SIP with Summers

Jennifer Marie Summers
  • 5.0 (12)
  • Sexuality
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Welcome to SIP with Summers — the podcast where we uncork conversations about sex, intimacy, and pleasure! Hosted by Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, and Menopause Coach, this show is dedicated to empowering women and couples to embrace their bodies, enhance their sexual wellness, and explore their spiritual sides—through every season of life. Each episode dives into topics like body positivity, sexual health education, navigating menopause, overcoming intimacy challenges, and discovering the joy of self-love.

  1. 4d ago

    024: How to Talk About Sex, Intimacy & Desire in Relationships with Sex Therapist Keri Green

    Sex, intimacy, desire, communication... why are the most important relationship conversations often the hardest to have? In this episode of SIP with Summers, I sit down with licensed marriage and family therapist and AASECT-certified sex therapist Keri Green to talk about what really happens behind closed doors when couples stop communicating about sex. With more than 20 years of experience helping individuals and couples navigate desire, intimacy, body confidence, sexual trauma, relationship challenges, and communication struggles, Keri shares both her professional expertise and her personal perspective as a single mom who has navigated dating in her 40s. We explore why intimacy is about so much more than sex, how desire changes throughout life, what happens when attraction fades in long-term relationships, and why avoiding difficult conversations often creates more distance than having them. In This Episode We Discuss: What intimacy actually means (and why it's not just sex)Why communication is the foundation of a healthy sex lifeHow to start difficult conversations about sex with your partnerWhat to do when desire or attraction changes in a relationshipDating in your 40s and talking about sex early onThe impact of body image and self-confidence on intimacyHow novelty can reignite connection in long-term relationshipsSexual timelines and understanding your sexual storyHealing shame and sexual traumaWhy mutual masturbation may be one of the most underrated turn-onsQuestions every couple should ask each other this weekMemorable Takeaways 💋 "Don't miss an opportunity for connection." 💋 "Silence doesn't protect relationships. It creates distance." 💋 "Desire changes, and that's normal." 💋 "Comfort first. Pleasure second." 💋 "Intimacy is so much more than what happens in the bedroom." Whether you're single, dating, married, navigating midlife changes, rebuilding intimacy, or simply curious about your own sexual journey, this conversation offers practical tools and compassionate insights to help you create deeper connection with yourself and your partner. Want to learn more about sex therapy, relationship communication, intimacy, desire, body confidence, or healing from sexual shame and trauma? Connect with Keri: If today's conversation resonated with you and you're interested in working with a certified sex therapist, visit ⁠Keri Green, LMFT & Certified Sex Therapist⁠ to learn more about her telehealth services and resources for individuals and couples. Connect with Jennifer: Sex Coaching • Menopause Coaching • Couples Coaching Summers of Love Follow Jennifer on social: @theselfmadediva sex therapist, intimacy in relationships, relationship communication, women's sexuality, sexual wellness, libido, desire, dating in your 40s, body confidence, sexual trauma, sex therapy, healthy relationships, couples communication, intimacy tips, long term relationships, menopause and desire, responsive desire, pleasure, sexual health, relationship advice

    54 min

  2. Jun 25

    023: Your Body Knows What It Wants: Reconnecting with Desire, Pleasure & Intimacy with Dr. Laura Jurgens

    What if your libido isn't broken? In this powerful conversation, Jennifer sits down with desire gap specialist and somatic sex coach Dr. Laura Jurgens to explore why so many people feel disconnected from desire, pleasure, and intimacy, especially in midlife. Together, they unpack the difference between low libido and disconnection, why so many women have learned to live in their heads instead of their bodies, and how stress, burnout, people-pleasing, and cultural conditioning can impact our relationship with sex. Laura shares her expertise on responsive desire, mismatched libido, nervous system regulation, embodiment, and the concept of "disembodied consent" while offering practical ways to reconnect with your body's wisdom and reclaim authentic intimacy. If you've ever wondered whether your desire is gone forever, struggled with mismatched libido in your relationship, or felt disconnected from your pleasure, this episode is for you. In This Episode We Discuss: Why low libido is often misunderstoodThe difference between spontaneous and responsive desireHow stress, burnout, and midlife changes affect intimacyWhy getting out of your head is essential for pleasureReconnecting with your body through somatic awarenessThe impact of ADHD and neurodivergence on desireWhy mismatched libido feels so personalThe biggest mistakes couples make when navigating desire differencesWhat "disembodied consent" means and why it mattersHow obligation sex damages intimacyPractical ways to rebuild connection and desireWhy long-term relationships don't have to kill passionHow honesty and embodiment can transform your sex life Connect with Dr. Laura Jurgens🌐 Website: Laura Jurgens Website 🎙️ Podcast: Pleasure Uprising Podcast 📝 Substack: Pleasure Uprising Substack Free Resource for ListenersLaura created a free guide exclusively for listeners: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy Inside you'll learn: Why overthinking during intimacy is a nervous system response, not a personal failureHow to release shame and "should" thinkingBody-based practices you can use immediatelyHow to better understand your own desire patternsDownload it here: 👉 Get Out of Your Head Free Guide Connect with Jennifer Summers🌐 Summers of Love 📱 Follow Jennifer on social: @theselfmadediva 🎙️ Subscribe to SIP with Summers for honest conversations about sex, intimacy, relationships, menopause, pleasure, and living fully in midlife. Because pleasure is your birthright... and awkward is our love language. 💋

    49 min

  3. Jun 18

    022: Pleasure Is Your Birthright: Reclaiming Desire, Safety & Feminine Power with Kayla Moore

    What if low desire isn't the problem? What if feeling disconnected from your body, your pleasure, and your sexuality is actually a response to years of conditioning, stress, overwhelm, and disconnection? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Feminine Liberation Coach and Priestess-in-Training Kayla Moore to explore the connection between pleasure, safety, desire, feminine power, and the patriarchal messages many women have internalized throughout their lives. Together, we unpack what it really means to reconnect with your body, reclaim your pleasure, and create a life that feels aligned with who you truly are. We discuss: ✨ Why pleasure is so much bigger than sex✨ The connection between safety and desire✨ How shame and body disconnection impact intimacy✨ The mental load women carry and how it affects pleasure✨ The Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine explained in a practical way✨ Why so many women struggle to ask for what they want✨ The role of community in healing and empowerment✨ Simple ways to reconnect with your body starting today✨ Why joy, creativity, and pleasure belong in everyday life Whether you're navigating low desire, relationship challenges, midlife transitions, or simply looking to feel more connected to yourself, this conversation offers insight, compassion, and plenty of permission to take up space. Connect with Jennifer🌐 Website: www.summersoflove.com 📱 Instagram, Facebook, Threads & more: @theselfmadediva Connect with Kayla Moore🎙 Liberation Wisdom PodcastLiberation Wisdom Podcast 💌 Join Kayla's NewsletterNewsletter Sign Up 🔥 Holy Rage CircleHoly Rage Circle

    58 min

  4. Jun 4

    021: Sex, Good Sex, and Sacred Sex: Why Your Best Intimacy May Still Be Ahead of You

    Is all sex created equal? In this thought-provoking conversation, Jennifer sits down with psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Bruce Chalmer to explore the difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex, and why intimacy may be the missing ingredient many couples are searching for. Drawing from more than 30 years of experience working with couples, Dr. Chalmer explains why great sex isn't about performance, technique, or getting everything "right." Instead, it starts with presence, honesty, vulnerability, and the willingness to tolerate a little discomfort. Together, Jennifer and Dr. Chalmer discuss how intimacy creates deeper connection, why communication is more than just learning the right words, and how couples can navigate desire differences with grace rather than resentment. They also explore the concept of sacred sex, those rare moments when sexual connection becomes something larger than ourselves and connects us to meaning, spirituality, and awe. Whether you're in a long-term relationship, navigating midlife changes, or simply curious about creating more connection in your intimate life, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what truly makes sex fulfilling. In This Episode: ✨ The difference between sex, good sex, and sacred sex ✨ Why intimacy requires vulnerability and the ability to tolerate anxiety ✨ How couples unintentionally lose connection ✨ The role communication plays in creating better sex ✨ Responsive desire and why "not in the mood" doesn't always mean no ✨ Why lubrication, toys, and sexual tools are nothing to be ashamed of ✨ Common misunderstandings men and women have about sex ✨ Why many people experience their best sex later in life ✨ How maturity can lead to deeper intimacy and connection ✨ The powerful relationship philosophy: "Be kind, don't panic, and have faith" About Dr. Bruce ChalmerDr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist who has spent more than three decades helping couples build stronger, more connected relationships. He is the author of several books, including Reigniting the Spark, It's Not About Communication!, The Passion Paradox, and Betrayal and Forgiveness. He is also co-host of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast with his wife, Judy Alexander. Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer🌐 Website: Bruce Chalmer Official Website 🎙️ Podcast: Couples Therapy in Seven Words Connect with Jennifer🌐 Summers of Love 📱 Follow Jennifer for conversations about sex, intimacy, pleasure, menopause, and living fully in every stage of life.

    48 min

  5. May 28

    020: How the “Good Girl” Archetype Is Secretly Killing Your Relationship

    What if the very behaviors that made you feel lovable are the same ones disconnecting you from intimacy, desire, and authentic connection? In this powerful episode of SIP with Summers, Jennifer sits down with relationship and feminine embodiment coach Bella Krutik to unpack how “good girl conditioning” quietly shapes women’s relationships, boundaries, sexuality, and sense of self. Bella shares her deeply personal story of reconciling with her ex-husband years after divorce, and how embodiment work, nervous system regulation, and radical self-awareness transformed not only her relationship… but her relationship with herself. Together, Jennifer and Bella explore: People pleasing and lack of boundariesWhy over-functioning kills attractionThe connection between authenticity and libidoNervous system regulation and intimacyEmotional safety vs. emotional avoidanceThe “roommate phase” in long-term relationshipsFeminine embodiment and reconnecting to your bodyHow “good girls” become emotionally unavailableWhy pleasure requires vulnerabilityPlus, Bella guides listeners through a beautiful grounding and presence exercise you can try yourself. This episode is for every woman who has ever felt disconnected, resentful, emotionally shut down, or stuck performing a version of herself that no longer fits. Connect with Bella:Instagram: @bellakcoaching Head to Bella's Instagram page and either book a discovery call or download her freebies (these include a Relationship Reconnection guide and Pleasure Playlist to help you move into pleasure before a date night). Connect with Jennifer: 🌐 Summers of Love🎙️ All of her social links and upcoming events

    46 min

  6. Feb 11

    019: Pleasure at Every Size: Reclaiming Desire, Confidence, and Connection in the Body You Have Now

    Pleasure is not a reward. It is a right. ⁠Book a session⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Ask me anything⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop enhancement products⁠⁠ | ⁠⁠Shop TOYS! ⁠ In this episode of SIP With Summers, we are talking about pleasure at every size and why your body, exactly as it is today, is already capable of deep, satisfying, toe-curling pleasure. If you have ever thought: • “I need to lose weight first.” • “My body gets in the way.” • “I should hide myself during sex.” • “Sex isn’t as good in a bigger body.” This episode is for you. We are dismantling shame, debunking myths, and replacing them with real tools, real education, and real permission to feel sexy, powerful, and desirable right now. • Why pleasure is not conditional on body size or appearance • How shame shuts down arousal and how to gently release it • Body neutrality and why you do not have to love your body to enjoy pleasure • Simple embodiment practices that reconnect you to sensation • Pleasure anatomy basics, including why the clitoris is way bigger than you were taught • How plus-size bodies are not a barrier to pleasure, they are a pathway • Lube, toys, props, and positioning that support comfort and access • The best positions and pleasure hacks for plus-size and midlife bodies • How to ask for comfort and support in bed without killing the vibe • Three things you can try tonight to increase pleasure immediately This is a shame-free, judgment-free conversation designed to help you feel more at home in your body and more confident asking for what feels good. I work with women and couples through intimacy coaching, body confidence, low desire, perimenopause and menopause transitions, and communication around pleasure. Coaching is available virtually and in person. I also host Sex-Ed Meets Stand-Up toy parties that are educational, fun, spicy, and inclusive of every body. If this episode resonated, please subscribe, leave a five-star review, and share it with someone who needs to hear it. Your body is not a problem to solve. Your body is a pleasure source waiting to be explored.

    34 min

  7. Jan 29

    018: Ask the Sexologist: Painful Sex, Desire Mismatch, G-Spot Myths & More

    Real, anonymous questions about sex, intimacy, pleasure, and everything we were never properly taught. Book a session⁠ | ⁠Join The Self Love Club⁠ | ⁠Ask me anything⁠ | ⁠Shop enhancement products⁠ | ⁠Shop TOYS! From painful sex without lube to why the G-spot can feel elusive, this episode is packed with practical, sex-positive education you can actually use. No shame, no fluff, just honest answers and tools that help you feel more confident in your body and your relationships. In this episode, we cover: • Why sex can suddenly feel painful without lube, even if it never used to • How arousal, aging, and perimenopause affect natural lubrication • Why lubrication increases pleasure, comfort, and sexual health • Recommended books for healing intimacy and deepening desire • What the G-spot really is and why it can be hard to stimulate consistently • How breath, mindset, and warming up the body support stronger orgasms • Why rushing foreplay makes orgasms harder, not easier • How to get out of your head and back into your body during sex • What to do when partners have mismatched libidos • Why intimacy does not always have to mean penetration • How toys can support connection, not replace it • Best positions and pleasure tips when trying to conceive • Body confidence, lights-off sex, and easing sexual insecurity • Simple, approachable ways to initiate intimacy and try new things Jennifer also shares practical tools like breathing techniques, foreplay timing ideas, pleasure-first mindset shifts, and ways couples can communicate more openly about their needs without pressure or guilt. If you have ever wondered “Is this normal?” this episode is for you. ✨ Have a question you want answered on the show? Submit anonymously at www.selfmadediva.com If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review, share it with a friend, or send it to that group chat that definitely needs it. Stay curious. Stay turned on. And as always, keep sipping. 🍷

    24 min

  8. Jan 14

    017: Ask the Sexologist: Libido, Menopause, Orgasms, and Real Talk

    Low libido. Stress. Menopause questions. Orgasms that feel impossible. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you. Book a session | Join The Self Love Club | Elevated lubricant for 40+ women | Vulva balm | Ask me anything | Best intimate shaving cream | The Herpes Plug | Shop enhancement products | Shop TOYS! In this solo Q&A episode of SIP With Summers, board-certified sexologist and menopause coach Jennifer Marie Summers answers your anonymous questions about desire, stress, orgasms, menopause, vaginal dryness, pain during sex, sleep issues, body hair, herpes disclosure, and so much more. We talk about why anxiety kills desire, why foreplay matters more than you were ever taught, what’s actually happening in your body during perimenopause, and why not orgasming from penetration is completely normal. You’ll learn: • How to get in the mood without pills or supplements • Why stress directly affects libido and arousal • What helps with vaginal dryness and painful sex during menopause • When fertility actually ends and what perimenopause really looks like • Why so many women struggle to orgasm and what actually helps • How to talk to partners about pleasure, STIs, and shame-free sex This is sex education without judgment, medical shame, or whispering. You’re not broken. You might just need better information and support. 💬 Have a question you’re afraid to ask out loud? Submit it anonymously at selfmadediva.com and it may be featured in a future episode.

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Welcome to SIP with Summers — the podcast where we uncork conversations about sex, intimacy, and pleasure! Hosted by Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, and Menopause Coach, this show is dedicated to empowering women and couples to embrace their bodies, enhance their sexual wellness, and explore their spiritual sides—through every season of life. Each episode dives into topics like body positivity, sexual health education, navigating menopause, overcoming intimacy challenges, and discovering the joy of self-love.

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  • Creator
    Jennifer Marie Summers
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    24
  • Rating
    Explicit
  • Copyright
    © Jennifer Marie Summers
  • Show Website
    SIP with Summers