Emotionally Unavailable

Malisa Hepner
  • 5.0 (26)
  • Mental Health

Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way. In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding. Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.

  1. 13h ago

    How to Stop Overthinking: Break the Rumination Cycle & Take Back Control of Your Thoughts

    In this episode, clinical psychologist Shang Olsen explores the psychology behind rumination, overthinking, and repetitive negative thoughts—and why trying to control or eliminate your thoughts can sometimes keep you stuck in them. Through the lens of metacognitive therapy, Shang explains how changing your relationship with your thoughts can help you break the rumination cycle, reduce mental distress, and stop giving every thought your attention. This conversation offers practical strategies for stepping out of overthinking and learning that you don't have to engage with everything your mind produces. The next time you notice yourself caught in an overthinking loop, resist the urge to solve, analyze, or argue with the thought. Instead, notice that you're thinking and intentionally redirect your attention to what's happening around you. Ask yourself: Does this thought actually require my attention right now? The goal isn't to make the thought disappear—it's to practice letting a thought exist without automatically following it down the rabbit hole. Over time, you can teach your brain that not every thought requires investigation. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Shang's links: Website, Insta, Youtube

  2. 13h ago ·  Bonus

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  3. 2d ago

    Identity Shifts: You Don't Have to Do More to Become Who You're Meant to Be

    In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner reflects on identity, authenticity, astrology, and the strange in-between spaces that come with personal growth. From the intensity of eclipse energy to recognizing old versions of herself that no longer quite fit, she explores what it means to consciously participate in who you're becoming without turning growth into another performance. Malisa shares what she's learning about honoring your actual capacity while still making room for expansion, allowing your identity to evolve, and recognizing the difference between forcing yourself into a "better" version of you and becoming more deeply aligned with who you already are. Because transformation isn't always about doing more. Sometimes it's about noticing what no longer feels true—and giving yourself permission to live differently. Think about the version of yourself you've been operating as lately and ask: Does this identity still fit me, or am I maintaining it because it's familiar? Then identify one belief, expectation, habit, or way of showing up that belongs to an older version of you. You don't have to reinvent your entire life today. Choose one small place where you can respond as the person you're becoming instead of automatically repeating who you've been. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

  4. 5d ago

    How to Make Someone Feel Seen Instead of Solved

    What does someone really need when they're hurting? In this episode, therapist Malisa Hepner welcomes back friend of the show, Elaynie Painter, to explore why our instinct to fix, solve, or offer advice can sometimes create more distance—and what it looks like to truly be present instead. Together they discuss emotional safety, self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and how learning to stay with someone's emotions (instead of rushing to change them) can transform your relationships. Whether you're supporting a grieving friend, navigating conflict with your partner, or learning to be more emotionally available, this conversation offers practical tools to help you show up with greater compassion and connection. The next time someone shares something painful, pause before responding.Notice if an urge to fix arises, take a breath, and choose presence over problem-solving. Feeling understood often heals more than being given answers. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

  5. Aug 5

    Who Are You Becoming? The Psychology & Spirituality of Identity, Manifestation, and Growth

    What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want is the identity you're unconsciously holding onto? In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner explores the powerful intersection of psychology and spirituality, diving into identity work, manifestation, self-sabotage, and the courage it takes to become the version of yourself capable of receiving what you desire. She unpacks how subconscious patterns keep us stuck, why vulnerability is essential for transformation, and how the people you surround yourself with can either reinforce your old identity or support your growth. If you're ready to stop repeating old patterns and step into a more authentic, aligned version of yourself, this episode offers practical insights to help you begin. Choose one behavior this week that reflects the person you're becoming—not the person you've always been. Small, consistent actions reinforce a new identity more powerfully than waiting until you "feel ready." Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

  6. Aug 3

    Why I Welcome Grief: Learning to Live After Profound Loss

    In this deeply personal solo episode, Malisa Hepner shares what it's been like navigating life after profound loss while continuing to choose joy, presence, and healing. Reflecting on how PTSD, grief, and the nervous system intersect, Malisa offers an honest look at what healing actually feels like in real life. She also explores why she no longer resists normal human emotions, how creating an energizing home has become an act of self-care, and why reconnecting with creativity without chasing validation has changed her relationship with life. If you've ever wondered whether it's possible to hold joy and sorrow at the same time, this episode is a reminder that healing isn't about leaving grief behind—it's about learning to carry love differently. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

  7. Jul 31

    The Path to Enlightenment Through Embodiment | Healing Trauma by Feeling, Not Escaping

    What does it actually mean to become embodied? In this episode, Malisa Hepner sits down with Ben Oofana to explore the path to enlightenment through presence, emotional healing, and reconnecting with the wisdom of the body. Together, they discuss how unresolved trauma disconnects us from ourselves, why emotions are meant to be experienced rather than avoided, and how traditional Native American healing practices can support deeper transformation. This conversation explores the difference between intellectual understanding and true embodiment, offering practical insights for anyone seeking greater self-awareness, emotional resilience, and authentic inner peace. Enlightenment isn't about escaping your emotions—it's about becoming fully present with them. True healing happens when the mind, body, and spirit come back into alignment. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner Ben's links: Website, Teach me to meditate, Heartache Hotline, Breakup First Aid, Heal My Heartache, Youtube, Insta

  8. Jul 29

    Are People Really Redeemable? Emotional Availability, Self-Sabotage & Healing

    In this solo episode, Malisa Hepner dives into emotional availability, self-sabotage, accountability and spiritual beliefs. This conversation challenges polarizing thinking while offering practical insights into healing, boundaries, and personal growth. Whether you're navigating difficult relationships or your own patterns, this episode will leave you thinking long after it ends. Subscribe to Emotionally Unavailable's Patreon! $5 - Early Ad free episodes + Occasional other goodies! $10 - Benefits listed above and access to growing voice library support for spiraling/overthinking (along with workbooks and practices) $30 - Deeper work and group spaces https://patreon.com/Emotionallyunavailablepodcast?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink Want to be a guest on Emotionally Unavailable? Send Malisa Hepner a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1739504718415772259d92bc1 https://linktr.ee/Mdhepner

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Welcome to "Emotionally Unavailable," a transformative podcast that began as a personal journey toward emotional availability and has blossomed into a vibrant space for growth, healing, and connection. Join me as I explore the depths of self-discovery, spirituality, and personal empowerment, sharing my light and the insights I've gained along the way. In each episode, I engage in heartfelt conversations with inspiring guests who are also navigating their paths to emotional freedom and teaching others to do the same. We cover a wide range of topics such as- human design, astrology, the journey of deconstructing from religion- to name a few; all aimed at fostering deeper self-love and understanding. Whether you're seeking to heal past wounds, explore your spiritual side, or simply learn how to love yourself and others a little better, this podcast is for you. Tune in and embark on a journey of exploration, growth, and community as we illuminate the path toward emotional availability and authentic living. Let's discover the power of vulnerability and connection—one episode at a time.

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  • Creator
    Malisa Hepner
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    301
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024
  • Show Website
    Emotionally Unavailable

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