How To Be a Terrible Daughter

Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper
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Wondering how to be a terrible daughter? Listen as Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper, mental health professionals who also happen to be cousins, discuss growing up in toxic families, surviving narcissistic abuse, and moving forward after trauma. The How To Be a Terrible Daughter podcast is a place to find community, put words to your experience, and laugh at the dark stuff. We'll share our stories from our own childhoods, make mental health concepts easy to understand, and interview intriguing guests along the way. Oh, and you can also let Megan and Elizabeth hate your parents for you if you're having mixed feelings. We don't mind, we've got plenty of pent up anger for everyone. If your parents have ever called you terrible, horrible or something even worse, come join us!

  1. FEB 17

    Systemic Narcissism Part 1

    In this episode, we zoom out. Way out. We take everything we've learned about narcissistic family systems and scale it up. Because once you see it, you can't unsee it. The same patterns that shaped your childhood might also be shaping your workplace, your healthcare system, your government, your church, your economy. Fun! We talk about how narcissistic abuse doesn't just live in individual homes. It thrives in systems. It institutionalizes itself. It gets rebranded as "policy," "tradition," "meritocracy," "family values," "the free market," "God's will," and occasionally "corporate culture." And for those of us who grew up in it, there's a particular kind of vertigo in realizing the larger world feels… eerily familiar. We break down what defines a narcissistic system: constant extraction, rigid hierarchy, zero accountability, and an intense hostility toward anyone who names reality. These systems cannot tolerate dissent. They punish whistleblowers. They reframe harm as strength. They protect power at all costs. Sound familiar? We explore how societal structures replicate the Golden Child and Scapegoat dynamic. The Golden Child success story becomes propaganda. The exceptional one who "made it" is held up as proof the system works. Meanwhile, marginalized communities are forced into the Scapegoat role, absorbing blame for structural failures they did not create. We talk about how the "Productive vs. Lazy" binary functions as moral control. You are only valuable if you produce. If you rest, if you get sick, if you burn out, if you need support, you have committed the biological crime of having limits. The system would prefer you not have those. We look at how people are treated as disposable units of labor rather than human beings with dignity, nervous systems, and actual needs. You are replaceable. You are measurable. You are profitable. But you are not meant to be whole. We unpack the underfunding-and-blame cycle, where institutions are deliberately weakened and then individuals are shamed for not thriving inside broken structures. It's the societal version of breaking your legs and asking why you're not winning marathons. We also talk about facades. The "corporate family." The "God loves you" messaging. The patriotic speeches about freedom and opportunity. Narcissistic systems are masters of branding. The rhetoric says care. The behavior says control. And underneath it all is rage. The same kind of rage you saw in your parent when you challenged them. The rage that comes when power is questioned. We close by talking about what we jokingly call Anarchist Calisthenics. Tiny acts of agency. Micro-rebellions. Strengthening the muscle that says, "Actually, no." Reclaiming independent thought. Reclaiming discernment. Reclaiming your right to reality. Because when you grew up in narcissistic systems, spotting them in the wild is not paranoia. It's pattern recognition. And if you're feeling angry listening to this one, good. That might just be your nervous system remembering what dignity feels like. As always, thank you for joining us here on the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!    Want to know more about Megan's trauma informed healing work? Find out here: www.megancaper.com Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with more cool merch that we talked about)? Click HERE!   Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!       What We Cover In This Episode:   The ways in which narcissistic patterns have scaled up from our childhood homes into our societal, cultural, and economic systems [2:03] How to identify a narcissistic system by looking for constant extraction, zero accountability, and the punishment of anyone who names reality [7:48] Why the system props up "Golden Child" success stories as propaganda while forcing marginalized scapegoats to absorb all the blame [12:40] How the "Productive vs. Lazy" binary is used to make you feel worthless for the biological "crime" of just existing and breathing [21:42] What the current system does to treat individuals as a "disposable unit of labor" rather than a human being with dignity and needs [26:03] Why it also "breaks your legs" through underfunding and then blames your personal character when you can't run the marathon [33:41]  How to look beyond the "God loves you" or "Corporate family" facade to see the underlying narcissistic rage and control [49:52] The real reason we are skipping the "Crazy Mom Off" this week to dive into the enraging and absurd reality of systemic failures [51:55] A final reminder to flex your rebellion muscle using "Anarchist Calisthenics" to reclaim your agency and independent action [52:27]  Links & Resources:    027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy Anarchist Calisthenics: Flexing the Muscles of Critical Thought (Medium) Check Out Our New Etsy Shop (and Get Your Very Own "Former Scapegoat" and "Former Golden Child" Merch!) 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    1 hr

  2. FEB 3

    The Field Guide to Common Neighborhood Narcissists

    Not all narcissists look the same. Some are loud, shiny, and aggressively self-impressed, others are quiet, aggrieved, and somehow still manage to make every situation about themselves. In this episode, we break down both the obvious and the sneakier versions, from the classic grandiose type to the subtler subtypes that operate under the radar while quietly running the entire emotional economy of the family. We also move into the darker end of the pool, including family dynamics where cruelty isn't a side effect but a feature. We talk about what happens when narcissism overlaps with traits like paranoia and sadism, and why some parents seem to genuinely enjoy watching their child squirm. We unpack the subtype that renders a child effectively invisible unless they are actively serving the parent's immediate needs, and how growing up that way trains you to disappear with impressive efficiency. Along the way, we share more unhinged "Crazy Mom Offs," including a no-win gift situation and Megan's deeply uncomfortable lunch from hell, which somehow managed to be both polite and emotionally violent. We also talk about what it really takes to close loopholes in boundaries when you're done negotiating with people who treat rules like a fun intellectual challenge, and what finding real community can look like after years of being told you were unlikeable. Dark, validating, and a little too familiar, this episode connects a lot of uncomfortable dots you were probably trained not to look at too closely. Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!     Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with more cool merch that we talked about)? Click HERE!   Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!      What We Cover In This Episode: Why it's vital to discuss the "flavors" of narcissism that aren't as obvious as the typical aggrandizing version [1:46] We defining the "Grandiose Narcissist", and how this person is the  "vanilla" type of narcissist [5:09] Introducing the "Covert/Professional Victim" subtype that uses hypersensitivity and victimhood as a way to remain the center of attention [8:15] How the "Dark Triad" combination of psychopathy, sadism, and paranoia creates a truly dangerous family dynamic [14:11] The specific subtype that renders the child "invisible" unless they are actively serving the parent's immediate needs [29:11] More unbelievable "Crazy Mom Offs": A no-win gift giving situation and Megan's incredibly uncomfortable "lunch from hell" [32:47] Elizabeth's incredibly powerful tool of closing loopholes on boundaries and what Megan has done in her new home city to find true community while overcoming years of being told she was unlikeable by her mother [43:45]    Links & Resources:   Amsterdam Society of Feral Women - Email Megan for an Invite!  027: Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy Check Out Our New Etsy Shop (and Get Your Very Own ""Stay Sane, Stay Terrible" Merch!) Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok

    54 min

  3. JAN 20

    Brother, Sister, Soldier, Spy

    In this episode, we break down the strange and rigid logic of narcissistic family systems and the roles children are quietly forced into just to keep things from blowing up. We talk about how these identities get assigned early, why they stick so stubbornly into adulthood, and how sibling relationships often carry more tension, confusion, and grief than anyone wants to admit. Some roles absorb blame, some are rewarded at a steep emotional cost, and none of them are accidental. We also get into the ways narcissistic parents actively prevent siblings from forming real alliances, often by triangulating, misrepresenting intentions, and keeping everyone just slightly off balance. The result is that closeness feels dangerous, loyalty feels conditional, and sometimes a sibling grows up to mirror the very behavior that caused the harm in the first place. We talk honestly about how devastating that realization can be and why distance is sometimes the only sane option, even when it hurts. And yes, there is another Crazy Mom Off. This time it features a dramatic reading of a listener-submitted "apology poem," which is… an experience. We lovingly dissect the emotional gymnastics, the weaponized self-blame, and the truly Olympic-level guilt deployment, all while asking the eternal question: how does someone write this many words and still not apologize for anything? We also touch on what it looks like to build real connection outside the family system, including how Megan has been finding community and grounding in a brand-new country. Darkly funny, painfully familiar, and a little too accurate, this episode pulls back the curtain on dynamics that are usually kept quietly in place. Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!      Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with such more cool merch that we talked about)? Click HERE!    Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!       What We Cover In This Episode:  The importance for us to sett ethical boundaries when sharing family stories and how to protect the privacy of living relatives who are not narcissists [3:01]  Why children in dysfunctional families are forced to "accept the script" and play specific roles just to maintain a sense of safety and reduce household chaos [5:52]  Introducing the "Scapegoat" and the reasons that this sibling is unfairly assigned all the shame and criticism within the family unit [7:15]  The hidden burden of the "Golden Child" and the high-pressure pedestal they are placed on [9:40]   A specific concept the explains how narcissists use a third person to alleviate pressure and create wedges that prevent siblings from forming authentic bond [18:55]  The heartbreaking reality of siblings who follow in the abuser's footsteps, making a healthy adult relationship nearly impossible [26:13]  Another "Crazy Mom Off" story which includes a dramatic reading and breakdown of a listener's "apology poem" [32:45]  A powerful tool which allows you to create a mental character that provides the perfect, unconditional love that was missing during childhood [44:32]   The way that Megan has harnessed the power of community in the brand-new country she now lives in [47:10]     Links & Resources:    Encanto (2021)   Check Out Our New Etsy Shop (and Get Your Very Own "Former Golden Child" and "Former Scapegoat" Merch!)  Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok

    52 min

  4. JAN 6

    Good Parent Messages Because Apparently That's a Thing?

    In this episode, we introduce the idea of Good Parent Messages, the kinds of emotionally regulating, grounding messages children are meant to receive as they grow. Not grand praise or vague affection, but specific, steady signals of safety, welcome, and attunement. We talk about how children of narcissistic parents often grow up without these emotional nutrients, and how the absence doesn't just hurt in the moment. It quietly reshapes what love feels like in the body. When the nervous system never learns what healthy care actually feels like, even genuine love later on can register as confusing, suspicious, or overwhelming.  We also explore what happens developmentally when a child starts to separate, usually around elementary school, and suddenly becomes a "threat" instead of an extension. That's often when warmth gets pulled, approval becomes conditional, and love turns performative or transactional. From there, we unpack fragmentation, that disorienting experience of feeling scattered, frozen, or not fully present in everyday situations because old emotional wounds are being activated. Elizabeth shares a deeply personal moment of insight around receiving love without obligation, and we connect that realization to why so many terrible children struggle to let care land even when it's safe.  As usual, we balance the heavy with stories that are equal parts horrifying and darkly funny, including a baby shower that turned into a one-woman show for narcissistic validation, and a genuinely dangerous health situation caused by parents refusing to accommodate sensory needs. We close with the tools we're practicing right now, including a deceptively simple somatic one that turns out to be anything but easy, slowing the physical pace of your life so your system can actually register safety. If you've ever wondered why healing feels nonlinear, why certain words don't land, or why love can feel like pressure instead of comfort, this episode is for you.  Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!      Want to get your very own How to Be a Terrible Daughter stickers (along with such more cool merch that we talked about)? Click HERE!    Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!       What We Cover In This Episode:   Introducing the concept of Good Parent Messages, a somatic therapy tool designed to provide the emotional "nutrients" that children of narcissists often miss [4:31]   The profound difference between being told you are "special" and the message "You are special to me" [6:42]   How emotional "scar tissue" forms when a child doesn't receive specific messages of love, often making it difficult to accept that same love as an adult [14:40]   The way that narcissistic parents often withdraw healthy messages the moment a child becomes a "threat" or develops an independent identity in elementary school [22:13]   A look at the important (and very relevant) concept of fragmentation, or the experience of feeling broken or "not present" because past pain is being triggered by current, everyday situations [27:33]   Elizabeth's vulnerable "aha moment" regarding the message "I welcome and cherish your love" [32:24]  "A Crazy Mom Off" story about a baby shower that became a literal performance for a narcissist's own validation, and a scary health situation caused by Megan's parents' refusal to accommodate her sensory sensitivities [44:17]  The powerful tools we used this week including a somatic one for recovery: slowing down the physical pace of your life [65:10]      Links & Resources:    Good Parent Messages  Integrative Body Psychotherapy   The Secret to Loving Yourself book  My Love is for Always book for kids  Check Out Our New Etsy Shop & Get Your Very Own How to Be a Terrible Daughter Stickers!     Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok

    1h 11m

  5. 12/23/2025

    Special Encore: Silent Night, Silent Treatment: A Holiday Survival Guide

    This episode is a re-release of our Holiday Survival Guide from last year! We wanted to bring it back for a couple of reasons. First, we have a lot of new listeners (welcome!) and we want to make sure that as we enter this chaotic holiday season, you have the tools you need to make it a little more tolerable. Also, we're practicing what we preach! We could have listened to our inner critic and pushed ourselves to release a brand-new episode, but we're choosing to give ourselves a break. We want to be real people and have real lives…and that includes the podcast. We don't have to abandon ourselves to be in community or do good work. So, here you go! It's our Holiday Survival Guide episode, "Silent Night, Silent Treatment," and we hope it is helpful for you. Enjoy and Happy Holidays! Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!   Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!    What We Cover In This Episode: A litmus test you can use to recognize the difference between abusive family practices or those that are just unpleasant [7:48] What to do before your holiday visit, including specific things to put in place and actual wording for anticipating and handling situations that may arise [12:45] Personal boundaries we recommend you consider and the ultimate purpose of taking these pre-emptive measures [20:27] Simple things you can do to nurture yourself, including the clothing you wear during the visit [25:45] What to do while you're there with your family that can make it easier for everyone and to avoid potential issues [28:58] An important reminder that you are indeed allowed to leave and that they probably will still talk about you, regardless of what you do [39:20] After-care strategies that will allow you to rest, relax and recharge after the holidays conclude for another year [45:15] Our first "Mini Crazy Mom Offs" of the new season with a flashback to 1980's and Megan's very first dance [49:30] The tools we're using: How Elizabeth is improving the ecosystem of their neighborhood and Megan's recent adventures in the kitchen [58:12] Links & Resources:  Buffy the Vampire Slayer Season 2 Episode 11, featuring John Ritter Check Out Our New Etsy Shop & Get Your Very Own Too Tired to People Scent-Free Soy Candle!    Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok    023: The Fine Art of the Fauxpology

    1h 4m

  6. 12/09/2025

    I Know What You Did in Your Last Relationship

    This week we are wading into the murky, sparkling, and occasionally shark infested waters of romantic relationships. You know, the ones everyone insists are supposed to feel like a cozy partnership except yours somehow keeps echoing the greatest hits of your childhood. In this episode we talk about why your adult dating patterns are not accidental, they are often emotional reruns of the relationship you had with your parents. And yes, we apologize in advance. We'll get into the relationship red flags, tell-tale signs that you are in a dynamic that is less partnership and more "emotional escape room." We also name the quieter red flags, the ones that do not scream but slowly pull you back into old patterns before you even realize you have crossed the line. We look at how real healing often means rejecting the traditional relationship roles we were handed, the ones that ask you to perform smallness, swallow needs, and call it love. We talk about the difference between a partner who gets curious and a partner who gets defensive, and why that single distinction can tell you almost everything you need to know about the health of the relationship. And because no episode would be complete without a little maternal chaos bingo, we share more of our Crazy Mom-Offs. Including why keeping your narcissistic parent away from your partner is not paranoia, it is strategy. It's boundary setting as a survival sport. We round things out with the tools that helped us through a very intense week, including one simple technique that interrupted the anxiety loop before it could spiral into an Olympics level mental gymnastics routine. If you have ever wondered why relationships feel like the final exam for a class you never attended, this one is for you. Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!   Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!    What We Cover In This Episode:  ●       Some of the ways in which the romantic patterns you repeat as an adult are echoes of the childhood relationship you had with your parents [2:51 ●       How healing from trauma often requires rejecting traditional, patriarchal relationship roles that are inherently rooted in narcissistic power dynamics [7:0 ●       The "litmus test" for a good partner and the specific questions you can ask yourself to help gain clarity around this [11:57] ●       What them displaying curiosity over defensiveness will tell you about whether the relationship is a healthy one for you [13:26] ●       Warning signs and red flag to watch for that will reveal you are in an unhealthy relationship dynamic [22:34] ●       Our thoughts on romantic love being used as a replacement for women's dreams [37:47] ●       More of our "Crazy Mom-Offs", including why keeping your narcissistic parent away from your partner and your relationship is a critical strategy for protection and survival [40:39]   ●       The tools we each used during this challenging week and one in particular that was effective in stopping the "anxiety loop" from repeating [28:16]    Links & Resources:    Check Out Our New Etsy Shop & Get Your Very Own Too Tired to People Scent-Free Soy Candle!   Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok    023: The Fine Art of the Fauxpology

    55 min

  7. 11/25/2025

    The Fine Art of the Fauxpology

    In this episode, we wade into the wild, destabilizing landscape of apology and repair, where narcissistic "I'm sorrys" are really emotional trapdoors painted to look like compassion, and healthy accountability actually feels like oxygen. Megan and Elizabeth pull apart the difference between a conversation that brings clarity and one that leaves you wondering if you hallucinated the entire conflict. Along the way, they unpack the subtle ways a narcissistic parent can flip the script, distort the narrative, or imply that your hurt is evidence of your own instability, rather than a completely normal reaction to emotional impact.   We also explore what genuine repair looks like in a secure relationship, the kind built on curiosity instead of defensiveness and connection instead of theatrics. There is talk of intent and impact, of what your body knows before your brain catches up, and of how childhood emotional unsafety imprints itself as a physiological threat. And then, because life with a narcissistic parent never stops serving chaos, two new Crazy Mom-Off entries arrive (including one listener submitted story!) to remind you that even the most jaw-droppingly unhinged stories can still be met with humor, solidarity, and the kind of deadpan side-eye reserved for generational chaos.   To close things out, we offer a few grounding tools for anyone navigating the emotional ricochet of old patterns. Think intentional space for processing and one surprisingly effective strategy for letting go of the anger that hits you after the fact. If you've ever walked away from a "repair" feeling more confused than when you started, this one is your homecoming.   Thank you for joining us here for another season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com!    Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!       What We Cover In This Episode:  Real-life examples of what narcissistic apology and repair looks like, contrasted with healthy, securely attached relationship dynamics [2:19]   Why phrases like "I'm sorry you feel that way" or overly dramatic responses are not genuine apologies but rather defensive tactics [5:01]   Watch out! How narcissistic parents use gaslighting and projection to convince you that expressing hurt is a sign of your own mental illness or distorted thinking [8:22]   Understanding that emotionally unsafe situations for a child are neurologically perceived as the same as physically life-threatening danger [20:12]   How healthy repair involves curiosity, active listening, and the willingness to prioritize the relationship over proving one's own point of view [24:25]   The key difference between intent and impact in a conversation and why this is so important to be aware of [28:03]   What the final feeling after a healthy repair will, and won't, be [32:50]   Two more Crazy Mom-Offs that will knock your socks off, including a "fishy" story and something that will have you looking at birthday cake in a completely different way [36:38]   Our helpful tools for the week: we cover the need to carve out intentional time for therapy and provide a helpful strategy for releasing anger after the triggering situation has occurred [55:55]   Links & Resources:     Check Out Our New Etsy Shop & Get Your Very Own Too Tired to People Scent-Free Soy Candle!    Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok     022: No Contact II: The Quiet Place

    1h 1m

  8. 11/11/2025

    No Contact II: The Quiet Place

    So you finally did it. You went no contact. You broke out of the emotional prison your narcissist built, and now you are standing in the sunlight, blinking like a hostage released from a basement full of family heirlooms and gaslighting. In this episode, we talk about what happens next. The emotional hangover, the logistical chaos, the sudden silence that feels both terrifying and euphoric. We get honest about the reality of going no contact, how no one does it lightly, and how keeping that boundary takes every ounce of strength you have. Elizabeth shares what surprised them most after cutting contact, including how much energy it took just to hold the line when the narcissist tried to creep back in through cracks in the wall. We also talk about the importance of having a neutral, pre-set answer ready for those Flying Monkeys who come sniffing around with "concern" and subtle guilt trips. Then we explore how trauma can turn everyday life into a minefield, why birthdays, holidays, and even old family photos can suddenly feel radioactive, and how it is okay to opt out of the traditions that hurt more than they heal. We also dig into the process of rebuilding your identity after no contact. When you have spent a lifetime molding yourself to survive someone else's moods, figuring out what you actually like can feel both thrilling and confusing. But it is the good kind of confusion, the kind that comes with freedom. Elizabeth brings this week's Crazy Mom-Off featuring whispering hauntings from the narcissist beyond, plus a real-time tool for grounding when your nervous system starts hosting a family reunion you never agreed to. Megan shares a confusing story she is still unpacking and a trick she has been using to quiet her inner critic, especially the one that tries to ruin reading time. We close with the reminder that yes, breaking family barriers can feel like being cut by glass, but it is still better than being slowly poisoned for years. Because no contact is not the end of your story, it is the part where you finally start living your own. Thank you for joining us here for a brand-new season of the podcast! If you haven't already, don't forget to subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube or your favorite podcast app to make sure you get new episodes as soon as they drop. Unlike the narcissist in your life, we'd love to hear your stories and how they affected you. Email us or DM us on Instagram, @terribledaughterpod or at  H2Bterrible@gmail.com! Before you go, did you know we're also on YouTube? You can watch what we're up to HERE, or if TikTok or Instagram is your jam, we're there as well and would love for you to join us!   What We Cover In This Episode: ●      What you can do to start managing the emotional and logistical aftermath of going no contact with the narcissist and finally escape from the prison they've created for you [3:19] ●      Elizabeth's inner experience after going no contact and what surprised them the most after doing it [9:15] ●      The importance of having a neutral, pre-set answer to protect yourself from gaslighting and guilt when dealing with those pesky "flying monkeys" [14:29] ●      What really happens when trauma weaponizes normal life and why holidays, birthdays and even childhood memories can become terrifying triggers [23:11] ●      How to approach rebuilding from scratch after no contact by intentionally creating space and time to discover your true self and preferences [25:05] ●      The reason why breaking family barriers can feel like "being cut by glass" [spoiler alert: it's much better than being poisoned for years] [42:30] ●      Elizabeth's Crazy Mom Off story featuring haunting whispers from a narcissist, and a demonstration of a real-time tool that helps them cope and thrive [44:44] ●      A confusing story Megan is still processing and a tool she's been using to overcome her inner critic while reading books [51:38]  Links & Resources:   Get Merch – Etsy Shop Show is NOW OPEN!  Follow Us on YouTube & TikTok  007: 3,2,1… No Contact!  Speak No Evil (2024 Remake) and Speak No Evil (Original) Kamala Harris's Interview (on Breaking Glass Ceilings)  Martha Wells (Author)

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Wondering how to be a terrible daughter? Listen as Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper, mental health professionals who also happen to be cousins, discuss growing up in toxic families, surviving narcissistic abuse, and moving forward after trauma. The How To Be a Terrible Daughter podcast is a place to find community, put words to your experience, and laugh at the dark stuff. We'll share our stories from our own childhoods, make mental health concepts easy to understand, and interview intriguing guests along the way. Oh, and you can also let Megan and Elizabeth hate your parents for you if you're having mixed feelings. We don't mind, we've got plenty of pent up anger for everyone. If your parents have ever called you terrible, horrible or something even worse, come join us!

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  • Creator
    Elizabeth Malamed and Megan Caper
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    31
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
  • Show Website
    How To Be a Terrible Daughter

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