The Secret Formula of Femininity

Dr. Nicole Monteiro
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Welcome to The Secret Formula of Femininity, where we explore the timeless essence of feminine power and its transformative impact on your life and relationships. I’m Dr. Nicole, your host and guide on this journey to embrace your true feminine essence and live a life full of joy, confidence, and deep connections. Each week, we unveil the secrets to unlocking your inner radiance, nurturing fulfilling relationships, and becoming the best version of yourself. So, sit back, relax, and get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

  1. Women’s Health, Biohacking & Self-Trust: How Wellness Impacts Confidence & Marriage (Ep 86)

    2D AGO

    Women’s Health, Biohacking & Self-Trust: How Wellness Impacts Confidence & Marriage (Ep 86)

    Your health is not just about weight or discipline. It’s about self-trust. In this powerful conversation, Dr. Nicole Monteiro sits down with wellness expert Jason Harris to explore how women’s health impacts confidence, relationships, marriage, and long-term wellbeing. Together they unpack: • Why high-achieving women still struggle with self-worth • How physical health affects emotional confidence and intimacy • The difference between lifespan and healthspan • What oxidative stress actually is — and why it matters • How preventative health is easier than reactionary care • Why sleep, stress, and recovery change everything • How tracking tools can support intuition instead of control • The connection between self-talk, faith, and personal power Jason shares insights from 16+ years in women’s wellness and nearly 30 years of marriage — including how trauma, family dynamics, and mindset influence money, self-image, and relationships. You’ll also learn about non-invasive biohacking tools that measure antioxidant levels in the body and how measurable feedback can improve lifestyle habits, supplementation absorption, and long-term health outcomes. This episode is for women who: • want sustainable health, not perfection • care about longevity and energy • want to feel confident in their bodies • understand that wellness impacts relationships Because when a woman feels strong, regulated, and supported in her body — everything shifts. 💛 Join the Boundaries to Bliss Community Where we integrate nervous system regulation, embodied confidence, and feminine wellbeing. www.drnicolemonteiro.com/boundaries Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    1h 43m

  2. FEB 11

    Are You Successful… or Afraid to Slow Down? (Ep 85)

    In this episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro answers one of the first questions in her new series, Uncomfortable Questions High-Achieving Women Avoid. We explore: Why slowing down feels unsafe for high-functioning womenThe nervous system connection to overworking and overproducingThe difference between ambition and anxietyHow burnout hides behind achievementWhat feminine energy actually requires of you This episode is for the woman who: Is “the strong one” in every roomFeels restless when she restsConfuses productivity with worthHas done the work—but still can’t fully exhale If this resonates, stay with the discomfort. That’s where clarity lives. ✨ Journal with this question: “What am I protecting myself from feeling if I stop?” 🔔 Subscribe for more conversations on feminine energy, boundaries, emotional safety, and healing for high-achieving women. #FeminineEnergy #HighAchievingWomen #BurnoutRecovery #SoftLife #EmotionalHealing Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    24 min
  3. Guest Episode: Laughter, Joy & Wellbeing as Practice (Ep 84)

    FEB 2

    Guest Episode: Laughter, Joy & Wellbeing as Practice (Ep 84)

    What if wellbeing isn’t something you achieve, but instead something you practice? In this guest episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro is joined by former mentor, Dr. Siddharth Ashvin Shah, MD, MPH | Founder & President of Greenleaf Integrative (greenleafintegrative.com), for a rich, grounded conversation on laughter and joy as intentional wellbeing practices, not fleeting emotions or personality traits. Together, they explore how wellbeing can be operationalized through daily competencies — including emotional flexibility, nervous system regulation, and the capacity for joy, especially in high-stress, high-responsibility lives. In this conversation, we discuss: Why laughter is a regulatory practice, not a reactionHow joy supports emotional resilience and stress recoveryThe difference between happiness, pleasure, and embodied joyWhy modern wellbeing frameworks often miss the relational and collective dimensionHow laughter shifts the nervous system out of survival modeSimple ways to practice joy without forcing positivity This episode is for anyone who: • feels burned out by “doing all the right things” • struggles to feel lightness even when life is good • wants a more embodied, sustainable approach to wellbeing Reflection Question: When was the last time you practiced joy — not waited for it? Follow Dr. Shah's work at greenleafintegrative.com ------------------------------ Links to the breath work demonstrations referenced in the episode: Guided meditations & Yoga nidra by Dr. Shah - https://bio.to/greenleaf-integrative Laughter yoga led by Nisha Gautam - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYtG-i2TJJY&t=10s ABC News features laughter with Dr. Shah - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eLrTOBiiwgU Professional wellbeing consulting by Dr. Shah - https://www.greenleafintegrative.com/ Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    1h 7m

  4. JAN 28

    Why the Body Remembers: Trauma, Movement & Nervous System Healing (Ep 83)

    Trauma does not live only in the mind. It lives in the body — and in community. In this powerful solo episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores why the body remembers trauma, how emotions are stored in the nervous system, and why movement, rhythm, and ritual have always been central to healing across cultures. Drawing from: nervous system sciencesomatic psychologytraditional African and diasporic movement practicesand her published research African Dance as a Healing Modality throughout the Diaspora (Monteiro & Wall, 2011)Dr. Monteiro bridges ancient collective healing practices with modern clinical understanding to explain how trauma is regulated, released, and integrated through the body. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why trauma cannot be resolved by insight aloneHow the nervous system stores unresolved emotional energyWhy traditional movement and ritual regulated communities for centuriesWhat modern society lost when healing became individual and verbalHow women across generations can safely reintroduce embodied healing todayWhy collective practices restore safety faster than isolationIf you’ve ever said, “I’ve talked about this, but my body still reacts,” this episode explains why — and what your body has been waiting for. 💛 Join the Boundaries to Bliss Community A modern space for collective regulation, embodied boundaries, and feminine healing. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    21 min

  5. JAN 21

    How Dance Heals the Body When Talking Isn’t Enough (Ep 82)

    You can talk about your healing. You can analyze your emotions. You can understand your trauma. But if the emotion never moves through the body… it doesn’t leave. In this powerful solo episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores dance as a healing modality, emotional expression through movement, and why the body holds what the mind avoids. Drawing from her lived experience as a professional African dancer—training in Guinea, performing across the United States and Japan, and studying dance as a healing practice—Dr. Nicole blends psychology, neuroscience, and embodiment to explain how movement regulates the nervous system and restores emotional flow. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why talk therapy alone isn’t always enoughHow emotions get stored in the bodyThe difference between sensuality and sexualityHow dance helps release grief, anger, desire, and joyWhy feminine embodiment increases emotional and relational safetyHow to begin using movement as medicine✨ If you’ve ever felt emotionally “stuck,” disconnected from your body, or numb despite self-awareness—this episode is for you. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    24 min

  6. JAN 14

    Becoming the Woman Who Has What She Desires (Ep 81)

    So many women are doing all the right things — and still not living the life, love, or ease they desire. Why? Because attraction doesn’t respond to tactics. It responds to identity. In this solo episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro explores what it actually means to become the woman who has what she desires — rather than endlessly trying to get it. This episode breaks down why: Identity shapes attraction more than strategyNervous system regulation influences what you attractDesire responds to who you are being, not how hard you tryOver-efforting often signals an identity mismatchFeminine embodiment creates magnetism without chasingBlending psychology, embodiment, and lived insight, this episode invites you to shift from striving to stabilizing — from tactics to identity. ✨ If you’ve been doing all the work but still feel like you’re chasing… this episode is for you. 💛 Join the Boundaries to Bliss Inner Circle A space for women ready to integrate boundaries, embodiment, and identity-level change. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    26 min
  7. What Gardening Taught Me About Love, Softness & a Strong Marriage (Ep 80)

    JAN 6

    What Gardening Taught Me About Love, Softness & a Strong Marriage (Ep 80)

    Some of the most powerful relationship lessons don’t come from books or therapy sessions — they come from embodied practices that teach us how to slow down, soften, and trust timing. In this deeply personal solo episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro shares how inheriting a love of gardening from her grandmother became a grounding feminine practice — one that strengthened her nervous system, deepened her marriage, and reshaped how she relates to love. This episode explores: • How gardening regulates the nervous system and reduces stress • Why embodied feminine practices create emotional safety in relationships • The surprising link between patience, softness, and lasting love • How releasing control strengthens intimacy • Why feminine hobbies are not “extra,” but essential for relational health • What tending the soil teaches us about tending love Blending personal storytelling, psychology, and research, this episode invites you to rethink strength, productivity, and connection — and consider how slowing down may be the very thing your relationship needs. If you’ve been feeling rushed, hardened, or disconnected — from yourself or your partner — this episode offers a gentle return to softness, presence, and rooted love. 🌱 Reflection Question: Where in your life are you forcing growth instead of tending it? 🎧 Listen now and share with someone who loves embodied wisdom, relationships, and feminine living. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    20 min
  8. Lessons on Love That Lasts: What Real Couples Get Right (and Wrong) (Ep 79)

    JAN 6

    Lessons on Love That Lasts: What Real Couples Get Right (and Wrong) (Ep 79)

    We’re surrounded by relationship advice—but most of it is built on fantasy, not reality. In this solo episode of The Secret Formula of Femininity, Dr. Nicole Monteiro breaks down what real couples—the ones who stay together for years and decades—teach us about love that lasts. Drawing from clinical work, research, and lived observation, this episode explores what actually sustains long-term relationships… and what quietly erodes them over time. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why emotional safety matters more than chemistryThe relationship habits couples who last consistently practiceWhat doesn’t work (avoidance, keeping score, silence)Why repair skills matter more than compatibilityHow unrealistic expectations sabotage intimacyWhen couples should seek support (hint: before crisis)If you’re dating, partnered, married, or reflecting on past relationships, this episode offers grounded insight—without blame or hype. 💛 A Gentle Invitation If you and your partner are looking to strengthen communication, repair after hurt, or reconnect emotionally, couples therapy at The Center for Healing & Development (CHAD) offers a supportive, skills-based approach. www.chadwellness.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-secret-formula-of-femininity/exclusive-content

    21 min
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Welcome to The Secret Formula of Femininity, where we explore the timeless essence of feminine power and its transformative impact on your life and relationships. I’m Dr. Nicole, your host and guide on this journey to embrace your true feminine essence and live a life full of joy, confidence, and deep connections. Each week, we unveil the secrets to unlocking your inner radiance, nurturing fulfilling relationships, and becoming the best version of yourself. So, sit back, relax, and get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and empowerment.

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