Radical Self

Þórhildur Magnúsdóttir
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"Hey guys. Let me tell you what this is about. I really want to tell my story. As a polyamorous married woman, mother and relationship coach I've got more than a few things to share. My burning desire is for you to wake up to the wonderful options you have in this lifetime to experience love, happiness, adventure and eros! The path I've chosen has often led to some tough conversations with myself where I am facing the toggle between what society tells us and what my deep intuition is calling me to do. This is where I share this journey." Radical Self is a space for the parts of you that have been silenced, suppressed, or scattered — and are now ready to come alive. Hosted by Icelandic tantric somatic coach and truth-teller Thorhildur (Þórhildur), this podcast is an invitation to melt away illusions and meet yourself in the raw.  Expect deep conversations about love, relationships, non-monogamy, s¢x, spirituality and personal development. Sacred provocations, and the kind of honesty that cracks you open — gently, but completely.  Come say hi to me or ask me a question at:  https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

  1. 9h ago

    Masturbation vs. Self-Pleasure: Behind the Lens with Boudoir Photographer Shari Van de Craen

    Thorhildur sits down with Shari Van de Craen, a sexuality and sensuality coach and boudoir photographer, for a conversation that's as pleasure-filled as the topics it covers. They open with fresh takeaways from an Esther Perel conference Shari just attended, including the idea that we don't fall for people despite distance and mystery, but because of it, and that real change starts with the relationship, not the bedroom. From there, the conversation moves into Shari's own story: being bullied as a kid, believing she was the "ugly duckling," and how self-pleasure and boudoir photography became the two practices that brought her home to her body and her sensual, sovereign self. They dig into the real distinction between masturbation and self-pleasure, why most of us never learned to slow down and actually make love to ourselves, and why that matters for every relationship we go on to have. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ Join my signature program Life Beyond Monogamy to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity: https://risewiththorhildur.com/lifebeyondmonogamy 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  2. Sep 22

    The Real Reason I Have Time for Multiple Relationships

    "How do you have time for multiple partners, two kids, a business, the gym, and friends, and still look like you're having fun?" It's the question Thorhildur gets asked constantly, and in this episode she gives the honest, unfiltered answer. She breaks down the real shifts that freed up her time and energy: letting go of the belief that one person has to meet all her needs, ditching default togetherness for intentional time, and rethinking what she actually owes her kids as their mother. The short version: audit every area of your life by one question, is it feeding you or draining you? And see what opens up when you stop living out of obligation. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ Join my signature program Life Beyond Monogamy to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity: https://risewiththorhildur.com/lifebeyondmonogamy 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  3. Sep 3

    Stop Pretending You Don't Want It

    This is a raw, unplanned little episode built around one funny, provocative thought experiment: what if you could actually choose your desires? Sparked by a conversation with a listener wrestling with mismatched desire in his marriage, Thorhildur explores why we don't get to pick what lights us up, whether it's wanting multiple partners, wanting to be more adventurous, or wanting to want something entirely different than what we do. She talks candidly about trying to suppress her own desires over the years, what she's learned from chasing (and sometimes catching) forbidden fantasies, and why she's become both more accepting and more intentional about what she wants as a result. It's playful, honest, and a little unfiltered, exactly the kind of conversation Thorhildur says she dreams of having with a whole community of people brave enough to own their desires without shame. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ My signature program Life Beyond Monogamy is currently 60% OFF the standard price (expires Sept 7th). Join now if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  4. Aug 24

    Nobody Can Steal Your Partner & Here's Why

    "I trust my partner, I just don't trust other people." It's a statement Thorhildur hears constantly from people curious about, but hesitant toward, non-monogamy. In this episode, recorded from bed in Munich after a day of mini golf and lake time, she's joined by her boyfriend Marcel to pull the statement apart layer by layer. They dig into who that statement is really about (hint: not the "other people"), why it often reveals a deeper mistrust of your own partner rather than strangers, and why it's so much easier to blame an abstract "other" than to have the harder conversation at home. Using a poll Thorhildur ran on Instagram, they walk through the different fears hiding underneath this excuse: not trusting others to respect agreements, worrying someone will "steal" your partner, and the deeper questions of ownership, jealousy, and security those fears expose. Thorhildur and Marcel also share a real example of what it can look like when this fear is met with communication instead of avoidance, and why for many people, this statement isn't the end of a conversation but the start of one. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy & get over 50% OFF the standard price if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  5. Aug 17

    My Wife Is Done Being "Open", But I'm Just Getting Started

    Someone slid into Thorhildur's DMs with a familiar problem: he and his wife tried swinging, he loved it, and now she's done. She's not interested anymore, and he doesn't know what to do next. In this episode, recorded on a bright Icelandic midsummer evening walking around a lake, Thorhildur answers the question by going back to her own experience of mismatched desire in her marriage, the moment she realized she couldn't wait for her husband to move things forward, and what it actually took to own that desire instead of quietly resenting him for not sharing it. She gets into why shame (not lack of love) is usually what's underneath these stuck points, why blaming your partner keeps you stuck, and the sovereign question she asks herself when she's waiting on someone else to create her happiness: would I be okay if I never get this? She also names the risk of not facing that question honestly, and how unmet desire can end up surfacing sideways when you least expect it. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy & get over 50% OFF the standard price if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  6. Aug 12

    "It's Just About Sex": Debunking The Biggest Myths of Non-Monogamy

    "Non-monogamy is just about sex." "It means you love your partner less." "It's inherently unstable." Thorhildur has heard it all, and in this episode she's busting the 7 biggest myths, one by one. Drawing on her own decade-long journey from monogamy to polyamory, plus years of coaching clients through the same terrain, she unpacks mononormativity: the invisible belief that monogamy is the "correct" default that everything else has to justify itself against. She takes apart the idea that opening up means something is broken, that it's just a phase, that it's for people running from commitment, or that it means no rules and no structure. Along the way, she gets into the post-traumatic growth research behind why hard conversations can actually build deeper trust, and why love, unlike time, isn't something you run out of. Whether you're curious, skeptical, or somewhere in between, this one's going to challenge what you thought you knew. Ready to go deeper? ❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy & get over 50% OFF the standard price if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity:  https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy

  7. Aug 3

    The Truth About Relationship Freedom: Why Silence Hurts More Than Honesty Ever Could

    There's a question most people are too scared to ask their partner — and it's not "can I sleep with someone else?" It's will you still love me if I tell you the truth? In this episode, Thorhildur unpacks the real cost of staying silent about what you want in your relationship — and why that silence, not honesty, is usually what causes the disconnection. Drawing from her own experience opening a 10-year marriage and years of coaching clients through the same threshold, she breaks down the difference between freedom and permission, why "reckless freedom" backfires, and why the goal was never to put a label on your relationship — it was always to feel safe enough to speak. 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? ❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity: https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

  8. Jul 9

    The Affair I Almost Had and the Spark That Led Us to Open Our Marriage

    The ten years of monogamy that led us to open our marriage. Before Þórhildur ever said the word "polyamory," she spent ten years building a monogamous marriage — one that moved through teenage infatuation, an unplanned pregnancy at 20, the identity earthquake of new motherhood, a devastating low point disguised as wedding planning, a work "friendship" that turned into real feelings, and a slow, hard-won return to connection. In this episode, she tells the full story: the parts she doesn't usually share on the podcast. It's not a highlight reel — it's the honest, sometimes messy account of a normal relationship that eventually opened, and why understanding those ten years matters just as much as the eight years of open marriage that came after. If you've ever wondered whether your "boring" struggles could actually be pointing you toward a different kind of relationship, this episode is for you. 🎁 FREE gifts from Thorhildur if you are curious about Non-monogamy: {Video Coaching} 13 Questions to Ask Before You Redesign Your Love Life - that’ll save you years of struggle & confusion: https://risewiththorhildur.com/video-freebie-nonmonogamy {PDF Playbook} Tired of default monogamy? Grab this 24-page guide and broaden your horizon to what else could be possible for you: https://risewiththorhildur.com/pdf-freebie-nonmonogamy Ready to go deeper? ❤️ JOIN the waitlist for Life Beyond Monogamy if you want to stop fantasizing about Non-Monogamy and start living it with full safety, respect & clarity: https://risewiththorhildur.com/waitlist-bigcourse 💃“Let’s Talk About It“ Mini Course - Learn the exact framework on how to have a Non-Monogamy conversation with your partner (even if you end up staying monogamous!). Immediate access, €27 only: https://risewiththorhildur.com/letstalkaboutit 👑 Want to be coached by Thorhildur? Apply to be on the waitlist when spots open up. https://ed32n3rhwta.typeform.com/to/iiJrnwer

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"Hey guys. Let me tell you what this is about. I really want to tell my story. As a polyamorous married woman, mother and relationship coach I've got more than a few things to share. My burning desire is for you to wake up to the wonderful options you have in this lifetime to experience love, happiness, adventure and eros! The path I've chosen has often led to some tough conversations with myself where I am facing the toggle between what society tells us and what my deep intuition is calling me to do. This is where I share this journey." Radical Self is a space for the parts of you that have been silenced, suppressed, or scattered — and are now ready to come alive. Hosted by Icelandic tantric somatic coach and truth-teller Thorhildur (Þórhildur), this podcast is an invitation to melt away illusions and meet yourself in the raw.  Expect deep conversations about love, relationships, non-monogamy, s¢x, spirituality and personal development. Sacred provocations, and the kind of honesty that cracks you open — gently, but completely.  Come say hi to me or ask me a question at:  https://www.instagram.com/rise.with.thorhildur/

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  • Creator
    Þórhildur Magnúsdóttir
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © 2024 Sundur & Saman
  • Show Website
    Radical Self

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