her assistant in her yoga classes. While l had never thought then about becoming a Pilates teacher and l had thought and with her encouragement to study and become a yoga teacher, which l went on to achieve. All my training to date had given me access to some amazing well respected global teachers who continue to inspire me and fuel my passion for functional and creative movement as well as practices in philosophy and meditation for my exploring mind. Teaching part-time while working l eventually gave up my main career (which was a good one at British Airways) l took a leap of faith and set up my own business teaching and coaching in London (which was hugely successful by the way!) Reminding me that when one door closes, another opens…… Movement is a form of not only functional but creative expression. Returning home to this form - pilates, this time around has been and is different. Pilates helped me realise that it is ok not to have the same form/body and what l could do with it before. So l set out on another journey of self discovery towards building longevity, strength and resilience gracefully in a different way through a different lens, it’s taken a while but this is what happened to me along the way. At the beginning of the year while restarting a regular Mat Pilates practice, l started going to Reformer Pilates and absolutely loved it. Why? Because it was something new but also at the same time it reminded me of my early days learning Iyengar Yoga. From Iyengar’s hands on adjust to the cueing, l began to see a lot of similarities between Iyengar and Joseph Pilates so l was curious. The more l practiced the more l could see and feel that this is what my body needed in this cycle of my life and l am eternally grateful to Paula who was my very first reformer teacher for showing me the ropes (so to speak!). Deciding to retrain in another modality Mat Pilates back in May, was one of the best decisions l made this year, which was to become a catalyst. The journey continuing with another amazing teacher Naomi De Fabio later in June this time training in Reformer Pilates in London. Being back in South London and around Chelsea, Camden and Primose Hill really brought back a lot of happy memories of the life l had in London, before l moved just before the pandemic hit. Seeing some familiar faces along the way, coupled with being able to go the launch of HOME in Primose Hill, a new pilates and yoga studio opened by the formidable Jonathan Sattin (the original owner of TRIYOGA). Opening on the original site of the old TriYoga Primose Hill some fifteen years earlier, it was quite emotional to come home to where it all started, where l got my first big break onto the London and global scene. Now as l move forward along this new pathway, l am working with Barre Body in Byron Bay, in Australia in the Art of REFORMER YIN with the incredible Sam Sales, which l’m looking forward to sharing some insights with you as we move through the next few months online and in person. On the path…… Always having been one with many creative ideas, carving out my own vibe and style as l’ve gone along life’s path. l was on the look out to find a new home for my style, my vibe- the authentic me, to teach without having to be put in a box, so to speak and being told what to teach and how to look? Enter The Ness Club….. A reach out on social media, instigated a conversation, instigated a meeting, instigated an amazing offer with support and respect for my experience and who l was. I was being seen again. An older teacher, one that doesn’t conform to stereotypes. But knows who and what she is and relishes in that energy. How refreshing. The real reset has begun. And more importantly, it helped me remember why l started…… What a blessing. Returning to my authentic self this time around has meant fully embracing my laid-back vibe and style, deeply influenced by my travels, especially in Australia. The Aussie ease of living and being—my true element—has shaped the way I live. Although the weather here in Cambridge may not quite match the sunny shores, I've managed to recreate that same connection to water. It’s where I choose to live—by, next to, and on the water. SlowForm Living with Salema Veliu is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Thank you for subscribing. Leave a comment or share this episode.

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  5. 06/22/2025

    Pilates Meets Zen: Prana, Precision & the Focused Path to Flow in Life

    Your Invitation to Nourishment this week * A set of embodied prompts to help you return to centre — physically, emotionally, and energetically. Grounded in Pilates precision and Zen simplicity, these reflections guide you to: * Embrace precision as a pathway to clarity and confidence, not perfection. * Refine your focus to cultivate presence in movement and daily life. * Prāṇa Activation Practice to Center & Circulate energy. * Explore a Zen-inspired approach to showing up with sincerity, simplicity, and presence. A gentle call to notice where your energy is going, how your intentions shape your actions, and how nourishment and healing begins by listening and tuning within. To be honest, this is the first real moment I’ve had to land since returning from my recent trip to Spain. After weeks of planning, studying, travelling and teaching, I’ve finally allowed the words to arrive — not forced, just gently welcomed. AumYogaMarbella I’m writing this on the evening of the Summer Solstice, the longest day of the year, from my quiet spot by the water here in Cambridgeshire. There’s a warm stillness in the air where various Dragonflies and paddle boarders skim the surface. The light lingers a little longer — an invitation to pause, breathe, and receive. May was both generous and genius — full of life, momentum, a few bumps, yes, but also breakthroughs. Since April, a quiet energy has been building — a re-focus, a reset, and perhaps most importantly, a renewed belief in myself and my path. Working alongside Elena Brower and our Hive consort has offered a grounded space for deep directionality — a word I’ve come to love — paired with clarity and spaciousness. That work was soon followed by my Mat Pilates certification, and now I find myself preparing for the next step: heading to London this week to begin Reformer training with the wonderful Naomi De Fabio. It’s been a season of authentic connections, unexpected openings, and the sweet surprise of my coaching practice quietly rebuilding itself — proof that we never truly start from scratch when we move from the centre. One of the core principles of Pilates is centering — the idea that all movement begins from a strong, stable centre. Not just physically, through the core and deep postural muscles, but energetically and mentally too. To be centered is to return to your source of strength.To know where you move from — and why. In Pilates, we train this with focus, breath, and intention. We return to the centre not to control, but to cultivate calm, clarity, and direction. Whether on the mat or in life, when you're centred, your movement becomes more meaningful, more aligned — and ultimately, more free. And when combined with precision, this becomes a kind of embodied meditation. A daily practice of remembering and refining. So what does all of this have to do with Prana, Precision, Focus, and Flow, you ask? Everything. These four elements have been the quiet threads woven through every endeavour that’s felt aligned, easeful, and purposeful. And the times where things haven’t flowed? I can honestly say one or more of those elements was missing. Returning to Pilates has taught me the beauty of precision — not to strive for perfection, but to move with intention, clarity, and awareness. A core principle of the method is control — not in a rigid way, but in a way that honours the relationship between breath, movement, and mind. Just last week, after covering a Pilates class, a student approached me and said: “I just wanted to say how helpful it was the way you explained the breath. It was so precise and supportive — it helped me feel more in control.” I smiled, surprised. I wasn’t sure what I had said differently. But it reminded me: people feel when you are present — when you’re focused. And then, during a mat class this week, the teacher mentioned my concentration, noting how “tuned in” I seemed. Again, a simple reflection, but one that echoed something deeper I’ve been exploring: * Where we place our focus, our energy flows. * When we move with precision, we create presence. * And when we honour the breath — our life force, our prana — we align with a deeper intelligence within us. In Sanskrit, prāṇa (प्राण) means "life force" or "vital energy." Breath is its vehicle: While breath (vāyu or shvāsa) is not the same as prāṇa, it's considered the main carrier or expression of prāṇa in the physical body. In yogic, Ayurvedic, and energetic systems (like traditional Chinese medicine's qi), breath and prāṇa are intimately linked, but not identical. * Breath is the tangible expression. * Prāṇa is the subtle force behind it Prāṇa Activation Practice: Center & Circulate Purpose:To awaken and circulate prāṇa through intentional breath, focus, and subtle movement. This practice calms the nervous system, strengthens internal awareness, and reconnects you with your energetic centre. Step 1: Ground & Centre (2–3 mins) * Come to a comfortable seated position (on the floor or a chair). * Rest your hands on your belly or heart. * Close your eyes gently. * Begin to follow the natural rhythm of your breath. * Soften your jaw, shoulders, and forehead. Whisper to yourself: “I am here. I am centred.” Step 2: Breath + Awareness (3–4 mins) * Inhale slowly through your nose for a count of 4, expanding the ribs sideways and back. * Exhale gently for a count of 6, softening your belly and jaw. * Visualise the breath as light or energy moving in through the nostrils and gathering at your centre (solar plexus or heart). * With each exhale, imagine tension melting and clarity rising. Breath in — I draw in life force.Breath out — I release what’s no longer needed. Step 3: Subtle Prāṇa Flow (3–5 mins) * Inhale: Sweep your arms up overhead as if drawing energy upward. * Exhale: Float your arms down as if moving through water, imagining you're spreading calm energy through your body. * Repeat 5–7 rounds with intention. * Keep the breath smooth and focused. Tip: This movement can be done seated, standing, or even lying down with just the arms and breath. Step 4: Seal the Practice (1 min) * Place your hands over your heart or navel. * Whisper silently: “I honour the breath. I return to centre. I move with purpose.” Pilates Integration: Ab Prep with Breath-Focused Flow Purpose:To deepen core awareness, coordinate breath with movement, and connect with the energetic centre (solar plexus), supporting clarity, calm, and grounded flow. AB PREP with Prāṇa Awareness * Lie on your back (supine) in semi-supine position: knees bent, feet flat, pelvis neutral. * Arms by your sides, shoulders relaxed, spine long. * Lightly place hands behind the head (elbows just in view) or rest them on your thighs for support. * Inhale: Expand the ribcage wide and back into the mat. Feel the breath circulate through the whole torso. * Exhale: Draw navel gently to spine. Float the head, neck, and shoulders up in one smooth line — gaze toward the thighs. Keep the pelvis and legs stable. * Pause: Hold for 1 breath. Feel energy centered in the core — steady and alive. * Inhale: Lower back down with control, maintaining length in the spine. Repeat 6–8 reps, syncing each one with a full, intentional breath. To progress: On your final rep, float your arms overhead as you inhale and slowly sweep them down by your sides as you exhale, echoing the Subtle Prāṇa Flow from your practice. From a Zen perspective, this is the very heart of practice:Noticing. Attuning. Returning. Using Zen practically invites us to show up fully in the moment — whether we’re washing the dishes, walking across the room, or cueing a movement. It teaches us that mindfulness doesn’t need incense or chanting (though those things can be beautiful), but rather the commitment to presence, again and again. As Zen master Dogen once said: “To study the way is to study the self. To study the self is to forget the self.” When we bring precision and presence into our daily actions, we disappear into the experience — the ego softens, and we move into flow. The doing becomes the being. That’s what happened today, while writing this. The water held the moment. The wind moved just enough. The words came. So, now I invite you to reflect on the following prompts: * Where is your focus right now? * Are you moving with precision or rushing to the next thing? * Can you invite more prana, more presence, more spaciousness into your flow? * Are you connected to your centre — your source? * Can you move through life with more intention, focus, and breath? * What would happen if you let precision be an anchor rather than a burden? * How might flow arise naturally when you let yourself be fully here? These reflections aren’t simply journal prompts — they’re embodied invitations. Part mindful inquiry, part movement meditation, they’re designed to help you return to your centre with presence and clarity. Rooted in Pilates precision and Zen awareness, each prompt gently encourages you to explore your inner landscape through the body — to notice where your energy flows, how your breath moves, and where your focus lands. Think of them as quiet companions guiding you toward greater alignment, nourishment, healing and connection — both on and off the mat. You don’t need a mat or a mantra to begin. You just need the willingness to listen — and return to your centre. Much of spiritual life is self-acceptance — maybe all of it.– Jack Kornfield To connect with me and my latest offerings please click on Salema's Offerings This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Thank you for subscribing. Leave a comment or share this episode.

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  6. 06/02/2025

    Guilt Not Becoming

    This weeks invitation * 4 Pillars of Compassionate Presence practices to help steady our inner resolve * explore how to hold space for others without abandoning ourselves * how Zen wisdom can teach us the strength in stillness * a simple practical Pilates exercise to ground us in our own centre when life feels off-balance When care is heavy, and you choose rest anyway... This week, I share a deeply personal reflection on taking a much-needed vacation — and the complicated guilt that can surface when you step away, especially when someone you love is navigating the early stages of dementia with a family member. As my partner faces his own family’s heartbreak, I find myself re-living the emotional terrain of my own mama’s decline from vascular dementia. The grief is still there — layered, slow, and deeply embedded. And yet, I chose to go.To rest.To breathe.To not feel guilty. l’m writing/recording this post from a sunny Marbella, grateful to be with old friends and even more grateful for some time to regroup, reorganise, reprioritise and most importantly replenish my emotional, physical and spiritual reserves ready for the new journey ahead. l’m here (in Marbella) not only to have a bit of a reprieve from life of late but to also help one of my oldest friends with her new project, a yoga and movement studio - Aum Yoga. Our friendship enduring marriages, divorces, coming of age, moves, deaths and the pandemic. However together again it feels like no time has past at all. A bit older and hopefully a bit wiser we connect and resonate again in the support of each other’s new projects. If you’re a regular listener/reader you are probably aware of my journey of late but if your not well l’ve been supporting and living with a partner diagnosed with a painful deep depression and whom as a result has become along unanchored from life’s path. However, now l’m happy to report is once again finding the strength, tenacity and inspiration to forge forward. My partners journey in some parts echoing some aspects of my own journey. Feeling disconnected from the person l once was due to my own perimenopause journey and learning how to best adapt to the next era. Being away. Not from life, not from love — just from the doing and trying to be there for those who need support and encouragement daily. The delivering. The giving-out-of-what’s-left-in-the-tank in different ways can wear you down both mentally and physically. It’s a double edged sword, on one side l sense the guilt of me needing some space to tend to myself and on the other side is that feeling of somewhat guilty while my partner carries the heavy and uncertain weight of a family member’s vascular dementia diagnosis. The guilt of not having the right words — only presence.The guilt of choosing rest when empathy whispers, “Do more.” But I’m learning that guilt is not becoming.It doesn’t soften the edges of suffering — mine, his or theirs.It doesn’t strengthen empathy — it distorts it. So I’m practising these Four Pillars of Compassionate Presence * Deep listening without self-erasure. * Inclusive Empathy (Empathy that includes me in the circle). * Replenishment as quiet resistance against burnout. * Embodied presence over perfection. Yet beneath all of this sits a quieter ache.A more personal one I didn’t expect to surface so sharply.Because I’ve been here before — with my own mama. Watching vascular dementia take her, moment by moment. Not all at once, but in slow, painful fragments l cannot lie was one of the most difficult dark times of my life. The repeated loss of recognition. The unpredictability. The deep, daily grief of watching someone you love disappear while still sitting across from you. Now, witnessing it again in my partner’s family is like standing in the echo of my own past. It’s not just empathy — it’s memory and the weight of it is familiar and heavy. Providing for someone with this dreadful disease is more than caretaking — it’s heartbreak in slow motion and it never really leaves you. So if I’ve needed more quiet lately, it’s not from absence of care.It’s the opposite.It’s the remembering. The reliving. The tending to my own nervous system before it frays again. This time, I’m allowing space to hold both:The love and the limits.The empathy and the edges.The urge to help and the need to rest. Guilt, I’m realising, has no place here.Compassion — for others and for self — is the only thing that fits. Zen teaches us:"Sit quietly, doing nothing, spring comes, and the grass grows by itself." Reminding me that not all healing is active.Sometimes our deepest strength comes from stillness — from being rooted, rather than reaching. When the mind wobbles, I return to the mat. One small act of strength that mirrors resolve from a Pilates perspective is The Pilates Half Roll-Back. Sitting tall, feet grounded, hands behind thighs.Exhale, scoop the belly in, roll halfway back. Pause. Hold your ground.Inhale to return — spine stacking, calm rising.It’s a physical practice in boundaries, in choosing how far to go, and when to return. This move reminds me:I can soften and stay strong.I can bend and not break.I can meet the moment — and myself — with compassion. Guilt, I’m realising, has no place here.Compassion — for others and for self — is the only thing that fits. This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. 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  7. 05/19/2025

    The Art of Moving With Purpose

    This week’s offering comes from a place of quiet personal transformation and reflection, taking form in a meditation with a supporting poem, that l hope will resonate, providing support and nurturance for you in times of change. Over the past three months, I’ve been navigating a profound shift — body, mind, and soul. Journeying through my Pilates training and spending reflective time with the HIVE cohort of wonderful women. What started as subtle changes in my physical practice has rippled into the deeper layers of thought, identity, and energy through our cohort meets. Meeting resistance, softness, truth, and release along the way and in the process understanding my motivation vs intention. This simple poem reflects essence of that journey — the unravelling, the remembering, the tenderness, power, quiet truths and the quiet resilience that comes to the surface when we move through change with presence and let the layers fall away. (円相) Ensō In the Zen teachings one word to ENCAPSULATE this essence would be Ensō which represents wholeness, the cycle of life, imperfection, and the beauty of the present moment symbolising the process of becoming, not perfection. It reflects the fluidity of transformation — just like my journey over the past three months. Often drawn in a single breathstroke, it embodies mindfulness and freedom. This week may these words offer you a gentle mirror for your own path. Whether you're in a season of growth, stillness, or searching — perhaps something here speaks to where you are, and reminds you that: You're not alone in the becoming. The Art of Moving with Purpose In a world that rushes, the art is not in how fast we move —but in how aware we are with each step.Whether lifting, reaching, walking, or still — every movement is an invitation.An invitation to return. To move with purpose is not to force.It is to listen.To notice the breath as it rises.To feel the feet as they root.To allow the spine to grow tall,not in effort, but in remembering its nature. Purpose is not intensity.Purpose is clarity.When we bring attention to motion,even the smallest gesture becomes meaningful.Reaching becomes intention.Rotation becomes freedom.Stillness becomes strength. Zen teaches: “When walking, just walk. When sitting, just sit.”In our practice, we might say:“When rolling down, feel the spine.”“When rising, honour the ground.”This is presence. This is movement with soul. So whether you're flowing through Pilates, still in meditation,or just standing in line —Move less to get somewhere.Move more to be somewhere.And that somewhere... is now. In a world that often feels like it’s always rushing ahead, lately I’ve been discovering there’s something deeply grounding about embracing both strength and serenity, through mindful movement. This isn’t just about exercising or working out—instead it’s about listening to your changing body, discovering its potential, and honouring it in a way that feels both nurturing and empowering. After having many and varied conversations of late this appears to be the realisation for many. As someone who’s worked in functional, creative movement and mental health for over two decades, I’ve come to realise that the practices of yoga and pilates combined can offer more than just flexibility or toning—they provide the foundation for functional movement, which translates into a body that moves well in daily life. That’s what I want to share with you today: how yoga, pilates, and functional movement have shaped my practice and how they can help you find balance, strength, and serenity in your own body. Finding Balance: Where Strength Meets Serenity Strength and serenity often feel like they live on opposite sides of the spectrum. One calls for power, endurance, and effort. The other asks for stillness, peace, and surrender. But over the years, I’ve found that true strength is born out of moments of serenity, and serenity becomes more profound when rooted in strength. Here’s how each practice contributes to that balance: Yoga: Building Calm from Within Yoga has been such a huge part of my life—it’s where I learned the art of stillness and breath. I’ve found that yoga doesn’t just open your body, it opens your mind and spirit as well. It allows you to be present with yourself, tuning into what your body truly needs. But yoga also challenges us. It asks us to hold poses that stretch and strengthen in ways that build both endurance and flexibility. It’s in those moments of holding a pose, when everything burns but you choose to stay, that you begin to understand how strength and serenity aren’t mutually exclusive—they’re intertwined. Yoga is where I first learned that functional movement isn’t just about looking a certain way; it’s about moving in a way that supports everyday life. Pilates: The Power of Precision Pilates introduced me to the importance of core strength and alignment. While yoga stretches and strengthens, Pilates brings a new level of control and precision to movement. The focus is on building strength from the center—your core—and improving the way you move through space. I love how Pilates works deeply with the smaller muscles in the body, bringing awareness to posture, breath, and alignment. The beauty of Pilates is that it’s not just about becoming “toned”—it’s about creating functional strength that supports every day. I’ve seen first hand how Pilates helps to create a lean, strong, and flexible body—but most importantly, it’s about training your body to function better in every moment, whether it’s sitting at your desk, lifting a bag of shopping, or simply walking. Functional Movement: The Art of Moving With Purpose This is where yoga and Pilates meet something truly magical—functional movement. In my own practice, I’ve found that understanding how to move efficiently, with control, and with intention has transformed my body in ways I didn’t expect. It’s not just about looking good or pushing through an intense workout—it’s about feeling aligned and empowered in every movement you make and taking into account recovery times. When we move functionally, we engage muscles in ways that make daily tasks easier, healthier, and more sustainable. It’s the little things—how you stand, sit, or bend—that make a huge difference. These practices give us the awareness to move with more purpose, more ease, and more control, which is key for longevity and a pain-free life. The Practices: Integrating It All - The Dance of the Soul For me, Practice is where all these elements come together. It’s not about doing everything perfectly, but rather giving yourself the space to explore, reflect, and integrate what you’ve learned. Practice is the perfect way to take the principles from yoga and Pilates and bring them into real life, whether it’s through a series of intentional movements or simple mindful practices. Why I’m Passionate About Sharing This This is what I want for you—whether you’re someone who’s just starting out or a seasoned practitioner, I want to help you connect to your body, build a strong foundation, and cultivate serenity in a way that feels nourishing. That is why l will be offering personalised 1-to-1 sessions from mid JUNE 25 to guide you through a practice that is tailored to your goals—whether you’re looking to build more strength, increase flexibility, or simply move more functionally in daily life. The beauty of a bespoke practice is that it involves evolves with you, meeting you where you are and helping you move forward. Let’s create something together that works for your body, your life, and your unique journey. If you’re ready to embrace a balanced practice where strength meets serenity, I’d love to work with you. Let’s explore yoga, Pilates, and functional movement in a way that feels intentional, empowering, and, most importantly, personal. NOURISH U - Where Strength Meets SerenityBespoke 1-to-1 Pilates & Yogalates Elevate Your Wellness with Bespoke 1-to-1 Pilates & Yogalates Experience a movement journey that is as unique as you. In today’s fast-paced world, your body deserves more than a one-size-fits-all approach. My private 1-to-1 Pilates and Yogalates sessions blend the flow of yoga with the precision of Pilates—enhanced with props like weights and resistance bands to create a more refined, mindful, yet strong conditioning experience. This tailored approach allows you to engage in a practice that is both nurturing and challenging, ensuring your body moves in the safest and most functional way. What to Expect * A personalised program designed for your body, goals & lifestyle. * Hands-on guidance with expert attention in every session when in a physical space/studio/home. * Verbal safety adjustment cueing when practising on online. * Use of props such as weights and resistance bands to deepen strength, mobility, and control. * Providing nurturance in a safe, functional, but creative way. * A harmonious balance of mindful movement and powerful conditioning. * Visible results in posture, muscle tone, and flexibility—Pilates sculpts the body, creating a lean, strong, and balanced appearance that radiates from the inside out. Ideal for: • Anyone that wants to delve a bit deeper and slower into functional anatomy to help with their range of movement, injuries.• Anyone wanting to sculpt, tone, and improve overall wellness through mindful movement Sessions Available: 📍 In the comfort of your home, Private studio sessions or online. 🕰 Flexible, discreet scheduling for your convenience This is not just exercise—it’s a refined movement experience designed for lasting strength, elegance, and beauty. Spaces are limited to ensure exclusivity and focus.Enquire now for a consultation and begin your journey to a stronger, more balanced you. 📩 salemayoga@icloud.com and via dr

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  8. 05/05/2025

    Returning to Strength, Balance and Grace in Times of Unease: through The Lens of Zen

    Practice You Deck Cards by Elena Brower There comes a time in every season of life when we are called to return to ourselves for strength. To pause. To notice the subtle disturbances of change emerging beneath the surface and meet them—not with resistance, but with curiosity, strength and grace. In this week's reflection, I invite you to explore how the Zen-informed lens of simplicity, presence, and compassionate awareness can help you return to your centre stronger, softer, and more connected with the most practical practice/s of Zen to help in times of unease. Over the past few weeks, as I’ve been preparing for my assessment and opening space to welcome new collaborations in my teaching, I’ve felt the stirrings of change—offering me new ways of working that feel more aligned with who I’ve become. At the same time, it hasn’t all been smooth sailing. Behind the scenes, I’ve been navigating some deep challenges. Living alongside someone diagnosed with severe depression is a quiet and constant weight. It takes strength to stay grounded—for myself, and for my partner. Some days, maintaining a hopeful outlook feels like balancing on a tightrope, one breath, one moment at a time, with my mojo nowhere to be seen. Yet in these moments, I’m reminded why my practices matter. They keep me anchored. They help me stay open, connected, and honest about what I need—and what I can offer—without losing myself in the process, this being the purity of human nature. PRACTICES Over the last couple of weeks l’ve not being able to join in with my HIVE cohort collective. However, Elena always one to follow up, dropped me a couple of short emails, making her support and nourishing presence felt. One of these was details about our next meet and some preparation for exploration for our session. Weirdly, it was about revisiting/creating/placing a vision of the future on our altars; tiny, concrete items. Honouring the past and the future, while keeping present in the present to keep our visions and project(s) alive and visible. I have many of these varied small altars around my home, where l go for refuge, strength and inspiration. Today as l was revisiting them, l felt the unease slowly ebbing away. On Unease & Returning to Balance: Mentally and Physically My partner often uses the word unease to describe how he thinks he’s feeling. But is unease just another word for being with NOT KNOWING? Unease is a natural part of living—especially in uncertain times. From a Zen lens, it’s not something to resist but to gently witness. Unease invites us inward, back to breath, back to presence. We don’t overcome it by force but by softening into what is. Manifesting from a Physical perspective From a Pilates and Pilates Reformer perspective: On the mat and/or on a Reformer, two Pilates practices that can support this return are Footwork exercises to ground and recalibrate through the feet and legs, and Spine Stretch Forward to lengthen the spine, create space, and release held tension. When paired with conscious breath, these movements become meditations in motion—restoring your centre with strength and grace. Mindful Communication: Speaking from Stillness In moments of unease, our internal landscape can often feel noisy and/or heavy. Practising mindful communication can help us listen more deeply—first to ourselves, then to others. Inviting us to pause before speaking, to check in with our body, breath, and emotional tone, so we become less reactivate, which is a lot harder than it seems. I have been learning this highly important skill under the teachings and guidance of my mentor, thank you Elena Brower so much for reminding me, that less is more and that practice is where Zen truly resides. Zen teaches us that silence is not empty. It is full of possibility. When we communicate from stillness, we become less reactive and more rooted in truth. We begin to use words that honour both our experience and the space between us and others. This kind of presence fosters connection—not through performance but through authenticity. Especially when supporting someone living with depression, this type of mindful listening becomes an anchor. We hold space not to fix, but to witness—to offer our calm presence as a mirror of steadiness in the storm. In relationships, this quiet attentiveness can soften defensiveness and create space for honest expression. It fosters a climate where partners feel safe to be vulnerable without fear of judgement or urgency to solve. Honest Boundaries: Showing up with compassion without abandoning ourselves Change often illuminates how much we’ve been carrying—emotionally, mentally, and physically. Saying no can be an act of profound self-respect. Zen invites us to return to the simplicity of knowing what is true in the moment. Not everything that calls for our energy deserves it. Honest boundaries don’t push people away; they create the conditions for sustainable closeness. When we honour our limits, we honour our energy, our needs, and our evolving identities. When living with or caring for someone navigating depression, clear and loving boundaries are essential. They allow us to show up with compassion without abandoning ourselves. In relationships, mutual respect for boundaries creates a shared sense of security—a trust that each partner can care for their own energy while staying connected. Emotional Availability: The Grace of Staying Open It’s tempting to withdraw when things get difficult and emotions become like a roller coaster. But true strength lies in staying present with what is—without needing to fix or flee. Emotional availability is the capacity to be with discomfort, both ours and others’, while remaining grounded. From a Zen perspective, emotions are not enemies—they are teachers. They come and go like weather, and our job is to breathe, observe, and let them pass. This spacious approach helps us stay connected in our relationships, even during challenging times. Supporting a loved one with depression asks us to meet their pain with a quiet steadiness, not by absorbing it, but by offering our stable presence—our willingness to sit with them in the shadows while rooted in our own light. In intimate partnerships, emotional availability builds a bridge between two inner worlds. It allows space for truth, even when it’s messy or uncertain, and creates fertile ground for deepened connection. Finding Your Mojo: A Zen Perspective When life feels flat or uncertain, what we often call "losing our mojo" is really a disconnection from our deeper rhythm. In Zen, this is an invitation—not a failure. Mojo isn't something we chase. It arises naturally when we return to presence and simplicity, through practices that ignite us. Zen teaches us that energy and inspiration flow best when we are not forcing. Your mojo is in your breath, your body, and the moments you slow down enough to feel. 3 ZEN PROMPTS to start the enquiry of re-cultivating your mojo: * What brings me alive in this moment? * What am I resisting? * What am I longing for? These questions when asked in stillness, help you reawaken your natural vitality—quietly, respectfully, from the inside out. A Mudra for Strength & Grace: Vajrapradama Mudra (Mudra of Unshakable Trust) This is the mudra of unshakable trust. Interlace your fingers at the heart centre, leaving the thumbs extended and touching. Rest this gesture at your chest, close your eyes, and breathe deeply. Use it when you need to reclaim your steadiness and inner power. Vajra means “diamond” or “thunderbolt,” symbolising clarity and indestructibility. Pradama relates to offering or confidence. Together, Vajrapradama Mudra translates to “Mudra of Unshakable Trust.” Affirmation: "I trust in my strength. I return to grace." Zen Sitting Practice: Returning to Yourself in Times of Unease Find a quiet space and take a comfortable seated position. Sit on a cushion or chair, allowing the spine to be long but not rigid. Bring your hands into Vajrapradama Mudra or rest them gently in your lap. Let your eyes soften or close. Begin by simply noticing your breath. Allow the inhale to expand you, and the exhale to ground you. When thoughts arise, acknowledge them gently and return to the breath. Use this practice to anchor yourself in the now. Just five to ten minutes a day can cultivate the strength and grace you seek—not from outside, but from your own centred presence. In households affected by depression or emotional overwhelm, this daily ritual becomes a way to clear your own energy, reset compassion fatigue, and reconnect with your inner resources. For couples or partners, consider sitting together in silent support. No talking. Just breathing, side by side. This shared stillness becomes a silent vow—to be with each other in presence, not performance. Zen Relationship Practice: The Circle of Presence Sit across from your partner or loved one. Each of you places an object or candle in the centre to symbolise your shared intention. Set a timer for five minutes. In silence, gaze softly at one another—not staring, but witnessing. Stay relaxed and breathe naturally. If emotions arise, let them flow. If laughter or tears come, honour them. When the timer ends, bow gently to each other. This circle of presence cultivates intimacy without words, reminding you both that presence is the most sacred gift we can offer. Returning to Centre To return to strength, balance, and grace is to come back to the truth of who we are: cyclical, sensitive, resilient, wise. Through mindful communication, honest boundaries, and emotional availability, we can strengthen not just our relationships with others, but also the relationship with ourselves. This is the art of living well. This is the nourishment that lasts. With a bowed heart and steady breath, in quiet service to your return. S This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and su

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