Excuse the Interruption with Dr. Tanya Berfield | Identity, Reinvention & Self-Trust

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You're capable, accomplished, and holding everything together. And something underneath all of that isn't sitting right. Excuse the Interruption is a weekly show where Dr. Tanya Berfield reads directly from her Prescription Pad Substack, naming the invisible patterns and identity bargains keeping capable women stuck. Warm, precise, occasionally irreverent. New episodes weekly. The somatic practice that goes with each one is waiting for you at Prescription Pad on Substack. https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

  1. 2d ago

    Ep. 97 How Capable Became a Survival Strategy

    You didn't choose to become the one who holds it all together. You just got very good at it, and somewhere along the way, that version of you started feeling like the real you. In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield gets personal about the quiet, uncomfortable work of recognizing an identity you built around what the room needed from you, and what it costs when the room stays the same but you don't. She talks about navigating grown kids, changing family dynamics, a mother who still calls to tell her what to do, and the particular exhaustion that comes not from doing too much but from managing yourself so efficiently around everyone else that you've lost track of what you actually need. This isn't burnout as a deficiency. It's burnout as a message. And the starting point isn't a strategy. It's seeing the contract clearly enough to know it was built, not born. If you've ever said yes before your brain joined the meeting, stayed in a dynamic longer than it deserved, or felt guilty after a perfectly reasonable boundary, this one is for you. Subscribe on Substack for the full written essay and the accompanying somatic audio practice. https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield Masterclass: https://www.drtanyab.com/masterclass

  2. Sep 29

    Ep. 96 What's Actually Under the Tired

    You've been calling it exhaustion. And you're not wrong. Butunderneath the exhaustion, if you get quiet enough to actually look, there's usually something else waiting. This week, Dr. Tanya Berfield starts with a story about anew puppy, a robot vacuum named Rosie, and a Tuesday that went completely sideways, and ends up somewhere much more honest. About the anger that lives under the tired. About why we're so much better at naming exhaustion thannaming what's actually causing it. And about why recognition, just seeing it clearly without fixing it, is sometimes exactly enough. If you've been running on empty and wondering why nothing is actually helping, this one is for you. Subscribe to Dr. Tanya Berfield on Substack for the somaticpractice that goes with this episode. https://drtanyaberfield.substack.com/p/what-rosie-found?r=7y24c4&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

  3. Aug 4

    Ep. 95 Earning My Way to Empty: The Childhood Pattern Behind Over-giving

    You already know you over-give. What you might not know is where that pattern actually started, and why it's not the generosity it looks like from the outside. In this solo episode I get personal, about the parents who raised me, the belief I absorbed before I could even name it, and the nervous system science behind why "being loved" started feeling like something you have to earn. We do a full guided hand-on-heart breathwork practice together so you can actually find where that pattern lives in your body, not just understand it in your head. This isn't about blaming anyone. It's about finally putting down a weight you've been carrying so long you forgot you were carrying it. In this episode: Why over-giving is insurance, not kindnessThe specific way a survival-mode childhood can leave a mark even in a family that turns out fineWhat your nervous system is actually doing when you can't fully restA guided hand-on-heart breathwork practice to locate where "earning" lives in your bodyWhy naming where a pattern started isn't about assigning blame If this episode landed somewhere in your body, my paid Substack is where the real unlearning continues every week. $11/month. https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

  4. Jul 29

    Ep. 94 How to Build Real Confidence After Imposter Syndrome

    Last month we talked about imposter syndrome. This month we talk about what comes after it: real confidence, not the performed kind. I sat down live with Jen Kohler, numerologist and business mentor, to talk about the difference between being sold on yourself and just acting like you are. We get into what confidence actually looks like in the nervous system, why boundaries build it faster than affirmations do, and the numerology reading that named something I had been circling for months without saying out loud. This episode was recorded live on Substack. If you want to catch these conversations as they happen, that's where to find me first. In this episode: Why confidence is not certainty, and what it actually isWhat a numerology reading can show you about the patterns you keep repeatingThe difference between building a boundary and being oneWhy overgiving with resentment is not generosity, it's a warning signHow the nervous system, not the mindset, is where real confidence gets built If this lands for you, the $7 Nervous System Check-In is a fast way to start feeling the shift in your body, not just your head. Find it at drtanyab.com/checkin Guest: Jen Kohler, jenkohler.com

  5. Jul 6

    Ep. 93 Fight or Flight: What Performed Confidence Is Actually Costing You

    She had two choices in that meeting, and she chose the one that let her carry it all the way home. Pop off, or shrink. That's the trap most high-functioning women have been living in for years, and it has nothing to do with confidence. It has everything to do with a nervous system that learned somewhere along the way that taking up space isn't safe. If you've ever sat in a room knowing you were the most qualified person in it and still said nothing, this episode is for you. This week, Dr. Tanya breaks down the real difference between performed confidence and regulated confidence, why your credentials have never been the problem, and leads a live somatic practice to help you locate where performed confidence lives in your body. In this episode: The two responses your nervous system reaches for when your competence feels threatenedWhy the most regulated person in the room is always the most powerful oneA guided body-based practice to start noticing your own patternThis week's Mindset Medicine prescription Mentioned in this episode:The 3-Minute Nervous System Check-In at drtanyab.com Ready to stop managing how you appear and start actually feeling settled?Explore the Emotional ER Intensive → drtanyab.com/erJoin the paid Substack for the weekly practice that goes deeper than the podcast → www.substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

  6. Jun 15

    Ep. 92 What Imposter Syndrome Actually Feels Like in Your Body (And How to Stop Letting It Run Your Life) with Jennifer Dragonette

    If you have ever pulled back right when something wasworking, gotten sick the moment you pushed through your comfort zone, or told yourself you needed one more credential before you were ready, this episode is for you. Dr. Tanya Berfield sits down with Jennifer Dragonette,podcast authority architect and visibility strategist, for a conversation that goes places most imposter syndrome content never reaches. Not the mindset version. The body version. The throat that tightens. The sickness that shows upon cue. The retreat that looks responsible but is actually fear wearing a very convincing disguise. Jennifer has built a career helping women get visible andshe is one of the most honest voices in the room about how hard that is when your nervous system is still running a very old program. In this episode she and Dr. Tanya unpack where imposter syndrome actually lives in the body, why high-achieving women are wired to pull back right before the breakthrough, and what it actually takes to interrupt the pattern. They also pull an oracle card live. It lands exactly whereyou would expect it to. If you are a high-functioning woman who knows what she issupposed to do next and keeps finding reasons not to do it, press play. Connect with Jen: https://jenniferdragonette.com/home Jen's Substack: https://substack.com/@jenniferdragonette Tanya's Free Mind & Body Scan: www.DrTanyaB.com/reset Tanya's Substack: https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

  7. Jun 1

    Ep. 91 What Imposter Syndrome Actually Feels Like in the Body

    You have been doing the work. Reading the books. Saying the affirmations. And you still feel it in your gut when you walk into certain rooms. That is because imposter syndrome is not living in your thoughts. It is living in your body. In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield opens June's Mindset Medicine series on imposter syndrome by naming what nobody else is saying, this is not a confidence problem, it is a disconnection problem. And if it is lodged somewhere, it can be moved. This episode covers: The difference between the clinical diagnosis and the feeling most of us are actually carryingWhere imposter syndrome lives in the body and why affirmations alone will never move itThe nervous system tab you have been running without realizing itA live EFT tapping sequence to begin releasing the story at the body levelThis is the Acknowledge phase of Mindset Medicine. We are not fixing anything today. We are just stopping pretending it is not there. Links mentioned: Emotional ER Intensive — one session, body-level work, your prescription: drtanyab.com/er Paid Substack — weekly somatic practices and deeper work between episodes, $11/month: substack.com/@drtanyaberfield Next episode: Jennifer Dragonette joins Dr. Tanya Berfield for a conversation on imposter syndrome — where it actually comes from, what it looks like when it runs the show, and what changes when you finally stop fighting yourself.

  8. May 26

    Ep. 90 Burnout, Creativity, and the Breath That Brings You Back with Rubina of Inner Design

    What if the opposite of burnout is not rest, it isaliveness? In this episode, Dr. Tanya Berfield sits down with Rubina, founder of Inner Design, to talk about the quiet kind of burnout that creeps in when you are achieving everything and feeling nothing. They explore how creativity, not as talent or output, but as a regulating tool, can restore vitality andreconnect you to joy. They also dig into breath awareness, the difference between coping and regulation, and why you cannot mindset your way out of a body that believes it is under threat. If you have been checking every box and still feel disconnected from yourself, this one is for you. Find Rubina and her free five-minute nervous system reset attheinnerdesign.com. Ready to stop performing fine? The Emotional ER is open.Book your session before May 30 and save $50. Link: drtanyab.com/er Subscribe on Substack for weekly letters, somatic practices,and your personal prescription: substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

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You're capable, accomplished, and holding everything together. And something underneath all of that isn't sitting right. Excuse the Interruption is a weekly show where Dr. Tanya Berfield reads directly from her Prescription Pad Substack, naming the invisible patterns and identity bargains keeping capable women stuck. Warm, precise, occasionally irreverent. New episodes weekly. The somatic practice that goes with each one is waiting for you at Prescription Pad on Substack. https://substack.com/@drtanyaberfield

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