How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Lucy Cavendish
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Well we have all wondered about it haven't we?And "Relationship" is a big word. Because if you think about it, we all have a relationship with everything don't we?Join us for fun facts, deep dives and every conceivable mind broadening angle of relationships.Reach out to Lucy on www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com

  1. 1D AGO

    Rethinking anxiety from fear to strength -Dr. Sian Williams | S5 E5

    Send us Fan Mail Dr Sian Williams is a Welsh journalist, broadcaster, and Chartered Counselling Psychologist, best known for her long career in British television and radio. She spent over a decade as a presenter on BBC Breakfast and later became the lead anchor of Channel 5 News, building a reputation as one of the UK’s most trusted news faces.  Alongside her broadcasting career, she retrained in psychology, earning a doctorate in Counselling Psychology and working within the NHS and private practice to support people dealing with trauma, stress, and anxiety.  Her latest book is The Sunday Times Best Seller, The Power of Anxiety: How to Ride the Worry Wave. It’s a practical book about living well with anxiety, recognising and nurturing our unique and powerful sensitivity and learning to understand how anxiety can work for and against us. Because as Jon Kabat Zinn says - we can’t stop the waves but we can learn to surf.  Praise for the book: ‘As a champion catastrophizer, I can confirm that this book is a godsend’ Dawn French ‘A must read and a great companion’ Zoe Ball ‘Terrific... If I could eat a book it would be this one’ Derren Brown ‘A wise, warm, compassionate guide to living well with anxiety’ Emma Freud ‘A chill pill in book form’ Kathy Lette Dr Sian now combines both worlds, presenting programmes such as BBC Radio 4’s Life Changing while also writing and speaking on mental health.  A rare hybrid of newsroom calm and therapy-room empathy, she’s essentially someone who’s spent a lifetime telling stories… and now helps people rewrite their own. How we all live with anxiety to some degree.How (particularly since Covid) it has been easier to withdraw.The amygdalae and how they operate in the body.Three different types of people and their optimal environments.How self silencing will ultimately damage us.A beautiful thought for the next generation.A story about a drummer in a famous band.How shame and blame have no place in self care and mental health.Why she cut back on the TV work after retraining and the healthy mix she has now.Her breast cancer journey (spoiler alert, happy ending)The 3 C's and their importance.To hear Sian on the radio google "Sian Williams Radio 3, and Sian Williams Radio 4" Her book is available here Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    1h 3m

  2. APR 7

    The Cost Of Religious Shame (and breaking free) with Jessica Pratezina | S5 E4

    Send us Fan Mail Jessica Pratezina is a coach and speaker who helps people reconnect with their confidence, identity, and sense of freedom. After leaving a strict religious upbringing, she embarked on a deeply personal journey of self-discovery—reclaiming her voice, her autonomy, and her relationship with her own sexuality. Today, Jessica works with clients to break free from limiting beliefs, challenge ingrained narratives, and step into a more authentic, empowered version of themselves—with honesty, warmth, and a refreshing sense of realness. Key points of the episode: What is was like growing up in a "high demand religious group"How traditional Christian groups would not have accepted them as "Christian"....and how they thought they had the "only" truth.The stress of being "different""Benevolent sexism"- and purity culture - and how it hides behind virtue.Her lucky move into Christianity, and why she left it - and her job.The kind of relationships that are fun and desirable to her now.Her dating experiences. Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    53 min

  3. MAR 31

    Do You Ever Feel Life Is Pointless? Surviving Existential Dread with therapist and author Philippe Tahon | S5 E3

    Send us Fan Mail Philippe Tahon is a London-based psychotherapist, coach, and author who specialises in transforming people’s relationship with food, body image, and self-worth. Originally from Belgium, Philippe made a bold career shift from running restaurants to becoming one of Europe’s most sought-after therapists, following his own deeply personal journey with weight and self-image.  With over two decades of experience, he’s developed a unique, psychology-led approach to weight loss that goes far beyond diets—helping clients address the emotional patterns behind their habits and create lasting change.  As the author of Shrink: The Diet for the Mind and host of “Shrink: The Podcast for the Mind,” Philippe blends insight, honesty, and compassion to challenge conventional thinking and help people feel better not just in their bodies—but in their lives.  Key points of the episode: The most common problem his clients are experiencing.When he thinks it all began.How he helps people with their anxieties. (Small things)Looking for safety and comfort in all the wrong places.Why is it so important to know the answer to "Who Am I?"His thoughts on AI.Should we play so safe?Reach out online :www.philippetahon.com Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    47 min

  4. MAR 25

    Decode dating and ditch the duds with Burned Haystack Method’s Jennie Young Part 2 | S5 E2

    Send us Fan Mail Jennie Young returns to the podcast for a second time. Jennie is a professor of rhetoric, writer and cultural critic known for her sharp, witty take on modern dating and communication. She’s the creator of the “Burned Haystack Dating Method,” a bold approach that helps people cut through the chaos of dating apps by recognising the hidden signals in language and behaviour.  She’s also the author of the new book Burn the Haystack, which turns that method into a smart, practical guide for navigating dating, spotting manipulation, and trusting your instincts in the modern relationship jungle. Key points of the episode: The new book and it's release date in the UK.How the book came about.How her academic specialism lends itself beautifully to dating."Rhetorical patterns", what are they?The definition of "drama" - the correct one.How she became mystified, confused and eventually angry on the dating apps.How all the apps are "gameified"Her "rules" in Burned Haystack - and why.The common dating patterns to avoid and how they are broken down in the book.An example......Partner in crime? Yay? Nay?Walk and a pint in the pub... acceptable?It's a numbers game... is it?Her own experience with her own method."Thinslicing"- what it is.Her coping mechanism for criticism.You can find the Facebook group here. Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    56 min

  5. MAR 17

    Navigating Modern Womanhood - editor and founder of welldoing.org Louise Chunn on midlife identity | S5 E1

    Send us Fan Mail Louise Chunn is a British journalist, author and former magazine editor best known for her influential career in women’s media. She served as editor of Cosmopolitan UK during the late 1990s, helping shape the magazine’s modern voice around careers, relationships and independence for young women. After leaving mainstream publishing, Chunn founded Welldoing, a platform connecting people with therapists and promoting accessible mental-health support. She has also written several books exploring midlife, identity and modern womanhood, including Welcome to the Jungle, which examines how women navigate the opportunities and challenges of midlife. Today, Chunn is a writer, speaker and advocate for mental health and positive ageing, known for combining sharp journalism with thoughtful commentary on life beyond the traditional career and life milestones. Key points of the episode: Welldoing. What is it?The biggest change therapy underwent and when.What clients are wanting more and more of at the moment.How working life can be amazing, and sometimes can be too much.A new attitude from young people towards work.Her thoughts on later working life and some ideas of great things to do.Her trip to Silicon Valley, and what it taught her.The astounding amount of people that have found a therapist through Welldoing.Some musings on the future.Reach out to learn more on Welldoing. You Tube Channel Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    53 min

  6. MAR 11

    A Bloody Scandal; living a life of constant pain with Evie Scott (S4 E8)

    Send us Fan Mail Evelyn Scott is based in Surrey, UK and works as an academic and women’s health advocate. She has described enduring painful periods and debilitating symptoms since her teens, yet for many years was told such pain was “normal”. She was finally diagnosed with severe endometriosis around age 30. Her diagnosis came after roughly 15 years of mis- or under-diagnosis and medical dismissal of her symptoms. Advocacy, writing & mission Evelyn is the author of A Bloody Scandal, which explores gynaecological disease, the medical treatment of women’s pain, and systemic failures in women’s health care.She appears in media outlets (e.g., the UK press, podcasts) to speak about endometriosis and the lived experience of chronic gynaecological conditions.Her mission is to challenge the narrative that severe period pain is “just something women have to deal with”, and to improve recognition, diagnosis and support for endometriosis sufferers.Why she’s notable Endometriosis affects around 1 in 10 women of reproductive age, and its diagnosis is often delayed. Evelyn’s story puts a human face on the issue.By combining her personal experience, academic background and advocacy, she helps raise awareness about the intersection of pain, gender, and medicine.Her forthcoming book and media presence make her a voice of change in women's health.Key message & takeaway If you’re experiencing severe period pain, it might not be “normal” — as Evelyn emphasises: persistent pain, repeated crises, or life-limiting symptoms deserve investigation.Endometriosis is not just physical pain — it often impacts mental health, work, relationships and daily life. Evelyn’s journey reflects that broader impact.Raising awareness -changing medical and societal attitudes is essential — Evelyn’s advocacy reminds us of that.   Book Summary The book is described by its publisher as: “A blistering and explosive investigation into modern day gynaecological neglect and medical misogyny.”  Endometriosis Fact- it affects 10% of women.   How it suffers from being a “Womens Health Issue”The narrative that “To be a woman is to feel pain”The rebuffs she got from doctors and the frustration it causesThe failings of current sex education.How the pill is not an effective treatmentHer list of symptoms.The lack of research into the histology of the diseaseHow she got diagnosed.Her difficult healing processWhy the traditional treatment does not appeal to many.How Spain is more understanding about issues like thisHow she began to think she was the problem.How she would be hard on herself, but recognises now the value of self care and support.        Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    44 min

  7. MAR 4

    Living and Learning alongside the next generation Annalisa Barbieri (S4- E7)

    Send us Fan Mail Annalisa Barbieri is a British journalist, columnist, and podcaster best known for her long-running Guardian Saturday magazine advice column, where she offers thoughtful, compassionate responses to readers’ personal dilemmas. Known for her warmth, wit, and insight, Barbieri’s writing explores the complexities of family life, relationships, and emotional wellbeing with honesty and humanity. Alongside her advice work, she was for many years the Observer’s “Chocolate Correspondent,” writing engagingly about the craft, ethics, and culture of chocolate. She also hosts the podcast Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri, in which she interviews psychologists, therapists, and subject experts on topics ranging from communication and boundaries to grief and resilience. Annalisa is widely admired for her ability to combine empathy with clarity, helping readers and listeners make sense of life’s emotional puzzles. More of her work can be found on her website, annalisabarbieri.com , and on her podcast platforms. How she likes childrenTime “Ins” rather then “Time Outs”How she discarded the aspects of her own parenting to create her ownHow she has a completely rehashed version of parentingWhy women take the blame for a lot of things in the pastHow it’s never too late to say sorry. And how healing it can be.APPROPRIATE behaviour not obedienceWhy restricting social media access was one of the best things she did for her kidsWhy its necessary to be careful how to talk to children if we want them to know and trust themselves.What her children have taught her.You can see more in..  Guardian Column- Weekend Supplement And also from wherever you get your podcasts - search “Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri”   Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    56 min

  8. FEB 24

    S4 Special Episode How To Own The Room with Viv Griskop

    Send us Fan Mail Viv Groskop is an award-winning writer, broadcaster and stand-up comedian, best known for blending sharp wit with smart cultural insight. She is the author of the bestselling books How to Own the Room and Lift As You Climb, which explore confidence, communication and female leadership through the lens of performance and storytelling. A familiar voice on BBC Radio 4 and a regular contributor to major publications, Viv brings comedy, feminism and fearless honesty together in a way that makes big ideas feel brilliantly human. Whether she’s on stage, on air or on the page, she champions women finding their voice and owning it unapologetically. Key points of the episode: Her definition of an extraordinary relationship.How there are so many varieties of public speaking, and the many things people benefit from and relate to it.How even the most confident people have their "moments"How "ego" gets in the way.How Michelle Obama was the inspiration and momentum for her first book!Michelle Obamas fascinating journey.Why Viv decided to become a stand up comedian....The craft of stand up comedy.The art of not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less!Her experience of interviewing Hilary Clinton.The genius definition of "Happy High Status"Her own measures of success.How to use her teachings from a perspective of self nourishment.Can connection be achieved in a different language? See her on Instagram here: www.instagram.com/vivgroskop Join her weekly newsletter here: https://vivgroskop.com Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    58 min
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Well we have all wondered about it haven't we?And "Relationship" is a big word. Because if you think about it, we all have a relationship with everything don't we?Join us for fun facts, deep dives and every conceivable mind broadening angle of relationships.Reach out to Lucy on www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com

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