The Teenage Guide

Ashley Chandler
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You're doing more and getting less — managing harder, reminding louder, trying every approach you know. And somewhere underneath the exhaustion is a version of you who feels more connected to your teen, not more depleted by them. Hosted by Ashley Chandler — dual-credentialed educator with nearly two decades in adolescent development — this show is where parents of teens get the real toolkit: not just tips for better grades or fewer blowups, but the relationship-first approach that makes both inevitable. Because the relationship is the intervention. Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.

  1. 6d ago

    70: 3 Things Teens Wish Their Parents Understood

    EP. 70: 3 Things Teenagers Wish Their Parents Understood (And What They're Really Trying to Tell You) Why does your teenager open up to their coach, their friend's mom, their teacher — but shut down the moment you walk in the room? It's not because they don't love you. It's not because you've done everything wrong. And it's not because they don't want connection. It's because teenagers are carrying more than we realize — and what they need from us isn't always what we think they need. In this episode, I'm sharing three patterns I hear again and again directly from the teens I coach. Things they're feeling, noticing, and absorbing — but rarely know how to say out loud to the people they love most.  What We Cover in This Episode: Why teens hold back — and it's not what you think: The real reason your teenager keeps things to themselves What they're really soaking up when they're around you. **🎉 10,000 Downloads — Thank You** We just crossed 10,000 podcast downloads — and I'm celebrating in podcast-land. Every parent who shows up to listen, reflect, and keep going is exactly why this work matters. Thank you for being here. Ready for More Support? If you're navigating something with your teen right now and want personalized guidance, I have a few spots left in the **The Fall Sprint** — six private sessions you can use over the next few months. Parents are seeing real shifts in their dynamic, their communication, and their day-to-day experience — in just the first few weeks. Learn more + grab your spot or set up time to meet with me and learn more: www.theteenageguide.com/workwithashley Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.~Ashley

    70: 3 Things Teens Wish Their Parents Understood

  2. Oct 19

    69: The Secret to Real Motivation

    Episode 69: The Secret to Real Motivation Here’s the myth that’s quietly running the show in most homes: Your teen is waiting to feel like doing homework. You’re waiting to feel like having that hard conversation. They’re waiting to feel motivated before they start. You’re waiting for the friction to go away before you push. It doesn’t work that way. And in this episode, I’m breaking down why — and what actually creates motivation, energy, and follow-through in real life. Spoiler: it’s the opposite of what most people think. What’s In This Episode: The #1 myth of motivation — and why teens (and adults) fall for it every single time How teens get stuck in the “I don’t feel like it” cycle — and exactly how to break it Why “just try harder” and “just be more motivated” are not strategies — and what is The structure-first formula that creates dopamine, belief, and momentum How to use non-negotiables in your home to build the motivation your teen thinks they’re waiting for And, how to work with me in the Fall Sprint — what it is and how to get in before spots fill The Fall Sprint — Six Sessions. Real Results. If you’re ready to stop waiting and start building — this is your sign. The Fall Sprint is six private coaching sessions with Ashley, fully customizable for you, your teen, or both. Use them over the next few months. Current clients are reporting real shifts in grades, the daily dynamic, in how open their teen is — in just the first few weeks. Spots are limited. 👉 Learn more: www.theteenageguide.com/workwithashley Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.

    69: The Secret to Real Motivation

  3. Oct 12

    68: When Your Teen Is Stuck and You Can See the Solution (But They Won’t Listen)

    EP. 68: When Your Teen Is Stuck and You Can See the Solution (But They Won’t Listen) You can see exactly what your teen needs to do. You know the answer. You’ve lived through something similar. You’ve tried to share it — calmly, directly, with the best intentions — and they shut down completely. This is one of the most common and defeating moments in parenting a teenager. I see it every week in my coaching practice. And this week, I lived it inside my own home. In this episode I’m pulling back the curtain on a real, current challenge we’re navigating as a family — a moment that triggered black and white thinking, parental frustration, and a very real gap between where my kid is and where we want them to be. I’m not sharing it to be relatable. I’m sharing it because the way I looked at it — through the lens of relationships and skills — changed everything about how I showed up. And it can do the same for you. Plus — a full breakdown of my SYSTEM Method, the six-category skill-building framework I use with every family I work with, and how to use it to identify exactly which skills to focus on when your teen hits a wall. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: The bigger picture behind this work — why raising teenagers right now matters more than ever A real, unfiltered look at a parenting challenge Ashley is navigating with her own kid this week Why black and white thinking is a skill gap — not a character flaw or a bad attitude How to look at any challenge through the lens of relationships and skills A full breakdown of the SYSTEM Method — the six categories of skill building every parent needs to know How to use the framework to identify exactly which skills to focus on — without overwhelming yourself or your teen Why the circumstance your teen is in right now might be exactly the container they need — not evidence that something has gone wrong  Ready to Work Together This Fall? The Fall Sprint — six private coaching sessions with Ashley, fully customizable for you, your teen, or both — is open now. Use them within the next few months. Results from current Fall Sprint clients: “My kid is doing better in school than they did all last year — in just a few weeks.” “I see a noticeable difference in our relationship already.” “They’re opening up to me in ways they never have before.” Spots are limited. 👉 Sign Up Here: www.theteenageguide.com/workwithashley Other resources mentioned: Last week's Executive Function 101 episode 👉  Grab Ashley's Free EF 101 Workbook & Video Guide 👉 Remember: You’re not behind or too late. Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.

    68: When Your Teen Is Stuck and You Can See the Solution (But They Won’t Listen)

  4. Oct 5

    67: Executive Function 101 — The Skills Critical to 'Success' for You and Your Teen

    67: Executive Function 101 — The Skills Critical to 'Success' for You and Your Teen Ahhh... one of my specialties! I love helping parents and teens truly understand these skills and how practicing them makes life so much more enjoyable, independent, and connected. You've probably heard the term executive function. Maybe a teacher mentioned it. Maybe you've read about it in the context of ADHD. Maybe you've been told your teen needs to "manage their time better" or "be less impulsive" — and left wondering how, exactly, you're supposed to make that happen. Here's what most parents don't know: executive function isn't a fixed trait your teen either has or doesn't have. It's an ecosystem of skills. And they are absolutely buildable — in the right conditions, with the right support, over time. In this episode I'm breaking down what executive function skill building actually is, why the mainstream understanding almost always misses the point, and what you can do right now to start building the foundation that makes everything else possible...for both of you. In This Episode, You'll Learn: Why executive function is not about getting a better planner or a new consequence system — and what it actually is The leader exercise Ashley walks every client through — and what it reveals about the skills your teen is still building Why "just try harder" never works — and what's actually happening neurologically when your teen can't focus, initiate, or follow through Why emotional regulation is the foundation of every other executive function skill The role your own nervous system plays in your teen's ability to build these skills What's different about executive function skill building for teens with ADHD and other diverse neurological profiles Why it's never too late — including for college-age teens and young adults How co-accountability — not consequences — is what actually builds lasting skills Free Resources + What's Next: 📥 Free EF 101 Video + Workbook Guide — the top 5 executive function challenges and solutions you can implement right away 👉 www.theteenageguide.com/ef101 Confident & Connected: The Blueprint — my live three-part class, October 5–7. 30 minutes a day. A real 30-day plan you walk away with. Day 1: Essential relationship skills and tools Day 2: The SYSTEM framework for skill building Day 3: Your complete 30-Day Plan If you're hearing this after October 5th — you can still join. You'll get the Day 1 recording and join live for Days 2 and 3. 👉 www.theteenageguide.com/blueprint Other resources mentioned in this episode: 'Absolute Awareness' (my brother-in-law, Noel Chandler's amazing book) >>

    67: Executive Function 101 — The Skills Critical to 'Success' for You and Your Teen

  5. Sep 28

    66: [Quick Win] How to Get Your Teen to Listen and Do What They Need to Do — A Real Plan That Works

    EP. 66 (QUICK WIN): How to Get Your Teen to Listen to You — A Real Plan That Works Look around your space right now. Everything you can see — aside from nature itself — was once an idea in someone's mind. The chair. The phone. The microphone. Someone believed it was possible. They built the relationships and skills to make it real. And then — over time, through repetition and commitment — it showed up. That's not magic. That's how manifestation actually works. And here's what makes this directly relevant to the challenge you're facing with your teen right now: Everything you're experiencing is delayed manifestation. The grades in the portal. The dynamic at home. The resistance, the yelling, the 42 reminders to do one thing — none of it is an accident. It came to be through a series of beliefs, patterns, relationships, and skills. Or the absence of them. Which means it can change. With a real plan, worked in the right order. That's your quick win for today. In This Episode: The universal law underneath every challenge — and how to use it to your advantage A real-time reverse engineering exercise you can do right now — no matter what you're doing How to apply the delayed manifestation framework to your teen's specific challenge Why the grades, the attitude, and the resistance are always a reflection of the past — and what that means for the future How to become the Teenage Guide inside your own home Why a real plan — relationships + skills + 30 days — changes everything The Quick Win Take whatever challenge you're facing with your teen right now. Reverse engineer it. What beliefs are running the show — in them and in you? What relationships are shaping the dynamic? What skills are missing — in them, in you, in how you navigate this together? Now fast forward 30, 60, 90 days. What you experience then is not an accident either. It's being shaped right now — by the beliefs you're holding, the relationships you're building, and the skills you're practicing. The plan works if you work it. What's Inside Confident & Connected: The Blueprint This episode is a preview of exactly what we build together inside my live three-part class: Day 1 — Essential relationship skills and tools you must have as the parent to create real influence with your teen Day 2 — The essential formula for skill building using Ashley's SYSTEM framework Day 3 — Your complete 30-Day Plan — tangible actions and next steps you can implement immediately, even with the most resistant teen or partner You don't watch this alone. You build your plan live — with me — and walk away with something you can actually use. 👉 Learn more and grab your spot: www.theteenageguide.com/blueprint VIP session option available — details in the link above. You're not behind. You're right on time. Never underestimate the power you have as the parent. p.s. If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, and share so other parents can find it.

    66: [Quick Win] How to Get Your Teen to Listen and Do What They Need to Do — A Real Plan That Works

  6. Sep 21

    65: What Are You Believing? Real client stories — and the one shift behind every real breakthrough

    EP. 65: What Are You Believing to Be True? Real client stories — and the one shift behind every real breakthrough Most of the time, when parents come to me, they want to fix something specific...about their teen. The grades. The attitude. The relationship. The morning battles. And what they discover — pretty quickly — is that underneath every single one of those challenges is the same thing. A belief. What you're believing about your teen. What your teen is believing about themselves. What you're believing about what you deserve, what you're capable of, and what's even possible. In this episode, I'm doing something a little different — no notes, completely off the cuff — because I had some client sessions in the past few weeks I couldn't stop thinking about, and I wanted to share them with you while they were still fresh. These client stories illustrate something I see at the root of every challenge I work with parents and teens on: Behavior change is identity change. And when we shift what we're believing — about ourselves, about our teen, about what's possible — everything else starts to move. In This Episode, You'll Hear: The story of a high schooler with ADHD who went from D's, C's, and F's to A's and B's in just five sessions — and the belief that almost kept him stuck. How a high-functioning, deeply empathetic dad discovered that his greatest professional strengths were also blocking him at home — and what shifted when he saw it. Why the dark and the light of our gifts show up differently depending on where we're being called to grow. What James Clear's "behavior change is identity change" actually looks like inside a real coaching session And, more! The truth is, what you're believing about yourself — and about your teen — is quietly running everything. The grades. The boundaries. The relationship. The patterns that keep showing up no matter what you try. It's not about doing more. It's about shifting you're being. When you start to believe something different about yourself — you say yes to different things. You say no to different things. You show up differently in the moments that matter most. And your teen feels it. Every single time. That's not jargon. That's what I watch happen inside every client container. It's Not What You Do — It's the Way In Which You Do It More Resources: Three Ways to Work With Ashley This Fall: 🌱 THRIVE Community — ongoing support, weekly touchpoints, group coaching, and a village of parents navigating the same season ⚡ Fall Sprint — six sessions of focused, private coaching designed for fast, real results 🌳 Private Containers — fully customizable support for you, your teen, or both — built around exactly what your family needs right now 👉 Learn more: theteenageguide.com/workwithashley Never underestimate the power you have as the parent,  Ashley

    65: What Are You Believing? Real client stories — and the one shift behind every real breakthrough

  7. Sep 14

    64: The October 'Slump' is Coming: What You Need to Have on Your Radar

    Episode 64: The October Slump — What Every Teacher Knows (and Most Parents Don't) There's a pattern every teacher sees every single October — and most parents don't catch it until it's already a full-blown battle or stress breakdown at home. It's called the October slump, and it shows up as slipping grades, missing assignments, and a teen who suddenly seems checked out. In this episode, Ashley breaks down what's actually happening underneath the slump — hint: it's not laziness — and gives you a simple audit to run in your own home over the next two weeks so you can catch the pattern before it becomes a crisis. In this episode: Why October is the month teachers can predict, but parents can't see coming The real root of the slump  The specific executive function skills behind the "checked out" behavior A step-by-step audit to run at home this week The three ways to work with Ashley this fall Links & Resources: Work with Ashley [Confident & Connected: The Blueprint for Parents of Teens]   Remember: you are not alone, and you are not behind. Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.

    64: The October 'Slump' is Coming: What You Need to Have on Your Radar

  8. Sep 7

    63: Three Practices That Give You (& Your Teen) Your Time and Energy Back

    EP. 63: Three Practices That Give You (& Your Teen) Your Time and Energy Back We talk a lot about relationships and skills — the two things that can help you solve almost any challenge with your teen. But underneath both of those is something more foundational. Your daily rhythm. The practices you fold into your routine from the moment you wake up — through the day, the evening, and into the next morning — that determine how regulated, present, and resourced you actually are when life demands the most from you. Because here's what I've noticed after nearly two decades of this work: the parents who get the best results aren't the ones with the most time or the least on their plates. They're the ones who make a decision. Who say yes to certain things and no to others. Who build the structure that creates more freedom — not less. In this episode I'm sharing three practices I consider genuinely non-negotiable. Not as a rigid checklist. As a living structure that gives you and your teen more time, more energy, and more of the connection you actually want. In This Episode, You'll Learn 3 Practices that set you up from the moment you wake up to the moment your head hits the pillow. Each one ensures:  You're able to decrease stress, and practice self-regulation You've prioritized your time and energy for what actually matters You have modeled to your teen the power of decision-making to compound good habits Other things mentioned in this episode: Ashley's Fave Functional Fitness workout: https://www.pvolve.com/ Join Ashley LIVE for 'Confident & Connected: The Blueprint for Parents of Teens' who are ready for unbreakable connection, motivation that doesn't require nagging, and trust when they walk out the door: www.theteenageguide.com/blueprint - Next round September 8 - 10th!  Three Ways to Work With Ashley — THRIVE Three Ways: www.theteenageguide.com/workwithashley

    63: Three Practices That Give You (& Your Teen) Your Time and Energy Back
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You're doing more and getting less — managing harder, reminding louder, trying every approach you know. And somewhere underneath the exhaustion is a version of you who feels more connected to your teen, not more depleted by them. Hosted by Ashley Chandler — dual-credentialed educator with nearly two decades in adolescent development — this show is where parents of teens get the real toolkit: not just tips for better grades or fewer blowups, but the relationship-first approach that makes both inevitable. Because the relationship is the intervention. Never underestimate the power you have as the parent.

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  • Creator
    Ashley Chandler
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2026
  • Episodes
    71
  • Rating
    Explicit
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    © 2026 The Teenage Guide
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