Reconnect to Self with Tracey and Scott

Scott Quayle

Helping people become the best version of themselves. Let us help you connect back with yourself and rediscover what ultimately brings you joy. Hello, I'm Tracey Quayle, founder of Reconnect Individual Retreats and Co-Founder of Reconnect Relationship Retreats. I am a counsellor with 15 years experience in private practice, a breathwork instructor and certified psychedelic assisted therapist. I combine talk therapy with my love of other somatic practices to help people live the life they want to live.

  1. 7h ago

    Ep 54. How to Stop Living on Autopilot w/ Andrew Horsfield

    Do you ever feel like you're living on autopilot? Kids, the job, the routine, and somewhere along the way you stopped choosing any of it. That gap between the life you have and the one you want is what Andrew Horsfield calls the messy middle. In this episode, we sit down with Andrew, a consultant, coach and host of The Messy Middle podcast, who has spent 18 years helping leaders, athletes and professionals find their way through it. We unpack why so many of us drift through life by default, and the small, practical shifts that get you moving again. We explore the stories we carry from childhood, how they end up running our adult lives, and why the work of changing them feels so uncomfortable while you're in it. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: Why feeling stuck is often a lack of direction, and how to find it in five minutes between meetings"Transition with intention": the three questions that stop you walking in the door as the CEO at homeWhy your phone habit might be a story problem, and what Scott's "my clients own me until 7pm" did to himHow moving schools seven times built Andrew's people pleasing, and what it cost him as a leaderWhy real change feels yucky in the middle (and why that's a sign you're onto something)Andrew's small, medium and large reward folders, and the end-of-day reflection you can start tonight If you've been waiting for one big breakthrough to change everything, this conversation gives you a few small steps you can take this week. Connect with Andrew Horsfield:Website: https://andrewhorsfield.comLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewhorsfield/ Our Retreat: Oct 23-25 The Reconnect to Self Retreat runs 23-25 October at Moondyne Estate in Chittering. Three days, two nights, ten spots. Nine structured exercises run by Tracey, from childhood work on the Saturday morning through to breathwork and emotional release. May sold out. Details at ⁠traceyquayle.com⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Quick Links Reconnect to Self Retreat: ⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com/reconnect-to-self⁠⁠ Breathwork Journeys: ⁠⁠ www.traceyquayle.com/breathwork-journeys⁠⁠ BreatheDEEP™ YouTube Channel: youtube.com/@BreatheDEEPau If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy or click the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Join my mailing list ⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 54. How to Stop Living on Autopilot w/ Andrew Horsfield
  2. Sep 21

    Ep 53. What Mold In Your Home Can Do To Your Brain w/ Sandy Martin

    Have you ever found mold (or mould) in your house and painted straight over it? Sandy Martin did, and it took years of her life. She was 45, running one of the biggest celebrity events businesses in the world, when she opened a spreadsheet she had built herself two weeks earlier and could not read it. Two weeks of rest made it worse. A brain scan got her diagnosed with a head injury she never had. She spent more than $97,000 on supplements, devices and protocols before anyone worked out that the cause was in the walls of her own home. In this episode we sit down with Sandy Martin, creator of the Biological EDGE framework and author of Biological EDGE: A Practical Guide to Longevity, to talk through how mold does what it does, how she found it, and the system she built to get herself back. She is well now. This conversation is about what you can do, in what order, and why the order is the part most people get wrong. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: How mold travels from a wall into your brain through your eyesWhy two weeks of rest made her worse, and what that told herThe brain scan that got her diagnosed with an injury she never hadWhy she had to give away almost everything she ownedWhy the order matters so much: eliminate, decode, gain, executeWhy your headache, your sore hip and your 3pm crash are your body sending you informationThe blood test most GPs never run, and what it can tell you decades early If you have been stacking supplements, devices and protocols and wondering why none of it is landing, this episode will change the order you do things in. Start with what you stop. 00:00 Introduction02:40 Meet Sandy Martin03:52 Comic Con, Covid, and the day her brain stopped working08:12 Misdiagnosed with a brain injury, and $27,000 on a hyperbaric chamber09:58 What it actually felt like from the inside16:34 How the mould got into her brain19:38 Her darkest day, and finding the real cause23:43 Giving away everything, and getting a puppy28:20 The EDGE framework and why the order matters31:37 E for Eliminate: what to stop before you add46:19 Psilocybin, her mother's death, and the equinox56:05 D for Decode: your symptoms are signals58:42 Lifespan vs health span1:00:06 G for Gain: supplements, devices and testing1:12:36 E for Execute: when you can't follow through1:15:18 Human connection and longevity1:19:40 Scott and Tracey's takeaways Connect with Sandy Martin: Website: https://www.biohackingstartswithno.com Website: https://thelongevityleaders.com Instagram: @thelongevityleaders Our Retreat: Oct 23-25 The Reconnect to Self Retreat runs 23-25 October at Moondyne Estate in Chittering. Three days, two nights, ten spots. Nine structured exercises run by Tracey, from childhood work on the Saturday morning through to breathwork and emotional release. May sold out. Details at traceyquayle.com If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. 🌿 Join us in person: Reconnect to Self Retreat: ⁠www.traceyquayle.com/reconnect-to-self⁠ Breathwork Journeys: ⁠www.traceyquayle.com/breathwork-journeys⁠ Reconnect Relationships: ⁠www.reconnectrelationships.com.au⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy or click the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠ Join my mailing list ⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 53. What Mold In Your Home Can Do To Your Brain w/ Sandy Martin
  3. Sep 7

    Ep 52. Relationship Expert: The Conversations Most Couples Never Have w/ Tina Mathanda

    There's a conversation you and your partner aren't having. It might be the one that turns into the same argument every time, so you've both learned to leave it where it is. Or it might be one you've simply never thought to have, and years have gone by without either of you noticing. In this episode, we sit down with Tina Mathanda, a Perth psychologist who specialises in couples and Tracey's business partner of seven years across 23 relationship retreats, to unpack the conversations couples stop having, why the same fight keeps coming back, and why the problem is rarely the thing you're arguing about. We explore what couples therapy really looks like from the inside: the patterns people bring from childhood, the conversations they've stopped having, and the small daily moments that decide whether a relationship can absorb a bad day. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: Why the same fight keeps coming back wearing a different outfitThe Gottman 5:1 ratio, and how couples build enough credit to survive one bad momentWhat defensiveness, stonewalling, contempt and criticism look like at home (Scott owns up to all four)The couple in their 60s who hadn't been on a holiday since their early 20s, over a conversation they never came back toHow to call a timeout when you're flooded, and who has to reopen the conversation afterwardsSpontaneous vs responsive desire, and why one partner's switch stops flipping If you've ever walked away from a conversation with your partner thinking "that went nowhere again", this episode gives you the map of what's going on underneath it, and something to do about it tonight. Connect with Tina Mathanda:Website: www.southperthpsychology.com.au Reconnect Relationship Retreat Our next Reconnect Relationships retreat is on Monday 9th and Tuesday 10th November 2026. Two days to work on your relationship with both Tracey & Tina in the room. Details at https://www.reconnectrelationships.com.au/ If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Reconnect to Self Retreat - Oct 23-25 Friday 23 – Sunday 25 October at Moondyne Estate in the Chittering Valley, just over an hour from Perth. Three days, nine guided exercises run by Tracey, and only 10 spots. May sold out. Visit ⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠ if you'd like the info pack. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy Join my mailing list: ⁠⁠⁠traceyquayle.com⁠⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 52. Relationship Expert: The Conversations Most Couples Never Have w/ Tina Mathanda
  4. Aug 24

    Ep 51. Why You Feel Guilty Every Time You Rest w/ Fleur Marks

    Have you ever sat down to rest and felt guilty within about ninety seconds? Not tired. Guilty. Like rest is something you have to earn, and you haven't earned it yet. Most high performers aren't bad at resting, they just can't shake the feeling that stopping is a kind of failing. And they usually don't stop until something makes them. In this episode, we sit down with Fleur Marks. 20 years in senior leadership at one of the world's largest advertising agencies, running American Express across Asia Pacific, and author of the new book The Overachiever's Reset: A Better Way to Succeed, Without Losing Yourself — to unpack what happens when a rare autoimmune disease and then cancer strip away your ability to achieve anything at all, and you meet who you are without the performance. We explore the version of success that looks flawless from the outside and costs everything on the inside — and what Fleur found on the other side of losing the career, the house, and the identity she'd built her whole life on. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: What a normal week actually looked like — two countries a week, London in the morning and New York at night, two children under fiveThe four words from her five-year-old daughter that stopped her coldWhat "FINE" really stands for, and why high achievers reach for it every timeWhy she dragged herself out of bed after chemo to make perfect school lunches — and the belief underneath itThe three types of "enough", and which one has you working past midnightWhy resilience, the thing everyone praised her for, was the thing that broke her If you're the one everyone relies on, the one who's always fine, this is the episode to sit with. Fleur is living proof that the small things you're too busy to notice are the only things you'll want back. Connect with Fleur Marks:Website: https://fleurmarks.com.auInstagram: @fleurjmarks Reconnect to Self Retreat - Oct 23-25 If this episode landed, our October retreat is the structured version of everything Fleur talks about here. Friday 23 – Sunday 25 October at Moondyne Estate in the Chittering Valley, just over an hour from Perth. Three days, nine guided exercises run by Tracey, and only 10 spots. May sold out. Visit www.traceyquayle.com if you'd like the info pack. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy Join my mailing list: ⁠⁠traceyquayle.com⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 51. Why You Feel Guilty Every Time You Rest w/ Fleur Marks
  5. Aug 10

    Ep 50. If You Don't Love It, Stop — What 50 Episodes Taught Us About Not Giving Up

    Have you ever wanted to quit something right when it started getting hard — even though you loved it? This is episode 50, and it's just the two of us. We get honest about the parts nobody sees: the self-doubt, the hard feedback, what this has cost our relationship and our time, and why we're still showing up to record every single time. Through real stories from behind the scenes, we dive into: Why we almost gave up more times than we can count (and the one thing that kept us going)The feedback that nearly stopped Tracey from releasing episode one — and how she came back from itThe "stands vs. the field" mindset Scott uses to handle criticism, on the podcast and everywhere elseHow AI has cut our production time in half — the exact workflow behind our research, editing and trailersWhy we stopped tracking views and subscribers, and what we focused on insteadWhat we actually want this show to become, and what success means to us nowIf you've ever stuck with something nobody understood, or wondered whether it was worth it — this one's for you. Reconnect to Self Retreat - OCT 2026 The Reconnect to Self Retreat is open for October — 23rd to 25th. For anyone caught up in the busyness of life, who frequently puts others before themselves and who doesn’t take time to recharge and reconnect with what brings them joy, this is for you. It has been created to help you: Understand why it is important to look after yourself and your nervous system Learn emotional regulation techniques and the science behind them Get to know yourself again Slow down, find balance and connect to nature Get excited about life again and the infinite possibilities it holds Share the episode If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy Join my mailing list: ⁠traceyquayle.com⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

  6. Jul 26

    Ep 49. Why You Wake Up Tired Even After 8 Hours of Sleep w/ Dr Jemma King

    Ever get a full eight hours of sleep and still wake up exhausted? You're not imagining it, and it's not a discipline problem. There's a specific reason sleep quantity doesn't guarantee sleep quality, and once you understand it, a lot of your bad mornings will suddenly make sense. In this episode, we sit down with Dr Jemma King — behavioural scientist, sleep researcher and author of the new book Sleep First — to unpack exactly why this happens, what's really going on in your brain and body when sleep falls apart even though the hours add up, and how to get it back. Dr Jemma has spent years working across stress and performance with Australian Special Forces Commandos, Olympic swimmers and McKinsey executives, and her focus has now narrowed to the one thing underneath all of it: sleep. We explore the nightly "cleaning shift" your brain runs while you're unconscious, why alcohol and sleeping tablets rob you of the deep repair your body needs, and how missing REM sleep can quietly reshape what you're scared of. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: The glymphatic "cleaning process" that flushes toxic build-up out of your brain every night — and exactly what shuts it downWhy caffeine doesn't actually give you energy — it just blocks the signal that you're tiredThe two-hour window before midnight where most of your growth hormone gets produced — and what you lose by missing itThe "midnight librarian" theory of REM sleep, and its surprising link to fear conditioning and PTSDWhy oxytocin might be the most underrated stress antidote you're not usingThe simple bedroom, morning and evening changes with the biggest impact on sleep quality If you've ever woken up foggy after what should've been a full night's sleep, this episode explains exactly why — and what to do about it. Connect with Dr Jemma King:⁠ Website⁠: ⁠Instagram⁠: BreatheDEEP™ LIVE BreatheDEEP™ is a live breathwork experience set to deep house music — held in an intimate venue with atmosphere you can feel. You lie back, breathe with intention, and let the music do the rest. Find out more here: ⁠traceyquayle.com/breathdeep-live⁠ If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. About Us: We run two retreats — a self-care retreat (October) and a relationship retreat (November) — for anyone ready to go deeper. Details at traceyquayle.com. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy Join my mailing list: traceyquayle.com Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 49. Why You Wake Up Tired Even After 8 Hours of Sleep w/ Dr Jemma King
  7. Jul 12

    Ep 48. Feeling Stuck In Life? Here's How To Change It w/ Tamsin Simounds

    Do you feel stuck in life — like you know something needs to change, but you have no idea where to start? Have you ever wondered why reading another book or watching another video never actually moves the needle? In this episode, we sit down with Tamsin Simounds — leadership coach, keynote speaker and author of The Experiment Mindset — to unpack why traditional goal-setting keeps so many of us stuck, and what actually creates lasting change. We explore how imposter syndrome hit Tamsin hardest right as she was succeeding early in her career, why she spent a decade building her coaching business on the side before she ever left her corporate job, and the science-backed method that came out of it. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: Why gathering more information is keeping you stuck (and what to do instead)Why imposter syndrome hit hardest the moment she got her first promotion The sunk cost fallacy — and why it's running more of your decisions than you thinkWhat an "expander" is, and how the right person in your life can make the impossible feel possibleThe three levers of change — environment, physiology and psychology — and where to actually startWhy "push through it" is sometimes the worst advice — and what to do instead Why Tamsin just launched an activewear startup — and how it's the ultimate proof of concept for everything in this episodeIf you've been sitting on a decision, a career change, or just a feeling that something needs to shift — this episode gives you a real place to start. Connect with Tamsin: Website Instagram BreatheDEEP™ Speaking of trying something new — our first BreatheDEEP™ LIVE event is happening Friday 7th August at Laceys Gym in Joondalup. Tracey leads a guided breathwork journey while Scotty spins a live deep house set alongside her — just 40 spots, so grab yours if it's calling you. You can learn more here About Us: We run two retreats — a self-care retreat (October) and a relationship retreat (November) — for anyone ready to go deeper. Details at traceyquayle.com. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy or click the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠⁠ Join my mailing list ⁠⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 48. Feeling Stuck In Life? Here's How To Change It w/ Tamsin Simounds
  8. Jun 29

    Ep 47. He Lost Everything. Then Started R U OK? Day w/ Graeme Cowan

    Have you ever been so far down that you genuinely couldn't see a way out? Not just a bad week — but months, then years, of not being okay? That's where today's guest was. And what he built from that place changed the entire country. In this episode, we sit down with Graeme Cowan — co-founder of R U OK? Day, author of Great Leaders Care, and host of The Caring CEO podcast (ranked #2 globally for workplace mental health) — to unpack what severe depression, an ICU admission, and a five-year recovery really look like from the inside, and what Graeme has since learned about building a life and a career that doesn't cost you your mind. We explore how one of the most significant mental health movements in Australian history grew directly from one man's darkest chapter — and what that means for all of us who are quietly struggling. Through powerful stories and real-life examples, we dive into: What severe depression actually looks like from the inside (and why it often hides behind a high-performing exterior)The surprising origin story of R U OK? Day — and why it almost didn't happenThe Mood Meter: the simple self-check tool from Graeme's book that's changing how leaders track wellbeing at workWhy 99.67% of workplace mental health suffering is invisible to official systems — and what that means for your teamThe four pillars of a thriving life: Mindset, Vitality, Intimacy, and ProsperityWhy hope isn't soft — and what Scott learned the hard way when a doctor took his awayThe one thing Graeme does every single day that's kept him well for over two decadesIf you're going through something right now — or leading people who might be — this episode is worth your full attention. Connect with Graeme Cowan:WebsiteLinkedin 📖 Great Leaders Care — available in all good bookstores🎙️ The Caring CEO podcast — search wherever you listen Resources: Moodometer Poster Self Care Scorecard About Us: We run two retreats — a self-care retreat (October) and a relationship retreat (November) — for anyone ready to go deeper. Details at traceyquayle.com. If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to follow, share it with someone who needs to hear it, and leave us a review — it helps us reach more people looking to reconnect with themselves. Follow Tracey on @traceyquayle.therapy or click the links below: ⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Tik Tok⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Facebook⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠YouTube⁠⁠ Join my mailing list ⁠⁠www.traceyquayle.com⁠⁠ Disclaimer: This podcast is for information only and isn't a substitute for personalised therapy.

    Ep 47. He Lost Everything. Then Started R U OK? Day w/ Graeme Cowan

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Helping people become the best version of themselves. Let us help you connect back with yourself and rediscover what ultimately brings you joy. Hello, I'm Tracey Quayle, founder of Reconnect Individual Retreats and Co-Founder of Reconnect Relationship Retreats. I am a counsellor with 15 years experience in private practice, a breathwork instructor and certified psychedelic assisted therapist. I combine talk therapy with my love of other somatic practices to help people live the life they want to live.