MEEEI: 心光集 · HeartLight

Mei Yang

Hi, I’m Mei Yang — 杨梅, the host of this podcast. I’m a cross-cultural family coach, systemic facilitator, and the founder of MEEEI, an initiative devoted to healing, connection, and transformation across generations. For over 25 years, I’ve lived and worked between cultures. In the last few years of transitioning from business consultancy to coaching, I have supported hundreds of Chinese people and Chinese families. Through systemic coaching, family constellations, and heart-centered workshops, I help people reconnect with their roots, release inherited patterns, and create a more loving, conscious life for themselves and their children. 🌱 Why I Created This Podcast So many of us carry invisible burdens—unspoken family stories, cultural expectations, emotional wounds passed down through generations. Yet, I believe healing is possible, and that when one person begins to grow, the whole family system begins to shift. This podcast is a space for honest conversations, soulful reflections, and meaningful guidance — drawn from my life, my work, and my continuous path of learning.   Whether you’re a parent, a seeker, or simply someone navigating the complexities of cross-cultural identity, I invite you to walk this journey with me. Thanks for listening!🧡

  1. Jul 17

    #80: 活出梦想中的自己:创造连接、喜悦和平静的反思 | Living the Dream Version of Myself: Reflections on Creating Connection, Joy, and Inner Peace

    两周前,我的创作源泉突然干涸了。身体和心灵都在抗拒坐到麦克风前。我没有逼自己,而是选择了停下来,去听音乐会、去看电影、去感受世界。两周后,创作的热情自然回来了。这段经历让我重新理解了:滋养自己,从来不是浪费时间。 我们常常在不断地输出中耗尽自己,却忘了,创作和成长都需要先有输入的养分。 这一集,我想分享三个带给我深刻反思的关键词:看见、连接、平静。 1. 看见:每个人身后都有一个故事 在两场专门为男性做的家庭系统排列工作坊里,我看见很多外表强大的男性在安全的场域里流露了自己的脆弱,终于流出了久违的眼泪。 那一刻我深深感受到,无论外表多么坚强,每个人内心都渴望被看见、被听见、被接纳。当我们愿意看见一个人身后的家庭系统和成长经历,很多愤怒和退缩背后的孤独与渴望,就会被理解。 2. 连接:创造属于你们的陪伴方式 过去两个月,我和丈夫一起看了近20场电影。这个小小的尝试,变成了我们之间一种全新的连接方式。它逼着我停下来,把时间留给彼此。看电影不再是看电影,而是一起进入故事、一起被触动、一起交流感受的时光。重要的不是活动本身,而是我们愿意有意识地为关系腾出时间。 3. 平静:在焦虑中找到回归自己的路 暑假里,孩子长时间使用电子设备很容易触发父母的焦虑。但一个更平静的父母,才能更好地陪伴孩子。每一个和当下连接的正念时刻,都可以帮助我们暂时从焦虑和担心里走出来。平静不是逃避,而是给自己一个空间,去重新感受内心那片宁静的净土。 如果你也在暑假里感到焦虑、疲惫,或者在忙碌中忘记了给自己留一点空间,不妨轻轻问自己: “这个夏天,我想怎样更靠近那个梦想中的自己?” 愿你,找到属于自己的那份内心平静。 愿我们,在连接中感受爱,在平静中回归自己。 Two weeks ago, my creative well suddenly ran dry. My body and heart resisted sitting down in front of the microphone. I did not force myself. Instead, I chose to pause, to go to concerts, watch films, and feel the world again. Two weeks later, the desire to create returned naturally. This experience helped me understand once again: nourishing ourselves is never a waste of time. We often exhaust ourselves by constantly giving, producing, and creating, while forgetting that both creativity and growth first need nourishment and input. In this episode, I want to share three keywords that have brought me deep reflection: seeing, connection, and inner peace. Seeing: Behind every person, there is a story.During two family constellation workshops created especially for men, I saw many men who looked strong on the outside safely reveal their vulnerability and finally let long-held tears flow. In that moment, I deeply felt that no matter how strong someone may appear, every person longs to be seen, heard, and accepted. When we are willing to see the family system and life experiences behind a person, we may begin to understand the loneliness and longing hidden behind anger, withdrawal, or silence. Connection: Create your own way of being together.Over the past two months, my husband and I have watched nearly 20 films together. This small experiment became a completely new way for us to connect. It forced me to stop and make time for each other. Watching a film was no longer just watching a film. It became time to enter a story together, be moved together, and share our feelings afterward. What matters is not the activity itself, but our willingness to consciously make space for the relationship. Inner peace: Finding your way back to yourself in the midst of anxiety.During the summer holidays, children spending long hours on screens can easily trigger parents’ anxiety. But a calmer parent is better able to accompany their child. Every mindful moment of connecting with the present can help us step out of anxiety and worry, even if only briefly. Inner peace is not avoidance. It is giving ourselves space to reconnect with that quiet, pure place within. If you also feel anxious or tired this summer, or if you have forgotten to leave a little space for yourself in the midst of busyness, gently ask yourself: “How do I want to move closer to the self of my dreams this summer?” May you find your own inner peace. May we feel love through connection, and return to ourselves through stillness.

    #80: 活出梦想中的自己:创造连接、喜悦和平静的反思 | Living the Dream Version of Myself: Reflections on Creating Connection, Joy, and Inner Peace
  2. Jun 26

    #79:【嘉宾访谈】从IT牛马到天赋辅导员:两个高智商孩子如何改变了我的人生 | [Guest Interview] From an IT Professional to a Talent Coach: How Raising Two Gifted Children Changed My Life

    今天这期节目,是一集特别的访谈节目。今天的嘉宾是居住在荷兰的天赋辅导员王蕾。 她曾经是一位在IT行业打拼了近30年的专业人士。却在50岁那年,在被两个高智商的孩子多年“磨练和修炼”后,决定转行成为一名天赋辅导员。她用自己的专业知识、亲身经历和育儿探索中的宝贵经验,去帮助很多和她一样的家庭。她创办了137 Talent Care/137天赋辅导工作室,并通过137这个平台传播很多养育资优孩子的知识和应对方式。 在这个坦诚的对谈中,你会听到王蕾如何从一个“怨恨孩子”的母亲,走到今天“感恩孩子是带她进门的大师”的生命转变。 🍀 你会听到当一个母亲的底色从恐惧变成信任时,她的人生和她的家庭发生了怎样的化学反应。 🍀 你也会听到,为什么高智商的孩子反而常常成为学校里“被误解”和“被孤立”的那一个,以及一个“别人家的孩子”从模范生跌落到不愿意上学时,父母最深的无力感和最终的反思。 🍀 你还会听到,作为双语家庭的中国父母,当我们在语言和文化的差异中听不清孩子真正的痛苦时,我们可以从哪里找到沟通的抓手。 这一期,我们不讲大道理,也不提供速成方法。我们只想借由王蕾真实走过的路,陪伴你看见自己、看见孩子,看见那些挣扎背后被忽略的爱与信任。 如果你也是一个在焦虑中不断“纠错”的父母,如果你也正在陪伴一个高敏感、高智商的孩子经历一段艰难的时光,如果你想听一个真实的从崩溃到自洽的家庭故事,这期节目就是送给你的。 嘉宾信息: 如果你想联系王蕾,参与她每周的“137号小客厅”公益家长交流活动,或是了解她的家庭一对一辅导和137读书会,欢迎通过下面的平台关注她和联系她。 网站:https://www.137talentcare.nl/  微信视频号和公众号/小红书: 天赋护航员 Linkedin 和Instagram:137talentcare   In today's special episode, I'm joined by Lei Wang, a talent coach based in the Netherlands. Lei spent nearly 30 years building her career in the IT industry. But at the age of 50, after years of being challenged, stretched, and ultimately transformed by raising two gifted children, she made a courageous career change and became a talent coach. Today, she combines her professional knowledge, personal journey, and hard-earned parenting insights to support families facing similar challenges. She founded 137 Talent Care, where she helps Chinese families better understand gifted children and shares practical knowledge and perspectives on nurturing their unique potential. In this honest and heartfelt conversation, you'll hear how Lei transformed from a mother who once felt resentment toward her children into someone who now sees them as the greatest teachers of her life. In this episode, you'll discover: 🍀 How a mother's life—and her entire family—can change when fear is replaced by trust. 🍀 Why gifted children are often the ones who feel misunderstood, isolated, or out of place at school, and how a child who once seemed like "the perfect student" can suddenly struggle so deeply that they no longer want to attend school. 🍀 How Chinese parents raising bilingual children can begin to understand their children's inner world, even when language and cultural differences make communication difficult. This episode isn't about offering quick fixes or one-size-fits-all parenting advice. Instead, through Lei's authentic journey, we hope to invite you to better understand yourself, better understand your child, and recognize the love, trust, and unmet needs that often lie beneath conflict and struggle. If you're a parent who constantly worries about making mistakes... If you're raising a highly sensitive, highly gifted child and navigating a difficult season... Or if you'd simply like to hear an honest story of a family's journey from exhaustion and frustration to understanding and acceptance... Then this episode is for you. Guest Information If you'd like to connect with Lei Wang, join her free weekly parent community "137 Living Room", or learn more about her one-on-one family coaching and 137 Book Club, you can find her here: Website: https://www.137talentcare.nl/ WeChat Video Channel / WeChat Official Account / Xiaohongshu: Talent Navigator (天赋护航员) LinkedIn & Instagram: 137talentcare

    #79:【嘉宾访谈】从IT牛马到天赋辅导员:两个高智商孩子如何改变了我的人生 | [Guest Interview] From an IT Professional to a Talent Coach: How Raising Two Gifted Children Changed My Life
  3. Jun 19

    #78: 陪孩子熬过中学六年,这三个功课改变了我们的人生 | Accompanying my children through six tough years of secondary school, these three lessons changed our lives

    每年的六月中旬,在荷兰的大街小巷,总能看到许多家庭把国旗和书包挂在门口。那是庆祝孩子中学毕业的传统。今年,当我再次看到一面面飘扬的旗子时,心里有很多感触。我的两个女儿,也走过了各自不同的中学历程。小女儿顺利毕业了,而大女儿下个星期还要补考最后一科。七年以前她辍学之后,在外面创业。两年前自己选择回去边上学边创业,坚持到了今天。 这一集,我想分享陪伴女儿们走过充满波折的中学历程教会我的三个重要功课: 1. 无条件的爱,从接纳自己开始 我们大多数人从小接受的爱本身就是有条件的,表现好才被表扬,成绩好才被认可。于是我们慢慢学会了:我要足够好,才值得被爱。但很多时候,真正需要改变的不是孩子,而是我们自己。只有当我们开始无条件地接纳自己的脆弱、失败和不完美,才有可能把同样的接纳带给孩子。做父母,是一场深刻的修行。 2. 信任,比任何建议都更有力量 真正的信任,不是相信孩子永远不会跌倒,而是相信即使跌倒了,他依然有能力再次站起来。当孩子恐惧的时候,父母首先要照顾好自己的神经系统,不要跟着孩子一起陷入恐惧,而是把一个更稳定、更平和的自己带到孩子身边。这份信任,往往比任何建议都更能给孩子赋能。 3. 停止比较,让孩子成为他自己 孩子是一颗颗独一无二的种子,有的像玫瑰,有的像向日葵,有的像橡树,有的像竹子。作为园丁,我们无法要求一棵玫瑰长成向日葵,也无法要求一棵竹子按照橡树的速度成长。我们能做的,是提供适合它成长的土壤,为它施肥浇水,然后耐心等待生命按照它自己的方式展开。当我们停止比较,把目光收回来,才能真正看见眼前这个独一无二的生命。 如果你也在陪伴孩子走过青春期,感到焦虑、疲惫,或者不知道该如何支持正在挣扎中的孩子,不妨轻轻问自己: “我是在用自己的期待塑造孩子,还是在用爱和信任滋养一个独立的生命?” 愿你,能把三份珍贵的礼物送给孩子:无条件的爱、发自内心的信任、停止比较的自由。 愿我们,都能成为孩子穿越风雨时,最深厚的力量和支持。 Every year in mid-June, streets across the Netherlands are filled with flags and school bags hanging outside people's homes. It is a cherished Dutch tradition celebrating children who have graduated from secondary school. This year, as I once again saw those flags waving in the summer breeze, I felt deeply moved. My two daughters have each walked very different paths through their secondary school years. My younger daughter graduated smoothly this year, while my older daughter still has one final resit exam next week. Seven years ago, she dropped out of school and started her own business. Two years ago, she made the courageous decision to return to school while continuing to run her business, and she has persevered ever since. In this episode, I share three important lessons I learned while accompanying my daughters through their challenging and often turbulent secondary school journeys. 1. Unconditional Love Begins with Accepting Ourselves Most of us grew up experiencing conditional love. We were praised when we performed well and recognized when we achieved good results. Over time, we learned a powerful but painful message: I have to be good enough to be worthy of love. Yet often, it is not our children who need to change first. It is us. Only when we begin to accept our own vulnerabilities, failures, imperfections, and limitations can we offer that same acceptance to our children. Parenting is not simply about raising a child; it is a profound journey of personal growth and self-discovery. 2. Trust Is More Powerful Than Any Advice True trust does not mean believing that our children will never fall. It means believing that even when they do fall, they have the strength and capacity to get back up again. When children are anxious or afraid, our first responsibility as parents is to regulate our own nervous system. Rather than being pulled into their fear, we can bring a calmer, steadier, and more grounded version of ourselves to stand beside them. This kind of trust often empowers children far more than advice, solutions, or constant guidance ever could. 3. Stop Comparing and Allow Children to Become Who They Are Every child is a unique seed. Some are roses, some are sunflowers, some are oak trees, and some are bamboo. As gardeners, we cannot expect a rose to grow into a sunflower, nor can we expect bamboo to grow at the pace of an oak tree. What we can do is provide the right soil, water, nourishment, and care, then patiently allow life to unfold in its own way. When we stop comparing our children to others and bring our attention back to the child standing in front of us, we can finally begin to see the unique person they truly are. If you are currently accompanying a teenager through adolescence and feeling anxious, exhausted, or unsure how to support a struggling child, perhaps you might gently ask yourself: "Am I trying to shape my child according to my expectations, or am I nurturing an independent human being through love and trust?" May you offer your children three precious gifts: Unconditional love. Genuine trust. And the freedom from comparison. And may we, as parents, become a source of strength, stability, and support for our children as they navigate life's storms and discover their own path forward. ❤️

    #78: 陪孩子熬过中学六年,这三个功课改变了我们的人生 | Accompanying my children through six tough years of secondary school, these three lessons changed our lives
  4. Jun 12

    #77: 苦了一辈子,却从未好好拥抱过年轻的自己 | A Lifetime of Hardship, Yet Never Truly Embracing Your Younger Self

    你是否也曾觉得,自己的一生只是不停地埋头赶路? 在这一集里,我想和你分享一场让我非常触动的工作坊。这是荷兰华人儿童基金会为了关爱老华侨,邀请我去做的一场无比特别和难忘的工作坊。 在一个安静的午后,当一群在异国他乡生活了二三十年的第一代老移民,第一次拿起纸和笔回看自己的人生历程时,他们流下了久违的眼泪。有人看见了年轻时那个孤独却不得不坚强的自己,有人想起了从未好好感谢过的亲人,有人终于在一个安全的场域里,让埋藏多年的泪水流了出来。 这一集,我想邀请你和我一起,慢下来,回头看看自己走过的路。 本集你将听到: 🍀 为什么回顾人生历程,能够改变我们与自己、与伴侣、与孩子、与家人的关系? 🍀 一张纸、一支笔,如何帮助我们看见那些从未被言说的情感与力量? 🍀 第一代移民父母的无奈与第二代孩子的挣扎,如何在理解中重新连接? 🍀 如何在家中独自完成一份属于自己的“生命历程图”练习? 如果你也在忙碌的生活中感到疲惫、孤独,或者与家人、孩子之间存在难以言说的隔阂,不妨轻轻问自己: “如果今天的我,可以对那个曾经最艰难时刻的自己说一句话,我会说什么?” 愿你,能给自己一句迟来的理解、肯定和安慰。 愿我们,都能温柔地回看一路走来的自己,让过去成为理解与力量的源泉,而非沉重的负担。 感恩与这群勇敢善良的老华侨们相遇,一起回看过去,关爱自己。 感恩荷兰华人儿童基金会多年对荷兰华人无私的关怀和帮助! 工作坊邀请|生命整合历程(LIP) 如果这一集触动了你,也欢迎你更深入地探索自己的生命故事。 今年,我将在荷兰Soest举办两场全天的生命整合历程工作坊。我们将透过生命历程图、互动练习,以及生命整合历程排列(LIP),一起回顾过去、整合人生、重新连接自己与家人。 📍 地点:荷兰 Soest(森林旁的小镇) 📅 时间:  • 2026年6月20日(尚余少量名额)  • 2026年11月21日 📩 往期学员反馈,工作坊信息和报名链接:https://hipsy.nl/meeei Have you ever felt that your whole life has been spent with your head down, simply trying to keep going? In this episode, I want to share a workshop that deeply touched my heart. It was a truly special and unforgettable gathering organized by the Dutch Chinese Children's Fund to support and care for elderly members of the Chinese community in the Netherlands. On a quiet afternoon, a group of first-generation Chinese immigrants who had lived in a foreign land for twenty or thirty years picked up a pen and paper and looked back on their life journeys for the very first time. Long-held tears finally found their way out. Some met the younger version of themselves who had been lonely yet forced to be strong. Some remembered loved ones they had never properly thanked. Others finally allowed tears buried for decades to flow freely in a safe and compassionate space. In this episode, I invite you to slow down with me and look back at the road you have travelled. In this episode, you'll hear: 🍀 Why reflecting on your life journey can transform the relationship you have with yourself, your partner, your children, and your family. 🍀 How a simple sheet of paper and a pen can help us uncover emotions, memories, and inner strengths that have never been spoken aloud. 🍀 How the helplessness of first-generation immigrant parents and the struggles of second-generation children can find reconnection through deeper understanding. 🍀 How you can create your own "Life Journey Map" exercise at home. If you, too, feel exhausted or lonely in the midst of a busy life, or if there are unspoken distances between you and your family or children, perhaps take a gentle moment to ask yourself: "If I could say one thing today to the version of myself who went through the hardest time, what would I say?" May you offer yourself a long overdue word of understanding, affirmation, and comfort. May we all learn to look back on our journeys with tenderness, allowing the past to become a source of understanding and strength rather than a burden we continue to carry. I am deeply grateful to have met this group of courageous and kind elderly Chinese immigrants, and to have walked alongside them as they revisited their past and learned to care for themselves. And my heartfelt gratitude goes to the Dutch Chinese Children's Fund for their many years of selfless care and support for the Chinese community in the Netherlands. Workshop Invitation | Life Integration Process (LIP) If this episode has touched you, I warmly invite you to explore your own life story more deeply. This year, I will be facilitating two full-day Life Integration Process (LIP) workshops in Soest, the Netherlands. Through Life Journey Mapping, interactive exercises, and Life Integration Process constellations (LIP), we will revisit the past, integrate our life experiences, and reconnect with ourselves and our loved ones. 📍 Location: Soest, the Netherlands, a beautiful town nestled beside the forest 📅 Dates: • June 20, 2026 (a few places are still available) • November 21, 2026 For registration, participant testimonials, and more detailed information, please see the episode description. 📩 For participant testimonials, workshop information, and registration, please visit:https://hipsy.nl/meeei

    #77: 苦了一辈子,却从未好好拥抱过年轻的自己 | A Lifetime of Hardship, Yet Never Truly Embracing Your Younger Self
  5. Jun 9

    #76: (2025年回放)50岁转行,从零开始:一年后的五大反思 | (Replay from 2025) Starting Over at 50: Five Reflections One Year After My Career Transition

    这是一年前的一份真实记录。那时我刚走过转行的第一年,站在一个全新的路上,满是不确定,也满是摸索。 如果你也曾在人生的十字路口犹豫:我想换一个方向,但要从哪里开始? 这一集,我分享5个重要的领悟: 1. 找到为何而行,比如何去做什么更重要 找到你的“为什么”,它会成为你在困难时继续走下去的动力。 2. 学会为自己的人生投资,这是真正的自我关爱 投资自己,不是自私,而是让自已成为家庭的一盏灯。 3. 稳定的节奏比完美的结果更重要 转型之路不是短跑,而是一场有节奏的慢动作。走得稳,才能走得远。 4. 建立可持续的事业,是对世界的贡献 把个人愿景与社会使命融合,即使一个人起步,也能发光发热。 5. 失败并不等于你不行,独自起步也能走出光亮之路 每一次失败都是人生的课程。当你愿意真实地走出来,同频的人会找到你。 如果你也正在转行、重新开始,或站在人生的十字路口,不妨轻轻问自己: “我的‘为什么’是什么?” 愿你,找到属于自己的那束光。 愿我们,温柔地走向属于自己真正的生命历程。 📌 欢迎加入「MEEEI家庭系统成长微信社区」 今年2026年七月份开始, 我将在每个月的最后一个周日,荷兰时间上午10:00至12:00(夏令时),北京时间周日下午16:00至18:00举办线上的免费分享、答疑、互动、学习和成长。通过线上ZOOM会议,我会通过各种集体分享和小组互动的模式,带大家一起去探索过去,体验当下、憧憬未来。 如果你对加入这个微信社区感兴趣,欢迎通过微信或邮件联系我加入这个免费社区。加入微信社区后,你会在社区里获取所有线上和线下活动的具体信息。 我的微信:soest8881533 我的邮件:info@meeei.nl This episode is a genuine reflection recorded one year ago. At that time, I had just completed my first year after changing careers. I was standing at the beginning of a completely new path, filled with uncertainty, learning, and exploration. If you have ever found yourself at a crossroads, wondering, "I want to choose a different direction, but where do I begin?" this episode is for you. In this episode, I share five important reflections: 1. Finding your WHY is more important than figuring out HOW. Discover your deeper "why." It will become the source of strength that keeps you going when life gets difficult. 2. Learn to invest in yourself. It is an act of genuine self-care. Investing in yourself is not selfish. It is how you become a light for yourself and for the people you love. 3. A sustainable rhythm matters more than perfect results. Career transitions are not sprints. They are slow journeys that require rhythm and consistency. Walk steadily, and you will go far. 4. Building a sustainable business is a contribution to the world. When personal vision and social purpose come together, even one person can create meaningful impact and bring light to others. 5. Failure does not mean you are not capable. Even when you start alone, you can still find your own path toward the light. Every setback carries a lesson. When you dare to show up authentically, the people who resonate with you will find you. If you are changing careers, starting over, or standing at a crossroads in life, I invite you to gently ask yourself: "What is my WHY?" May you discover the light that is uniquely yours. May we all walk gently toward the life we are truly meant to live. 📌 You're warmly invited to join the MEEEI Family System Growth WeChat Community. Starting in July 2026, I will host a free online gathering on the last Sunday of each month, from 10:00–12:00 (Netherlands time, summer time) and 16:00–18:00 (Beijing time). Through Zoom, we will come together to share, learn, ask questions, support one another, and grow. Through group sharing and small-group interactions, we will explore the past, experience the present, and envision the future together. If you would like to join this free WeChat community, please feel free to contact me via WeChat or email. Once you join, you will receive information about all upcoming online and in-person activities. WeChat: soest8881533 Email: info@meeei.nl

    #76: (2025年回放)50岁转行,从零开始:一年后的五大反思 | (Replay from 2025) Starting Over at 50: Five Reflections One Year After My Career Transition
  6. Jun 5

    #75: 50岁转行,从零开始:两年后的五大反思 | Starting Over at 50: Five Reflections Two Years After My Career Transition

    欢迎报名参加2026年家庭系统排列工作坊: 📩 往期学员反馈,工作坊信息和报名链接:https://hipsy.nl/meeei 去年2025年6月3日,我发布了第25集《50岁转行,从零开始:一年后的五大反思》。那时,我刚刚离开做了25年的国际商务咨询工作,站在一条新路的入口,带着不确定、忐忑,也带着对疗愈、系统智慧和家庭成长的深深热爱,重新开始学习、创造和铺路。 一年后的今天,2026年6月3日,我正在录制第75集。从第25集到第75集,正好过去了50集。这一年,我继续录播客、学习、陪伴个人和家庭,也更深地体会到:真正支持一个人走下去的,不只是热爱和勇气,而是一整套能够托住自己的支持系统。 这一集,我想和你分享转行第二年带给我的5个重要领悟: 建立支持你的时间管理系统 热爱不会自动带来持续的行动。当没有老板监督、没有固定框架时,好的时间管理不是把每一分钟填满,而是帮助你把有限的时间和能量,放在真正重要的事情上,包括学习、创造、运动、休息、关系和快乐。 建立以真诚关系为核心的人际支持系统 真正支持你走下去的,不只是人脉和资源,而是伴侣、家人、朋友和同行之间真诚的爱、信任与陪伴。这些关系,会在你最困难、最脆弱、最撑不住的时候,托住你,不让你一个人倒下。 找到支持你成长的社群 一个人也许走得快,一群人才能走得更远。学习新技能、进入新领域、坚持新习惯时,我们需要一个安全的社群,可以一起练习、犯错、接受反馈、彼此激励,也一起成长。 建立身体、精神和能量的支持系统 无论梦想多么美好,如果没有健康的身体、稳定的能量和内在的平静,这条路都会变得非常艰难。每天给自己一点安静的时间,去自然里走走,冥想,运动,写感恩日记,好好睡觉,这些看似很小的事,其实是长期前行的根本。 建立与自己、父母、祖辈连接的家族生命支持系统 那些让我们内耗的模式,往往是过去曾经保护过我们的部分。当我们愿意回头看见它们、理解它们、慢慢整合它们,我们能找回很多力量、智慧,并连接我们的根。与自己、父母和祖辈的连接,会让我们感受到:我不是孤独的,我有来处,我也有可以继续前行的无尽的生命力量。 如果你也在重新开始、转行,或寻找人生方向,不妨轻轻问自己: “我有没有在热爱一件事情的同时,为这份热爱设立健康的边界?” 愿你,不仅走得远,也走得稳、走得喜悦。 愿我们,在追逐梦想的路上,不忘记照顾自己,也不忘记那些托住我们的人。   You are warmly invited to join our 2026 Family Constellations Workshops. 📩 For participant testimonials, workshop information, and registration, please visit: https://hipsy.nl/meeei On June 3 last year, I released Episode 25, “Starting Over at 50: Five Reflections One Year After My Career Transition.” At that time, I had just left behind 25 years of international business consulting and was standing at the beginning of a new path. I was full of uncertainty and nervousness, but also carried a deep passion for healing, systemic wisdom, and family growth. I was learning again, creating again, and slowly paving a new road. One year later, on June 3, 2026, I am recording Episode 75. From Episode 25 to Episode 75, exactly 50 episodes have passed. During this year, I continued recording podcasts, learning, and supporting individuals and families. I also came to understand more deeply that what truly supports a person to keep going is not only passion and courage, but a whole set of support systems that can hold and sustain us. In this episode, I share five important reflections from my second year of career transition: Build a time management system that supports you Passion does not automatically lead to consistent action. When there is no boss supervising you and no fixed structure around you, good time management is not about filling every minute. It is about helping you place your limited time and energy on what truly matters, including learning, creating, movement, rest, relationships, and joy. Build a relationship support system rooted in sincerity What truly helps you keep going is not only networking and resources, but the sincere love, trust, and companionship between partners, family members, friends, and colleagues. These relationships will hold you when you are at your most difficult, most vulnerable, and most exhausted, so you do not have to fall alone. Find a community that supports your growth One person may walk fast, but a group of people can walk further. When we are learning new skills, entering a new field, or building new habits, we need a safe community where we can practise, make mistakes, receive feedback, encourage one another, and grow together. Build a support system for your body, spirit, and energy No matter how beautiful your dream is, without a healthy body, stable energy, and inner peace, the path will become very difficult. Giving yourself a little quiet time each day, walking in nature, meditating, exercising, writing a gratitude journal, and sleeping well may seem like small things, but they are the foundation for walking this path in the long run. Build a family life support system by reconnecting with yourself, your parents, and your ancestors The patterns that drain us are often parts of us that once tried to protect us. When we are willing to turn back, see them, understand them, and slowly integrate them, we can recover much strength and wisdom, and reconnect with our roots. Connecting with ourselves, our parents, and our ancestors allows us to feel: I am not alone. I come from somewhere. I also carry an endless life force that supports me to keep moving forward. If you are also starting over, changing careers, or searching for a new direction in life, you may gently ask yourself: “While loving and pursuing something deeply, am I also setting healthy boundaries around this passion?” May you not only walk far, but also walk steadily and joyfully. May we, on the path of pursuing our dreams, remember to take care of ourselves, and also remember those who hold and support us along the way.

    #75: 50岁转行,从零开始:两年后的五大反思 | Starting Over at 50: Five Reflections Two Years After My Career Transition
  7. May 29

    #74: 什么是疗愈?我们如何疗愈?| What Is Healing? How Do We Heal?

    这一集,我想从四个方面和你分享一下我对疗愈和成长的思考,以及我上周读到的美国的留佩萱博士在Substack上分享的一篇深刻的文章带给我的启发。 1. 疗愈和治愈,是完全不同的两件事 治愈是消除症状、疾病到此结束;疗愈是意识到过去的经历正在影响今天的自己,并开始有意识地理解自己、接纳自己。 2. 真正的疗愈,不是消灭痛苦,而是扩展内心的容器 疗愈不是把负面情绪赶走,而是让内在有越来越大的空间,能够容纳悲伤、愤怒、恐惧,也容纳喜悦、爱和希望。 3. 疗愈不是变成完美的人,而是让成人的自己带领自己回归完整 那些愤怒、讨好、自责的部分,不是来摧毁我们的。它们曾在我们幼小脆弱时努力保护过我们。疗愈,是带着慈悲去看到它们,陪伴它们。 4. 疗愈,是重新把自己放回关系里,一次次找到回家的路 伤痛在关系中发生,疗愈也需要回到关系里。每一次迷失时,呼吸、正念、身体工作……都是带我们重新回家的工具。 愿你,不再抱怨自己,修理自己,而是开始陪伴自己、接纳自己 。 愿我们,在每一次迷失中,都能重新找到回家的路。  🌿🔗播客中提到的Substack上美国留佩萱博士的文章链接: https://open.substack.com/pub/healinglettersfromdrliu/p/letter-14?r=da37f&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email 我也非常推荐你去订阅和阅读她在Substack上的电子报《Healing Letters from Dr. Liu》 In recent years, “healing” has become an increasingly popular topic, but also one that is often misunderstood. Many people think healing means “getting rid of pain” or “becoming a perfect person.” But in reality, many of the patterns that cause us pain were once our inner parts’ best attempts to protect us. In this episode, I share four important reflections: Healing and curing are two completely different things  Curing is about eliminating symptoms and ending illness. Healing is about becoming aware that our past experiences are still shaping who we are today, and learning to consciously understand and accept ourselves. Real healing is not about eliminating pain, but about expanding our inner container  Healing is not about pushing away difficult emotions. It is about creating more inner space to hold sadness, anger, fear, and also joy, love, and hope. Healing is not becoming a perfect person, but allowing the adult self to guide us back toward wholeness  The parts of us that feel angry, self-critical, people-pleasing, or fearful are not here to destroy us. They once worked very hard to protect us when we were small and vulnerable. Healing means seeing these parts with compassion and learning to accompany them gently. Healing is about placing ourselves back into relationship, and finding our way home again and again  If many wounds were created in relationships, then healing must also happen through relationships. Every time we feel lost, tools like breathwork, mindfulness, and body-based practices can help guide us back home to ourselves. May you stop blaming yourself and trying to “fix” yourself, and instead begin to accompany yourself with more tenderness. May we all, in every moment of losing ourselves, slowly find our way home again. 🌿🔗 Article by Dr. Liu on Substack mentioned in this podcast: https://open.substack.com/pub/healinglettersfromdrliu/p/letter-14?r=da37f&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email I also highly recommend subscribing to and reading her Substack newsletter: Healing Letters from Dr. Liu.

    #74: 什么是疗愈?我们如何疗愈?|  What Is Healing? How Do We Heal?
  8. May 22

    #73: 回看来路:重新连接父母、家庭与自己 | Looking Back at Where We Come From: Reconnecting with Parents, Family, and Ourselves

    📌 欢迎加入「MEEEI家庭系统成长微信社区」 今年2026年七月份开始, 我将在每个月的最后一个周日,荷兰时间上午10:00至12:00(夏令时),北京时间周日下午16:00至18:00举办线上的免费分享、答疑、互动、学习和成长。通过线上ZOOM会议,我会通过各种集体分享和小组互动的模式,带大家一起去探索过去,体验当下、憧憬未来。 如果你对加入这个微信社区感兴趣,欢迎通过微信或邮件联系我加入这个免费社区。加入微信社区后,你会在社区里获取所有线上和线下活动的具体信息。 我的微信:soest8881533 我的邮件:china@meeei.nl 86岁的老爸,耳朵越来越聋了。 过去几年,我再也无法像从前那样,听他讲那些关于时代、关于人生的故事。那些还没来得及问出口的问题,那些没能真正听完的故事,慢慢成了我心里越来越深的遗憾。 直到今年四月,我和老爸开始通过写信建立了更多的沟通。过去几周,在整理这些文字、重新书写父母人生回忆录的过程中,我一次次流泪,也一次次重新理解了父母、家庭,以及“来路”对一个人的意义。 这一集,我想和你分享几个深深触动我的领悟: 父母的故事,不只是过去 那些家庭里的往事、父母的人生、祖辈的经历,并不仅仅是“过去的记忆”。它们在无声地连接我们,也在重新让一个家庭彼此靠近。带着好奇去倾听,会打开一扇新的门 如果我们能带着真诚、带着爱、带着不评判的好奇去接近父母,很多从未真正被听见的故事,就会慢慢浮现。而这些故事,也会带我们重新理解自己的人生。回看来路,会慢慢改变一个人 当一个人开始重新理解父母、理解家庭、理解自己成长背后的故事时,我们看待人生的方式,也会慢慢发生改变。我们的成长,也会重新影响整个家庭 很多时候,我们的学习和成长,不只是帮助自己。它也会慢慢改变我们与父母、伴侣、孩子之间的连接方式,让爱重新开始流动。如果你也曾遗憾,没有真正听过父母的人生故事。 不妨轻轻问问自己: “我的心里,有没有一个一直想问父母的问题?” 也许,一个问题,就会打开一扇重新连接彼此的门。 愿我们,在父母还在的时候,带着温暖和好奇,重新走近他们。 愿我们,一起回看来路,重新连接父母、家庭与自己。 📌 欢迎加入「MEEEI家庭系统成长微信社区」 今年2026年七月份开始, 我将在每个月的最后一个周日,荷兰时间上午10:00至12:00(夏令时),北京时间周日下午16:00至18:00举办线上的免费分享、答疑、互动、学习和成长。通过线上ZOOM会议,我会通过各种集体分享和小组互动的模式,带大家一起去探索过去,体验当下、憧憬未来。 如果你对加入这个微信社区感兴趣,欢迎通过微信或邮件联系我加入这个免费社区。加入微信社区后,你会在社区里获取所有线上和线下活动的具体信息。 我的微信:soest8881533 我的邮件:china@meeei.nl My father is now 86 years old, and his hearing has been fading more and more. Over the past few years, I’ve realized that I can no longer sit beside him and listen to his stories the way I used to — stories about his life, about our family, about the times he lived through. The questions I never got to ask, and the stories I never fully heard, slowly became one of the deepest regrets in my heart. Then, in April this year, something changed. My father and I began communicating through handwritten letters. Over the past few weeks, while organizing his writings and continuing to work on my parents’ memoir, I found myself crying again and again. Through this process, I began to understand my parents, my family, and the meaning of “where we come from” in a much deeper way. In this episode, I want to share a few reflections that deeply touched me:  Our parents’ stories are not just “the past”  The stories of our parents, our grandparents, and our family history are not simply memories. They continue to connect us quietly across generations, and they can bring a family closer together again.  Listening with curiosity opens a new door  When we approach our parents with sincerity, love, and non-judgmental curiosity, stories that were never truly heard before slowly begin to emerge. And through those stories, we often begin to understand our own lives more deeply.  Looking back at where we come from can slowly change us  When we begin to understand our parents, our family history, and the stories behind our own growth, the way we see life gradually changes as well.  Our own growth can also transform our family  Very often, our learning and healing do not only help ourselves. They slowly change the way we relate to our parents, partners, children, and loved ones. And through that, love begins to flow again. If you have ever felt the sadness of not truly knowing your parents’ stories, perhaps you can gently ask yourself: “Is there a question I have always wanted to ask my parents?” Sometimes, one single question can open a door back to connection. May we, while our parents are still here, walk a little closer toward them with warmth and curiosity. May we look back at where we come from, and reconnect with our parents, our family, and ourselves. 📌 You are warmly welcome to join the “MEEEI Family System Growth WeChat Community” Starting from July 2026, I will host a free monthly online gathering on the last Sunday of each month:  10:00–12:00 Netherlands time (CEST)  16:00–18:00 Beijing time Through Zoom gatherings, group sharing, interactive exercises, and reflective conversations, we will explore the past, experience the present, and envision the future together. If you would like to join this free community, feel free to contact me via WeChat or email. After joining the WeChat community, you will receive all information about future online and offline events. WeChat: soest8881533 Email: china@meeei.nl

    #73: 回看来路:重新连接父母、家庭与自己 | Looking Back at Where We Come From: Reconnecting with Parents, Family, and Ourselves

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Hi, I’m Mei Yang — 杨梅, the host of this podcast. I’m a cross-cultural family coach, systemic facilitator, and the founder of MEEEI, an initiative devoted to healing, connection, and transformation across generations. For over 25 years, I’ve lived and worked between cultures. In the last few years of transitioning from business consultancy to coaching, I have supported hundreds of Chinese people and Chinese families. Through systemic coaching, family constellations, and heart-centered workshops, I help people reconnect with their roots, release inherited patterns, and create a more loving, conscious life for themselves and their children. 🌱 Why I Created This Podcast So many of us carry invisible burdens—unspoken family stories, cultural expectations, emotional wounds passed down through generations. Yet, I believe healing is possible, and that when one person begins to grow, the whole family system begins to shift. This podcast is a space for honest conversations, soulful reflections, and meaningful guidance — drawn from my life, my work, and my continuous path of learning.   Whether you’re a parent, a seeker, or simply someone navigating the complexities of cross-cultural identity, I invite you to walk this journey with me. Thanks for listening!🧡