夏冰雹的播客

夏冰雹的播客

大家好,我是夏冰雹,一名英语教育视频创作者,也是一名终身学习者。在“夏冰雹的播客”中,我将与你分享我的个人读书感悟,一起探索书中的智慧,激励我们活出自己想要的人生。

  1. Oct 9

    全英Talk|人生主体性:既享受选择的红利,也承担对应的代价

    转录脚本: I think a lot of anxiety and pain actually come from 我觉得很多焦虑和痛苦其实都源于the fact that we all want the benefits of a choice 我们总想只享受选择带来的好处without accepting the downside that comes with it.却不愿接受随之而来的代价You know, trade offs are unavoidable.要知道 取舍是不可避免的A few months ago, I delivered a lecture at a local college, 几个月前 我在本地一所大学做讲座and a student came up to me and asked a question.有个学生走过来问了我一个问题She said, 她说Are there any high paying jobs that are close to home, 有没有那种离家近that don't offer too much work, 活儿又不多and that offer me less stress, 压力还小and give me some control over my free time.还能自由支配时间的高薪工作Well, I think you are a perfectionist.嗯 我觉得你是个完美主义者And I said that's an impossible triangle.我说那是个不可能三角You know, high paying jobs are usually 你知道 高薪工作通常associated with greater responsibility, 伴随着更大的责任longer hours, more stress, and, of course, 更长的工作时间 更大的压力 当然a lot of complexities of human nature.还有复杂的人性If you move up a cooperate ladder, 如果你在公司里往上爬become a senior manager, 成了高级经理you will face a lot of headaches.你会面临一大堆头疼的事You probably see lawyers 你大概见过律师working about 15 hours every day in the office, 每天在办公室工作差不多15个小时and investment bankers work about 100 hours every week 而投行的人每周工作约100个小时in order to generate revenues. Right?就为了创造收益 对吧But if you prefer slower life 但如果你偏爱慢生活and live close to your parents in a small town, 在小城镇里 住在离父母不远的地方you have to tolerate the trade-offs, 你就得接受一些取舍like fewer job opportunities, 比如工作机会少一些fewer professional connections, 职业人脉窄一些and slower income growth.收入增长也慢一些That's the cost you have to pay for that choice. Right?这就是你为那个选择付出的代价 对吧Another example is being a civil servant.再比如当公务员Some young people pass the fierce competition 有些年轻人一路过关斩将to become a civil servant in China, 才在国内当上公务员working for the bureaucratic organizations like governments. 在政府这类体制内单位工作Your family probably wants you to become part of the system 你家人大概就盼着你进入体制in order to get stability, right?图个安稳You don't need to worry about your pension funds.你不用担心养老金的问题But once they get into the system, 但一旦他们进入体制内they'll complain about hierarchical structures and strict rules 就会抱怨等级森严 规矩繁多and a lack of personal flexibility.而且缺乏个人灵活性You have to be really careful about the things you say 你说话得格外小心and sometimes you have to deal with politics, power struggles.有时还得应付办公室政治和权力斗争That's the price you have to pay for a stable job.这就是你为一份稳定工作要付出的代价This also reminded me 这也让我想起了of a private message I received from a follower.一位粉丝给我发的私信She wanted to have a gap year by staying at home with her parents, 她想在家跟父母待着 过个间隔年but her parents was always criticizing her 但她的父母总是批评她for not getting a job, 不找工作relying on family's financial support.还靠家里接济So my response would be 所以我的建议是if you know that your parents are not satisfied with your choice 如果你知道父母对你的选择不满意and you want to stay at home, 而你又想待在家里you probably have to tolerate their behaviors, right?那你可能就得忍受他们的言行You have to tolerate their criticisms.你得忍受他们的批评If you don't want to confront their complaints, 如果你不想面对他们的抱怨and you want them to shut up and respect you, 想让他们闭嘴并尊重你then try to find a way to move out 那就想办法搬出去and become financially independent.实现经济独立So the choices in front of you are quite clear.所以你面前的选择其实很清晰You cannot have both loving parents 你不可能同时拥有爱你的父母and easy financial support at the same time.和轻松的经济支持This is unrealistic, right?这不现实 对吧We have to remember that every lifestyle has a price.我们必须记住 每种生活方式都有代价In economics, it's often called opportunity cost.在经济学里 这通常被称为机会成本If you want to gain something, 如果你想得到什么you have to give up something else.就必须放弃另一些东西You cannot optimize everything at the same time.你不可能同时优化所有方面And a decision with no downsides 而一个没有任何坏处的决定cannot be defined as a decision.根本不能称之为决定It's just pure wish or hope.那只是纯粹的幻想或愿望Only scammers will offer you perfect choices 只有骗子才会给你提供完美的选择that are too perfect to be true.完美得不像真的I think young people can combine idealism and realism.我觉得年轻人可以把理想主义和现实主义结合起来We can call ourselves idealistic realists.我们可以称自己为理想的现实主义者So mature thinking is not about 所以 成熟的思想不在于getting all the benefits without giving anything up.只享其成 不付代价It's about asking yourself a deep, fundamental question:而在于问自己一个深刻的根本问题What matters most to me? 对我来说 什么最重要And what am I willing to give up for it?为了它 我愿意放弃什么And, you know, there's no perfect choice, no perfect path.而且 你知道 没有完美的选择 也没有完美的道路You always have to analyze your costs and benefits, 你总得分析你的成本和收益and the prices you have to pay for a particular choice.以及你为某个特定选择必须付出的代价So ask yourself, 所以问问自己which price is worth paying for the life I want?为了想要的生活 哪个代价值得付出

    全英Talk|人生主体性:既享受选择的红利,也承担对应的代价
  2. Jun 21

    全英Talk|100%坚持,远比98%坚持更容易

    转录文字: It is actually easier to hold your principles 100 percent of the time 坚持原则百分之百不动摇 than it is to hold them 98 percent of the time. 反而比坚持百分之九十八更容易 This is a life lesson provided by 这是哈佛商学院前教授  a former Harvard business professor Clayton Christensen 克莱顿·克里斯坦森的人生箴言 And professor Christensen  克里斯坦森教授本人 also graduated from Harvard University many decades ago. 也是数十年前从哈佛毕业的校友 He had seen his classmates and alumni  他目睹了许多同窗和校友 becoming very successful in their careers. 在事业上取得巨大成功 Many of them became CEOs or CFOs of important organizations 不少人成为知名企业的CEO或CFO and they married someone who were better-looking than them. 还娶到了颜值远超自己的伴侣 But decades later, things started to change. 但几十年后 情况开始发生变化 Many successful Harvard graduates ended up in prisons 许多哈佛大学的优秀毕业生最终锒铛入狱 because they fell into huge troubles  因为他们陷入了巨大的麻烦 like financial scandals, insider trading scandals,  比如财务丑闻 内幕交易丑闻 or even sex scandals. 甚至性丑闻 They had many life crises  他们遭遇了诸多人生危机 and some of them had divorces. 其中一些人还经历了离婚 The idea of "just this once" 这种"就这一次"的想法 has put a lot of young, talented, smart people 让许多年轻有为的聪明人 in dangerous positions. 陷入了危险境地 And he emphasized in his book that 他在书中特别强调 most of us think that important ethical decisions in our lives  我们大多数人都以为人生中重要的道德抉择 will be delivered with a blinking red neon sign: 会伴随着闪烁的红色霓虹灯警示出现 Caution, important decision ahead. 注意 前方有重要抉择 The problem is life seldom works that way. 问题是人生往往不按套路出牌 It comes with no warning signs. 它总是悄然而至毫无预兆 Instead, most of us will face  相反 大多数人要面对的 a series of small everyday decisions 是日常生活中一连串的小选择 that rarely seem like they have high stakes attached. 看似无关紧要实则暗藏玄机 You know,  要知道 the marginal cost of bending your rule just one time 破例一次的边际成本 seems really trivial, 看似微不足道 but the likelihood of you  但重蹈覆辙的 doing it over and over again is pretty high. 概率却相当高 Once you open the door for it,  一旦你开了这个口子 you will continue doing that wrong thing.  就会在错误的路上越走越远 And in the end, you'll pay the price of it,  最终必将自食其果 and the price might be unbearable. 而代价可能是无法承受的 So personally, I cannot agree more with this idea. 所以个人而言 我完全赞同这个观点 You know, I have seen  要知道 我见过 many smart kids at prestigious universities. 很多名校的聪明孩子 They were completely  他们明明完全 capable of achieving great academic success, 有能力取得优异的学术成就 but they decided to take shortcuts  却选择走捷径 and even cheated on exams.  甚至在考试中作弊 But the consequence of that cheating behavior,  但这种作弊行为的后果 even though many young people see it as trivial or unimportant,  尽管很多年轻人觉得微不足道 can come with you forever. 可能会伴随你一生 In the end,  最终 those cheating students were kicked out of school. 那些作弊的学生都被开除了学籍 They didn't get a degree 连学位都没拿到 and no school or employer would hire them 没有学校或雇主愿意聘用他们 because they've already lost their reputation. 因为他们已经名誉扫地 And you know this is just a small example 要知道这还只是个小例子 and life comes with a lot of temptations  生活中充满各种诱惑 and tricky circumstances.  和棘手的情况 And in your 20s or 30s,  在二三十岁的年纪 you will encounter many tricky circumstances. 你会遇到许多棘手处境 So for example, 举个例子 when I was working  当我还在 as a business operator and also educator at a large company, 一家大公司担任业务运营兼教育工作者时 our supervisor asked our team  主管要求我们团队 to produce a marketing video of a ordinary young teacher  制作一个普通青年教师 becoming a successful principal on the campus. 逆袭成为校园成功校长的宣传视频 So as a previous journalist,  作为一名前新闻记者 the first thing I did was to check the fact,  我做的第一件事就是核实事实 whether there was a real person behind the story.  确认这个故事背后是否真有其人 And I asked employees  我询问了 who worked at that company for many years 在那家公司工作多年的员工 And I couldn't find the real person behind it. 但始终找不到故事的原型人物 Then I had a very fierce argument with my supervisor. 随后我与主管爆发了激烈争执 I said, "if there's a real person behind the story,  我说  如果故事有真实原型 we can reproduce the scenes. 我们可以还原现场 If there's no real person behind it,  如果没有真实人物 we cannot create fake news. 就不能制造假新闻 This is fake news."  这就是假新闻 And I said, 'I'm out. 最后我表示  我退出 I will not be part of this program."  不会参与这个项目 So at that moment, it definitely took me courage 那一刻 我确实需要鼓起勇气 to say this out loud in front of my team.  才能在团队面前大声说出这些话 But I never regret it.  但我从未后悔 Because I know if i'm going to have a long career  因为我知道 如果我想在 in the media industry or the education industry, 传媒行业或教育行业长期发展 trust is the most valuable asset I can have. 信任就是我最宝贵的资产 I will never sacrifice my professional reputation  我绝不会为了某个小项目 for that small project or for short term interests.  或短期利益牺牲职业声誉 In your life,  人生路上 making hard decisions that align with your values 做出符合价值观的艰难抉择 is more important than any kind of short term interests.  远比任何短期利益都重要 The idea of just this once can actually 这种就这一次的想法  lead you down the path that you never want to go. 可能会让你走上一条不归路 On the other hand, 另一方面 if you are able to hold your principles 100 percent of the time, 如果你能始终如一地坚守原则 you can save a lot of mental energy and time.  就能节省大量精力和时间 You can devote your time and energy  你可以把时间和精力 to more important things in  your life. 投入到人生更重要的事情上 So for young people who are watching this video,  所以观看这个视频的年轻人 never ever bend your rule.  永远不要打破自己的原则 Think about what is right, what is wrong 明辨是非对错 and know your values, 清楚自己的价值观 know your principles and know what you stand for. 坚守你的原则和立场 If you give in to just this once,  如果纵容自己 就这一次 you will regret where you end up. 你会后悔自己最终的下场 Many politicians didn't start out as bad people. 很多政客最初并非坏人 They were willing to sacrifice themselves for the country  他们曾愿意为国家牺牲自我 to serve the country,  报效祖国 but in the end, because of wrong decisions,  但最终却因决策失误 they ended up being corrupt.  沦为了腐败分子 And many young athletes  还有那些 who were well respected by young people around the world 备受全球年轻人尊重的年轻运动员 suddenly got caught up abusing drugs 突然深陷滥用药物的丑闻 And you've seen  你也见过 many young celebrities who were beautiful 许多光鲜亮丽的年轻明星 and who were worshipped by fans around the world  被全球粉丝追捧崇拜 suddenly lost their reputation overnight.  却在一夜之间身败名裂 So if you want to have a happy, stable life  如果你想拥有幸福安稳的生活 and long term success, 和长远的成功 hold your principles,  就要坚守原则 not just sometimes, but all the time. 不是偶尔坚持 而是始终如一 So here's a quote I want to read to you from the book 我想给大家念一段书中的话 How Will You Measure Your Life?  来自《如何衡量你的人生》 Look, I know that as a general rule,  听着 我知道按常理 most people shouldn't do this, 大多数人都不该这么做 but in this particular extenuating circumstance,  但在这种特殊情有可原的情况下 just this once, it's okay.  就破例一次 没关系的 And the voice in our head seems to be right. 而我们内心的声音似乎很有道理 The price of doing something wrong just this once 偶尔犯错的代价 usually appears alluringly low.  往往看起来诱人地低廉 It suckers you in  它会让你鬼迷心窍 and you don't see where that path is ultimately headed 而你却看不清这条路的最终归宿 or the full cost that the choice entails. 也不明白这个选择要付出的全部代价

    全英Talk|100%坚持,远比98%坚持更容易

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大家好,我是夏冰雹,一名英语教育视频创作者,也是一名终身学习者。在“夏冰雹的播客”中,我将与你分享我的个人读书感悟,一起探索书中的智慧,激励我们活出自己想要的人生。

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