How to have Extraordinary Relationships

Lucy Cavendish
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Well we have all wondered about it haven't we?And "Relationship" is a big word. Because if you think about it, we all have a relationship with everything don't we?Join us for fun facts, deep dives and every conceivable mind broadening angle of relationships.Reach out to Lucy on www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com

  1. 2D AGO

    When the Drugs Don't Work - One Woman’s Descent into the Madness of Antidepressants | Katinka Blackford Newman (S4 - E5)

    Send us a text Katinka Blackford Newman is a London-based documentary filmmaker, author, journalist, and life coach.    She trained with the BBC and has worked on a variety of high-profile factual programmes for broadcasters such as BBC, Discovery, ITV and Channel 4.  In 2012, during a personal crisis connected to divorce and insomnia, she was prescribed an antidepressant which triggered a severe adverse reaction.    The experience nearly cost her life and sparked her deep involvement in exploring medication safety.    After a year of intensive treatment and recovery off all the drugs, she began investigating antidepressant side effects and advocating for greater awareness.    Katinka founded Antidepressant Risks, a platform aimed at giving voice to people affected by psychiatric drug harm, collecting stories, and promoting more informed consent in prescribing.  She is also a published author: her book The Pill That Steals Lives recounts her ordeal and research into the risks of psychiatric medications. Her work has been featured in national media and was adapted into a BBC Panorama episode titled “A Prescription for Murder”. Beyond her advocacy and writing, Katinka now also works as a mental fitness life coach, helping professionals manage overwhelm, develop resilience, and reclaim direction in mid-life transitions.  Throughout her career, Katinka remains committed to telling human stories with empathy, exposing hidden risks in medicine, and supporting people to find agency over their mental and physical health. Key points of the episode: PART 1 How, because of her personal development, she kind of became the "poster girl" for a marriage split up. At first.How she started taking sleeping tablets to cope.How she was given a diagnosis of depression and prescribed anti-depressants.......and how she had a rare toxic shock.....and how her mind went into psychosis.How the medical professionals did not entertain the idea that it was the antidepressants that caused it.How it became so desperate she decided to take her life........and what stopped her.The eventual joyful resolution.How she then used her investigative journalist training to change the course of her career.How the drug companies have known for years about this.The unbelievable information she has found out since...How the book was turned into an episode of Panorama.How she was inundated by people who told her their similar stories.How she set up a charity called "Antidepressant Risks"PART 2 How she has this knowledge she can never forget and the responsibility she feels.How the transformation was immediate and extraordinary.How it was almost like a rebirth.How there was a lot going on in her personal sphere.How her children know more about drug side effects than most medics!How she has recognised empowering and disempowering beliefs, and catastrophisation in her thinking.How she is now able to consciously change her thought process, and how fear is no longer i Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    51 min

  2. JAN 14

    'Hair loss was my worst nightmare,'; Sarah Vine on wigs, hair systems, female baldness and what the future holds

    Send us a text Sarah Vine is a British journalist and columnist best known for her opinion writing on politics, culture, family life, and social change. Over the course of her career, she has written for major UK publications including the Daily Mail and The Times, establishing herself as a prominent and often polarising voice in British media. Her columns are characterised by a highly personal style, combining political commentary with reflections drawn from her own experiences, relationships, and domestic life. Vine is particularly known for her confessional approach to journalism, frequently using her platform to examine issues such as marriage, motherhood, ageing, and female identity in midlife. She has written openly about personal challenges, including her experience of hair loss, treating it not simply as a cosmetic issue but as part of a broader exploration of vulnerability, self-image, and the pressures placed on women in the public eye. By addressing such subjects candidly, she has contributed to wider conversations about honesty and stigma around women’s health and appearance. Alongside personal themes, Vine’s work often engages directly with contemporary political debates, reflecting her interest in conservatism, culture wars, and the shifting nature of British society. Her writing style is direct, provocative, and unapologetically subjective, attracting both loyal readership and strong criticism. Through this blend of political opinion and personal disclosure, Sarah Vine has carved out a distinctive place in modern British column writing. Key Points of the Episode: How she has suffered hair loss her whole life and thinks she is genetically predisposed to it.The difference between wigs and "interlace" systems.How she wants people to understand the issue better and what women (and men) experience.Why she wanted to talk publically about it.The importance of early intervention in hair loss.The emotional impact of her condition.The effect it had on her relationships.The bad choices she made in relationships.The surprising statistic on the amount of woman that have hair loss.The treatment she is having.The desire to simply look "normal" Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    45 min

  3. JAN 6

    New Year New You looking for the glimmer of gold in 2026 with Narelle Chidwick | S4- Special Episode

    Send us a text Narelle Chidwick is the creator behind Instagram’s midlife.reallife, where she champions a “live more with less” philosophy focused on mind, body, food & mood for women navigating mid-life.  Based in [location unspecified], she blends honest conversation about ageing, lifestyle change and simplifying life with practical 15-minute tips, everyday wins and an inclusive, no-judgement tone. Her content invites followers to treat transitions — whether physical, emotional or environmental — as invitations rather than obstacles. Her journey also includes turning a personal health wake-up (a diagnosis of Osteoporosis in her 40s) into a mission to educate and empower others about bone-health, nutrition, and strength in later-life.  With a loyal Instagram following (over 9,000) and a steady stream of posts, reels and reflections, Narelle has built a community of women who want more from mid-life than just “coasting” — they want clarity, vitality and purpose.  Key Points of the Episode: How she burned out and realised the importance of stopping and smelling the roses.How we may well be able to "have it all", but not at the same time, unless big sacrifices can be made.Microhabits and Timehopping and the importance of..."Slowgress" and what it is! Her word of 2025.How we should not trivialise whatever is happening to us.The importance of self focus for sure, but without losing focus on the bigger picture.There is no "right way" or "wrong way, just YOUR way....and the word of 2026!The art of decluttering (including your to-do list)Her osteoperosis.The importance of owning the self in good relationship to others.The "Don't Mind" Narrative and what it is.The social impact she wants to continue to have.The reasons that people come to her and her fascination with neuroscience."Neuralaesthetics"- what?!The most important first step.New Year, New You! @theorganisededit @midlife.realllife Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    1h 1m

  4. 12/21/2025

    A woman of a certain age talks Christmas, Acting, Modelling and being in demand Vanessa Voegele-Downing

    Send us a text A laid back pre-Christmas chat with a brilliantly interesting woman... Vanessa Voegele-Downing is a British fashion professional whose journey in style spans decades and continents. She began her career as an international fashion model, walking catwalks and shooting editorial work for major designers and publications. Her early years took her from London to Paris, where she worked with prestigious fashion houses and photographers, gracing campaigns and editorials around the world. Known affectionately as “Mrs V” on her blog The Model Edit, Vanessa blends her life in fashion with lived-in style advice, beauty wisdom, and lifestyle reflections. On her site she shares tales from photo shoots, trend commentary, and her perspective as someone who has seen the industry evolve firsthand. Beyond fashion, Vanessa is a mother of three daughters and a figure in the contemporary style community. Her influence extends into the wardrobes and creative lives of the next generation, including her daughter Zenobia, who has been recognized as a muse and model in her own right on runways and in style features. With roots in modelling and wings in storytelling, Vanessa Voegele-Downing continues to shape conversations about style, self-expression, and the fashion life lived beyond the catwalk. www.instagram.com/themodeledit Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    50 min

  5. 12/10/2025

    Off With Her Head; Insider Scoops with the Rebellious and Uncompromising Sam McAlister | S4 Special Episode

    Send us a text Sam McAlister is a British journalist, producer, and author best known for her work as the interview booker for BBC Newsnight. Over more than a decade at the BBC, she secured many of the programme’s most high-profile and challenging interviews, including the landmark 2019 interview with Prince Andrew about his association with Jeffrey Epstein. A former criminal defence barrister, McAlister moved into journalism with a talent for negotiation, persistence, and building trust with hard-to-reach guests. Her memoir, Scoops: Behind the Scenes of the BBC’s Most Shocking Interviews, published in 2022, gives a candid account of her experiences securing exclusive interviews and navigating the pressures of broadcast journalism. Today, she works as a speaker, consultant, and media strategist, sharing her insight into journalism, negotiation, and crisis communication. Key points of the episode: How she got the man "Formerly Known As Prince Andrew" onto the Newsnight interview that started somewhat of a chain of events....Where it all started, in the earliest days...How her original home was a very limited world.Her former legal background - how she loved the job, but found it professionally arduous.The sartorial vibe she immediately adopted after she left the bar. (and the unconventional reason why)The good working relationship she had with the actress Billie Piper.The massive career choice and dilemma she faced.The fascinating process of writing her book.Her experience with Elon Musk and Julian Assange.How she is an "experience billionaire"The acid test of the groups she chooses to associate with.Her insistance on professional self promotion.Her life now and how full of awe she is at what she gets to do.What she would say to the little girl (her younger self) on Guernsey.The most important relationship in her life.Check out the book and Netflix series - "Scoop" Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    51 min

  6. 11/25/2025

    Identity, Belonging Tantra and Mermaids -Monique Roffey | (S4 E4)

    Send us a text Monique Roffey (born 1965 in Port of Spain, Trinidad) is a Trinidadian-British writer and memoirist whose work spans novels, essays and literary journalism.  She studied English & Film at the University of East Anglia and earned a PhD in Creative Writing from Lancaster University.  Her novels often explore themes such as identity, colonial legacy, sexual awakening, otherness, and the relationship between people and place — frequently drawing on her Caribbean heritage.  Her notable works include Sun Dog (2002), The White Woman on the Green Bicycle (2009), Archipelago (2012) — which won the OCM Bocas Prize for Caribbean Literature — House of Ashes (2014), The Tryst (2017), and The Mermaid of Black Conch (2020), which won the Costa Book of the Year award.  She is also a lecturer in creative writing at Manchester Metropolitan University and is active in supporting emerging writers in Trinidad and the Caribbean.  Key points of the episode: Mermaids, and when and why they were dreamed up. Hint- it goes back a long way!How she does not always trust her feelings about her new book.How a small indie publisher took her book, and how she crowdfunded the publicity!Her connection to Trinidad, and its problem with femicide.Her current activism.The "Hey!" Festival she co-created and what it is.Her ongoing journey into Tantra and why she did it.www.moniqueroffey.com Insta: @moniqueroffey Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    47 min

  7. 11/18/2025

    When the dust settles; how to survive life changing challenges and disaster with specialist Lucy Easthope (S4 Special Episode)

    Send us a text Lucy Easthope - The UK's Number One Disaster Recovery Expert! Easthope is one of the UK’s foremost experts on disaster recovery, emergency planning and the long-term aftermath of major incidents.  Among her roles, she has been: Professor-in-Practice of Risk & Hazard at Durham University. Visiting Professor (Mass Fatalities & Pandemics) at the Centre for Death & Society, University of Bath.Research Associate at the Joint Centre for Disaster Research, Massey University in New Zealand. Her work spans the real-world consequences of disasters: implementation of recovery, supporting bereaved families and communities, and critiquing the “recovery myth” (the assumption that communities return to “normal” after a disaster) in her academic writing.  Major works & impact In March 2022 she published her memoir When the Dust Settles: Stories of Love, Loss and Hope from an Expert in Disaster, which brings together her experiences with major incidents (including 9/11, the 2004 Indian Ocean tsunami, the 7/7 London bombings, the 2017 Grenfell Tower fire and the COVID-19 pandemic) and reflects on what recovery really means.  Her work emphasizes how disasters reshape lives permanently, how response must account for human and social dimensions (not just infrastructure) and how voices of impacted people must be heard.  From interviews, she speaks candidly about hope, fragility and the human dimension of her work. For example, she says: “I think one of the things is … just take incredible joy from a moment in the day … My work is one of the greatest privileges … just seeing people being great a lot. So that gives me a lot of hope." Lucy and Lucy dive deep into a fascinating conversation here: Key Points of the Episode: How she got into this line of work.A typical week in her life (it won't be like yours!)How she loves advocacy and social media.How there are more emergency planners than you might think!How some disasters are political.The "Reasonable Worst Case Scenario"How there has been an attitudinal shift towards her work.Her thoughts on Grenfell.How she feels like a "Cassandra" or seen as a "Debbie Downer"How her work has been seen as "foresight", not "hindsight"How children respond and engage differently to crisis, and the different help they need.What she has learned.Mental health maintenance and self care."Fallow" time, and the use of it.How a "slump" is a natural part of healing and it to be expected.The difference between "Hope" and "Hopeium"First response to disasters.Potential disasters people worry about.Reach Out To Lucy On: www.whatevernext.info Insta: @whenthedustsettleslucy Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

    56 min

  8. 11/12/2025

    Stories of Espionage and Nazi wives - The Dark Side of Life | Jane Thynne (S4 E3)

    Send us a text Jane Thynne is a British novelist and journalist, best known for her historical fiction set in pre-war and wartime Germany. Born in Venezuela and educated at St Anne’s College, Oxford, she worked as a journalist for publications including The Sunday Times, The Daily Telegraph, and the BBC. Her acclaimed Clara Vine series — beginning with Black Roses (2013) — follows an Anglo-German actress drawn into espionage in 1930s Berlin, blending meticulous historical research with compelling storytelling. Writing also under the pen name C. J. Carey, she is the author of Widowland (2021), an alternative history imagining a Nazi-occupied Britain. Thynne’s novels are praised for their atmospheric detail, strong female protagonists, and exploration of politics, culture, and power in turbulent times.  How Nazi women are not often talked about through history.How Magda Goebbels went from being a devoted Zionist to a committed Nazi.Her experience of living in "Widowland", and the experience of her researched "Cemetry Women"Why she stopped being a journalist for a while.The sad loss of her husband.How the experience changed her and the way she thinks.How the "Good Cop/Bad Cop" dynamic then changed with her parenting.Some fascinating WW2 history.The only correct answer to the question, "Why do you want to do this job", when being interviewed for the secret services!Why Herman Goerings brother is commemorated as Righteous Among the Nations.A fascinating example of how one mans infactuation with an actress caused thousands to die and affect world geopolitics.All her books are in good bookshops and Amazon Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AuthorJaneThynne Insta: https://www.instagram.com/janethynne_cjcarey Support the show Has this podcast inspired you and would you like to learn more? You can reach out to Lucy, love coach, relationship counsellor, couples counsellor extraordinaire and author of "How to have extraordinary relationships with absolutely everybody"..... On:http://www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com/

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Well we have all wondered about it haven't we?And "Relationship" is a big word. Because if you think about it, we all have a relationship with everything don't we?Join us for fun facts, deep dives and every conceivable mind broadening angle of relationships.Reach out to Lucy on www.lucycavendishlovecoach.com

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