I was in meditation yesterday and the word that came through, clear as anything, went straight into my journal. Dildo. yup we are going there in more ways than one...and how this has EVERYTHING to do with your money, impact, business. Okay. Game on. Never in a million years did I think I'd talk about sex or pleasure or any of this on my platform. And within a snap of a second it was like, bitches, this is exactly what you've got to talk about. Because the whole point of Unfuckwithable is liberation. And you cannot liberate yourself from something nobody will say out loud with you. Shame only lives in isolation. That's the whole thing. So here's mine. Nothing was talked about growing up. I got taken out of sex talks in high school, which, let's be honest, you got bullied for. I didn't know how to shave my legs, so I took a chunk out of my leg the first time. Your girl scooped. And I didn't know there were two holes, so the first time I used a tampon I put it in the wrong one and it burned, and I had nothing to compare it to, so I just assumed that's what it was. Years later I'm on a sailboat in the Whitsundays and a young woman I've never met finds the courage to ask me, is it meant to hurt when it's up there? No, my love. No, no, no, no. It isn't. Let me talk you through it. And I thought, I wish someone had done that for me. I'm 35 and there are still tinges of it. I still turn the lights off. I'm not fully comfortable in my own body and my own pleasure yet, and I'm saying that out loud on purpose, because the shame is the thing that makes you think you're the only one. In this one: the friend who said "you need to try this" and what happened at nearly thirty that I'd never experienced in three relationships, one of them a seven and a half year engagement. Why so many women can't get there and think they're broken, and the actual reason, which has a name and isn't a flaw. Spectating, which is Bibi's word and it wrecked me in the best way, because I heard it and went, oh God, that's me. I do that. And the one that goes way past this topic: normal is not a standard. Normal is just what got repeated in front of you. A decade without sex is normal. Arguing is normal. Fizzling out into roommates is normal. Okay. Maybe for you. I don't accept that. Where did you decide the thing you're tolerating is just how it goes? And who ingrained that in you? Here's why this belongs on a podcast that's mostly about money and business, and I'll say it plainly because my own brain asked me the same question in meditation. Shame doesn't stay in the room you left it in. It bleeds into your money, your leadership, your relationships, your visibility, your comfortability with yourself. It's involved in everything. There is no version of you that is liberated over here and silenced over there. The most dangerous woman is a liberated woman. One who knows herself, is connected to her own truth, her own knowing, her own voice, her morals, her values, and knows she has every right to change her mind at any moment. Why is she dangerous? Because she can't be controlled. Take what has value. Leave what doesn't. And if this activated you, which is the word I use, not triggered, good. That's the point. I have a handful of Laser Sessions open this month. One live hour, you and me, on the one thing you've been circling and not saying. Book it here. Mentioned in the episode: FAFO Experiement: HERE Book a Laser Session → HERE Apply for 1:1 Mentorship → HERE Connect with Danya further: Instagram → HERE Tik Tok → HERE And if there’s something you’d love to hear explored on the podcast, send me a message. Quick note: this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and isn’t a substitute for therapy, medical care, financial advice, or other professional support. Please use your own discernment and seek qualified professionals when needed. © Danya 2026 Would you like to deliver your own private podcast feed to your audience? Sign up for a free trial today at Hello Audio.
