Talking Emotions

Teddy Stripling
  • 5.0 (4)
  • MENTAL HEALTH

Talking Emotions is a podcast centered on exploring theory, research, and practice on the importance of emotional growth. This podcast is for teenagers, young adults, and parents and mental health providers that support them. The goal is to explore important ideas to improve interpersonal relationships and personal well being.To suggest ideas for new episodes on Talking Emotions visit the website: https://present-mind.org/podcast/

  1. 6D AGO

    E28: How Shame and ProBeing Impact Our Relationships

    Dr. Benau explores relational trauma and how shame and pride influence connecting with others. He highlights his research, professional experience, and personal stories to highlight how we can transcend shame to connect with others. Guest: Dr. Ken Benau Ph.D. has been a licensed clinical psychologist since 1990, and maintains a private practice in Kensington, CA, located in the San Francisco Bay Area. Dr. Benau has expertise in working with children and adults with various learning and developmental differences, including those living with LD, ADHD and Autism Spectrum Disorder. He has a special interest and expertise in shame and pride-informed psychotherapy with survivors of relational trauma. Dr. Benau has presented his ideas about shame, pride, and dissociation and their therapeutic applications in psychotherapy with relational trauma survivors at various international conferences, webinars and podcasts. He has also written several peer reviewed articles with that same theme, where he introduced the concept and phenomena of pro-being pride, a powerful antidote to traumatic shame states. Pro-being pride is the experience of taking delight in one’s unique ways of being and relating to oneself, others, and in the world. Dr. Benau’s book, Shame, Pride, and Relational Trauma: Concepts and Psychotherapy, was published by Routledge in March, 2022. To learn more about Dr. Benau, please visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/ken-benau-kensington-ca/279286 5:00  – Work History – Understanding Pride and Pro-Being 7:30 – Concepts – Relational Trauma 9:00 – Concept – How Pro-Being, Shame, and Pride Interact 11:30 – Concept – Attunement, Rupture, and Repair 14:50 – Concept – The Good Enough Parent (D.W. Winnicott) 20:30 – Concept – How Ignoring Can Lead to Relational Trauma 21:20 – Concept – How Shame Can Show in Relationships 22:30 – Idea – Shame State 25:00 – Idea – How Does Shame Show Up: Perfectionism, Anger, Anxiety 30:00 – Concept – Guilt vs. Shame 34:50 – Adult Strategy – Verbalize and Show Non-Judgement 36:30 – Concept – Shame is Protective 37:25 – Strategies to Heal from Shame – Building Connections 42:45 – Concept – The Emotional Bank 45:40 – Strategies to Heal from Shame – Building Confidence 48:30 – Strategies to Heal from Shame – Listening 50:00 – Idea – Affects are on a Spectrum (Sylvan Thompkins) 52:30 – Parent Strategies for ProBeing – Curiosity Around Parenting 52:30 – Parent Strategies for ProBeing – Building Connections 58:30 – Student Strategies for ProBeing – Watching for How People Make Connections 68:00 – Previous Episode – Purpose & Happiness (Tracy Bower) 69:00 – Personal Wellness Strategies – Hanging with Friends Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ Open Concept: https://opencontact.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    1h 12m

  2. DEC 1

    E27: Mentorship To Spark Engement & Connection

    Ashley Leonard highlights her extensive experience leading mentoring programs in chicago, and how it builds connection and belonging in students and teachers. We explore the benefits of mentoring and its relationship to improved academic and emotional outcomes for adolescents. Guest: Ashley Leonard. Education for 23 years. Counselor at Langston Hughes in Roseland Neighborhood of Chicago, IL. She has been a counselor for 15 years. Program Ambassador for Erika's Lighthouse. Speaks for their program which is free. Also do part time therapy, at Olive Branch Associates.  To connect with Ashley, please email: aleonard3@uchicago.edu To learn more about mentoring, please explore the following: https://toandthrough.uchicago.edu/research Timestamps: 4:00 – Personal Story – What Led You to Exploring Mentorship? 7:30 – Concept – Social Capital to Connect to Experiences 9:45 – Personal Story – How did you start the To & Through Program? 13:15 – Concept – Adolescence is the 2nd Most Important for Child development 13:15 – Research - Life course epidemiology: recognizing the importance of adolescence (Viner et al., 2015) 17:22 – Concept – What can mentorship look like in a high school? 18:30 – Concept – Mentors Need Understanding Adolescent Issues 19:22 – Concept – Mentors Benefit from Encouraging While Having High Expectations 20:00 – Concept – Mentoring Takes Time Commitment 21:20 – Benefits – Relationships (Belonging) are the Foundation for Success Academically 22:00 – Research - The University of Chicago Consortium on School Research - Foundations for Young Adult Success Report 22:00 – Research - The University of Chicago Consortium on School Research - Investing in Adolescents 24:20 – Strategy – Strength Based Conferences 27:00 – Research –  The Impact of Student–Teacher Relationships on Black Middle School Boys (Leverett et al., 2022) 28:30 – Student Strategy – Finding Mentors – Ask For Help! 28:30 – Parent Strategy – Exploring Mentors – Formal Mentorship Programs Help, Especially for Post-Secondary Work 34:20 – Parent Strategy – Exploring Mentors – Ask Other Parents about Partnerships 38:30 – Student Strategy – Build Your Board of Directors 46:00 – Idea – How to Start a Mentorship Program 47:10 – Personal Strategy – Music & Walks Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ Korey Wade:  @koreywade / @sphereofhiphop Available now wherever you stream/download music. Bandcamp: https://sphereofhiphop.bandcamp.com To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    51 min

  3. NOV 15

    E26: Tribalism & Connecting with Others

    Dr. Cottone explores the ideas of tribalism and how it offers benefits and drawbacks around human connection. He emphasizes how identifying with a group can help people connect, survive, and have positive feelings, while having the potential to harm others. Guest: John G. Cottone, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice and clinical assistant professor of psychiatry within the Renaissance School of Medicine at Stony Brook University. His research—on psychotherapy outcome, executive functioning and the neurological correlates of schizophrenia—has been published in acclaimed peer-reviewed journals, including Archives of General Psychiatry, Psychotherapy, and Journal for the Scientific Study of Religion. He has a youtube channel called MindCube 3D. He has contributed to Psychology Today, The New York Times, and The Washington Post and is the author of several books included: Who Are You? Essential Questions for Hitchhikers on the Road of Truth and Z-score: How a Statistic Used in Psychology Will Revolutionize Baseball. To learn more about Dr. Cottone, please visit: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-cube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcuWgaynspx77K4vavXIRfw mindcube3d@gmail.com Timestamps: 5:00  – Personal Story – What Brought Dr. Cottone into Exploring Tribalism 8:00 – Personal Story – Stepping Outside Tribes 8:55 – Book – Sapiens : a brief history of humankind (Harari, 2014) 9:30 – Reference – Tribalism: How to Be a Part of the Solution, Not the Problem (Cottone, 2025) 10:20 – Concept – Impact of Critiquing Your Own Tribe (Truthtellers and Traitors) 12:00 – Research – ‘They Saw a Protest’: Cognitive Illiberalism and the Speech-Conduct Distinction (Kanahan et al., 2011) 13:50 – Concept – Our Fist Tribe is Our Family 17:30 – Concept – Tribalism & Resources/Survival 17:47 – Research – Threat and the Rise of Fear Politics and Tribalism (Hobfoll, 2019) 19:00 – Concept – What Can Tribalism Look Like Day to Day? 22:10 – Research – Being part of a group can create positive feelings (Research) 23:40 – Benefit – You Can Make Connections with Other People in New Places 26:30 – Benefit – Decrease Loneliness, Increased Feelings of Empowerment 28:00 – Concept – Positive Benefits of Tribalism 29:50 – Concept – Options to Act on the Excesses of Your Tribe  34:00 – Dangers – Turning a Blind Eye to Your Tribe (Denial) 37:00 – Concept – How to Sit with Cognitive Dissonance from Your Tribe 42:30 – Student Strategies – Being Flexible to Making New Connections 51:30 – Story – Story of Shibboleth & Tribalism 54:50 – Parent Strategies – Emphasize Time and Perspective 58:00 – Research – Social connection as a key target for youth mental health (Birrell et al., 2025) 64:00 – Emotional Practice – Meditation & Spirituality Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ DJsNeverEndingStory: https://djsneverendingstory.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    1h 12m

  4. NOV 1

    E25: Resilience w/ Audra Lancaster (In Practice)

    In this In Practice Episode, Audra leads a conversation about Resilience, emphasizing the power of stories to explore resilience. She shares her professional stories helping parents and teens to create safe spaces for resiliency in stressful situations.  Guest: Audra Lancaster is a District leader for school counselors in the State of Virginia.  Audra is an accomplished VCU graduate with a master's degree in Education, School Counseling. She has returned to VCU in pursuit of her Ph.D. in Counselor Education and Supervision to continue her lifelong work in providing comprehensive services and leadership in this field. With over 16 years in education, both in K-12 and Higher Education, Audra has worked intensively to serve her community as a counselor, educator, advocate, leader, and administrator (district leader in the state of VA). Along the way, she has supported her students, families, clients, and colleagues as they set out to grow personally and professionally. Audra currently serves as the district leader for School Counseling in a large school district in the US. To learn more about Audra Lancaster, please visit: https://www.noirecoaching.com/coach Timestamps: 4:30 – Personal Story – What Connected Audra to Exploring Resilience 7:00 – Concepts – Important Ideas on Resilience 9:10 – Idea – How to Create Spaces for Resilience 12:30 – Research - Pain and emotion: a biopsychosocial review of recent research (Lumley et al., 2012) 13:20 – Concept – Responding Differently to the Same Difficulties 15:30 – Themes for Resilience Skills – Community, Opportunities, Choice 19:50 – Parent Strategies – Creating Safety to Explore Options and Next Steps 25:30 – Professional Story – A Professional Story on Resilience in Real Time 32:10 – Student Strategies – Using Your Support Network (Co-Regulation) 33:10 – Student Strategies – Having A Community 35:00 – Book - Restorative Circles in Schools: A Practical Guide for Educators - Second Edition 35:00 – Concept – Building Community to Navigate Future Distress 37:30 – Professional Story – Building Connections to Have Support 40:00 – Concept – No One Size Fits all for Resilience 42:00 – Concept – Nuance in Resilience 45:00 – Research - Population vs Individual Prediction of Poor Health From Results of Adverse Childhood Experiences Screening (Baldwin et al., 2021) 46:00 – Concept – ACEs score is limited in predicting poor health at the individual level 49:00 – Concept – Parenting Changes Developmentally from Providing Safety to Providing Skills 52:00 – Research – Effectiveness of resilience-based interventions in schools for adolescents: a systematic review and meta-analysis (Llistosella et al., 2023) 53:00 – Personal Strategy – Connection w/ People Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ Gas Lab: https://gas-lab.bandcamp.com/music To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    58 min

  5. OCT 15

    E24: Navigating Intimacy & Sex

    Dr. Hanek explores the importance of vulnerability and how it can show up in sex and intimacy. She explores how this area of life is extremely important for discovering adulthood and establishing healthy relationships Guest: Dr. Bailey Hanek is the co-author of Navigating Intimacy: An Introductory Guide to Couples and Sex Therapy. She focuses her work on sex therapy, where he co-author focuses on relationships and communication. She has trained in a variety of behavioral health settings, providing individual, couple, and family therapy, as well as testing services. To learn more about Dr. Bailey Hanek, please visit: https://www.centralsquarepsych.com/ drhanek@centralsquarepsych.com Timestamps: 4:20 – Concept – What makes talking about sex hard? 6:25 – Idea – Vulnerability and Talking About Sex 8:00 – Idea – The Golden Rule of Sex 11:20 – Previous Episode – E17: Consent and Becoming an Adult 13:10 – Concepts – Cultured and Gendered Scripts for Vulnerability 16:00 – Concepts – Scripts Get in the Way of What Individually Desire 18:00 – Concepts – Challenging Assumptions about Desire Based on Identity 21:10 – Concepts – Dialogue and Talking About Desire 27:00 – Concepts – Comfort and Desire 29:00 – Concepts – Fear of Shame and Vulnerability 31:30 – Personal Strategies for Vulnerability – Layout a Gameplan / A Desire Menu 31:30 – Personal Strategies for Vulnerability – Debrief After the Act 37:00 – Personal Strategies – Roses and Thorns 38:00 – Barriers to Vulnerability – Shame 40:00 – Barriers to Vulnerability – Differences & Incompatibility 43:00 – Parent Strategies – Changing Perspective From Fear to Pleasure & Safety 46:45 – Parent Strategies – Normalizing STI Screening 50:00 – Story – How Dr. Hanek Found This Work 53:40 – Debunking Sex Myths – #1: Men Have a Higher Sex Drive 54:20 – Debunking Sex Myths – #2: Sex is not a Drive, It’s a Motivated Behavior 55:00 – Debunking Sex Myths - #3: You Can Influence Sexual Desire 56:00 – Book -  Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski 57:40 – Debunking Sex Myths – #4: Level of Desire is Related to Attraction 54:20 – Debunking Sex Myths – #5: Sex is not a Drive, It’s a Motivated Behavior 60:00 – Personal Strategies for Wellness - Gardening Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ Stan Forebee: https://stanforebee.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    1h 4m

  6. OCT 1

    E23: Depression Education in Schools w/ Tiffany Ruffin (In Practice)

    In this In Practice Episode, Tiffany explores how talking about depression education is helpful for supporting children. She serves as an ambassador tor Erika's Lighthouse, which she uses in schools to talk with kids about depression . Guest: Tiffany Ruffin. Education for 23 years. Counselor at Langston Hughes in Roseland Neighborhood of Chicago, IL. She has been a counselor for 15 years. Program Ambassador for Erika's Lighthouse. Speaks for their program which is free. Also do part time therapy, at Olive Branch Associates.  To learn more about Tiffany or Erika's Lighthouse, please visit: https://erikaslighthouse.org/ https://www.olivebranchcounselingassociates.com/ Timestamps: 2:00 - Story - How Tiffany Landed in Education 3:30 - Personal Story - How Struggling with Depression Helped Tiffany Professionally 10:30 - Struggles - What were things Tiffany's students struggled with 15:20 – Research – Talking About Suicide [Reference] 16:00 – Personal Definition – Depression 17:00 – Helpful Strategies – Talking About Depression 18:30 – Helpful Strategies – Support & Compassion for Students Struggling 19:52 – Research – Benefits of Connection – XXX 21:30 – Helpful Family Strategies – Talking About Mental Health 26:00 – Helpful Strategies – Partnering with Teachers 28:30 – Classroom Strategies – Recharge Cards to Reset the Classroom 31:00 – Classroom Strategies – Connecting Stories 35:15 – Approaches – Everyone Can Teach Mental Health 35:40 – School Strategies – School Clubs Focusing on Mental Health 38:20 – Concept – Exploring Suicide in Schools 39:00 – Statistics – Correlation of Suicides and Undiagnosed Mental Health 40:45 – Concept – Taking Peoples Comments about Depression Seriously 42:00 – Goal -Seeking Help is the Goal of Depression Education 45:00 – Student Strategies – Evaluate Friend Circle 47:30 – Student Strategies – Being Open To Listen 49:30 – Parent Strategies – Self-Awareness + Creating Open Parent Spaces on Difficulties 55:15 – Personal Strategy – House Hunters + Big Bang Theory 56:00 – Personal Strategy – Laughing Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ zendo: https://zendobeats.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    59 min

  7. SEP 15

    E22: Food Choice and Mental Health

    Martin explores ideas related to food consumption and it's implications on mental health. He explores his extensive knowledge of literature on the topic and his own experiences to highlight a insightful new approach to food and wellness. Guest: Martin Pytela became a health coach after overcoming serious health challenges. Martin traded his career as a management consultant for building a health coach business called Life Enthusiast and a superfood manufacturing business called Exsula. To learn more about Martin, please visit: Website: https://www.life-enthusiast.com/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/c/MartinPytela Instagram: @lifeenthusiast15 To learn more about metabolic typing, please explore the following: The Metabolic Typing Diet by William L. Wolcott Timestamps: 4:30 - History - Peposdent Advertising Campaigns (1920s) 4:45 - Personal Story - How Martin's Health Declined 10:45 - Book - The Metabolic Typing Diet by William L. Wolcott 11:45 - Concept - Metabolizing Carbs vs. Fats 16:30 - Concept - Biological Individuality 19:45 - Concept - Understanding How Food Impacts Your Body 22:30 - Example - Understanding How Alcohol Influences Your Metabolic Type 25:40 - Concept - The Microbiome and Neurotransmitters 26:00 - Concept - Chlorine and Roundup and Their Impact on the Microbiome 30:30 - Review - The Gut Microbiome and Its Role in Obesity (Davis, 2017) 32:00 - Concepts - Prebiotics and Post-biotics 38:10 - History - Subsidies of Corn, Wheat, & Soybean 39:00 - Strategy - Don't Follow Your Taste Buds 39:50 - Healthy Food Strategies - Avoid Refined Food 40:50 - Healthy Food Strategies - Avoid Refined Seed Oils 40:50 - Healthy Food Strategies - Avoid Refined Food 42:00 - Recipe - Romaine Burrito 45:00 - Self-Discovery - Learning About Your Metabolic Type 47:50 - Personal Story - Martin's Developing Wheat Allergy & The Hybridization of Wheat 57:00 - Personal Strategy - Meditation + Gratitude Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ Soii: https://soii.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    1h 1m

  8. AUG 15

    E21: Do We All Have to Go to College? STEM & Non-College Pathways

    Dr. Cole explores alternative routes to education. He explores the idea that all student need to go to college, unpacking the opportunities that exist for young adults who want to learn skills outside the traditional post high school route. Guest: Dr. Steven Cole. Retired educators for 46 years in education. Steven worked in school administration,  and also public and private education settings in Kansas City. He has been at the Universal Technical Institute for the last 14 years, currently as the National Director of High School Development.  To learn more about Dr. Cole, please visit: Email: scoyle@uti.edu Instagram: stevecoyle2793 Website: www.uti.edu Timestamps: 4:30 - Personal Story - How Steven Found his Role 6:00 - Idea - Rule of 1-2-7 8:00 - History - Griggs vs. Duke Power & Energy 401 U.S. 424 (1971) 10:40 - Stats - 1/2 of all college graduates are no using their degree 14:00 - Idea - Underrepresentation of Women in High Skilled Trades or STEM 16:20 - Idea - Practical Non-College STEM Pathways 17:50 - Professional Pathways - What are ways of entering STEM career opportunities 20:00 - Adult Strategy - Ideas for Exploring Careers: Give Presentations 20:00 - Student Strategy - Ideas for Exploring Careers: Explore Careers & Technical Businesses 23:00 - Career Theory - Gottfredson Theory of Circumscription and Compromise 24:40 - Parent Strategy - Exploring Career Ideas: Pay Attention to What Your Kids are Good At 26:10 - Parent Strategy - Exploring Career Ideas: Know What Your Kids Can Handle 30:30 - Unknown Careers - Non-Destructive Technician, Wind Turbine Technician, Diesel Technicians 38:00 - Personal Stories - Exploring Passions and Careers 44:30 - Personal Strategy - Taking Time for Self Special thanks to musical artists: Psalm Trees: https://psalmtreesbeats.bandcamp.com/ G Mills: https://gmills.bandcamp.com/ To provide suggestions for new topics in future episodes, visit: present-mind.org/podcast

    50 min
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Talking Emotions is a podcast centered on exploring theory, research, and practice on the importance of emotional growth. This podcast is for teenagers, young adults, and parents and mental health providers that support them. The goal is to explore important ideas to improve interpersonal relationships and personal well being.To suggest ideas for new episodes on Talking Emotions visit the website: https://present-mind.org/podcast/

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  • Creator
    Teddy Stripling
  • Years Active
    2024 - 2025
  • Episodes
    28
  • Rating
    Clean
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    © 2025 Talking Emotions
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