Emotionally Unavailable

Malisa Hepner

Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way. In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding. Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.

  1. 18H AGO

    The Hidden Pain Beneath Eating Disorders | Recovery, Identity & Self-Love

    Therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, and Julia Trehane, eating disorder recovery coach, explore the complex realities of recovering from anorexia, orthorexia, and disordered eating. Julia shares how perfectionism, emotional pain, control, and societal pressure shaped her relationship with food and body image, and what it took to begin rebuilding trust with herself. Together, they discuss intuitive eating, nervous system healing, self-worth, and the deeper emotional wounds that often exist beneath eating disorders. Notice where control around food, exercise, or "health" may actually be covering deeper emotional needs like safety, worthiness, or acceptance. Healing begins when compassion replaces punishment. * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Julia's links: Website, Website, Youtube, Insta, Podcast

    1h 3m
  2. You Might Also Like: The School of Greatness

    19H AGO ·  BONUS

    You Might Also Like: The School of Greatness

    Introducing How to Fast for Fat Loss, Hormones, and Better Sex | Dr. Mindy Pelz from The School of Greatness. Follow the show: The School of Greatness Every diet you've ever tried has failed you for one reason: it never told you when to eat. Your body runs on two energy systems. One burns sugar. The other burns fat. Most people never spend a single day in the second one. Around eight to ten hours without food, the switch flips. Ketones flood your brain. Hunger quiets. Mental clarity hits. Healing turns on. This is what fasting expert Dr. Mindy Pelz has been teaching for over 25 years, and what her book Fast Like a Girl made impossible to ignore. For women, timing is everything. Day 1 to 10, fast longer and lift heavier. Day 11 to 15, testosterone surges and libido climbs. Day 16 to 19 is for deeper fasts. After day 20, progesterone needs you to back off and rest. Fast like a man during the back half of your cycle and you'll tank the very hormones keeping you calm and regular. Underneath all of it sits the hormonal hierarchy. Oxytocin at the top. Cortisol below it. Then insulin. Then sex hormones. When you feel safe and connected, the whole stack works. When you don't, nothing else matters. Connection isn't optional for women. It's biology. Dr. Mindy’s books: Age Like a Girl How Menopause Rewires Your Brain for Mental Clarity, Increased Confidence, and Renewed Energy Eat Like a Girl: 100+ Delicious Recipes to Balance Hormones, Boost Energy, and Burn Fat Fast Like a Girl: A Woman's Guide to Using the Healing Power of Fasting to Burn Fat, Boost Energy, and Balance Hormones The Menopause Reset: Get Rid of Your Symptoms and Feel Like Your Younger Self Again The Reset Factor Kitchen: 101 Tasty Recipes to Eat Your Way to Wellness,Burn Belly Fat, and Maximize Your Energy The Reset Factor: 45 Days to TransformingYour Health by Repairing Your Gut In this episode you will: Learn the fasting cycle for women, Dr. Mindy's day-by-day framework that syncs your fasting window, workout intensity, and food choices to your menstrual cycle Uncover why your menstrual cycle is a monthly detox rather than a burden, and what an irregular or absent cycle is actually telling you about your body Discover why timing your eating matters more than what you eat, and how the ketogenic energy system unlocks fat burning, mental clarity, and steady energy Understand the hormonal hierarchy, how oxytocin, cortisol, insulin, and sex hormones stack on each other, and why female community and connection function as biological medicine Find out what long-term birth control does to the gut microbiome and the brain-ovary connection, and why so many women struggle with hormonal imbalances after coming off the pill For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1928 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Follow The Daily Motivation for essential highlights from The School of Greatness More SOG episodes we think you’ll love: Glucose Goddess Dr. Mary Claire Haver Dr. Mark Hyman TOPICS Dr. Mindy Pelz, intermittent fasting, ketogenic energy system, fasting cycle for women, hormonal hierarchy, menstrual cycle nutrition, cortisol and stress, birth control and microbiome, oxytocin and women's health, Fast Like a Girl Get more from Lewis!  Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy! Get The Greatness Mindset audiobook on Spotify Text Lewis AI YouTube Instagram Website Tiktok Facebook X Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising. DISCLAIMER: Please note, this is an independent podcast episode not affiliated with, endorsed by, or produced in conjunction with the host podcast feed or any of its media entities. The views and opinions expressed in this episode are solely those of the creators and guests. For any concerns, please reach out to team@podroll.fm.

  3. 2D AGO

    Navigating Overwhelm, Growth & Self-Compassion

    In this heartfelt episode of Emotionally Unavailable, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, welcomes back Ashana Kaiulani for an honest conversation about self-care, emotional overwhelm, and the healing power of self-compassion. Together, they explore what it means to care for yourself beyond surface-level routines, how vulnerability creates deeper connection, and why emotional resilience is built through presence rather than perfection. This episode offers grounded insights for anyone navigating burnout, grief, anxiety, or the pressure to hold it all together while learning to reconnect with themselves in a more compassionate way. When overwhelm rises, pause long enough to ask yourself: "What do I actually need right now?" Emotional resilience often begins by responding to yourself with curiosity and compassion instead of criticism.   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Ashana's links: Website, Insta, Youtube, Substack Ashana's Previous Episodes: Nov. 10, 2025: The Alchemy of Healing: Turning Pain into Purpose Spotify, Apple March 16, 2026: Embracing Imperfection: Letting Go of Burnout, Spiritual Perfectionism, and the Pressure to Be "Zen" Spotify, Apple

    1h 9m
  4. 4D AGO

    Grief & the Wounds We Carry Into Motherhood

    Host, Malisa Hepner reflects on her first Mother's Day after the loss of her son Jake while also exploring the complicated emotional history she carried into motherhood long before this grief. Malisa opens up about the layered pain of losing her grandmother and mother, the unresolved grief that shaped her relationship with Mother's Day, and how childhood wounds, insecurity, abandonment, and feelings of unworthiness quietly influenced her identity as a mom. She shares how grief can reactivate old narratives about love, value, belonging, and whether we are "enough," especially on emotionally charged days tied to family and attachment. This conversation is not just about loss. It's about the intersection of grief, identity, nervous system wounds, motherhood, and the lifelong process of learning to hold yourself with compassion instead of shame. Through raw storytelling and honest reflection, Malisa explores what it means to break cycles, navigate complex grief, and redefine self-worth in the aftermath of profound pain. Pay attention to the emotions that emotionally charged days bring to the surface. Often, the intensity is not only about the present moment, but also about older grief, unmet needs, or identity wounds asking to be acknowledged. Instead of judging your reaction, try asking yourself: What story about myself is this pain connected to? Awareness of the deeper wound is often where healing begins.   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

    28 min
  5. MAY 8

    Navigating Grief, Emotional Resilience, and Self-Care After Loss

    Therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits again with Kirsten OConnor, author of The Year After Kahlia and found of thisisgrief.nz, for a conversation among two friends, as they explore the realities of grief, emotional resilience, and learning how to care for yourself through loss. Together, they discuss the ways grief impacts daily life, the importance of rituals and self-compassion, and how healing often unfolds in messy, non-linear ways. This candid episode offers comfort, validation, and grounded insights for anyone navigating heartbreak, bereavement, emotional exhaustion, or major life transitions. Grief often makes people believe they must "push through" or return to normal quickly, but healing usually begins with smaller, gentler acts of care. Choose one grounding ritual this week — journaling, lighting a candle, taking a walk, listening to music, or checking in with your emotions without judgment — and allow it to become a moment of connection rather than performance. Small, repeated acts of self-compassion help rebuild safety and resilience over time.   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Kirsten's links: Website, Insta, Tiktok Kirsten's last convo on Emotionally Unavailable: Spotify, Apple

    1h 26m
  6. MAY 6

    Overcoming Fear and Rebuilding Self-Worth

    In this heartfelt conversation, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner,  sits down with Crystal  Woodward, spiritual coach, to explore the journey from trauma, denial, and self-abandonment into healing, spiritual awakening, and radical self-love. Crystal shares the emotional realities of facing fear, reconnecting with yourself, and learning to choose your own well-being every single day. Together, they discuss healing beyond survival mode, breaking old patterns, trusting intuition, and the small daily shifts that create lasting transformation. If you've ever struggled with self-worth, fear of change, or losing yourself while trying to survive, this episode offers grounded insight, hope, and practical tools for coming home to yourself. Healing often begins with small moments of honesty. Start paying attention to the places where you abandon your own needs, silence your intuition, or stay connected to fear out of familiarity. This week, practice one intentional act of self-trust each day, even if it's small. Choosing yourself consistently is how safety, self-love, and transformation are built over time.   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Crystal's website

    48 min
  7. MAY 4

    The Quiet Work Of Surviving Grief: Living Within Childloss

    In this deeply personal episode, Malisa Hepner shares her raw and unfiltered journey through grief after the loss of her son Jake to a synthetic opioid overdose. She opens up about the unpredictable waves of emotion, the tension between functioning and falling apart, and the quiet, daily choices that help her stay connected to herself. This conversation explores what it really looks like to live inside grief—without rushing it, fixing it, or performing it—and how small, aligned actions can become anchors in the midst of overwhelming pain. When everything feels too heavy, shift your focus from "getting through" the grief to simply staying connected to yourself in the moment. Choose one small, grounding action each day—whether it's naming what you feel, stepping outside for fresh air, or offering yourself a moment of compassion—and let that be enough. Over time, these small acts create a quiet stability that supports you without forcing you to move faster than your heart is ready for.   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Unquiet Soul: Spotify, Apple

    23 min
  8. MAY 1

    Spiritual Awakening, Religious Trauma & Emotional Authenticity: Reclaiming Self Beyond Conditioning

    In this deeply reflective episode, therapist and host, Malisa Hepner, sits down with Paul B. Miller to explore the layered journey of spiritual awakening, healing from religious trauma, and reclaiming emotional authenticity. Together, they unpack how societal and religious conditioning shape identity, relationships, and self-worth—and what it really takes to come back to yourself. This conversation offers grounded insight into self-love, perception shifts, and the courage it takes to question everything you were taught in order to live in alignment. Notice where your beliefs feel inherited rather than chosen. Take a few minutes to gently ask yourself: "What do I believe about myself, love, or safety—and where did that belief come from?"   * Emotionally Unavailable is produced 100% in-house. No team, just me and my love for yapping and helping others. If this show has ever helped you in any way, here is your chance to help it keep going strong. Subscribe to the patreon, grab some merch or get a workbook! I appreciate you all.  Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Paul's Links: Youtube, Skool, Tiktok

    51 min
5
out of 5
23 Ratings

About

Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way. In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding. Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.