The Successfully In Love Podcast

Katarina Polonska
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Creating and keeping a healthy, meaningful, and fulfilling relationship can feel extra hard for high-achievers, especially when you're a career-driven professional with limited time, emotional bandwidth, and a lot on your plate. And of course, you want to maintain high standards for yourself. Join high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist Katarina Polonska (University of Oxford M.St, ICF ACC NLP IAT) as she delves into the complexities of having true healthy love, discerning whether to stay or go, and levelling up to create your ultimate relationship. If you are an ambitious professional who knows you deserve more in life but can't seem to figure out your relationships - whether that's improving your current partnership, getting clarity on what you should do, finding the love of your life, or breaking free from the painful patterns of your past - this show is for you. Each episode contains powerful insights into the Behavioral Science of Attraction, the proven science-based methodology to help you create your best relationship yet, and live your best life. Discover more about how I can help you at: www.katarinapolonska.com @katarinapolonska on Instagram https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  1. JAN 23

    Is Monogamy Outdated?

    In this episode, we sit down with Michael Serwa (michaelserwa.com), one of the UK’s most in-demand life coaches, to talk about what high performers often get wrong about dating and relationships. We unpack why “success” isn’t just money or status, how to rebuild confidence through rejection reps, and why your energy (not your profile) is the real differentiator in dating. We also get into boundaries, standards vs. defensiveness, and what integrity looks like when real-life relationships get complicated. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    1 hr

  2. JAN 16

    I Think Ambition Has Killed My Love Life and Relationships. Here's How I Fixed It.

    You’ve done everything right on paper. The career is thriving. The calendar is full. But when the laptop closes, something still feels… empty. In this episode of Successfully in Love, high-performance relationship coach Katarina Polonska unpacks a pattern she sees every day in high achievers, leaders, and founders: being deeply successful and deeply lonely at the same time. You’ll explore why ambition and emotional disconnection so often go hand in hand, including: The hidden psychological cost of living in constant performance mode Three subconscious myths that quietly sabotage relationships at the top Why logic and competence alone can’t create real intimacy And how loneliness creeps in even when life looks “successful” from the outside Katarina introduces her framework built on self-connection, safe communication, and strategic vulnerability and shares five practical micro-shifts you can start this week to create closeness without adding more to your schedule. This episode isn’t about blaming yourself, being “more vulnerable,” or choosing between love and success. It’s about learning the relationship skills no one ever taught you and realizing that nothing is wrong with you. If you can run a company, lead a team, or hit your numbers but feel stuck or disconnected in your personal life, this conversation is for you. My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ If your calendar is full but your heart feels empty, this episode is for you. We discuss the price of success and loneliness, and how a simple "microshift" by asking a loved one about their day can foster "emotional connection" and "relationship building". This small action can lead to greater "personal growth" and stronger "social connections". My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships If your calendar is full but your heart feels empty, this episode is for you. We're talking about the price of being successful but feeling "i feel lonely" at the top, despite all the "success habits" you've cultivated. Discover how to improve your "mental health" and achieve a better "work life balance" to truly learn "how to be happy" and cultivate greater "self love" in your life. WAS THIS HELPFUL? I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min

  3. JAN 9

    Is My Career Killing My Relationship? Disconnected at Home? Here's Why Your Career Is To Blame

    You’re a COO in California. On paper, everything is working. The company is growing, the team respects you, and the results speak for themselves. But it’s 11:30 p.m. You’re scrolling on your phone in the dark. Your partner is already asleep. And you can’t remember the last real conversation you had that wasn’t about logistics, work, or the kids. In this episode of Successfully in Love, high-performance relationship strategist Katarina Polonska speaks directly to COOs and senior operational leaders who are exceptional at running companies but feel increasingly disconnected, tense, or lonely at home. You’ll learn: Why COOs are uniquely at risk for relationship breakdown The three most common relationship patterns high-achieving men fall into and how each one quietly sabotages leadership, focus, and decision-making How emotional disconnection at home shows up as fatigue, reactivity, risk aversion, and burnout at work Why you can’t “optimize” your way out of relationship problems the way you do business problems Katarina introduces The RESET Framework: Reveal, Engage, Set new rules which is a practical, no-nonsense approach designed for logical, driven leaders who want real change without blowing up their life or career. This isn’t about work-life balance. It’s about protecting your nervous system, your clarity, and your long-term legacy. If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’ll deal with this at home after the next quarter,” this episode may be the wake-up call you didn’t know you needed. You don’t have to choose between being a powerful COO and a man who’s actually connected and fulfilled at home. You can be both. My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ Even when you're excelling in your career, maintaining healthy relationships can be a challenge. This video explores the common struggles of balancing a demanding professional life with personal connections, particularly when stress impacts communication skills. Discover how to navigate these complexities and achieve a better work life balance, ensuring your personal life thrives alongside your professional success. My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 min

  4. JAN 2

    Is My Marriage Wrecking My Career? Your Leadership is Only as Strong as Your Romantic Relationship

    You’ve built companies. Moved markets. Maybe even taken a company public. But if someone asked your partner today, “Do you feel deeply seen, safe, and prioritized by him?” What would they say? In this episode of Successfully in Love, high-performance relationship strategist Katarina Polonska speaks directly to CEOs and senior executives who optimize everything in business but underinvest in the one system powering it all: their closest relationship. You’ll explore the hidden feedback loop between relationship disconnection and leadership performance and how tension at home shows up as impatience, reactivity, decision fatigue, riskier calls, and confidence that runs on fumes. Because the quality of your most intimate relationship isn’t separate from your leadership. It’s the emotional infrastructure you lead from. My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ In this video, Katarina Polonska asks a blunt question to CEOs: do their partners feel deeply seen, safe, and prioritized? She highlights how many executives prioritize career management and financial success but often underinvest in their primary relationships. This discussion offers crucial relationship advice, emphasizing the importance of emotional connection and how to build emotional intimacy, ultimately aiming for a better work life balance. I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    16 min

  5. 12/26/2025

    Emotionally Unavailable at Home? This Is Why You Feel So Lonely At the Top Even If You're Married

    In this episode of Successfully in Love, Katarina speaks to high-performing leaders who feel admired at work but disconnected at home. She explains why being “the strong one” often started as a survival strategy and how your nervous system can stay in performance mode long after the workday ends. The same habits that make you effective in leadership (fixing, efficiency, risk management, control) can unintentionally shut down intimacy, leaving your partner feeling like you’re present physically but emotionally unavailable. Katarina breaks down subconscious relationship blocks through anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment patterns, and shows why you can appear confident and grounded at work while feeling reactive or shut down in love. She also identifies three common high-achiever traps: postponing the relationship until “after the next big thing,” managing your partner like a project, and outsourcing intimacy to work, screens, or constant busyness. To help you shift quickly without sacrificing ambition, she teaches a simple 3-Minute Reset Ritual — Pause, Presence, Permission, which is a practical way to come home as a person, not a performer. The takeaway: you’re not broken, you’re patterned and you’re allowed to have both success and deep connection. LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ Have you noticed that as you achieve more in your career, a sense of loneliness can creep in? This video explores how high performance at work doesn't always translate to strong relationships, often leaving us feeling disconnected. We discuss how to navigate these challenges and foster personal growth while maintaining your mental health and work life balance. My approach is explained in more detail here: https://www.katarinapolonska.com/relationships I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    15 min

  6. 12/19/2025

    Why Have We Stopped Having Sex In Our Long Term Relationship? Why Intimacy & Attraction Fades

    Stop trying to fix a sexless relationship with "spiced up" date nights or fancy lingerie — that's like putting a Band-Aid on a broken leg. If the spark is gone, it’s probably not about your libido or physical attraction. It’s usually about emotional safety and the invisible resentment building up between you two. In this episode, we break down why high-achieving professionals often end up in "roommate" marriages and why scheduling sex can actually make things way more awkward. We’ll explain how your nervous system literally shuts down intimacy when you don't feel safe, and why you need to rest and digest before you can... well, you know. LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ Many relationship challenges often stem not from libido, but from deeper issues. This video highlights that a lack of trust and emotional connection are frequently at the core of relationship problems. As a relationship coach, I emphasize building trust and fostering intimacy for healthy relationships, rather than just seeking quick fixes. I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    28 min

  7. 10/31/2025

    You're Not Broken! Here's Why You Feel Like Something's Missing in Your Relationship

    You’ve got the career, the partner, the life — so why do you still feel something’s missing? In this episode, we explore why success, love, and “having it all” still leave so many people feeling unfulfilled. Learn the psychology behind craving, emotional emptiness, and the hidden wound of not feeling good enough. Discover how subconscious patterns shape your relationships, attraction, and self-worth — and how to finally break the cycle. If you’ve ever thought “Is this all there is?”, this one’s for you. Discover more of me at: Website - https://www.katarinapolonska.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

    31 min

  8. 10/16/2025

    "I Can't Find My Person!" Your Dating Pattern Isn't Random (Here's What's Actually Happening)

    Tired of wondering why you keep attracting the wrong people — friends, partners, even coworkers? In this episode, we dig into five real signs that this pattern might be happening to you. From ignoring red flags to confusing chemistry with compatibility, we’ll unpack the subtle habits and beliefs that pull you toward the same unhealthy dynamics again and again. No overhyped “manifestation” talk — just grounded, honest insight on how to spot the cycle and start changing it for good. Discover more of me at: Website - https://www.katarinapolonska.com Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/katarinapolonska/ LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Are you constantly attracting the wrong people, even after countless dates and therapy sessions? This episode offers essential dating advice for navigating the complexities of modern dating. We explore common dating problems and provide practical dating tips to help you build happy, healthy relationships. If you're ready to break negative patterns and find the connection you desire, this is for you! I’d be so grateful if you could take a moment to subscribe, leave a 5-star rating, and download a few more episodes. As a gift of gratitude, I will send you my program, the Over-Givers Reset if you leave a 5-star review and share what you love about the show. 🎁 To claim your gift, submit your review screenshot to this email: team@katarinapolonska.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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Creating and keeping a healthy, meaningful, and fulfilling relationship can feel extra hard for high-achievers, especially when you're a career-driven professional with limited time, emotional bandwidth, and a lot on your plate. And of course, you want to maintain high standards for yourself. Join high-performance relationship coach and gender dynamics social scientist Katarina Polonska (University of Oxford M.St, ICF ACC NLP IAT) as she delves into the complexities of having true healthy love, discerning whether to stay or go, and levelling up to create your ultimate relationship. If you are an ambitious professional who knows you deserve more in life but can't seem to figure out your relationships - whether that's improving your current partnership, getting clarity on what you should do, finding the love of your life, or breaking free from the painful patterns of your past - this show is for you. Each episode contains powerful insights into the Behavioral Science of Attraction, the proven science-based methodology to help you create your best relationship yet, and live your best life. Discover more about how I can help you at: www.katarinapolonska.com @katarinapolonska on Instagram https://www.linkedin.com/in/katarinapolonska/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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