Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change

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Welcome to the Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change podcast! We are actual therapists helping clients who sit on our couches every day through their difficulties of divorce. Whether you're contemplating separation, in a divorce, or looking for support post-divorce, our episodes provide expert guidance, stories, and strategies to help you through every step of the process.

  1. Oct 20

    Answering Listener Questions: Part 2

    The listener questions keep coming, and we're back with Part 2! In this episode of Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change, we tackle more real questions from divorced parents navigating co-parenting, changing family relationships, and the challenges their children may be experiencing. From deciding when kids should have a say in parenting decisions to explaining why you're not friends with your ex's new partner, we explore how to give children a voice without placing adult responsibilities on their shoulders. We also discuss what to do when your child shares concerns about emotional mistreatment at their other parent's home and why a child might experience anxiety or physical complaints even when they say everything is fine in both homes. Throughout the conversation, we focus on what parents can control, how to create emotional safety, and ways to help children navigate the challenges of living between two homes.

    Answering Listener Questions: Part 2

  2. Oct 13

    100 Episodes! Answering Your Biggest Divorce & Co-Parenting Questions

    For our 100th episode, we’re doing something a little different. Michael Flores, LPC-S, Jinohn Marr, LMFT, Armando Martinez, LPC, and Arrianna Cervantes, LPC-Associate, sit down together to answer real questions submitted by listeners about co-parenting, conflict, and helping children adjust after divorce. The team tackles what to do when a co-parent refuses to work with you, how to respond when the “goalpost” keeps moving, what happens when children begin experiencing a parent differently than you hoped, and how to respond when a newly separated teen doesn’t want to spend time with their other parent. Throughout the conversation, they return to a familiar theme: focus on what you can control, stay curious about what your child is experiencing, and give kids a voice without giving them the burden of the choice. Thank you for listening, sharing, and growing with us for 100 episodes of Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change. We’re grateful you’re here—and we’re looking forward to continuing these conversations with you. Follow the show so you don’t miss episode 101 and beyond.

    100 Episodes! Answering Your Biggest Divorce & Co-Parenting Questions

  3. Oct 6

    When "I'm Fine" Doesn't Mean Fine: Dads, Daughters, and the Communication Gap

    Your daughter says she’s had a terrible day. You ask what happened, offer advice, or try to fix it—and suddenly she shuts down. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Arrianna Cervantes, LPC-Associate, explore the communication gap that can develop between dads and their preteen or teenage daughters. They discuss why a dad’s instinct to help can sometimes leave a daughter feeling unheard, even when both are ultimately looking for the same thing: connection. Michael and Arrianna share practical ways dads can slow down, get curious, and figure out what their daughter actually needs: Do you want me to listen, help, or give you some space? They also discuss defensiveness, emotional safety, and how moms can support the father-daughter relationship. Because the goal isn’t just getting your daughter to talk—it’s becoming someone she knows she can talk to when she’s ready. If Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change is helping you navigate your family after divorce, follow the show and leave us a rating. Send this episode to someone who could use the support and let them know they're not alone.

    When "I'm Fine" Doesn't Mean Fine: Dads, Daughters, and the Communication Gap

  4. Sep 29

    When Grandparents Get Pulled Into the Divorce

    Grandparents can be an incredible source of love, stability, and support for children during divorce—but what happens when they get pulled into the conflict too? In this episode, Arrianna Cervantes, LPC-Associate, and Armando Martinez, LPC, talk about the often-overlooked role grandparents play in a family navigating divorce. They explore how easily grandparents can become mediators, messengers, additional co-parents, or even another person taking sides—and how that can leave a child feeling like their family is becoming even more divided. Arrianna and Armando discuss how parents can set clearer boundaries with their own parents, what grandparents can do when they feel protective of their adult child, and why supporting a grandchild sometimes means choosing not to join the fight. Ultimately, grandparents don’t need to be the mediator, therapist, attorney, or co-parent. They have an important role of their own: being a safe, supportive grandparent and helping make it possible for that child to love their whole family without feeling like they have to choose sides. If Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change is helping you navigate your family after divorce, follow the show so you don’t miss an episode. And if you have a minute, leave us a rating—it helps more parents find these conversations when they need them.

    When Grandparents Get Pulled Into the Divorce

  5. Sep 22

    The Woodpecker Effect: How Parental Conflict Wears Down Your Child

    A teenager once described what conflict with a parent felt like using a powerful metaphor: he was the tree, and the parent was the woodpecker. One peck may not knock down a tree, but repeated pecking over time can weaken it until eventually it breaks. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Jinohn Marr, LMFT, use that metaphor to explore the subtle ways parental conflict can affect children—from a tone of voice or eye roll when the other parent is mentioned to questioning children after visits, sharing adult information, or trying to defend yourself against what the other parent has said. Michael and Jinohn also discuss what happens when those small “pecks” accumulate, how children may communicate the strain through their behavior, and why a parent's intent and impact aren't always the same. Most importantly, they talk about what happens after the tree has fallen. Repair is possible, but rebuilding trust takes more than one apology. It requires acknowledging your impact, taking responsibility for your part, and becoming consistent and predictable enough that your child can begin to trust something has truly changed. If Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change is helping you navigate your family after divorce, follow the show so you don’t miss an episode. And if you have a minute, leave us a rating—it helps more parents find these conversations when they need them.

    The Woodpecker Effect: How Parental Conflict Wears Down Your Child

  6. Sep 15

    Second Marriages: Building a Stronger Relationship After Divorce

    Getting remarried after divorce can feel like a fresh start—but it’s really the beginning of a different family system. You’re entering the relationship with experiences from your first marriage, and often with children, co-parenting relationships, financial responsibilities, traditions, and expectations already in place. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Armando Martinez, LPC, talk about why it’s important to look honestly at what you learned from your first marriage so you don’t simply repeat familiar patterns in a new relationship. Michael and Armando also explore the realities of blending families and finding the balance between investing in your new marriage and maintaining your relationship with your children. What role will a stepparent have? How will parenting responsibilities and traditions be handled? Where does your new partner fit within an existing co-parenting system? They discuss why having these conversations about expectations and roles before they become problems can help everyone find their place—and why building a stronger second marriage starts with self-awareness, vulnerability, communication, and a willingness to grow together. If you’re finding these conversations helpful, subscribe to Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change so you don’t miss a new episode. Each week, we’re having practical conversations about navigating relationships, parenting, and family life during and after divorce.

    Second Marriages: Building a Stronger Relationship After Divorce

  7. Sep 8

    How to Support Your Child in Counseling During Divorce

    When your child begins counseling during or after a divorce, you probably want to do everything you can to make sure it helps. But sometimes, even well-intentioned parents can unintentionally make the process harder. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Arrianna Cervantes, LPC-Associate, talk about how parents can collaborate with their child's counselor while still giving their child the space they need for therapy to work. Michael and Arrianna discuss why counseling should never be used as a punishment or threat, how questions like “Did you tell your counselor the truth?” can unintentionally cause children to filter what they share, and why parents should be careful not to prime children before sessions. They also explore the other side of collaboration: your child's counselor isn't there to investigate which parent is right or wrong. Parents can best support the process by being curious, open, and collaborative—sharing helpful information, remaining receptive when difficult things come up, and keeping the focus on helping their child rather than how they may be perceived by the counselor. Ultimately, counseling is meant to help children and families develop the tools they need outside of the therapy room. Michael and Arrianna explain how a strong parent-counselor partnership can help children feel more comfortable being themselves, strengthen communication at home, and allow counseling to become a resource for the family rather than another source of conflict. If you're finding these conversations helpful, subscribe to Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change so you don't miss an episode. Each week, we're sharing practical conversations to help parents better understand their children, navigate conflict, and move their families forward through divorce.

    How to Support Your Child in Counseling During Divorce

  8. Sep 1

    Your Child Shouldn't Have to Choose: Letting Kids Be Kids in Divorce

    Divorce changes a lot for children, but it shouldn’t require them to grow up too quickly. In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Jinohn Marr, LMFT, talk about how easily kids can begin carrying adult responsibilities during divorce—worrying about their parents’ feelings, feeling pressure to make big decisions, or believing they have to choose what is best for the family. Michael shares an important distinction: give your child a voice, not the burden of the choice. Kids can have opinions, hopes, and feelings while still knowing the adults are responsible for the adult decisions. Michael and Jinohn share three practical ways parents can help protect their child’s childhood. Instead of repeatedly asking what they want to change, try asking, “What do you hope stays the same?” Their school, friendships, activities, and traditions may be the pieces of normalcy that matter most. They also explain how routines and predictable expectations create a sense of security during a time when so much may feel uncertain. When children know what to expect and aren’t carrying decisions that belong to their parents, they have more freedom to do what they’re supposed to be doing—being kids. If this episode helped you think about divorce from your child’s perspective, follow the show and leave us a rating and review.

    Your Child Shouldn't Have to Choose: Letting Kids Be Kids in Divorce
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Welcome to the Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change podcast! We are actual therapists helping clients who sit on our couches every day through their difficulties of divorce. Whether you're contemplating separation, in a divorce, or looking for support post-divorce, our episodes provide expert guidance, stories, and strategies to help you through every step of the process.

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