On this Indigenous Peoples’ Day episode of Messy Liberation, Becky Mollenkamp and Taina Brown start with the “where are you really from?” question and follow it into who gets to look and who gets looked at. Taina, who is Afro-Latina with Taíno roots, explains the difference between race and ethnicity, what separates Latin from Hispanic, and why self-identification is a form of resistance. It’s an intersectional feminist conversation about objectification, colonialism, and letting people name themselves. In this episode, we get into: Why “What are you?” is never okay, and how to tell real curiosity from nosinessTaina’s PT appointment, and a lifetime of being mistaken for Egyptian, Indian, Dominican, and Middle Eastern“Clarity is kindness”: why a blunt question can be better than a covert oneIntent vs. impact: how treating someone as a puzzle to solve strips their dignityBecky’s confession about staring at a trans woman in an airport 30 years ago, and what she’d do differently nowWho gets the privilege to look and who becomes the spectacle, from Shane Gillis’s SNL “spandex” joke to the history of slave auctionsOppositional looking: refusing to look away, and why white women should stare at cops, not at the people they’re harassingJordan Peele, Get Out, and horror that doesn’t center whitenessLatin vs. Hispanic, explained through Brazil, Guyana, Mexico, and Puerto RicoRace as a social construct that still shapes real lives, plus the “file folder” metaphor for identity, gender, pronouns, and reclaimed languageTimestamps 00:00 – Indigenous Peoples’ Day, Hispanic Heritage Month & Filipino American History Month02:42 – Being mistaken for everything: growing up racially ambiguous07:00 – “It’s really none of your business”: lessons from college11:40 – Objectification, intent vs. impact, and human dignity17:47 – Shane Gillis, SNL, and who gets to be the object21:00 – Ways of Seeing, Stuart Hall & oppositional looking25:01 – Stare at power, not at the oppressed26:40 – Jordan Peele, Get Out, and horror that doesn’t center whiteness29:41 – Why travel (or a new neighborhood) can radicalize white folks36:10 – Race as a social construct, from slavery to ICE sweeps40:41 – Latin vs. Hispanic: what’s the difference?47:48 – How perception changes race: New York vs. Florida49:17 – The Hyphenated Life, file folders & gender as a construct53:02 – Capitalism and the myth of limited categories56:50 – Refusing the file folder: queer identity & she/they pronouns1:00:05 – Messy Liberation Circle open house (Oct. 15)Resources mentioned: "Ways of Seeing" by John Berger: https://link.amazon/B05cwPa5S“The Whites of Their Eyes” by Stuart Hall: https://bpb-us-e1.wpmucdn.com/sites.psu.edu/dist/c/4578/files/2015/04/Hall-Whites_of_Their_Eyes_Full_Text.pdf?bid=4578“The Oppositional Gaze" by bell hooks: https://warwick.ac.uk/fac/arts/english/currentstudents/postgraduates/pgmodules/femlit/bell_hooks.pdf"The Hyphenated Life" by Han Ren: https://link.amazon/B03IkAQOrMessy Liberation Circle open house, Thursday, Oct. 15: https://bit.ly/4yjbTVW🎤 JOIN US IN THE FEMINIST PODCASTERS COLLECTIVE: http://feministpodcastcollective.com/